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I am a 25 year old woman and my roommate is a 30 year old man. Were just roommates, he's not really a friend. He found out a few months ago that he has a 7 year old child with a woman he had a one night stand with years ago.
He has partial custody and I was planning on moving out when the lease is up in April because I didn't really want to be living with a parent or family, I had been looking for a roommate who's a quiet young professional because I work from home 3 days a week and like a quiet space.
Yesterday, my roommate asked over text if I would be home today. I said yes. He asked, could look after his daughter today. I said no, I had work. He said that I wouldn't have to do much, his daughter was pretty independent and I wouldn't have to take time away from work. Just be there in case she needs anything. I said that I didn't really want to split my attention. He said that she wouldn't need hardly any attention, and I dropped it there because I didn't want to argue.
So I thought that was resolved, I thought he realized I'd declined.
This morning, I was expecting to work from home but I got an urgent call from the office, they needed me there ASAP. So I grabbed my laptop and ran out the door without stopping for anything, didn't stop for breakfast or even a shower.
I saw his daughter in the living room watching TV and I didn't see my roommate there but I didn't think anything of it. He spends a lot of time in his bedroom so I wasn't surprised to not see him there. Honestly it barely registered because I was stressed and preoccupied with the thing going wrong at work.
I went to the office for the morning and my co-workers and I resolved the issue in time for everyone to head home for lunch. And when I got home, my roommate was there and he was mad, saying I had told him I'd be home all day and then he comes back and I'm out and I've left his daughter home alone after he asked me to look after her.
I was baffled and said that I'd said I couldn't babysit. He said that he thought we established that I wouldn't need to babysit, just be present just in case.
I said I didn't agree to that and I had not tried to lie to him, I had to go to work urgently because something unexpected went wrong.
He was mad at me for being so "head in the clouds" for seeing a little kid alone when I'd already knew she might be home alone, and he'd already asked me to just be there in the apartment, and just running out the door.
I said I had enough going on I didn'... keep reading on reddit ➡
Or, the recipes that are more trouble than they’re worth. Mine are:
Miso soup - the dashi smell always gets stuck in my nose and ruins it for me. I’ve tried a few instant soup mixes, and they were fine but it’s usually cheap enough to just get this from a restaurant instead.
Anything with aioli.
I’m curious to hear what you all think! If this has already been posted somewhere, please let me know 🙂
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I’ve got a friend, K that I’ve known since we were 5 and now we’re in our mid 30s. We used to be close but after uni he moved to the US for work so we only talk occasionally. In fact I see his parents more often than I see him, because pre-pandemic his dad would get the same train as me into London and sometimes we’d sit together.
Anyway, me and my wife have a kid and would like one more at least so we’re looking to buy a house. We currently live in a 2 bedroom flat and it’s getting small. We were looking at listings online when I came across my friend’s childhood home.
Turns out his parents were looking to downsize and were selling their house. Honestly, it was perfect for us : 5 bedrooms, garden space, close to the station. They’d even had a special line laid into their house for super high speed internet, something like 5-10 GBPS down.
Seeing this I phoned up my friend’s dad and asked him about the house. He was very open to the idea of selling to me, and even said he was glad ‘it was staying in the family’ (our families are also close). We dealt with each other directly, without an estate agent and therefore he was able to give me a nice discount.
All that was in October - but my friend K has been livid ever since. He keeps saying how I’d ‘bought his childhood’ and I was ‘taking advantage of his parents’ by having paid them less. His sister on the other hand, was happy for me and on lieu of a housewarming party sent my family a framed picture of our two families from when we were about 10 or so.
While I didn’t do anything wrong legally, I feel I may have stepped on K’s toes by now living in a place where he grew up.