Can Assyrians understand the Jewish mourner's Kaddish?
I want to send one to someone who is in mourning, but they're agnostic-
I've read plenty of explanations as to why we recite Mourner's Kaddish and why we need a minyan to do so but I can't find any explanation as to why we're not allowed to pray [non-Mourner's*] kaddish alone. (* as in the Full Kaddish, Chatzi Kaddish or Rabbanan Kaddish)
Although I get that it's written in responsive form, let's set aside the wording for the purposes of this question provided that one could say "in your lifetime and in your days" while thinking of others who are not present.
Thanks in advance!
Preferably east-coast based. Have a yahrzeit coming up and would like to say MK with a virtual egalitarian community. Thanks!
I'm like 99% sure it's supposed to start after the funeral but someone told me it was supposed to start the day the person died and now I'm kind of freaking out. Can anyone confirm/deny which is correct please?
I've been wondering lately who says kaddish for a convert. What happens if the convert dies and has no Jewish family? Can close friends say it for them?
It is my brother’s 1st yahrzeit today and wondering how my husband and I will do the Kaddish? Everything is closed in our city and we cannot be around non-family members, and our family lives out of state so how can we find a minyan? I feel like I dropped the ball on this and should have reached out to my rabbi ahead of time to ask but alas I’m embarrassed and asking Reddit. Plus Shabbos is tomorrow so I can’t bother the rabbi then. Thoughts Jews of reddit?
I’m absolutely heart broken hearing about Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s passing, both for my country’s loss and our loss of a strong, righteous Jewish woman. I feel the need to do something. Would it be inappropriate to say Mourner’s Kaddish?
I haven't seen an official movement-wide statement but apparently the Halakhic committee convened and came to a decision. This is a (lightly redacted, to remove personal information) email from my shul with details.
tl;dr: Zoom and similar is OK because you see each others' faces and interact. One-way live streaming is not OK. On Shabbat is not OK. This is an emergency measure.
>We face a new reality that challenges some of our most precious traditions about coming together physically to pray in a minyan (prayer quorum) and supporting mourners reciting Kaddish. In order to have a minyan, you must have a quorum of a minimum of ten Jewish adults who are able to respond to each other.
>As you know, we made the decision to halt minyanim for the time being. So, how do we support mourners when we cannot gather physically together? We have an answer! We can harness the miracle of such modern technologies as Zoom and other two-way forms of virtual gatherings to create a minyan.
>This is a measure we can use in an emergency based on rabbinic precedent to respond to the fact that we cannot gather physically for a minyan because we have a communal responsibility to care for each other.
>Jewish law has always allowed isolated individuals to count their private prayer as communal prayer (and recite Kaddish if necessary) when recited at the same time as a functioning minyan. As a point of reference, live streaming is a one-way form of communication through which one can only recite Kaddish when a minyan is physically present at the site of the live streaming. Jewish law allows a minyan where participants can see each other’s faces. Zoom-like platforms allow participants to directly see each other’s faces. Due to the emergency nature of the situation we face, national Conservative leaders, including [REDACTED], have determined that when a minyan cannot be physically present, a Zoom-like gathering can create a minyan with at least ten Jewish adults participating for the purposes of prayer and the recitation of Mourners’ Kaddish.
Note: There's also a link to a daily minyan. I can post if people want.
My grandfather's yahrzeit is coming up next week. I don't think it's wise to risk a group gathering with coronavirus. Is there any halachically acceptable way to do kaddish for him? Can I have an online minyan? Any suggestions are welcome.
I'm a Ashkenazi conservative if that has any impact, however I'm interested any branches views.
My mom died the night before Passover. She had Alzheimer’s, and it was not unexpected. I’ve been doing Mourners Kaddish with the online minyan our shul does.
Last night, my 7 year old had a meltdown. When she calmed down enough to tell us what was wrong, she said that my doing online minyan, in addition to all the changes due to Passover and Covid (we’ve been under a stay at home order since March 16), it’s overwhelming for her. She doesn’t like change at the best of times, and it really is a lot to deal with. She doesn’t want to think or talk about Grandma dying, and I suspect the daily reminder upsets her.
I converted, and none of my grandparents died until I was in my teens. I don’t have experience with helping a kid this age deal with mourning and the disruption to daily routine that it causes. Does anybody here have some experience with kids being upset about the changes to daily routine that come with mourning?