When I dont work Im just on my phone and/or netflix all day. In between I'm just doing normal household stuff like cooking, cleaning etc. to keep me busy. No hobbies, no passion. I'm not even excited about having a few days off because I know Im just gonna lay around all day. What can I do?
Not looking for medical advice or anything, just curious if someone experienced this and discovered something that works for them.
Edit: Thank you all for all the responses!! I didn't expect so many helpful advices :) Hopefully this thread gives some more people a spark of motivation to start something new!
Long time lurker first time poster. I’m zeroing in on my timeline to make the move from city living to something at least a touch more rural.
I’m green as hell to all of this so I may be opening a can of worms here but I’m mostly looking for advice when it comes to scoping and choosing the right land especially if anyone has any opinions on Minnesota versus Wisconsin, the age old Midwestern debate.
For some reason this feels like it matters to mention but I’m looking for river/running water sources in comparison to still body if possible. And probably no more than 10 acres at most, even that feels daunting to me but I do know I have a lot of future garden concepts I’d like space to run with :)
Edit: I’m really really overwhelmed by the outpouring of tips and advice and personal experiences shared. I’m eager to learn but have a hard time guiding where to start and this has been a beautiful store of experience to direct my interests and what concerns me most to start!
As a return I would like to share the gift of my own time putting together an index of what has been shared here. My work life is kind of nuts at the moment so give me a week or HONESTLY BUG ME FOR IT and I will provide a shareable resource that can be built upon of others desire to contribute or just read if you’d like to see this collected somewhere easily in the future.
A lot of us who have graduated from high school and university can relate. A friend who pursued a career path with a lower ceiling and demand (eg. sociology, history, political science, etc.) that led to “nowhere” and ended up working in a cubicle in the business field because it actually paid the bills.
High school teachers and guidance counsellors need to play a significantly larger role in laying out the facts and data for students before they go all in when choosing a major in college/university. Salaries, demand in the field, etc. Parents don’t always know best or for some they may not even be around.
While I understand actually enjoying your line of work is a large part of being happy in life and you should pursue your dreams, young students need to set realistic goals and at the minimum have a backup strategy laid out ready to execute should their plan A fail.
Edit: If you had a childhood dream and succeeded in pursuing that dream I’m happy for you, really. But the reality is, the possibility of digging yourself into a massive student debt hole (mainly applicable to US tuition because it’s just absurd) with little to no job prospects to recover from is something teenagers should fully comprehend. This is also a significantly different scenario for those who have parents that are able to help financially. Student debt can alter the entire course of your life and is not something to take lightly so yes I do think it requires some tangible form of return on investment.
People don’t know what we’ve been through.
Give yourself a break. Give yourself time. Get to know yourself. Don’t rush yourself. Take a breath. Manifest the life you want. Break the cycle. Prioritize yourself. And go after what you want in life.
I'm baking, frying, and grilling my own foods with a continually declining fear of messing up and disappointing my wife/kids. Sometimes I deviate from the recipe and adjust or add different things even.
I'm super hard on myself when I fail or make mistakes and this has been a slow release on my white-knuckle grip on perfection or failure. I'm a super picky eater and this has been a big move for me. I'm still anxious and measuring myself against people who know a lot more than I. Babish's channel is simultaneously intimidating and freeing.
I don't know why it matters to me but whenever I can deliver something my kids devour and my wife doesn't make a funny face at I feel a great sense of satisfaction. I'm not an ambitious or skilled person but this is something where I feel like it's appreciated.
Started feeling this way pre-covid
Edit: Thank you to all who participated. I have made an appointment to see a doctor for blood tests. I am quite certain that I am not depressed. I have been depressed before and this is not what it feels like for me. I wrote off ADHD because I don’t think I’ve had trouble staying focused but as your many comments have indicated, that is not all what ADHD is. I will make it a priority to see a counsellor if this turns out to be more than a vitamin deficiency. Thanks for all your tips and suggestions. I hope the post and the comments help others who are in a similar position.
Gatekeeping should be fully embraced as a fun game to play with any activity or hobby. If someone wants to gatekeep an "outsider" only for the sake of making it a sport of them needing to prove themselves, that should be totally fine.
For instance, if I watch one starwars movie and I become a fanboy, other starwars fans should make a pointless ritual of "You must prove yourself and study all the movies." It's a fun way to make people prove how dedicated they are to something.
I'm not even upset if outsiders water down a specific activity/hobby. Gatekeeping is purely a way to make a game out of making someone challenge how hard they are about the hobby.
Hooo boy, this week has been the week that keeps on giving in my circles—between the train wreck of the bachelorette relationship that everyone expected to end blowing up with a “I thought we were on a break but he blindsided me with a breakup Instagram post that he signed...with his literal signature” and the newest beauty drama revolving around J* the “I’ve changed so don’t involve my name in drama even if I never addressed the horrible things you’re saying I did” trash goblin and Shane “If you’re not J* I don’t know you” Dawson, I’ve been living my best life. There has been extra Bachelor drama because, as always, production is a train wreck so if you wanna talk about that mess, I’m here for it.
As always, this thread is for anything that:
• Doesn’t have enough consequences (everyone was mad)
• Is breaking drama and is not sure what the full outcome will be
• Is an update to a prior post that just doesn’t have enough meat and potatoes for a full serving of hobby drama.
• Is a really good breakdown to some hobby drama such as an article, YouTube video, podcast, tumblr post, etc. And you want to have a discussion about it but not do a new write up
• Is off topic (YouTuber Drama not surrounding a hobby, Celebrity Drama, TV drama, etc.) and you want to chat about it with fellow drama fans in a community you enjoy (reminder to keep it civil and to follow all of our other rules regarding interacting with the drama exhibits and censoring names and handles when appropriate. The post is monitored by your mod team.)
• You want to talk about something that IS NOT drama related at all. I’ve tried to encourage off topic chat in this thread with my openers, but want to make sure that y’all are aware it’s totally valid to just chat about whatever if that’s what you’d like to do.
Last week’s hobby scuffles thread can be found here..
Tl/dr what do you do for fun?
Edited to say: I should have mentioned that I stopped crafting because it stopped being fun, not because I became a minimalist.
Hi. I used to be a major crafter. I have embarked on almost every single craft you’ve ever heard of. I can make or bake almost anything you might want. Then I became a minimalist in spirit. I have been jettisoning stuff from my life. But now there is a void left from the time I used to spend learning about a craft, acquiring the tools for that craft, making that craft, and then finding a place for everything to live.
I am constantly learning. I already read a lot. I try new recipes all the time. But I’m feeling a bit empty inside. At least part of this is Covid related, but I’m kind of desperate to find a new hobby, interest, passion.
What do you do for fun that requires little to no equipment? If you have any suggestions for me please consider that I live in a very hot climate. Outdoor activities during summer months can be extremely uncomfortable.
Hello! Hope this is okay to post here! I thought it would be handy to ask some men about this.
Recently, I've really wanted to get more involved in some of my boyfriends hobbies, but I'm not too sure how best to go about it.
Some of the things he likes is writing, playing Dungeons and Dragons, he likes League of Legends a lot, collecting journals and watching anime. These are just some main ones.
I really would love to become more involved and knowledgeable so in the future we can maybe do one or two of these things together.
Thank you! :)