Pride parades are a public and family friendly place to express your self and show love. I hate it when people show up half naked or in pup play suits and leather. There is children at these events!
On a day to day basis, I (23f) am very independant and self motivated. I get shit done and I kick ass at work, and I am 100% financially independant. I know I'm mature and can handle myself, and that I dont need anyone (especially not a man/partner) to help me.
When men look at me, catcall or just generally give me any sort of attention/interes in public, my default thoughts go towards "just another horny guy" or "ugh, of course" and I brush it off. I dont like to give the impression that I have any sort of desire or interest in associating with them at all...and I really truly do not have any interest (95% of the time).
However...in a sexual setting, I am the exact opposite. I want to be on my knees for a man, I want to be forced to do whatever he tells me and i want him to inflict pain on me (in a consensual bdsm way). I love being completely used and abused during sex/playtime - being forcefully fucked while enduring some type of pain will bring me to the most exquisite orgasms,... keep reading on reddit ➡
Some people have bizarre kinks and should be shamed. People who like to dress in diapers and engage in sex while they’re pretending to be a two year old baby and their partner is role playing a parent figure...that’s pretty fucked up and they should absolutely be subjected to criticism. That shit is just bizarre and seems like it could potentially point to other underlying mental issues. Furries, pup play, etc included. I would absolutely laugh at anyone I knew who admitted to being into any of these things and if I’m being honest, would probably see them in a completely different light and judge them from that point onward.
I tried to have a discussion with him, but he's not willing to do his research of BDSM and ssc and it's getting on my nerves. He's probably read 50 shades of grey and now considers what we do abuse! I tried to sit him down to make him understand, but truthfully, we never taught him to stay, so he keeps running after his ball. He's a very jealous little thing, likes to go between us when we so much as hug and when we send him away, he pretends someone's at the door to get our attention (that little bastard). That part is manageable though because he's a good boy (very good) and eventually calms down when we have sex (although he seems to be a bit bothered, that little homophobic creature, not gonna lie). What we struggle with, is BDSM. Mr. Dog comes from an abusive past. He's extremely scared of loud noise. When we fight, he gets between us to make us stop - quivering like someone is trying to vaccinate him, but so brave, trying to protect his owners. Problem is: He seems to mistake o... keep reading on reddit ➡
Is this a thing? I vaguely remember seeing something about it but it might've been a dream.
Either way I really want to be a 50s housewife with a husband that can support me, is that bad? I've been told off by feminists for wanting it in the past and I'm a very independent person but I love taking care of people and having them look after me.
Like not in a “those are disgusting or weird etc.” just like occasionally you’re confused why someone would like that? I think it’s common sense to know everyone has a right to what they like and we shouldn’t judge..so let that be a disclaimer to this post as my intention is not to judge or shame etc.
Mine is cuckhold...I just don’t get how someone can enjoy their partner having sex with someone else to basically humiliate them...and I’m a sub myself yet I just don’t get it honestly... but to each their own.
Anyone else have kinks and fetishes that ,while you don’t judge the people who like them, you just don’t get how they enjoy it?
I wasn't really going to post this but a few people asked me to share an update of this post I made a couple week ago, everything is kind of done now so there's not much left to say or do, this is just really an update.
So as many of you suggested in the comments of my last post my partner was in fact lying to me that he was a vanilla when in actuallity he was not only kinky but a Dom himself and he was trying to lure me into submission.
A bit of context for you guys: as I said in the last post we met over a couple years ago, then I had just moved back to my hometown after 12 years, I lived in a city a few hours away where I went to uni and opened my architecture study, there is where I entered a BDSM community and grounded my feet, now I go there a few times a month to the study and get together with my kinky friends and subs. I didn't intend to move back but due to some hea... keep reading on reddit ➡
So i want to be watched by others while having sex. After 5 years of dating, today i finally worked up the courage to tell bf about this. And he seemed excited at first. Asked me the details about how i plan to do it. Then, he suddenly changed his behavior and said: "if i knew you wanted to show your body to others this badly, i'd never be with you.". Of course i don't want to end my relationship for something like this but what he said hurt me and knowing that my only kink will never come true is very disappointing...
Hope this post is okay for this sub.
I've been deeply dissatisfied with my sex life with my spouse of 10 years for a long time. Not enough sex, not the right kind of sex, no initiation/effort on his part, little intimate communication between us.
In an attempt to salvage our relationship and regain some intimacy, we had a good long talk about the things that were bothering us a week ago, initiated by me. In that week since, things have been pretty great. I've had more sex than I could have wished for. Some of it's been pretty mind-blowing. Certainly better than what was.
Call me a fool, but the night before last I opened up to him. Shared some kinks and fetishes I was so ashamed about I'd done a great job of hiding them from myself. I'd realised that my repression was a huge barrier to sex and intimacy and the cause of so many of our problems. I didn't expect him to be on board with it all, I just realised that I'd prefer to be loved or reviled for who I am, not who people think... keep reading on reddit ➡
It was in my recommended similar subs list for some reason...
There was a post about a transwoman having dated many woman in the past that reflect what she looks like now as a person.
And noooo shit?
Fuck, I’m FTM. I like boys that look like me. I like appearing and presenting as things that make me comfortable and happy. I like people who have similar interests and tastes to me.
Who knew right???
Would I fuck a guy that looked like me? Hell yeah I would, Im dating a guy similar to me and he’s amazing. Would I fuck me if I has a clone of me? Hell yeah I would because I’m hot.
I dont know what point they were trying to make but they’re trying to invalidate some poor trans gal over something completely natural
After my ex best friend and I fell out, she started bad mouthing me to everyone. That was over two months ago, and for health reasons I haven't been going to school since much before that, so I didn't know until someone told me yesterday, that aside from telling everyone exaggerated stories of what actually went down, she was also telling people about my kinks, spreading graphic photos of me— things I used to think I could trust her with— with the whole school.
Like I said this all happened some time ago, although people are still gossiping around, the initial heat has long died out, and I assume whatever perceptions people have about me has pretty much sunk in. So understandably I don't want to create more drama now by explaining and confronting to stuff.
Problem is, about four of five of my ex-bf's closest friends (who of course takes her side) will be going to the same college with me. I have received hostility from two of them and the others are treating me differently than befor... keep reading on reddit ➡
Have you ever read a book where a character expressed some sort of sexual kink or fetish that you didn't see coming. However, once exposed, you found that your reaction was one of excitement and intrigue. You couldn't put the book down and you wanted more and more. You started having fantasies about specific scenarios but also wondered if it is something you want in real life? Then the questions become, is this purely a fictional fantasy, or something that festers deep from within?
Wanna call your significant other mommy/daddy? That's fine by me. But when you start wearing a diaper, using a sippy cup and a pacifier while experimenting with age play? You deserved to be shamed, banished and labeled as a degenerate.
No one should support or ignore this sickening and worrying behavior because of """tolerance"""
About a month ago, after hours of just kissing and cuddling my partner wanted to go down on me but I didn’t want to get fully naked for whatever reason at the time so he just pulled my panties to the side and started to go down on me. Without taking much time, I came the hardest I ever have with a partner.
Fast forward to today, and right before I had to get up to head home he did it again at kind of an angle. I was able to lightly hold his soft bearded cheek and feel it move as he gently kissed and licked my vagina while I pulled my underwear to the side with my right hand. I came almost immediately.
I almost never cum from oral, but this gets me off so fast and I’m not sure why. Why does the act of my just pulling my underwear to the side get me off so easily?
I had an interesting discussion on TwoXSex about kink shaming:
It was in response to a post where a woman was bothered by her boyfriend calling her “slut” and “whore”. They framed the whole thing as an issue of incompability, but didn’t want to “kink shame” him for his sexual preferences.
Why shouldn’t we kink shame him? Aren’t his kinks reflective of who he is as a person and his values?
At what point can we say “this man is a sexist monster”? Shouldn’t it really be the first time he suggests he wants to call you a whore?
Even if he’s a “nice guy” otherwise, I’m judging the kink as who he truly is and how he truly feels, not the public civility mask he’s trying to show me and trick me into buying into. That’s just polite social lies.
Like, If I’m with some white guy and he wants to call me racial slurs during sex, I’m going to go ahead and assume he’s a racist. Likewise, if... keep reading on reddit ➡
there’s some kinks out there that are so fucking disgusting. like rape kinks. i managed to come along a subreddit of people writing stories of girls being raped and they got off on that. its so fucking disgusting. that’s just one more step until they actually rape someone. another example is ddlg and all it’s over forms. there’s nothing wrong with age regression but ddlg itself is disgusting. you get off on acting like a dad and having your partner dress and act like a child. why would you want to pretend you’re fucking a child in the first place? that’s just legal pedophilia. sometimes, kink shaming is ok
edit: based on the downvotes and comments i guess this is an unpopular opinion
EDIT: Thank you all for the advice. You all have very important points, many that I needed to hear. Obviously this post doesnt paint the full picture butI now feel well equipped with a plan to address this and hopefully the both of us can learn and grow from this.
I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and I love him endlessly, we have almost an idealic relationship. Except for one thing: sex.
At first we were very sexually compatible. You know how the beginnings go. Then eventually he started easing me into his kinks. At first it was light stuff: spanking, choking, light bondage. That sort of thing. Then he had the daddy kink phase. Then he had the anal phase. And now, he's having a role reversal phase.
I drew the line during the anal phase. I was bleeding from my ass after a particularly rough session and said I needed a break from all things kink. He was very understanding - or so I though. Less than a month later he started stealing my panties and wearing them while we... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throw away account here as I am not comfortable using my main, and to even reach out to my close friends to ask for advice tbh. If this belongs somewhere else please let me know. Anyways, here we go...
So my gf of 3 years was acting a bit off the last couple days (making weird small talk, just not her usual self). Historically, our relationship has been great, and we started living together about 6 months ago and things have been amazing. So, when I noticed her acting “off” I let it go for the first day, thinking it was nothing, but then when she was still acting strange my mind initially went into gutter (did she cheat on me or something?). I asked her last night when we were making dinner if something has been on her mind because it seems like she was not herself, and then she opened up pretty quick...
She told me how she has enjoyed everything about our relationship but wanted to “try new things”. So, I asked her what exactly did that mean as we have had a fun relationship (both s... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m actually quite curious here! I love reading and I love fan fiction. But what I’ve noticed that has become consistently more prevalent on most fan fiction sites (I’m looking at you archive of our own) is the shameless ‘kinks’ and transing of canon characters.
Kinks done to females and males really do disgust me. I’ve had to filter out a range of utter filth and meh topics - daddy kink, degradation, cissy fics, God, don’t get me started on the whole Alpha/Omega breeding verses.....seriously....What the Hell is with the majority of these writers and ‘daddy kink’ or any of these kinks? Which will accompany spanking and choking as well. How is this hot? How does anyone even get off this shit?
The next is changing the gender of a canon character. If I’m reading about a fandom and I’m suddenly hit with “Actually she’s a trans female.” Or “Actually he’s a trans male.” I’m just ....annoyed. Look, say it’s just fan fiction and anything can be changed but the gender of these characters i... keep reading on reddit ➡
(unfortunately) this is not that common of an occurrence but when they do it, they do it WELL.
ever since I first heard lean on me by seventeen I can’t stop listening to it, it makes me hella emotional. and now wayv released only human on their newest (already stellar) album and it got me SO WEAK. honestly this kinda sad boy rap >>>> generic ballads.
if you know of any similar songs please let me know!!! I’m in the mood for a good cry anyways 🙃
We all know Ray is a legendary lyricist, so just curious what words would hit your heads:)
Hear me out. I watched the leaked tell-all and the impression I got is that he enjoyed spending money on the stupid website and didn’t care she was talking to other men. I think he enjoys being cuckholded and submissive to a Ukrainian woman. I think he enjoys the control she has over him financially and time-wise. Every time David gets rejected he probably gets off on those shameful feelings. Every time he feels that dejectedness and humiliation is a new high for him, so he seeks it out. It could be he’s recreating some rejection In his life or other trauma, or maybe it’s just his thing! It’s also safer to live in a fantasy than deal with reality. Also it requires no actual relationship.
5 people failed the attention check, so their responses were not included in the graphs. Nonetheless their responses are still available in the spreadsheet.
Here are some of the most interesting results:
Among all respondents the most common kink was masochism, with over 70% reporting some level of arousal to the idea of having pain be inflicted to them. The most uncommon kink was sexual cannibalism, with little over 3% reporting some level of arousal to the idea of consuming human flesh, although only 6 (0.65%) selected 3 or more on this item.
Among respondents assigned male at birth the most common kink was sadism, with over 62% reporting some level of arousal to the idea of inflicting pain on a partner.
Among respondents assigned female at birth the most common kink was masochism, with over 83% reporting some level of arousa
In my experience, sex-positive rhetoric (at least when coming from other women) has always been, ‘You shouldn’t feel bad or afraid if you’re actually into this stuff, but if you are you should learn how to do it safely and always maintain boundaries founded on trust, communication, and above all consent.’ From my experience with kinksters, these guidelines are sacred, and from what I hear, the kink community polices itself accordingly.
So where does this notion of obligatory kink actually stem from? Because I’m beginning to think it’s not libfems themselves but skeevy men co-opting their rhetoric to mask their predatory ways.
EDIT: I think I may not have been clear enough. I’m not doubting that women are indeed pressured into this, but I’ve seen libfems being accused of this a few times on this sub. That is what I’m asking about.
If yes, how was it?
My gf and I (both mid 20s) are both into some kinky stuff, but one thing we really (really) enjoy is super intimate sex, really holding on to each other, face to face, lots of kissing, saying I love you, me cumming inside her, tons of cuddling before and after. It's the best and words don't do it justice. But one sort of idea that we've both talked about really liking is the idea of us getting her pregnant. One thing we've talked about is the sort of simple explanation for where babies come from (when a mommy and a daddy love each other very much ...) and what if that were literally true, so that it was like our love (and me cumming inside her) that got her pregnant. And it's not just getting her pregnant, but like the pregnancy too? As in, watching her body change and then me having to pay even more special attention and care for her, fetching special food, spending extra time with her, making her comfortable, being super supporting of her through all the hormone changes and dealing w... keep reading on reddit ➡