Hearing

Make sure you preface your request by asking that people only choose party-specific songs (or whatever other preference you have).

Also, have a bunch of your own party songs pre-loaded on the play-list to give people an idea of mood/genre.

Disclaimer: For many people, this is an LPT for post COVID. I hope everyone is keeping safe in the meantime.

Edit:

Regarding the risk of people adding silly songs to the playlist / adding duplicate songs: ensure you do an audit on the day of the party, and lock the playlist so no-one can make further edits.

If you are concerned with what the flow of music at the party will be like: ask people to stick to a couple of specific genres.

Regarding 'giving people homework' before a party: you don't have to make it compulsory.

Your boy child is in no way more ______ than a girl child. If I’m told that boys are more snuggly or loving or wild or WHATEVER than girls I’m going to lose it. I get it, you love your kid who happens to be a boy. But how in the world do toy come to the conclusion that raising a boy is better or more rewarding than raising a girl? And then my real pet peeve is how do you SAY IT OUT LOUD?!?!? Just keep your misogyny to yourself, it’s 2021.

I just need to stop looking at Facebook period. You’d think I’d know all I’m in for is GARBAGE when I scroll there. Ok, rant over. Have a great day parents, enjoy an extra glass of wine tonight, you’ve earned it!

Edit: my second sentence should read When people literally tell me that boys are better because they are more snuggly or loving or wild or whatever than girls I’m going to lose it.

As in, this has been said to me in my recent human interaction.

I didn’t mean for my post to come across as “any boy mom affiliation/usage is bad” it’s the boy moms who are compelled to tell me that boys are better than girls that’s driving me crazy.

Edit 2: Most of y’all are SUPER COOL and I appreciate all the comments. I didn’t think anyone would read this dumb rant let alone commiserate with me. ❤️

Okay so I sometimes had people telling me I’m racist for "automatically assuming others have the same skin colour" as I do.

I think that’s not racist, that’s natural.
If I grew up in a country with a mostly white population, I’m likely to imagine someone being white if I have no additional information (such as country of origin) about them.
Same goes for growing up in a country with mostly black inhabitants and so on.

This doesn’t mean I believe that my skin colour is the "normal" or the "standard" skin colour.
It’s just being used to something.
I’m not "assuming" everyone having my skin colour, I know not everyone does.

EDIT: What I mean is that of course there is no normal, standard or default skin colour in the world.
But for individuals there can be something similar to a "normal" skin colour, with "normal" meaning the norm, what’s usual in that region.

Just as there is no normal language when you looking at the world, but if I look at Spain than spanish is the normal language. Doesn’t mean everyone in Spain speaks Spanish, or that you’re out of place if you live in Spain and don’t speak Spanish. But it’s just the usual thing.

Edit 2: Maybe this will make it easier to understand what I’m trying to say.

It’s like living in a place that almost exclusively has red birds. Almost every bird you see during your whole life is red, only from time to time you see yellow ones.
You know that yellow birds exist, and you prefer neither of the two kinds of birds. But if someone says "bird", you’re more likely to picture a red one in your head, right?

So guys here we are. Most of you on this subreddit know how it all started.

In short, I tried to express my opinion against the malpractices of WhiteHatJr, they kept putting down my videos/posts/accounts. And then a lot of things happened and their scam was exposed. Then they filed a 20 crore defamation case over me for exposing them.

Updates since my last post:

• Thank you for all the amazing support you guys showed in my last post telling the news of the case. I asked if I go forward with the case, will you guys support me. And the response was amazing. I am not doing a fundraiser as of now, because the legal cost is not clear now. So let's wait for the hearing. Don't want to end up raising more than what's needed.
• Me and our lawyer, Swathi Sukumar worked really hard on the case. Let's see how it goes tomorrow. Last time they got the Former Attorney General of India, Mukul Rohtagi to represent them. Let's see what happens tomorrow.
• After the case got listed on 23rd Nov, the High Court asked me to take down only 12 tweets and 4 videos which I did. But after that on 6th December my entire Twitter Handle (@ WhiteHatSnr, with 15.2K supporters) was suspended because of 'requests' from WhiteHatJr guys. So is Twitter above our judiciary? Isn't this obstriction to justice? WhiteHatJr had pointed issues in some of my tweets, how will I show those tweets now to show the context of those tweets?
• In the last week of December, even chats from our Telegram group (@ WhiteHatPoonia) were removed for copyright. Who would have thought if that was even possible? Billions of dollars worth of content from Netflix, Prime, Disney etc is being circulated over Telegram, no one can stop that. But WhiteHatJr and Byjus still managed to delete some of our chat.
• Karan Bajaj is still showing up in interviews, telling about their 'successful' company. Today there was news of WhiteHatJr on News18. By tomorrow there might be more paid news coverage.
• I request you guys to write about this issue.

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On a different note, if someone is near Delhi, if possible, do visit the farmer's protest. Now I don't know a lot about the new laws, I was too much consumed in my own case. But I really feel that this should not turn violent and govt should listen to these people. On 2nd Jan, I went to Delhi to sign some legal papers and while returning I missed the last

Just editing this in later

I went to watch endgame and there was like 10 people in the room on release day, all because it was a captioned version.

And if you're wondering, the movie still has sound.

Also I worded it a bit wrong and I meant that a movie theater could have a CC option, they're not completely separate.

I just woke up and holy shit my phone exploded. Most awards I've ever had, I can be one of the cool kids now.

I can go no further with this task

Having been raised Catholic myself, and despite having abandoned belief shortly after my Confirmation, I still carried an echo of the fear the Church instilled in us that, without religion, he would grow up without a moral compass.

My son's reaction made me so proud. I'm more confident than ever that his sense of right and wrong is clearer not just despite being raised without religion, but because he's being raised without it.

Edit: some clarifications - I didn’t read him the story. He listens to stories and myths on the Story Nory children’s audio podcast. It auto-advanced to the Noah story, he heard the first few minutes, blurted out the above to no one in particular, my wife overheard, shared it with me, we shared a laugh, and I switched him to a different story. We’re in the Bible Belt, so it’s not a context where we can treat Bible stories like other myths or literature.

Like before it was just some senile jokes and funny clips where Marv Albert screws something up, but he is now CONSISTENTLY wrong.

Watching the game, Steph Curry / Chriss literally hit threes a few minutes ago but he calls it the Warriors’ first three. This is NOT OK. If I’m turning on a game and can’t even trust what I’m hearing, that’s going to seriously mess with how I take in the game. Like a broadcast can’t just feed misinformation.

In what world is it ok to keep someone on like this who clearly can’t do his job? This is 2020 for god’s sake. Replace him!

Edit: sorry he’s the play-by-play, I can’t change the title.

So I(13F) have 2(soon to be 3) deaf siblings and my fathers KODA(His parents are deaf and ASL is his first language). My whole family is fluent in sign language. I try to be involved in the deaf community as much as possible and I hope to be either an interpreter or an audiologist one day. I also feel like I can relate a bit to having a disability because I use a wheelchair although they are very different.

Well I have a friend(I'll call her Lia) who wears a hearing aid. From what I know last year during those bulky headphone hearing test things they do at school she couldn't pick up on the smaller noises and so her parents took her to an audiologist and they said she had a bit of hearing loss in her right ear and gave her a hearing aid and with it she's almost completely hearing. She doesn't really know much about the deaf community although that's completely fine and her choice.

Well the other day we were talking about the fireworks from new years eve in a groupchat and one girl said it scared her dog. I added that fireworks really irritate my brother(Who's deaf) then Lia was like "I thought he was deaf" I tried to explain that deafness is a spectrum not just complete silence and that very few deaf people have no residual hearing.

She kept saying that if my brother isn't 100% deaf then he should tell people he's HOH. I tried to explain that my brother is 100DB in one ear and 120DB in the other(I'm pretty sure 150DB is like the highest amount of deafness) She again said that if he has any hearing he is only partially deaf. Also my brother can only communicate through ASL, goes to a school for the deaf and always needs accommodations like CC so I think he is right to identify as a deaf person.

I tried to explain how it's like I use a wheelchair but I can still move my legs and cross them. She said that they are nothing alike and that I'm "Mansplaining" deafness to her and she's HOH(Or she uses the term hearing impaired). I just kinda let it go after that and we continued talking about fireworks. But now I kinda feel like an AH, I just didn't want her to say that in front of my brother or my family. But AITA for trying to explain deafness to her as a hearing person?

Edit: I'm a female. I think she meant "Mansplain" like a person with privilege trying to explain something to a person in a minority about being a minority. I guess "Hearingsplain" would make more sense.

I am also tired of this trend of women that are gender non conforming to say they are non binary; when I was growing up a tomboy was just that a tomboy. Why are we getting so obsessed with gender that we now have all these weird identities like non binary, genderfluid, genderqueer. Those women that i mentioned above where women living in very sexist time period; there is no evidence that they where really men. Women wearing masculine attire does not mean she is a man. Joan of Arc did not even live a s a man nor did she fight. Florence Nightengale and Amelia Earhart may have not exactly been traditional women, but they where still women. It honestly worries me that society still holds these ideas that women that are not super conforming are not really women.

My (35F) daughter (16) is obsessed with screenwriting and recently became a huge Shonda Rhimes fan ( show runner apparently behind Grey's Anatomy) and talks about her all the time.

I’m supportive of her dreams. However, what annoys me is that she complains that where we are in the Midwest there’s very little opportunities to meet people in the industry who could be potential future mentors. She also complains she’ll never get to Hollywood if she stays here when I suggested going to college locally.

Today I had had a bad shift at work the night before and she knew that. She was in the kitchen with her cousin researching scripts for inspiration when they started looking up her current celebrity idol and found out that she had kids.

My daughter said “ Awwww!” And then she sighed and said to her cousin something along the lines of“ Can you imagine how cool it would be to be HER daughter? Literally how grateful I’d be- I’d worship the ground she walks on. Shonda adopt me please.”

I came out of the living room and snapped at her “ Gee thanks for reminding me why I go to work at a job I hate every day. Totally worth it because my daughter obviously appreciates me and doesn’t want to swap me for a multimillionaire she’ll never know. And who would totally give her the light of day and become her mom if she did know her. “

My daughter said “ what the heck; that’s not what I meant mom!” But I was done with her for the moment and walked out to cool off. When I came back in my daughter and her cousin had locked themselves in her room and when I knocked on her door she was crying and told me to go away.

After her cousin left my sister called me and said I overreacted. I said that I was sick of my daughter more and more seeming unsatisfied with our life and all that I’ve given her. And even projecting that stereotypical “ this town isn’t good enough for me- I want to move to LA” attitude. But apparently I had to be a hotshot show runner to be good enough to be her mom. My sister said I obviously couldn’t even be a screenplay reader if this is how I interpret things and told me to apologize.

My daughter was still upset during dinner and dodged any attempts I made at conversation. I finally had enough and told her that I wasn't going to apologize for being offended when she knew I was somewhere around the house when she said that. And that she obviously meant what she said about Shonda having the ability to make her a big screenwriter but I couldn't and she was asha

Seriously, don't make the same mistakes as I did 15-20 years ago.

EDIT: Nowadays I always carry reusable earplugs in a little metal container attached my key chain, so I always have them handy if needed.

https://twitter.com/anwarrichardson/status/1345074689920659540?s=21

Posting on a throwaway because I don't want this on my main.

I'm an early-30sF who has only been in serious relationships and never traditionally dated. I started following this and other dating subs a year before I started using apps and the most common thing I read about was how hard the average guy has it. How women apparently only go for the top 20% of men so less attractive ones hardly get any matches and need to put in a ton of effort. As someone who is attracted to personality and has had feelings for multiple short, pudgy, bearded and/or bald men, I was fully prepared to ignore the hot tall bros and engage with the supposed 80%. Didn't turn out the way I expected.

First off, 6/10 profiles I came across had blank bios or something stupid like "just ask" and a single blurry photo. It was more like 8/10 on Tinder. I know a lot of women do this too, but considering men have a harder time getting matches, it seems like a no-brainer to write *something* personal and take better photos.

Another complaint I heard frequently was regarding women not messaging first or really engaging in a conversation. I was happy to take the lead and make the first moves, but I only got messages back half the time (and I would open with a question or comment about something in their profile, not just sending "hey"). Of the convos I did have, a majority were one-sided with minimal responses OR long-winded replies talking about themselves and not asking questions which was a turnoff. I won't even get started on the guys who immediately make perverted comments or turn the convo sexual.

FWIW I am 5'8, slim and have been told I am above-average looking. My profiles had several clear photos of my face and body (fully clothed, not sexual). I avoided clichés and overused jargon (ie - I love tacos and The Office!).

Anyway, I deleted the apps after a couple of months and met my current BF irl shortly after. I recently talked to a friend going through the same thing. I thought maybe men didn't put much effort here in NYC where there are plenty of other ways to meet people (pre-COVID at least), but she's in suburban PA.

Fellas, I sympathize and don't doubt you have it harder. I'm aware men outnumber women on the apps which stacks the odds against you. But I have to wonder if your lack of luck is because you're guilty of what I just described?