CLOSED ...because one of my items on my list showed up as a lightning deal so I had to get it. I'll look later for whoever suggested that item. If multiple people suggested that item, I'll either pick a winner based on additional suggestions in the comments or will raffle off from those entries.
For now I'm going to sleep cause it's about 2 hours past my bedtime and my coffin is waiting for me. 😆
My in-laws sent me $50 for a late birthday gift and I want to help share this with you. But since I've had zero spoons lately (spent Thursday night in the ER with difficulty breathing, scarring on lungs, Covid-19 test was negative though so yay!! but I'm TIRED) I need your help.
So you get to help me pick out something(s) to buy myself off my wishlist (up to USD $40) and if I go with what you picked, you get something up to USD $10 from your wish list(s). Sound fair and fun?
You are NOT buying something for me. You are picking out something (or multiple things) for ME to buy for MYSELF. I want to see what you pick!
You can pick items for any of my lists (including multiple lists). You don't have to link; you can just include the item name(s) in your entry comment. If you pick multiple items, the subtotal needs to add up to $40 or less.
US with Prime/free delivery OR other countries with free delivery. I don't want half of your prize to go to shipping.
Include the phrase "2020 sucks goats" somewhere in your comment because it's true. I mean, we're in the 9002th month of 2020 and it feels like it will never end.
Contest will end at some undetermined time in the future, but no later than Tuesday July 28 at 2359 hours Eastern Time.
EDIT: My default wish list is here, but I have 9 total wishlists you can pick from. An easy way to view wishlists on the app is to go to community info, user tools, random wishlist generator, and then you can put in a specific person's username and it will give links to all of their public lists!
Hello! I just discovered this sub and have found it really helpful to read about other people's thoughts and experiences with deciding to have children. I thought it would be cathartic to write out some of my feelings.
I'm 35F and have been indecisive about whether or not to have children for a long time now. I always felt through my 20s and early 30s that I since I didn't want kids now that I would just decide later, or wait until the desire really hit. Now at 35, I still don't want them yet, but I feel like I'm running out of time to decide.
There are lots of reasons why I don't want kids. I'm scared of having my life threatened in pregnancy or childbirth, and just generally what it would do to my body. I'm scared of the possibility of having a special-needs child. I'm scared of all of the responsibility and work it will be; that I won't enjoy any of it and that I'll wish for my child-free life back. I like sleeping in, doing whatever I want whenever I want, eating dinner however late I want, going wherever I want and not having to worry about carting a child and all their stuff along. I hate routine and feeling confined, so I worry I will resent losing my freedom for having children. Plus all the difficulties that come with being a parent - more stress and worry, less money, schooling, discipline, adolescence. Keeping them safe in a digital age. Kids are cute and funny, but require so much attention and have so many needs. I honestly get bored hanging out with them for long periods of time!
I also feel like I haven't done enough with my own life and lived enough of my own life to feel comfortable enough to put it aside to focus on another life I'm wholly responsible for. I'm not happy with my career yet - I'm still trying to figure that out in fact! I have a job that I've advanced at, but don't feel like I'm really building a career yet and don't know where I want to go with it yet. And I feel like I haven't traveled enough and seen enough of the world yet. And honestly, I'd like to have a dog, but haven't been able to commit to even that level of responsibility yet! If I don't want to walk a dog in bad weather, how can I commit to all the miseries that come with a kid!
Travel is a big passion of mine. It's very important to me. It's what I daydream about. My husband and I have actually done a lot of travelling all over the world, but I still don't feel like it's enough - there's just so much more to see and experience! I know travel is still poss... keep reading on reddit ➡
I've got 1 BTC sitting in a cold vault, happily HODLing for the long-term. It's the wildcard (and, fingers crossed) the jewel in a portfolio of mixed investments for my retirement/kid's inheritance.
We had a big family holiday planned this year, which was cancelled due to Covid. I got the money back (5 figures) and it's now sitting doing bugger-all in a fiat bank account. It probably will be for at least 1-2 years, as we don't plan on rebooking until everything returns to normal.
So, in a fit of exuberance, I dropped it into BTC, figuring it would be more valuable in there rather than slowly depreciating in the bank and earning pitiful interest. The key thing here is that I would always plan to sell out. It wouldn't be a long-term HODL.
But, I am now getting cold feet. I am conscious of the fact that at 8500 GBP per coin, I bought in at a relatively high price. Plus, I broke two rules 1) invest for the long-term and 2) don't bet what you can't afford to lose. Sure, we wouldn't be destitute if I lost it and it wouldn't affect our day-to-day lives, but at the same time, I don't fancy telling the kids in two years that Dad's recklessness finally killed the Disneyworld dream that covid couldn't finish off.
I'm now caught in indecision. I could either:
What would you do?
So I am in the middle of this debate with myself about whether or not I should return. I live in a pretty non-affected area, and for the most part, things look like they'll fully end restrictions sooner than later at this rate. However, I also know I have missed college a lot!
When the quarantine began, I wanted to go back to campus. And then I started thinking of those last days before quarantine ended, and my heart sunk. I have really bad anxiety and knowing how necessary social distancing is, I started freaking out that maybe coming back to campus would be terrible for my anxiety. At the same time, I really miss my friends, and being at home has been a very lonely experience. I love my parents, don't get me wrong. But home and university are not the same environments. Throwback to those moments my parents randomly walked into the room for my zoom classes, carrying food and yelling... sorry professors!
In the end, part of the reason I am leaning towards staying home is for that awful what-if scenario. What if we all have to come home again? My parents are older, and I don't want to come home carrying something and hurting them. I also feel nervous about campus life and how that will be this fall... all in all, I am generally anxious by all this....
Worse yet- housing! I have a great housing assignment for the fall, and I am honestly tempted to just come back so I don't lose that. I know my room really well (I lived there last year), and if we are fully on campus in the spring, I know that it would be a competition trying to get my place back...
No one has to respond to this post- I just wanted to share some thoughts and get something out there. If you relate, feel free to reach out! We are living in... a very weird situation all in all!
Today's my day off, so if I'm gonna go to the store, I should do it now, because I won't have a chance to for another week or more.
So, it seems easy. Do I have enough food to last me another week?
Yes, yes I do.
I have rice, I have 5 or 6 bags of frozen vegetables, I have enough eggs, and I have enough milk.
But that's it. I don't have any snacks. My usual family size box of cheezits, or my cookies. Yeah, they're feel good items, but, you know, that shit's important I guess. Those things you allow yourself. I'm not overweight, and those items last the whole week for me.
This means I'm gonna be eating just rice and veges for an entire week. When I've already been eating that for years. And it's like... Christ man. If I were to do that, all in all, my cost of food for the coming week would be like... less than $10. I think. Something like that.
And it's like. I don't know. I'm feeling really terrible about this.
So, I didn't know this sub existed before someone thankfully pointed it out to me. Now I'm posting this here, because I definitely still do want to talk about it.
I am overwhelmed. And I haven't even really... done... anything yet. I don't know what anyone here might have to say on it, but I thought I'd try it since you're/we're all artists or trying to learn, and may have dealt with this.
Basically I know myself, and I know that my brain is trying to find reasons or excuses not to do the painful thing (unfamiliarity is painful) which I haven't built up habits for yet. In this case, art. That's not to say I haven't been an artist in other periods of my life, because I have been, and I wouldn't be interested in learning again if I had never gone through those periods. I've taken classes, even ones I paid for. I've filled up a few sketchbooks and produced drawings which I am actually proud of, even if they're just fanart or still lifes or charcoal flowers. And you know... I look back and it's like... I did those things. How did I do those things? And so well? Was that really me?
Is it a lost muscle that if I had just stuck with it back then, instead of being told that I had to do the "smart" route and do engineering or mathematics or whatever-the-fuck-else, I'd have become what I wish was now? I feel like I've lost myself somehow. Somewhere along the way I ended up looking down upon art.
It's strange the way things change when you start paying attention to them. Before, I never felt like art was all that common. But now it's everywhere. Literally, everywhere, both in the literal sense that I see others' art in everything, but also in that everywhere I look, I see what I would produce. The most free person in the world must be the person who can produce in their art what their imagination is seeing, instead of having to continually repress it, like forcing the waves on a beach back out, each time, over and over, because you understand that you can't create what it is you see.
In previous eras, was art as prevalent as this? It feels like the old masters existed in a smaller world of artists. It's like if today there were 1,000 artists in the world, there was 1 back then. And that is literally the case. A world of 8 billion versus a world of... however many less. I don't know.
To me there is little sense in producing art just for art's sake. There is no difference in keeping your thoughts and feelings completely private and putting them on a canvas... keep reading on reddit ➡
I've been thinking less lately...
Which is completely contrary to my nature of being "the over thinker". I never overthink the "little" stuff, I'm able to make seemingly instant, snap decisions for what to have for dinner, what movie to watch, where to go for a date etc. When I shoot first, decisions are made in mere seconds. However, when it comes to the "big" stuff like what course should I study? I'm interested in so many things, which one should I master? I freeze, decisions get put on hold, sometimes for years.
I think "freezing" on the big stuff is a perfectly logical and rational thing to do. Why go into debt for a college degree you're not interested/might not even use? Why take a job if you're just going to burn out and quit in 6 months? Why try to master this thing if the other thing is going to be more viable in the future? If I shoot first on the big stuff, what happens if I miss?
When applying my "shoot first" mindset to the "little" stuff, my partner and I might have the occasional bad meal due to hastily picking a dodgy recipe or we might unintentionally watch a shitty film (which always turns out to be more "funny" than straight up "bad") but at the same time we find many recipes which become staple go-to's and plenty of awesome movies we probably would have never seen if we were just trying to pick the "right' one. (Train To Busan, I'm looking at you!).
Basically, whenever I just decide on something and shoot first before really thinking about it, even if I miss, it's never really that bad. But when I freeze, put things on hold, over research and overthink things almost always accumulatively get worse until I'm forced to make a decision with limited and often 'worse' options.
So I decided to come up with an experiment: What would happen if I apply my "shoot first" action orientated mindset to the "big" stuff?
Would I quit my job and become an internet millionaire? Would I write a cookbook exclusively full of shitty recipes? Or, would I end up directing a sequel to The Room?
Probably none of those things will materialise but whatever does materialise will most likely be exponentially better than if I did my usual thing of overthinking it and just "left it" for tomorrow. Which turns into next week. Which turns into next year. You get the picture, whether you take action or not, time will move the fuck on.
For example, I was really interested in plants and Horticulture when I was... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am in the market for a drip coffee machine. After reviewing the SCA Certified Home Brewers, I have narrowed my list down to three machines:
After researching, I liked the Techivorm based on its quality and reviews in addition to the durability and warranty; however, I could not justify the price tag based on the simplicity of the machine and the fact that I still have to percolate and pre-infuse. The Breville Precision was another great machine, but I do not need all those bells and whistles. I moved my list to the Bunn Heat-n-Brew as it was how the lower end of the budget as well as simple, but sadly it does not come with a thermal carafe, which I deemed necessary. If people know Bunn has a thermal carafe Heat-n-Brew, I would have bought this machine yesterday. The remaining questions about these machines I interested in are:
I have reviewed numerous machines and I welcome new and more suggestions for potential suitors. I want something that would meet the SCA Certification that has a thermal carafe. The machine needs to be durable with a minimum lifespan of 5 years (routine maintenance). The machine needs to be quiet and with NO signals (unless it is an app notification). I do not need this machine to have various brew method capabilities besides the Golden Cup standard. Lastly, I prefer not to spend above $200, but if it means I can drink the best thing on earth then I'll consider it.
I'm a young dude that's into sports and cars, better yet, sports cars. I like specialization and I like that the miata is one of the best handling cars for a low to medium price, but then I started looking at C6 corvettes. I have budget over under 20k and am gonna be using some money out of my savings and the rest of my money to pay for the car will be from trading in my 2014 Infiniti Q60, which was my first car that I got a year ago, and the car is cool and all, but I don't care for luxury or looks, but of course they are a nice bonus. My Q60 (2014 so not the new gen) supposedly has a 0-60 of 5.7 which i went from a 6.6 initially which was a truck, but when I first went WOT on my car, it was decently fun, but a C6 has a 0-60 of 4.2. On the other hand I've heard that it 's more fun to drive a miata because of the timeless "I'd rather drive a slow car fast than a fast car slow" line, but I live in Austin Texas where I don't have many curvy roads or turns. I live in the suburbs with low traffic too though so I would have a lot of time to go WOT on a corvette, but also a lot of time to catch a good amount of wind while standing on the gas. I've never test drove either car and I want someone who has driven both cars to let me know which one would be more fun to drive as a daily. My priority for a car is fun. Fun is subjective, but I probably won't be spending the majority of my time speeding or doing illegal stuff since I don't wanna mess up my insurance costs, so I'm looking or someone that's fun whether or not I'm driving fast and aggressive.
TLDR: Manual C6 Corvette Or Manual NC/ND Miata for car enthusiast
It feels like I can't trust anything anymore. my friends tell me all sorts of things like "people who support Trump support terrible things", "we should defund the police" , "being straight is bad" all said over and over in different ways. My mom and dad, however, strongly disagree. some things my dad has said contains "trump is fixing america" "we have some smart people here (referring to driving past a truck flying a Trump flag)" "masks are a lie to take away our rights" "they're not pushing masks in the riots, so why should i wear one if i just want to go to go to the store?" "they're opening Walmart but not a church? This is a crime against Christianity! All these people supporting these riots, all stand against Christians!" I dont know what's right anymore. My dad keeps pushing the fact all the protesters and gay people are wrong and "donkeys", but he's a "purebred" because "god made donkeys and purebreds, and the donkeys outweigh the purebreds". But my friends, who I love with all of me, say otherwise. I feel like im leaning towards my friends, but they're young, like me and dont know anything. They're 13-18, I'm TWELVE! I don't know anything! They dont know anything! This makes me feel indecisive every day about even the smallest things, and with my mom shaming me for being so indecisive and not knowing what to do. I'm not sure what to do, and I feel too young to choose one. I can't trust anything. If I lean towards my parent's views, my friends will shun me. If I lean towards my friends, my parents will shun me. Thank you for listening to this dumb rant. Please drop me some advice.
Just bought out beautiful girl yesterday. S90 t8 inscription hybrid. Our first Volvo!
Wondering about buying all-weather floor mats. Looking that up online creates a bombardment of info from people looking to sell me stuff. And I just want the pros/cons from real people.
I haven’t ever played through this series. I just got all the games off steam and I can’t decide on a class to play. I’ve played for hours and never gotten past the mines so, I have an idea of what to play but, WHAT SHOULD I DOOOOO. Someone help me!
So my ENFPness is starting to hinder my life planning. I cannot figure out what I want to do for a profession. I have so many things I want to do that I feel like choosing one and forsaking the other is me losing out. Every time I start down a road of learning to try and land a job in what I want, I end up quitting once I'm moving past the beginner level. I hate this so much but I cant help it. I'm currently a QA engineer, which I'm not a big fan of. I recently graduated from a full stack software bootcamp. Before that I had 2 to 3 years of sub par effort in courses in game development and before that it was psychology, which is what my bachelors is in. The things I keep dreaming of is concept art, 2 or 3d animation, music, compositing, modeler, machine learning, data analyst, etc. Can anyone offer any advice on this? I can never just settle on one thing.
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As I’m approaching level 8, having a hard time deciding how I want to allocate my ASI. -Monk (drunken master) -Dex: 18; Con: 14; Wis; 17
Think my options are either 2 more points to Dex, or one each to Con and Wis.
Having an extra bonus to attack would be good, given all the hits we monks throw out. Plus most of my skills are Dex based.
But also boosting my AC as well as the save DC for stunning strike with another point to Wisdom would be good. And a little extra Con couldn’t hurt.
Howdy yall! I'm working on getting the major equipment in my short shuttle bus. I'm looking at replacing my window ac unit I used to use in my van. The window unit is a 5kbtu unit. With partial insulation and all windows exposed it is still a bit warm in the Florida sun. I'm looking at upgrading to 12k which I suspect will be fine for me with current insulation and I plan to add the ability to cover up every window and I'm going to finish insulating, fill holes in the floor, etc. Does anybody have a 3-5 window bus with a 12k btu unit in southern climates? I did an AC calculator but I'm not sure if 12k is going to be enough/too much/etc. Here is what the window unit install looks like https://imgur.com/KclJ9qP (I'd really like my back window back too!)
I have so many concerns. I talked to an AC guy and getting his unit (unknown make/model right now so I don't know how efficient it is) would be about $2k installed with the ceiling mount that I'm really leaning towards. I'd just have to mount the exterior unit myself and run 220. The ceiling unit is about the same size as the emergency hatch. I figure because my roof is full of raised solar anyways I could just build a little cover and do that. Keep everything inside super clean. This would also mean the interior unit is centrally located. In my van with the window unit I had a noticeable temperature gradient from cold to hot from back to front. I'd like to avoid that.
He said just get a window unit, however I can't find one that has efficiency past like 15-17 seer. Most mini splits start in the 18+ range. Solar/battery only that will make a big difference. I don't mind paying a bit more for it now. Its my understanding at night a minisplit won't cost me much more power then my window unit currently does and can pull more power to cool down during the day. This is ideal for me.
Second, he says somebody will take the exterior unit if possible. I was just going to mount it near the top level with the roof. Sounds like I'd need to build a cage around it. Am I just better off mounting it on the side of the bus even if I have to raise the section of floor a bit to do so? I used to spend all my time out in the middle of nowhere when I first starting vanning, but I started spending more time in cities, and the last 18 months or so I've been in the same city. Having things that can be stolen easily isn't something I'd like to enable.
Finally sizing, should I just get an 18k btu u... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm so irrationally anxious about the little things in my life like what to eat or what song I should listen to that it stops me from doing a lot of things and is derailing my life, making the smallest decisions can be paralyzing I don't know what to do with my time and I'm too anxious to prioritize because I can't make decisions so it turns into this vicious cycle and I feel like I'm going crazy.
I am interested in building a Saizo. I pulled a +Atk Julian on this new banner, and I feel that Close Foil would be a wonderful skill for him. At the same time, I've seen that Vantage is a super important skill for Saizo, so I feel like I would be wasting the Lull Atk/Spd I would be receiving from the fodder as well.
What about regular Close Counter? If I use Close Foil, I won't be able to counter dragons. Is that loss worth the improved stats against all other physical damage? I do still have that 4 star Takumi everyone got awhile back.
Then there is the issue of the massive BST differential between Saizo and Julian. Julian is literally a +4/+9/+4/0/+2 to Saizo, making him a complete upgrade minus Saizo's amazing pref weapon. I pulled a Julian with pretty good IVs at -HP, +Atk.
What would you guys do in my shoes? I see some of my options as:
Fodder Julian and use both CF and Lull Atk/Spd on Saizo
Fodder Julian and just use CF while using Vantage as the B skill, wasting the potential of Lull Atk/Spd
Fodder Takumi for CC for Saizo and also keep Julian since his BST differential and good IVs are not worth foddering to a unit he trumps substantially.
Any help or advice here would be appreciated greatly.
Hey all, I was hoping I could get some advice or insight on this. I'm bisexual & nonbinary, currently writing a book series where the main character is bisexual and cisgender male.
There is a romantic subplot for this guy, where he meets a bisexual and nonbinary AFAB who is gradually kind of exploring her/their own identity. In the first book, she's definitely more feminine-presenting, but she's still just very rugged and tomboyish by nature. Kind of just naturally androgynous. She also has more evident leaning romantically toward girls, to the point where the main guy just kind of backs off and assumes, "oh, ok, she's gay, no worries."
As they develop a close friendship and working partnership, she explores more of a masculine form of expression and really kind of flourishes as she embraces a nonbinary identity, presenting as more masculine, maybe even trans-masc. I'm still kind of getting all the details crystalized, really.
By the time their friendship grows into a romance, she presents in a pretty masculine fashion. Some of the side-characters who don't already know her assume she's a young man, even.
So here's my area where I need advice—
My main guy, he's kind of recovering from and living in the shadow of an ex he was just utterly devoted to. This ex is pretty different from the present love interest, too, so it's also kind of a sign of healing and moving on that he's not just jumping into the arms of someone that reminds him of his ex.
But my problem is that I don't know whether to make this ex male, female, masc, fem, nb, etc.
The thing is, I've already given the ex a name and partly with my indecisiveness, opted for a unisex name. Given that the main guy is bisexual, it really doesn't matter what the gender of this character is, I feel.
But here's the problem.
Maybe I'm just scarred from encountering a ton of biphobia and bi-erasure facing different-sex couples, but I have the concern that if I make the main character's ex a man, that people are going to be like, "of course the bi male lead's ex is a man and the new lover is a woman, because bisexuals always end up in het relationships anyway." Yay for biphobia, right? And honestly, even a little transphobia in there, too. :(
The problem with that beyond claiming I'm perpetuating some biphobic stereotype is that it completely steamrolls over the new partner's transmasc identity, too.
Now, here's the other problem.
If my main character's ex is a woman—the "big, life-shattering... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi Basically, I’ve feel like I’ve been trying to make the same decision for about 2 years and at this point I just don’t know what to do.
It kind of started around about the time I had to choose my university options and once the first doubt set in, that was it, I have not had a moments peace or certainty about anything since. Even eventually (after an unimaginable amount of mental anguish) making a choice to attend a specific course/uni, whilst there I found that I was still going over the options in my head all the time. I was and still am constantly ruminating and worrying about the course and generally fearful of the future. I was also generally pretty depressed about all the friends, classes and teachers Id never talk to, see, or do ever again which I guess did not help.
I have tried reresearching courses and careers on the internet so many times, and even though occasionally I feel like maybe I’ve made a decision, it always falls apart again due to the self doubt that inevitably creeps in - I can never settle on anything and it’s slowed my life down to a crawl, somewhat damaged my relationships and led to me isolating myself a lot.
I keep thinking that as long as I put off the decision, all the possible futures I’ve constructed in my head are still available, which I know logically is somewhat absurd because the longer I avoid and procrastinate the more opportunities are going to disappear and my abilities/skills are going to atrophy. I just feel like I have to find the perfect option or else I’m going to be a failure full of regret, or end up doing something I hate for the rest of my life. It’s stopping me from doing anything at all, just in case it’s the ‘wrong thing’.
Most people have given up on me and I honestly feel like a lost cause myself. If anyone has any general advice about indecision, whether you think I have some sort of OCD or not (although I’m aware I can’t be diagnosed by random unqualified strangers on the internet, lol), I would be very appreciative.
Tl;dr: feel incapable of making a decision, been procrastinating and avoiding for months, even though I used to be a high functioning student. Keep ruminating and researching, trying to find the perfect solution.
I have no idea what to pick, or why, and I keep restarting my game because I don't know what I'm doing. I just want an easy game that I don't have to worry about dying. Any suggestions?
Exactly how the title reads.. My (F) boyfriend (M) has some indecision issues where it's actually putting a huge strain on our relationship. It used to be amusing to me and others - but - we've been together for 7 years now and it's draining.
For example - we'll be between two restaurants for dinner and he's always like "I don't know what I'm craving..." Which is fine - I mean.. Same. But then when I finally pull the plug and decide.. He plays the "demanding/controlling girlfriend" card. Then, we'll finally agree on the place.. And the entire ride there/time we're at the place.. He'll talk about whatever he usually would get at the other place.
Okay, when I type it out.. It sounds like nothing and just so overdramatic. But when he asks me every fucking day how to get his hair cut after I tell him the exact.same.thing every single time.. It gets real fucking old.
Okay, thanks offmychest Redditors, for listening to my stupid rant.
I have a huge watchlist of movies and just created a smaller watchlist to focus on for the summer, but I'm still struggling to decide what to watch on a nightly basis. For example, last night I was considering Umbrellas of Cherbourg, North By Northwest, or Nashville. I put on Tremors. Why am I the way that I am
I've been learning C# off and on for the past year - most on for the past couple months - and I'm feeling eager to move out of the console and bring some of my code into a UI. That said, I'm overwhelmed by the number of options and have no idea which is the most-advised route to take. Given that I only know C# and some Python, that this is admittedly still a hobby for me and NOT a career-defining choice (yet), and that I would ideally love to use something that is relatively easy to make cross-platform; what in your opinion is the best option? I've very briefly flirted with WPF, Xamarin, and Blazor, but only *very* briefly, so I'm open to any and all suggestions.
Hello there Vault-folk. I have a dilemma that i hoped some outside input might help me with.
I’ve just recently finished a mining session in the National Guard Training Yard for my Mad Max character (cheesy i know) and have a few shotguns saved out, but can’t decide on which of the four to keep. They're all from the same session, so i have to choose.
Oh, and i have a Neverending Double Barrel, so I'm all set there. I mean, it’s Mad Max right.
Cheers for any replies!
(edits for spelling)
It's been for a while now that I'm indicisive about what religion I should follow. I'm a quitter, so whenever I commit myself into something -- no matter the effort -- I quit easily; that, unfortunately, also applies to religion. I've 'converted' to various religions before, but either for the lack of interest, commitment, or patience, I give up or instantly 'forget' about it. Even dodekatheism; which, in my opinion, is simple to follow. Recently, I'm in indecision between atheism, hellenism, and satanism. Can anyone help, please?
Hi everybody, I've been eyeing the pat mcgrath lip balms and seeing as today they're 50% off because of lipstick day (yay) I find that I'm not sure which one I want to get. Maybe you could help out sort my indecision and give me your opinion?
I'm interested either on this mini trio that is super cheap, but I'd only ever use the lightest two shades, I never ever wear red on my lips, or this full size in passion flower, which I really like but the price ends up being almost the double. So I'm like, I'll definitely wear/make use of passion flower better, but it's more expensive than the other one where I can use two different shades, even if they're not my faves (and I'll completely not use one of them).
Any thoughts on my predicament?
Also, has anyone tried them? Are they really hydrating? Anything to comment about them?
I noticed something with you ENFPs and Ne users and I wanted to ask about it. Do you guys struggle with deciding something like when someone asks you could you have done something or how do you feel about something that’s about to happen? Do you ENFPs struggle with this and have trouble picking between two or more options a lot? This a common Ne thing and so on, I wanted to ask you guys and discuss this trait I believe you guys are known for and other Ne users.
Hello, everyone. I think I'm lost in a bottomless pit of ambivalence, and I could use some advice from you lovely people out there. I (34F) have been struggling for almost 2 years now with whether or not I want children. When my husband (35M) and I got married, I was very clear that I wanted them. He didn't really, but understand that I did, and that marrying me meant he was committing to be a good and present father to our children. Skip ahead a couple of years, and we are in a place to start trying. Well, I have totally flipped out and feel so lost on this topic.
On one hand, I honestly think I would be a good mom. And I think I would fall in love with my child/children. I imagine family vacations and holidays and bedtime snuggles and laughter, and it sounds wonderful and so full of love. When I envision myself in my "golden years," I imagine adult children coming to visit and their presence bringing so much joy. I am also very close to my family, but my family is small. I'm an only child and really only have one aunt and one or two cousins that I'm close to. The idea that one day my entire family will be gone and it will just be my husband and myself terrifies me. Family is so, so important to me, and I don't want to lose it. I have also always imagined myself with children. I was very maternal as a child, and a lot of my "pretend" games involved assuming a maternal role.
But on the other hand, I really value my freedom. I have a really hard time with commitment in general (big and small), so a commitment on this scale is overwhelming. I am so afraid of losing out on my freedom (even though husband and I live pretty boring lives), of quite nights, of time for hobbies, etc. I am afraid I will regret having them and giving up the life I once had. I am afraid of the loss of autonomy that comes with being pregnant (I was sexually assaulted when I was younger, and I still struggle with control issues, especially physically.) I'm afraid of having a special needs child. I'm afraid of my husband resenting me for choosing this (even though he agreed). I'm afraid of not bonding with a child. I'm afraid of possible financial strain. I'm afraid of feeling "stuck" in a life I won't like.
Basically, I feel just paralyzed by fear. I don't want to miss out on either part of life, and choosing to have children or not is inherently choosing a loss: a loss of a child free existence or the loss of children and all they bring. I feel so swallowed up in fear and a... keep reading on reddit ➡
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I’m in a mixed episode of depression and hypomania. A huge symptom of mine is indecision. I just go round and round. I’ve been trying to decide what to have for dinner for 2 hours. Distraction hasn’t worked. I made myself have a snack but I need to eat more.
How do I break this cycle?
A week ago met a girl, a friend of some friends of mine, from a town near mine. She had been staying two days in here.
As soon as I saw her I got astonished, since she is really pretty, but I didn't try to get to know her because of that bit of shyness that keeps persisting in me: thus, I only limited myself to act in a certain way in order to look brilliant, yet I didn't talk to her directly, starting to make puns out loud and some other stuff instead.
The day after, I finally knew her, and we started talking (we were sitting at a table) and joking and stuff. At a certain point, we started to stare into each other's eyes just for fun, ending up laughing like two idiots, which we did like twice I think. Then, I dared to make my first bold and deliberate try to make physical contact by touching, with mine, her leg, which she didn't even move away. We ended up talking (in group) about various and abstruse themes up to 3:30, when we all came home and I had the occasion to greet her and say her goodbye (she went to sleep at my friend's house who lives in my same street).
The morning after, I followed her and she did it back
It has been one of the most exciting, fun and revitalizing things for me so far, since that girl had something new and different from the other ones.
I've spent this whole week examining every smallest thing in her IG profile, fantasizing about all possible scenarios and wondering whether texting her or not.
I've been trying to look for something to start a conversation on DM (I forgot to ask her number), whose one was to ask if she was good or not, since there has been a case of Covid in her town. I thought it was inappropriate and discharged it some days later.
I'm still confused about what to do.
She lives in a town which is about 30 minutes away from mine, and she usually comes to my town only on important celebrations and festivals. I'm undecided because I feel not quite able (truth to be told, INSECURE) to chat with girls by messages. I can't rely much on my expressivity, my fluency in speech, my breadth of interests, the enthusiasm I sometimes expose them with and the fact I can't write that long-ass shit I'm used to. I'm insecure about getting to know her by messages because I fear it to be dry and aseptic instead of a "de visu" approach.
I asked my friend about her actual state: not engaged, perhaps not convinced about starting a relationship (I don't really know how much is that true, but I'm trying not to care about... keep reading on reddit ➡
Finally, she ran and I went back to sharpening the axe.
In need on some advice on Manhattan's neighbourhoods as I moved here from France only 4 months ago (impeccable timing, isn’t it?) and am still not entirely at ease with the city.
I’m currently living with roommates in Williamsburg (near the G Broadway station) but looking to move someplace else as our company, based in Midtown, has informed us that we may return to the office in July. As I'm not quite comfortable with the idea of taking the subway again, I am therefore considering the possibility of moving to Manhattan with the aim of walking or biking to work (limiting my searches to a maximum 30 minute bike commute).
At the moment, the neighbourhoods I am most interested in are the following: East Village/West Village/Gramercy in Manhattan and Williamsburg (closer to McCarren)/Greenpoint in Brooklyn.
To be honest, I’ve become quite attached to the quiet and fun atmosphere of Brooklyn, the diversity of Williamsburg’s cute bars/restaurants and its green spaces. Since I've never lived in Manhattan I can't compare it to life in the city even though I had the opportunity to walk through these neighborhoods several times, which left me with a very good impression.
For a young professional in her mid 20s who works in midtown Manhattan and given the current unstable situation, would you recommend to stay in Brooklyn or move to Manhattan ? Also, what are your thoughts on these neighbourhoods in Manhattan, especially East Village ?
Thank you, looking forward to hearing from you!
Hi fellow wedditors, long time lurker, first time poster!
Some context: We got engaged in February of this year. FH and I have always been on the same page about a smaller wedding, like 60-70 people max since we're both not huge fans of being the center of attention and have super small families. Neither of us is religious, so we're gonna rock the city hall route. The issue is with the "reception."
We're SO indecisive (probably more so me). Originally we thought about having a reception at a brewery. There are tons in our area, but it turns out only a few do private events and buying one out for a weekend party in September can get very pricey. The next thought was to have it at a local restaurant, again with a buyout. The price isn't unreasonable, but I'm kind of... bored? with that idea? I'm not worried it won't be fun, more that I'll have buyer's remorse for a one night, 11k party when we could have put the money towards more fun stuff during the honeymoon. Which leads to the next idea: destination wedding-moon.
The idea would be to have a super small reception the day of the city hall ceremony locally, with 20 people (immediate family and wedding party). Then we would go to Hawaii and have our honeymoon, but invite our family, wedding party, and other friends to hang out and party with us. Realistically we know not everyone we invite would be able/want to come (my mom doesn't like flying, his grandma definitely wouldn't want to be on a plane for 10 hours, expenses, kids, etc), but this seemed like a good balance between the two. I ran it by my sister/MOH and two best friends and they seemed into it, but I'm having second thoughts that this is just completely unrealistic and FH hasn't been super decisive on how he feels about the options either.
I know this is getting long, but two small notes. We have FOUR weddings next year, which is giving me some wedding fatigue for sure. And, of course, a lot of this hinges on things being relatively back to normal and there being a Covid-19 vaccine.
So wedditors, are our ideas totally crazy? Did you do something totally outside the norm? Were you indecisive about what your wedding would look like? Any advice and opinions would be helpful, I feel like I'm drifting in a sea of indecision here.
Hi! This is my first "this" please let me know if I'm doing it wrong. Multiple tests agree I'm am INFJ but honestly just diving into it, as I've struggled for many years (I'm 37) with what my deal is? Why it is so hard to find "my people" that I can really connect with? I can easily adapt and go along with others. After some pretty terrible "one -sided" relationships I am really coming into understanding myself, and trying to be better to myself and trying to love myself (so hard when I'm always caring about close people in my life and usually put them before myself emotionally, and sometimes at my expense emotionally). Close people in my life don't get me though, and that also is getting harder, the older I get.
I tend to play psychologist or therapist for those around me and am very good with positivity or silver linings and making connections. I usually see both sides of, say two different people arguing and I get it. I can usually offer something from a different/ multiple perspectives on an issue.
But if someone flat out wants me to take a side, or in regards to "my opinion" well, let's just say, my conversation ends up being way too long! It takes me a lot of "explaining" before I feel like anyone "gets" what I'm saying about it. Is it because they don't "get" me? Most people I know aren't interested in deep conversation and don't have the patience to hear me out, I get it. They want me to say yes or no, agree or disagree, have some stance, but it is often much more complex than a simple answer for me.
It is actually quite exhausting to have a conversation with a person that doesn't "get" me. I usually put in the effort with a couple people because I would love them to understand. But most often I don't try to verbally give my opinions, because it is too much effort for often the result of not being understood anyway. Does this make sense?
I always want to learn why it is someone is thinking the way they do, so I am a good listener. Now I have gotten to the point where, if I have a somewhat simple discussion some will say "I think you're just overthinking it" haha 😅 where I think, if that is overthinking it to you, I'd hate to introduce you to the rest of my thoughts.
I feel so stuck in endless small talk meaningless conversations. It often makes me want to withdraw from social stuff all together.
I am open to work on myself and I think withdrawing isn't healthy. I mean I know I'm introverted, but I mean withdrawing further.... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hey everyone, looking for a little help and I'm really not sure if the kayak I'm looking for exists, figured maybe you could all help me find what might work best for me. The first big hurdle I have is there a kayak that does well in oceans, lakes and some calm rivers (don't plan on going in rapids with it) I do not want a sit on top as at that point I would rather use my SUP, I do want to take it out for lounge days on the water but also plan to do some over nights. Will use it in the great lakes this summer mostly and maybe a few rivers, then plan to use it in the Puget Sound and PNW oceans in the next year or two. I previously had a recreational kayak from Costco a few years ago which was fine but was highly recommend not to take into the San Juan islands when I was there. I really am trying to avoid needing two different boats. Finally I'm not loaded by any means, however I'd rather pay a little more to get something that works for what I need and is not a bad quality, then again I don't need the top of the line paying for things I won't use or features that aren't needed. If I could get something. Oh and ideally REI stock would be best as that's really the only store open around me due to covid-19, however if their line of products is really not going to suit my needs or is trash I could order online, I just want to get out there sooner rather than later.
Okay thank you everyone in advance for any positive advice you can give and for reading. Hopefully I provided enough info, I tried to give all the variables I could think of, however if there is something I'm not considering let me know. (Like I drive a Honda Civic and have Kayak-RK-J that I intend to use to transport, does the roof rack I have matter?) Anyways thanks
So many times when faced with a decision - not even necessarily an important one - I just completely freeze up and can't even begin to think it through. I genuinely have no idea what I want and it feels like my brain is stuck in some kind of stasis. It's such a frustrating experience that it often makes me want to cry. Except I can't do that either. DAE? Are there exercises or anything that can help with this?
I might be the primary dev of the fork, but sometimes I just can't make up my mind. Awhile back blowguns/darts got orphaned because I got rid of ammo and the throwing skill. I thought launcherless ranged was unbalanced and ammo was tedious in general but blowgun effects (Needles of Curare, Frenzy, etc.) were a loss of something actually decent and unique gameplay-wise with the cut of "fat" that was dealing with ammo and throwing skill javelins etc.
I've been intending to restore them at some point since they were cut and it's been weighing on my mind the past couple days. So I thought I'd ask for opinions on which of these y'all would think is the better path?
I've been meaning to trip on morning glory seeds sometimes now, though I'm not sure what's a good time due to other things in my life. Facing an inner conflict about something, I thought, now would be a good time, to help clarify that.
Then I thought about the more distant past when I used shrooms, LSD, DXM and other drugs on many occasions trying to address something like that. It seemed like there was something wrong with doing that, and I can certainly say it doesn't seem to work. Seems like I was trying to find something externally in a way, via drugs, when that can only be found in me, via deciding. It's like this has to come from me, from my very core, I have to choose it and do it, and drugs can't really help with that.
It's still surprising that psychedelics weren't useful. Is there some way to use them in these situations that is useful?
One thought that comes to mind is that the only way they could help is by leveraging desire to do drugs into motivation to do other things. Though actually anything which I have faith will be good in life can probably be similarly leveraged. The main thing blocking me could be lack of faith that any choice will lead to something good.
My thoughts: Uncertainty is a bitch. It’s exhausting being a person who’s always frozen in uncertainty. Take too long to make a decision and boom, the opportunity passes as well. In many situations, there sometimes isn’t even a right or wrong answer. You just have to make a decision.
At least if you’re constantly wrong, you’re not stuck in the endless limbo of indecision. Trust me when I say it’s terrible.
There’s something I was wondering if any else felt the same. Part 4 is my favorite part but recently I finished part 7, And now I’m conflicted. I love the characters and slice of life aspect and the amazing Kira Yoshikage. But I feel like part 7 is objectively better written. And part 7 has I’m my opinion the best friendship of Gyro and Johnny. One being my favorite JoJo and the other being probably my favorite character period. And also the amazing funny valentine.
Part 7 is probably the most well written. But I’m not sure which one is my favorite. So I was curious if anyone else has felt or does feel this way about both parts. And what are people’s opinion on both parts generally
Anyone considering saying no to their new housing offers from UCLA? I was recently offered an apartment in WC and now very hesitant, as I really wanted a dorm even for the cheaper price of the apartment.
I will try not to rant too much since this is just one show among many good shows out there (and it is a show that I enjoy), but I do have a bone to pick with the writers of MLB.
Most shows can be categorized as either serials or narratives. Serial shows all end the way that they begin. There is no change. No growth. There is a comfort in knowing that no matter what happens everything will be alright in the next show. Narratives, on the other hand have a beginning, a middle and an end and is dominated by change. They have a well defined timeline and arc.
Serials outnumber narratives for 2 main reasons. First, people dislike change; if the chemistry of a particular cast works then why risk that chemistry with change. Second, narratives are hard to organize and to keep organized especially if you are uncertain if you will have another season or not.
My rant, though, is that MLB can't decide which one of these 2 routes it wants to take and is sending conflicting signals that is hurting the show.
MLB started out as a serial show where you weren't hugely invested in the characters but were just enjoying the ride so to speak. It was great fun to watch LB chase after CN saying 'just a peck' while CN was yelling 'get back you savage'. And, I think that fun could have lasted for ever.
Then Glaciator happened. Suddenly, these were not fun characters poking at each other on the screen, but real people that we can identify with. When Marinette got sullen when she did not have anyone to share her ice cream with, her sadness could have been your own or your best friend's or daughter's or niece's. The same when she squeaks 'for real' etc. Other shows have drama like this but they never mess with the fundamental relationship that drives the series. In short, instead of loving the same schtick served up to them every day many fans became invested in wanting change. What was fun and comforting (these guys will never change ;) ), became irritating and frustrating (these guys will never change.)
Which brings me to my rant. In S3, in particular, the writers seem to want to have it both ways. They don't really want to change the characters and the way the narrative works. (Flustered Marinette and overly flirty CN are the hallmarks of the show from the very beginning.) But, they also don't want to turn off the fans who are invested in the love square. Their 'compromise' seems to be to try to do both. They always seem to hint that change is just around the corner with a s... keep reading on reddit ➡