When NOBLE team get's to Sword base, the're tasked with escorting a fragment of Cortana containing a, quote, "Latchkey Discovery". Do we ever see what that discovery is?
Hi, I made these 2 themes for myself but figured some of you may enjoy it as well, here is how they look. They color accordingly with Kalm's coloring feature.
To install you need to get the .bundle you want from this dropbox and paste in "/Library/Application Support/LatchKey/Themes/ios12" then you can select it from LatchKey's preferences under settings.
I’m curious what others thoughts on this are.
I see a great deal of criticism on this sub of parents who give their young children a lot of screen time, and on the whole, I find this trend really concerning as well. I cannot possibly imagine it’s good for a child to constantly be watching YouTube and playing phone games. We have no idea what it does to young brains and development and I can’t imagine it’s positive.
That said, I also see a lot of attitude around “why don’t you actually PARENT your child” and I think this reflects some of the more toxic aspects of the parenting community itself. The idea that you’re supposed to constantly be “parenting” your child, that kids need to constantly be educated and supervised and directed and enriched is pretty new. You used to just turn the kids out of the house after school, and they came back for dinner. I find the constant promotion of helicopter parenting to be both unhealthy and unrealistic. I generally roll my eyes at parents who are obsessed with making sure every moment of their kids life is ~enriching~ and have to constantly be monitoring and directing all their activity.
But part of avoiding both helicoptering and screen addiction for kids is letting them have space to play and that’s HARD, when large houses are laughably unaffordable and our culture no longer supports latchkey kids. Cops and CPS get called now on parents who let their kids play outdoors unsupervised, or god forbid parents who let their kids go places by themselves. That honestly pisses me off more than parents who let their kids use iPads too much - people who will legit call fucking child services on children who are capable of playing safely and getting to places alone without help.
I’m wondering what /r/childfree thinks about this. I imagine some of you also dislike the idea of latchkey kids, based on not wanting to deal with children too much in public, but it seems like some of you WERE pretty independent as children and can’t stand the lack of independence parents give their children now. Some of you may also roll your eyes at parents obsessed with parenting perfectly and seeing parenting as this constant hands on activity, while some of you may see a more laissez faire attitude towards parenting as a problem that’s caused long term issues in previous generations.
I would love to hear your perspectives and thoughts on this.
Gen exers found themselves alone, a LOT. Mom and dad, were, let's say distracted. We were the canary in the coal mine for a society in decline. Now, the rest of society is entirely without leadership, parenting, or anything remotely intelligent where you would expect a type of leadership. Government's left to pretend to take care of everyone in every way, and it fails miserably.
Gen exers are known for being jaded and bitter but we remember better things than this awful society, including this "church" of no activities that just wants your money.
I think people leaving the church are essentially figuring out that they've already been essentially ex'd by a "church" that couldn't care less if they lived or died as long as the checks keep rolling in.
Let's look back at some memorable moments and interesting insights from last year.
Your top 10 posts:
Throwaway account cause I'm gonna sound like a POS mom. I desperately need help. As my daughter gets older, the worse this problem gets.
Eta: thank you everyone for the thoughtful responses. I expected some negative responses but I honestly feel empowered. From the bottom of my heart, thank you
My sisters and I were latchkey kids. I saw my mom 30 min in the morning during the week, an hour Saturday evenings, and all day Sunday. (dad was in and out of the picture). When we did see her, she was a raging bitch. We walked on eggshells. As an adult, I understand it was because she worked 12 hour shifts, 6 days a week. I also understand that we suffered from emotional abuse and emotional neglect. Unintentionally, but it is what it is. My sisters and I learned pretty early on to not express emotion cause no one was gonna help us anyway. We also rarely got physical affection.
As a result of my childhood, I hate physical touch. My sisters do as well. I also don't know how to play. TV was the babysitter as we were discouraged from going outside. As a mom I'm struggling, bad. Playing with my daughter, now 5, makes me uncomfortable. I've worked up to playing ten minutes before I gotta tap out. Before I couldn't do more than 2. (My adhd plays a part in that. I wasn't diagnosed and treated until two years ago, at age 29).
My daughter is the sweetest, most affectionate little girl. She loves to hug and kiss me. Every single time, I feel irritated. I don't want her touching me. Let me make this clear: I love my daughter and I never show that it bothers me. I'm very good at hiding my emotions as mentioned earlier. I have only told her not to touch me a handful of times when I was overwhelmed. I just told her mommy needs space right now. I always hug and kiss her back because I will not have her suffer what I did
But what now? What do I do now? I know she thinks I'm a good mom. She's happy and thriving, but inside I'm falling apart. I don't just want her to have a good childhood, I also want to enjoy being a mom! Instead, everyday is full of irritation and guilt. When she's with her dad, I miss her like crazy. I think about how much I want her in my arms, but that feeling doesn't come when she's around. So I know desire is there.
If you have any experience with this, please help. I've done therapy, but I never felt comfortable enough to share how I truly feel for fear of their mandated reporting. Self help books have helped me tremendously in other areas of... keep reading on reddit ➡
Stop by and check out the my new Discord server, where we can talk GenX life and swap songs, memes, stories.
Start the new year off having some fun with like minded peeps. This is a new server, so help build the community!
Hi everyone! Thanks for having me back here! I'm Nicole Kornher-Stace and I write fantasy and science fiction, including the Norton Award finalist Archivist Wasp (which is an Unlikely Alliance/buddy quest between a far-future ghosthunter and the ghost of a near-future supersoldier, and their adventures in the underworld to solve a mystery) and its sequel Latchkey (same themes, dialed up to eleven). Both books appeared on best-of-year lists from Kirkus, Tor.com, Buzzfeed, Book Riot, LA Times, etc. Both are a blend of SF/F, with ghosts but also mech fights, low-tech constellation-based cults full of ritualized combat but also genetically engineered supersoldiers, and a theme that has been described to me as "if a slow-burn enemies-to-lovers book was a slow-burn enemies-to-friends book instead." Which I adore, because one of my main goals as a writer is to provide a tiny bit of representation for strong platonic relationships that are written with all the weight and gravity typically reserved for romance. If I'm not busy writing friendship books, I'm probably yelling about them on Twitter. I'm hoping to write one more book in the Wasp series sometime soon, and I'm currently writing up the mythology of Wasp's world for my Patreon supporters, which has been a lot of fun.
I have two books forthcoming in summer 2021: Firebreak, published by Saga, which all my beta readers have loudly agreed is my best book yet by far; and Jillian vs. Parasite Planet, my middle-grade debut, published by Tachyon, which is about an 11-year-old girl with anxiety, a snarky sentient shapeshifting nanobot cloud, and their adventures in spaaaaace. Lastly, I recently had a time loop alien artifact heist story appear online in Uncanny Magazine, so if you're looking for a quick free lockdown read, please enjoy!
I'll be here on and off throughout the day to answer questions. Thanks for hanging out!
Looking for some free spirited, whimsical books about kids or teens having adventures. Preferably not fantasy and light hearted.
This is the phenomenon of the urge to pee intensifying by a million when you get home and are unlocking the front door.
I've experienced it my whole life and there have even been times when I've wet myself because I couldn't make it inside in time.
Have anyone else experienced this? How did you handle it, it is possible to train it away?
Reminiscing with my childhood friend on how different things were back then, especially how independent we could be.
By 5th grade, all my friends were supposed to get home from school by walking about a mile without adult supervision then expected to stay at home unsupervised until parents came home after work.
Parents were completely fine if “approved” friends came over before they got home from work.
Tell me your fondest latchkey kid memory
So a latchkey kid is different from a a kid that endured parentification in one major way. Latchkey kids had to raise themselves, and parentified kids had to raise themselves and their siblings. While yes a parentified kid can also double as a latchkey-kid depending on the presence/assistance/absence of the broodmare parents.
So anyways, I am an only child which adds to the pressure to "carry on the bloodline/family name" by a noticeable; yet still equally annoying amount. I have no siblings I can go "hey look at that grand-kid over there!" and slip away. While I am aware this can backfire tremendously especially being the only sibling not silly enough to follow the "life script"; thereby winding up in a similar spotlight as myself being the only child. "it's your turn so WheRe'S My GrAnDBaBiEs?!?!!?!!?!?!?!?!!?!!?!?!!?!?!?!?!!?"
Many of us kids that grew up as latchkey kids have developed an attachment style of Dissmissive-Avoidant ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults#Dismissive-avoidant section 2.2.2)
We're fiercely independent, and not only prefer to never depend on others, but also want to avoid others being dependent on them. I've noticed that parentified kids are sometimes a 50/50 split between developing the aforementioned attachment style, or Anxious-Preoccupied instead; feeling that others don't value them nor their efforts as much as one may value them as a person. Often times it's a twisted combination of the two.
From my own introspection, with the help of a therapist, I know that I'd become that stoic, detached, parent that is really never present in their kids life. I'd be just a figure that pays the bills, and does whatever is required to ensure that the kid stays fucked the up shut. Not for the pleasure of the kid, but purely for myself; out of sight, out of mind. I find children singing to be the equivalent of nails on a chalkboard, and I haven't the slightest clue nor inkling of a fuck to decipher the scribbles of a drawing a kid made. Fuck you, and your macaroni art too, kid; that could've been dinner. I don't give a shit to come see you at your lame ass play, nor do I care to forfeit the hours I could be spending on whatever the hell it is I would a thousand times prefer to be doing instead.
Kids are dumb as all fuck, but they're not stupid. They're instinctive little shits that can "sense" which parent didn't want them almost immed... keep reading on reddit ➡