I have realized over the course of a very long relationship that my views of men have been slightly warped by stereotypes we see all the time. Some of them were kinda funny and a little sad but others actually caused real issues.
The biggest one for me was sex drive. We are pretty much told constantly that sex is all men think about so when my SO didn't jump me every five seconds I assumed it was because of me. Come to find out I just have a way higher sex drive than him. This also led to the fun realization that men really like it when you initiate. Another thing I just assumed they didn't like because I just assumed men wanted to be in charge. Needless to say, it hasn't been a problem since I got used to the idea I could jump him.
So, what things did you just think were true about everyone that you found out from experience was crap?
Edit: wow this really blew up. Thank you all for the responses and thank you for the award! Its my first one!
does anyone else hate the idea of working?
im not sure if im lazy, depressed, or both. i cannot stand working at all. its so depressing to be at work for hours on end. i dont think i will ever have a job that im happy with. i am only 20 but i dont think this feeling will go away. im about to get a job in an area of work i wanna go in and im even dreading that. i dont know maybe its just me being burnt out but i cant be the only one who feels like this! its depressing to think that we work to stay alive and that we will work until we either retire (hopefully) or die on the job. do people genuinely look forward to work?
Ok so im typing this on my laptop on the couch so bear with me.
Ok so here's some backstory when our kids were 3 months old (my son) and 6 months old (her daughter) we met and a month or two later we started dating and in the following year we got married. My late wife died in childbirth and her ex is no longer in the picture.
Ok so earlier today my (54m) wife (52f) and I were discussing our kids collage fund we have about 50k saved up for each of them or so I thought. While we were discussing separate collage funds from there grandparents and other relatives she brought up the fact that she had another collage fund for her daughter with about 30k in it. Well to say I was shocked. Just to add she has a job and makes a small amount and we each have our own spending money per month that were allowed to do so as we please so I guess that's were she got the money from. I told how come and she said that since its her bio daughter she decided that she wanted to save up more for her. To me... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’ve seen this idea of white fragility all over Reddit for the past year and I frankly find it deplorable.
The crux of most of the posts/discussions concerning white fragility follow the basic format of: someone says something racially questionable toward white people, white person says “hey, don’t say that” or “I don’t appreciate that”, then someone calls the white person racist/fragile for not tolerating racism toward them, then the white person defends themselves as not a racist and is subsequently confirmed as a racist.
This person is then called fragile for not tolerating racism toward them and then is deemed racist through the infallible logic of “the only people who have say that their not racist are racists”
This isn’t a helpful way of thinking because no one should be called fragile or mocked for calling out racist behavior or for defending themselves against slander/libel.
Edit1: IDK if I can put this here but I think it’s a Δ, I have no issue with people being called... keep reading on reddit ➡
I joined a 5e group a few years ago. It was my second campaign I'd ever played in. I met this group through an online posting and we played a weekly game at the library. It was a lot of fun and I got a long with everyone at the table (or at least I thought so.)
For the first several months I played a cleric. The DM ran very difficult encounters and the players all loved it. Myself included. It was not all that surprising that a few of us lost characters over time. Eventually my cleric fell and I submitted my new character for approval. This character was a young male druid who was to become the new leader of his druidic order when he came of age. Until then he had to prove himself by going out and conquering many evils in the world and to maintain the balance of nature. Only then would be be worthy of becoming a true leader.
The idea was to have him be a shy awkward character as he got used to dealing with people and learning to be a leader. I dumped charisma and played hi... keep reading on reddit ➡
It puts them on the spot, and it’s essentially influencing a person to make a decision. Not to mention the person asking risks being embarrassed if they say no. What are they thinking when they go through with this? (The person asking)
Edit: this isn’t about whether or not the couple talked about marriage beforehand, even though they should. It’s about people putting on a public display at a mall, a restaurant, or any place with lots of people.
Seriously though. Lets run down the list
Mega Evolutions. Unlike the lazy VFX bonanza of Z-moves that were basically just giant win buttons, and the even lazier mess that was Dynamax, Mega Evolutions felt like they had a soul and weren't just trying to pave over laziness with raw spectacle. Also, Mega Metagross is the greatest thing since Regular Metagross and nothing will change my mind on that.
WynVirgin vs Lumichad City. Yeah this one needs no introduction. Wyndon is a huge disapointment in terms of what a true hub metropolis could have been on Switch... Seriously, without expanding it at all, just putting some polish on the Camera and graphics would have made Lumiose awesome. Instead we got a bunch of empty promises.
The Player characters could be implied to be so different in age based on their hair and clothing options...okay mostly the girl since Pokemon always gives the waifu more customization options, but just by being taller and having a wide variety of clothing o
What's the worst first dates or meet ups you've been invited on/invited others on, and why?
I'll start with Sailing.
It's a cool flex but I just don't want to be stranded on the sea in a confined space with a stranger. There's no polite way to back out if things go sour. "Oh you're a religious fundamentalist who wants nine kids? On that note I just remembered that I have an urgent swim planned for right NOW" jumps overboard.
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The map feels straight out of bo2-bo4 era. 3 lanes and both sides of the map being pretty 1:1. The community complains non stop about maps being too big and having to many sight lines so IW gave us this 3 lane funnel map. And you guys still aren’t satisfied lmao.
So many complaints about the new playlist not getting shoothouse enough. STOP BACKING AND TRY NEW MAPS. If y’all would quit leaving to enjoy 1% of the game you’d probably realize that this map, as well as most of the core maps tbh, are GOOD. But i get it shipment and shoothouse hand you freekills so that’s why y’all always beg for trash tier maps.
I recently saw a music video where I legitimately thought it was a foreign language with a few English phrases thrown in (sorta like Gangnam Style's "Ayy, sexy lady"), but it ended up just being a singer who had a UK accent + Jamaican accent.
This is all over Reddit and social media and I don’t understand it. Pete Carrol and Schneider not doing well in the first round doesn’t say anything about the quality of the picks it just says Carrol and Schneider need to be smarter in the draft or get replaced. People seem to think this was a good move but the Seahawks are a shaky team that’s been carried by Wilson as of late and if and he gets injured or they start losing those one possession games they are going to really miss those picks, rather than just shrugging it off because their last few picks weren’t that great.