Why YSK: I'm posting this because that has always been my answer, and more often than not they look at me like I have three heads, which tells me that it's not a common response they get. While they may need that for you to get a 5% discount next time you go in, the real reason they want it is to sell your information and have you receive unsolicited phone calls. To that I say, no thank you.
I hadn't seen my family for a year, for ... Obvious reasons, but I decided to come home for the holidays. Since the whole family would be isolating for 2 weeks prior and during my visit it seemed worthwhile to stay for a longer time to make it worth it.
So the plan was to visit without working for the holidays, then. I'd stay working from home for an additional 3 weeks.
My family is my parents, my siblings (13 year old boy, 11 year old girl) and I.
I told my family I'd need a private room to work from. This was important because I work with sensitive data. I don't want to get into details of my job, but I can give a few examples of similarly sensitive topics to give you an idea.
Something along the lines of a medical professional for high profile clients on sensitive health issues. Where they absolutely do not want a word getting out that they are getting that treatment.
Or a witness protection program organizor for people in very high profile cases. Where the people in witness protection would be in danger if any details got out.
Basically, a job where I am not just bound by the ethical standards of my profession (which are essential on their own) But also there is added pressure because the clients I work with are very high profile.
And after the holidays, I started working from home from my dad's study. It seemed like my siblings were acting weird. Like they were keeping some secret.
Two days into being back to work, I got up to use the bathroom and caught my siblings snooping at the closed door. Listening to what I was doing on my previous call.
I blew up at them and said they were too old for this shit, they're not 6 year old playing spies. In this argument they admitted they'd been listening for the last few days.
I went back to work and sent the emails I needed to to report an info leak. I know that sounds like overkill but that's the policy at the job, to report it no matter what and let the management decide the seriousness, and the next steps. It was definitely stressful to have to write.
My manager said that it wasn't that serious, as they were just kids, but going forwards I'd need to find a secure place to work.
I told my parents that I had to leave because I needed a private workspace and my siblings had been listening at the door.
They were upset at me for leaving so much sooner than we'd planned, after they went through the effort to totally quarantine for weeks on end to prepare. I said that I was sorry but I needed my... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (20f) lost my mom in 2018 in a car accident. It was sudden it was devastating and I had no one to turn to for support. My dad married my stepmom a year later. I currently live with them preparing for medical school. I have to say I'm not that excited to start because I have a lot of unresolved grief and needed to talk. My stepmom has been trying to insert herself as a replacement for my mom mad it's very obvious. She's controlling and gets involved in every single aspect of my life it makes me uncomfortable. I told my dad that I'll be seeing a therapist my stepmom said she'd take care of it. I have been in therapy for two months now. However lately I noticed my stepmom wanting to talk to me about things that I regularly bring up in therapy to my therapist. She'd bluntly ask questions about things I said in therapy she at some point offered me money to talk to her. I stopped talking to her. But she started brining up my mom during dinner It's not easy to talk about my mom. It's very stressful and causes me to get emotional. When I asked how she knew she admitted that the therapist told her. I was shocked. She went on about why I shouldn't hate her and respect her more and "get rid" of the negativity and just accept and try to adapt to this new normal. I had no response but I was mad I yelled at her and told her she had no right to police my words and get involved in personal manners. My dad said I shouldn't yell because my stepmom was just worried about me and wanted to make sure I was making progress in therapy. I left the kitchen. I decided to stop seeing my therapist the next day I told her about what my stepmom said and told her that I'll be reporting her for breaking confidentiality.
My stepmom threw a fit and my dad told me to back down and that I was free to stop going but not cause issues and mess with people's careers and act out like that.
I refused to listen to him and he's still telling me to stop it. He ignores how upset I am.
I want to start by saying that I F25 don't have the best relationship with my mom. I have an older sister and growing up my mom always tended to control me and tried to override any decisions I make saying that I was young and naive and she always knew better. I cut contact with her for a few months after she tried to get involved in my marriage. My husband and I been together for 3 years and he has always been telling me to be more gentle with my mom.
I had a miscarriage a few days ago. It's devastating and I really thought it'll get easier but I'm still feeling excruciating pain and frustration. We were happy and excited but all that disappeared suddenly and it was hard for me to take because I thought everything was fine. I didn't tell anyone especially since I'm currently dealing with some health issues. I didn't tell anyone in the family. My husband promised not to tell until I'm ready. My mom kept asking me questions and brought up my pregnancy constantly and my answers were short. Because I didn't want her to know since she'd call everybody and let them know. She's always like this that's why I tend to keep things private
I decided to not visit for a couple of days hoping she'd stop asking questions. Then I found out on FB that my mom announced my miscarriage on her page and I didn't know about that I was shocked I freaked out when I started getting calls from family members and I have no idea how many people knew about it. I was so mad to the point of shaking. Everyone kept berating me for not telling them. I called my mom and I yelled at her. she defended herself saying that she was just looking for support and that I should've told her about it first time she asked what was wrong. I asked her who told her and she said she had a talk with my doctor but I shouldn't be mad because she's my mom and she had the right to know what's going on. I argued with her about getting involved in my personal life and disregarding my feelings and cutting me off guard like that.
I went to the doctor and I lashed out at her for releasing my private medical information to my mom and causing me to deal with everyone asking why I was hiding my miscarriage from them even though I was just waiting for the right time. I told my doctor that I was going to file a complaint against her the same day since she didn't respect my privacy and decided to give my mom information about my medical records.
My mom heard and started berating me saying it wasn't the doctor's fault... keep reading on reddit ➡
So, I had been talking to a guy on Tinder since November 2020 and I took my time to get to know him before meeting him. He sent me plenty of pics and we got along quite well. Today, I finally decided to meet him and found out that he couldn't walk because of a spinal cord injury he suffered a few years ago. He never told me that before and none of his pictures revealed that either.
Initially, I stayed quiet but then he asked me what I think about him. I really felt sorry for him but I said he should've told me before that he's wheelchair bound because I didn't see that in any of his pictures.
In response, he got very, very emotional and said that I am a "typical, shallow woman who would prioritize physical traits over everything else."
I kept my cool and tried explaining that I didn't have a problem with his physical appearance but it was the concealment of the truth which I didn't appreciate.
But he got more and more emotional, so I decided to leave after almost an hour. We were in a restaurant and I honestly didn't know how to manage the situation as he was on the verge of crying. I even said we should order coffee and talk about something else but he couldn't control his emotions.
Now I feel extremely guilty, sad, and also angry about it. Do you all think I was being shallow and should have stayed quiet?
Should I write him an apology?
When I told my ex I was pregnant he completely shut down and was pretty cold towards me. We were living in a different country to my own at the time in the middle of lockdown, so it was awful. He left a week after I told him but told me to wait there for him to come back and had his staff keep an eye on me (i.e. stalk and tell him every little thing I was doing). I tried to contact him multiple times, but he ghosted me. The only time he contacted me was when I finally got fed up waiting for him and found a flight that would let me go back home and that was to tell me I was behaving like a child and he expected me to still be there when he got back.
I’m living with my sister ever since. I’m 7 months so the baby will be here soon. As soon as I got back and my ex figured out I was staying with my sister, he didn’t try to contact me but instead started asking her for information about me/the baby. My sister thinks I should talk to him because being a single parent is hard (she would know, she was one) so was keeping him updated in the hopes it would smooth things over between us. I told her not to tell him anything unless he pays her for the information. My sister didn’t want to do it but eventually agreed to inform him the information was no longer free.
There was some negotiations but he agreed to pay her £100 per update. Here’s why I think I might be the AH, I’ve started telling my sister small stupid things so she can give him updates regularly just so he has to waste more money. The only reason I feel like I might not be one is that he didn’t reach out to me directly when he easily could have.
Edit: yes guys I know nuclear fallout travels and everything is fucked. I'm not doing a serious theory here. I'm sad by the behaviors of my countrymen, and I'm making trying to laugh using nonsense
Edit 2: Daing guys, awards too! Thanks!
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EDIT: You guys seem pretty quick to judge. This dude has been a reliable source on Valve for a long time now. I've been following him for 5-6 years and he's really thorough with his reporting and he's never pulled anything out of his ass. Altough I wouldnt put money on everything he's saying as he does sometimes (probably more often from now on) report second-hand rumors.
EDIT2: He tweeted he is expecting NV2 to release in the latter half of this decade (makes sense considering Obsidians line-up), TESVI 2026-27, Fallout 5 in the 30s (feels weird to call the next decade that) and Starfield will take another year or two (personally I'm glad FO76 and Cyberpunk 2077 happened, the devs of other huge titles will hopefully get time to finish games now).
EDIT3: Apparently my post inspired a couple of shitty articles. Sorry Tyler.
and how to spot demagogues, authoritarians and grandiose narcissism in leaders and people in position of power. This should be primary school education 101 to ensure future generations who will preserve democracy. This is the only way I can think of to prevent the unbelievable amount of relatively sane people getting sucked into hateful conspiracy based on ZERO evidence through the unregulated morass of social media. Critical thinking and a demand to see primary and credible sources is not stressed in school. We are taught how to follow rules and take standardized tests, not how to think for ourselves. In short, education teaches us how to be good workers but not how to intelligently govern ourselves.
...we also need emotional awareness and development in education. This is the only way to combat hate and racism. You may say smart/educated people will not be racist but people can convincingly rationalize any hateful ideology based on immoral principles. Education is not just a matter of the head but also of the heart.
"Greetings, comrade." says the spy, but before he could finish his sentence, the Russian says, "I think you are American spy."
The spy is alarmed, but being a skilled, trained, spy, he says, "That is not true! I am the proudest Soviet there is! I can sing the anthem more beautifully than any other man in the country!"
He then proceeds to sing the Soviet anthem, so melodically and beautifully, that everybody in the bar cheers.
"Very good, very good!" says the politician. "But I still think you are spy."
The man continues to keep his cool.
"I am a historian! I can tell you everything about this glorious country!"
He then spends about two hours recounting the Revolution, the Great Patriotic War, about how superior to the Russia is in terms of technology compared to America and makes a great argument about how communism is beneficial to society.
"Amazing! You are skilled!" says the politician.
The spy smirks.
"But I still think you American spy."
The spy is getting frustrated, but still unfazed.
He replies, "I am good drinker, a true Russian! Let us drink, and see who can come out top!"
The bar turns its attention to the politician and the spy, who are now in a drinking contest.
The bartender serves drink after drink of vodka.
After about an hour of drinking, the politician nearly passes out, unable to hold as much liquor as the spy, to a resounding cheer amongst the bar.
In the midst of the cheering, the Russian politician gets up, smiling, and in a slurred speech, repeats, "You are good, you are good... but I still think you are spy."
The American spy, piss drunk, loses his skill and gives up.
"Okay, you got me. I am an American. But what made you think that way, after all this time?"
The Russian politician replies, "There aren't many black people in Russia."