Oh man.. as someone in the comments said, "humans have a tendency to overlook things unless someone points them out differently" I am so sorry for the ones that didn't get this luxury but also makes me feel very grateful.
It was a small act of sorority, but it meant the world to me. I was really worried about having to use rags as pads this month, but this sweet girl went "I got you covered honey, take them home" and a huge weight left my shoulders.
Currently trying extra hard to get a job so I can gift her something nice in return. People like her are angels on earth and deserve to have their gestures returned. :]
Thank you for the wave of emotional support. You're all beings full of light! I'll make sure to pay forward my cashier's selfless action. Thank you again, be safe and healthy! 🥰
Link to Gobert's response In light of Shaq claiming he would destroy him in his Instagram post, Rudy Gobert has been getting pretty unnecessary hate from many people on social media, safe to say, he's pretty overhated at the moment as a result of his large contract. I don't think its unreasonable to call him overpaid, but I wouldn't fault a player for accepting that kind of money.
I have been skipping meals to be able to afford food for my kids since they were born seven years ago. 2020 was the first time I managed to go a whole year without doing this.
For me this is a huge accomplishment but I am too embarrassed to share it anywhere else.
Skipped meals over last few years (only started tracking number in 2016 to see how I was doing each year)
2020 - 0 2019 - 45 2018 - 110 2017 - 137 2016 - 184
Kia Kaha to those out there struggling.
When my (34f) father passed away 6 years ago, we were very well off, so my mom, brothers (29, 26) and I ended up inheriting a lot. My brothers live abroad and didn't want the hassle of dealing with the properties so they signed their shares over to me. After discussing with them, I sold off all the properties except for a 1 BHK in an area that is at the outskirts of the city. That apartment was being occupied by a long time employee of our family business and we let them live there for free. With my money and some of the "family money" I bought 2 flats (3 bed, 3 bath) in a really nice building. It's got amazing security, a gym, a terrace garden and a swimming pool and is in a really nice location. I took one flat and my mom lives in the other. We are really close to our mom and she's a super chill lady who has been the best mom we could have asked for. Our dad was very controlling and made her miserable so we are determined to do whatever we can to really let her enjoy her life now.
Now the issue- my husband (36) and I have been married for 3 years. He moved into my flat because his parents and brother live in a 2 br flat and we would have no space. Plus my MIL is not a fan of how I'm not subservient to my husband and am independent and run my own business, so we felt the space would be better. Now 2 things have happened. My BIL (38) has gotten engaged and our long time employee has retired and is moving back to his hometown, which means that his flat is going to be empty. I guess husband mentioned it to my BIL who is now saying that I should move my mother into the 1 br and let them (FIL,MIL, BIL and FSIL) move into my mother's flat. I refused. At most, I could probably let BIL move into the 1 br flat, but he doesn't want it because it's so far away from the city.
Well, my MIL and BIL didn't like that I said no so they went behind my back and asked my mom if she would move. My mom is a sweet lady and she didn't want me to have issues with the in-laws so she told me that she would be okay with moving. I was fuming mad and I told my brothers and they agreed that they would not want my mom to move. I was going to politely tell them no, but when they came over, I heard my MIL and BIL tell me husband that he was "not a man" and how could he not support his family. That I was a controlling bitch and my mom was just a widow and didn't need much in life any way. She should be grieving and not enjoying luxuries. I lost my shit and yelled at them to keep their... keep reading on reddit ➡
Stop to let them turn into the road. Give them plenty of space. FFS don't cut them off. They may not be able to stop in time.
Edit: Many people point out you shouldn't stop to let anyone in. I agree. I was thinking about cars that don't let a u-haul merge or will do anything not to be behind a u-haul. Basically, just don't be an ass.
I kept hearing praises for Outer Wilds and I started playing it. I got pretty hooked to it too but once I got to that sand planet my interest in the game completely died. I know I could have gone somewhere else and come back to it later but just the thought of having to come back to that timed dark sand planet with cacti that pokes holes in your suit everywhere just killed any interest I had left in playing the game.
As for why I hated the sand planet was because Spoiler: >! The sand level would keep rising and some parts of the planet would become inaccessible if you didn't race to it. Also it takes place underground in complete darkness AND has a maze like structure. Oh and the cacti, the goddamn cacti that puncture your suit and iirc you start losing O2 rapidly so you have to die or return to your ship (which usually wouldn't happen since you'd die before you even get close to your ship) !<
Tldr: I don't like sand. It's course and rough and irritating and it gets everywhere.
Consider the first of Grice's maxims of conversation, which are widely accepted by linguists and professional communicators as critical tools to have functional conversations. Grice's maxims apply to spoken conversations as well as email exchanges and text messages.
His first maxim: The Maxim of Quantity
"A good communicator must provide the most helpful amount of information. A speaker must not bombard the listener with too much detail nor must she give insufficient information. For instance, when someone is lost and asking for directions, too much information may confuse the listener but too little information would not get him where he is supposed to go." https://www.elcomblus.com/paul-grices-maxims-of-communication/
As an easy shorthand, the 50/50 rule is a good place to start.
In power-mismatched conversations (a mentor teaching a skill, for example), the 50/50 rule doesn't generally apply (though 99/1 is a bad ratio: engaged students tend to retain more and learn faster). But even then, the mentor shouldn't overload the listener with extraneous information.
This principle is especially helpful in non-professional interpersonal relationships. If one person wants to talk at length, but the other doesn't, it will strain the relationship. Pay attention to the manner, length, quality and relevance of the conversation, and do your best to keep the conversation active.
People violate this to social peril if they reply with one-word answers to longer, sincere questions. People also run into social danger if they reply to casual questions with too much information.
Another area of application is your birthday. If a friend texts you "hbd" ("happy birthday"), it's appropriate to reply along the lines of "ty!" or "thx!" If you reply with a long paragraph about how meaningful they are in your life, you may be very disappointed to see that they won't respond in kind.
Alternately, if someone takes the time to write a long letter or email to you, thanking you or expressing concerns, it's appropriate to reply with a similarly-thoughtful response of a roughly similar length. This encourages the relationship to continue by communicating your respect for them, and your willingness to find a middle ground of discourse.