I have older 3 half-siblings. My family background is my dad and his then ex-wife (the mother of my half-siblings) got divorced. 16 months later I was born and about year after I was born my dad and his ex-wife got re-married. my oldest half-sibling, Blake, was 9 when his parents got divorce divorced and it was rough for him. I think he blames a lot of his frustrations about the whole thing on me and so we have never been close because he has just never been that nice to me.
Blake is getting married this weekend. His groomsmen are our brother, his fiance's brother and his two best friends. The bride's bridesmaids are my sister, bride's two first cousins and her two best friends (5 bridesmaids, 4 groomsmen). I heard my stepmother ask Blake why he doesn't ask me to be a groomsmen and his reason was he only wanted to have people he considers brothers up there (they don't know i heard this, but I wasn't shocked to hear it).
I guess I've been invited to the wedding, as in it's expecte... keep reading on reddit ➡
Riverside county, California. Two and a half years ago, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up. She told me that her and the kids would move to her mom's in nearby San Diego, but instead, she took my daughter to Texas to live with her new ex-con boyfriend, completely lying to me. I have an open case for custody ongoing right now. We've had had a couple of hearings since with the only orders being that I get 3 phone calls a week with my daughter, preferably by video, but due to some tech issues, these are done mostly as a regular phone call that I do record to use for reference in keeping a journal of our conversations. Tonight, I called at our normal time window and chatted with my daughter about her weekend and asked how her brother was doing and she said fine. I then asked if he is doing anything to annoy her, and she told me that he was playing with his penis in front of her again. Now I already plan to file a complaint with Child Protective Services in Texas using an online submission, bu... keep reading on reddit ➡
Earlier this year my mom had a baby. I am happy for her because I know she always wanted another child but wasn't sure if she would have another due to my parents' divorce. The problem is that she has tried to force me to bond with my brother, and that hasn't worked.
I'm not interested in small kids or babies. That's just not me. In fact, I actively dislike them and do my best to avoid having to interact with them, so I had no interest in interacting with him despite my mom's efforts.
I started college a few weeks ago, and since then my mom has been wanting me to call and say "hi" to my brother at least a few times a week if not more. I refused and told her that she's being unreasonable by expecting me to call that much, but she wants my brother to see me so that I am not a stranger whenever I come home.
She wasn't listening to me so I finally told her that she's wasting her time and my time since he's never going to be more to me than a brother in name only because of our age ga... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (17F) currently work full time during my final year of High School with nearly all my money going into a bank account I will use for my college education.
One day, my brother (who doesn't have his liscense) showed me a GMC Jimmy For sale and said he said he didn’t have the $2000 the seller was asking.
He then asks if I could buy half of it. I thought it was a joke, so I laughed. When he said he was serious, I assumed he meant he would pay me back. He assured me that was not his intention, his exact words were “you have $30,000 in the bank. $1,000 is nothing to you! Why can’t you just be kind to me for once?”
I was very upset at this point and utterly speechless, except for the word “NO!”
One day after that, he approaches me with my mother with whom I have a very strained relationship with. He, however, doesn’t.
She said “(op), your brother and I have talked about you purchasing half of this Jimmy. We agreed it would be mutually beneficial for you two if you paid for half... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm 15. My half brother is 8 and has autism. He is extremely disruptive and I am generally quite unhappy being around him.
I know it makes me sound like a real asshole but I really didn't sign up for this. And everytime I go to my dad's it's always screaming, or barging into my room, ruining my stuff, screaming at me, constantly holding me etc.
I've complained several times but my dad and stepmom always tell to please be patient and that my brother can't help it.
For the past month, I've refused to go over my dad's house.
He comes sees me at my grandparents house instead.
Last Friday he begged me to start going over again. I told him that I'm sorry but I can't be around my half brother anymore. He got really sad and asked if I'd visit my brother once we're older. I said I will visit but I can't live him.
My dad got really sad and left after spending time with me. I've been kinda depressed ever since.
I also know that he'll have to pay more child support to my mom now. So I feel... keep reading on reddit ➡
She snooped through my phone and went through messages with my first love/boyfriend. He was the only person I had told. I tried to lie...then minimize...then slowly I told her. She cried and I felt shame cover my body.
I was 7 when he started. My mom walked in at one point when he had laid a small pillow on the ground and got on top of me. I was a little girl. He was a young preteen/teen. She made a rule...no closed doors. But she stopped enforcing it after a few weeks and the abuse continued.
When she found out, she told my dad (my brothers bio dad too) He pretended nothing happened.
A few years later I lived with my dad. He told me my half brother "Timmy" was coming to live with us. That he was homeless and he had to be a good dad to him too. My bedroom opened to the living room Timmy slept in. I knew I was safe. I was older and he wasn't so big as when I was a little girl but the fear never left and nights were brutal. I slept from 5am to 12pm. I had a distant memory of my d... keep reading on reddit ➡
I writing here to ask advice and also to vent my frustration since I have no-one I can speak to IRL.
My MIL had a stroke a week ago and she’s been in coma for past 4 day. Doctors told us it’s less than 1% she would wake up and it’s been really tough week for us.
My wife(29) and I(29) married 3 years ago and we have a 3year old daughter. We are expecting our second baby in couple month. Our marriage has been really strain full since we got married, I believe only reason we are making it work is because of our daughter, and we believe it will work out as long as try our best. And we both really really love our daughter.
However, because of my mother’s condition, my wife brought out topic regarding her half brother(8), she said she wants to adopt him. I didn’t agree nor deny it, it is a huge decision for me. Since not only our relationship is not perfect, plus it would also put a lot of strain on my relationship with my parents. They weren’t very supportive of our dec... keep reading on reddit ➡
Backstory I guess, my dad was VERY abusive to us. They divorced when I(24f) was 15, I attempted to have a decent relationship with him and he stood me up at my therapy appointment after I explained to him last chance. I have him over a week notice and he called the hour of. I stopped talking to him. Blocked him everywhere. He remarried and had a son. I was in a horrible car accident. My mom told him because at one point it was kinda scary bad. Anyways. I haven't heard from him until about 2 years after around the time I received an insurance payout. Did I mention my moms brother still talks to him regularly? So thats how he knew. I again blocked him. Okay onto the point I need to make, my mom was supposed to get alimony. Never did. She was thinking about taking him back to court to get his checks garnished but was worried about my half brother(I've never even met him), and how it would affect him. I told her he isn't her responsibility. That what goes on in my sperm donors life has NO... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm 33 and I work in a pretty famous university. I'm considered pretty senior and I often interact with the admissions office.
All my siblings have gone to this school. And we've all gotten in with our grades and activities.
My parents had a pretty bad divorce and my siblings and I have subconsciously sided with my mother all these years.
My dad's son with his new wife is now 18 and applying to university.
My dad messaged me earlier in the year and asked if I could put in a good word for my half brother with the admissions office.
I'm not really close with my half brother and stepmom so I said I don't think I can do much. But I guess my dad thought I said I'd at least try.
I was actually contacted by a colleague about my half brother's application and apparently he was just shy of a percent for a grade cut-off. He asked me if I thought my half brother would be a good fit.
I responded back saying that I don't believe in nepotism and that he should be evaluated like any other stud... keep reading on reddit ➡
This is really hard for me to write about and I don't think Reddit, or the internet in general, is the best place to come forward with this but I don't think I can tell anyone in real life just yet. I thought about talking to my best friend about it but I feel too much shame in my heart to do that. I'm hoping some of you can maybe help me clear my head and put out some advice because I don't trust my brain anymore.
I'm an 18 year old girl and my half brother has recently turned 20, a good 1 1/2 years older than me, He is the son of my father and his ex-affair (now second wife) from when he cheated on my mother. I have always lived alone with my mother and two full blood siblings. Naturally, by the time I was born my parents didn't live with each other anymore and as a kid I only saw my half brother (and other half siblings) on the weekends or sometimes randomly in town, when I went out to meet some friends of mine but the older we got the more we started hanging out after school. He a... keep reading on reddit ➡
What inspired me to write this now is a situation that happened earlier. My brother(2y3m) was crying bc he wanted to play with his car toy but when my step-dad gave it to him he threw it and then started crying because he wanted it now(?). Anyways as he was throwing a tantrum my step-dad asked him a couple of times to stop crying hysterically or he will get in trouble and as he continued to cry my step dad took him to other room and I guess slapped him on his ass and left him there to calm down.. (btw. He started yelling and slapped the door on their way in very loudly.) as he wouldn't stop crying even then after a couple of minutes I went in to calm him down and he looked so hurt and started telling me that hevs crying bc dad is mad at him and so on. I tried to calm him down by hugging him and such and then he started wanting to hurt me, he started to pinch me and bite me. The reason why I think he might not really be though how to express his sadness and anger in healthier ways is be... keep reading on reddit ➡
Title says it all. I recently saw she kept liking and retweeting sexual abuse threads on twitter and finally saw one where it asked about your own experience and I saw her entire story and screenshotted it, when i confronted her about it she lied and said it wasn’t her which i quickly disproved and now with all the spotlight on her she confessed in front of me and my dad. We were livid my mom (who my dad divorced several years ago) has gone so far as to even tried to defend it saying they were young and didn’t know but now here I am a hour after the confrontation of me and my dad who I told to stay in the car as I knocked on his door pulled him out and we exchanged blows. I put him on a pedestal when i was younger thinking he was a special and kind person, but now I know everything and I made sure to tell everyone in the family to keep away from him and i couldn’t care less.
Update since I just woke up: Ok so this is just context to answer some questions i’ve seen in the comments. 1... keep reading on reddit ➡
Backstory: I didn’t know my dad very well due to the fact him and my mother split when I was about 2 or so(I’ve never gotten the correct age) and I decided to take this test to see what his side was and where in the world they were from, seeing as how I can’t get any information from my mother(relationship is sketchy at best). When getting my results back he was at the top with a 22.8% match with “half brother” next to his picture and my wife said he looks just like me(eyes, nose). Now here’s the interesting part, I was born in 1980 and according to my mother I wasn’t planned before her and my father got married. He(half brother) was born in 1979 in the same city I was born(NYC).So I don’t know if his mother was a woman on the side or was my mother? I sent him a message to introduce myself, cuz according to his bio, he’s looking for some answers about his family as well. I want to talk to him first before I approach my mother about this to did out if she knows anything about all this.... keep reading on reddit ➡
as title says I was informed on the 14th that I needed to be out the flat within 5 days, but brother is still expecting pay for half of the month?
Throwaway and fake names.
So, quick background: After my freshman year I (16f) moved in with my dad because he lives in a better school district. Living with my dad means I live with my half brother Corey (17m) too. I'd never lived with him before. I wouldn't say we're close or anything, but we don't fight either.
Anyway, Corey has this best friend, Ryan (18m). Last year before the pandemic Ryan and I started getting a little close/flirty. Corey didn't like that and he asked me to back off Ryan a couple times and not date his friend, but I didn't think he was very serious or anything.
We're allowed to have people over again and stuff where I live, so in the past couple weeks Ryan has been coming over again a lot. We've been heavy flirting again and Corey was being really weird about it. He told me again to back off, but its not really up to him who me or Ryan date, so i mostly ignored that. But then Ryan told me Corey had said something to him to about not wanting us to hook up, t... keep reading on reddit ➡
So my parents divorced when I was 4 ( I'm now 18). They both have new partners and have kid with them. So my mom was given custody and I've been living with her until when I was 10 and she told me she was pregnant.
Fast forward we moved in with my new "stepdad" (who I don't even consider one) and ever since my brother was born he has been extremely disrespectful, toxic and hurtful to my mom and I don't know why she hasn't left him. Because of him my mental health is so bad and honestly fragile and this has been going on for years and years.
Right before my final high school exams (really important for my future) my brother (8 yo) was yelling while playing games with his friends (not a problem but it was so loud it was disturbing my studying) and after asking him extremely politely he continued yelling. My mom clearly seeing what was happening took his laptop for only 3 days so I can finish studying. Except it was impossible for "stepfather" to keep quiet because his son should have... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm a 21 y/o F and my brother is 17, we'll call him B. The shared car between B and I broke down. Likely broken because someone was revving the engine too hard and often. B admits to trying to race in it. (It drove perfectly fine before COVID, where I was mostly the only driver, then B took it out over the next 3 months and when I tried to drive it again I realized how messed up it was). He gets off with no consequences. There's a spare car for him to use; he doesn't want it.
I declare that I'm buying a car for myself. My parents don't believe I'll find anything worth buying. They ignore my whole searching process.
B, being a teenage boy, is extremely excited at the prospect of a new car. He knows more about cars, so I enlist him to help me. We come across a good deal.
B isn't allowed to buy a car (as per my parent's rule) since he's too young and has no major requirements for a car of his own. My parents believe if they let him buy a car, then he has free range to use it (fair). Th... keep reading on reddit ➡
About 4 yrs ago a man reached out to my brother looking to find his father with the same last name. Our family name is unique and there’s not many of us. At the time my dad was very ill, hospitalized and not coherent enough for us to ask any questions.
We come to find out this man had been given up for adoption, he’s now in his 50s (I’m 42f). He tracked down his birth mother who gave him my fathers name and told him he was the result of a one night stand and she’d never told my father about him. So my dad had no idea he existed.
We agreed to meet him. He is my father incarnate. He looks like him, had the same mannerisms as him same interests the whole 9 yards. Meeting him and essentially seeing my father in him while my father was basically on his death bed was horrible. I wanted nothing to do with him.
My mother has welcomed him into the family with open arms. Some of my siblings have fully accepted him others have not. My dad passed a month after we met him, he never got to kn... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am not having children and I am undecided if I will give my little half brother any money or put him in my will.
making a will is on my list and thinking about future estate planning is not my favorite thing to think about.
I do not have a strong connection with my family. my mother's mission is to push family on me she already made the assumptions that I need to be close to my step sister and my half brother but high school my step sister was one of the people harassing me
Then my half brother my father and his mother made sure I did not build a relationship with him because my father did nothing when I was in a mental health crisis that lead me to leave home at 18 where I was forcibly confined for a year and a half.
my step sister had her first child. I gave them a copy of total money makeover last year out of being nice I asked if she was going to have a 529 or RESP because they live in Canada and the USA because it's a chapter in the book.
I am 35 I'm turning my li... keep reading on reddit ➡
Genetic Sexual Attraction before even meeting
20F and I am having intense feelings for my newly found Half brother 27M, Our dad had two failed marriages, including a fling(with my mom) before he died only months before I was born. My half brother or his family did not know about me until I contacted him on social media months ago, finding out my half sister had died as well a couple of years before I contacted him. I knew I had half siblings, but I didn’t think to attempt contact or even look them up until my relationship with my boyfriend had been coming to an end. Now that I have I cannot stop thinking about my Half brother, he is everything I have ever wanted in a man, well, except maybe not married with two children.. and related to me.
We talk over social media or video games everyday, I don’t usually go to bed at night without speaking to him until I fall asleep. We send each other selfies which I know is just getting to see what we look like which is similar, we started sendi... keep reading on reddit ➡
To give some basic background, I've been playing on PC for almost 5 years now, started out in high school when I bought my first laptop and went from there. I upgraded it by adding some new storage units and always kept it clean. I would lend it to my brother and would even ask him when he was playing when I could play so I didn't interrupt anything important or make him stop at an intense or relevant moment. We respected one another and I loved that we bonded over PC gaming.
Jumping to a few weeks ago, he wanted a PC but knows nothing about them except how to turn it on and off. So I helped him on how to pick good parts and get good deals. He only paid for half of it and working a summer job to pay off his loan he got from our father. In the whole purchasing, I offered to take out my brand new SSDs from my old laptop so he could save on storage and he could also use my monitor, my keyboard, mouse, comfy chair AND all my accounts to save on expenses. Basically saving him 2k+ accessor... keep reading on reddit ➡
With everything going on in the world I have decided to make sure that my family won’t have to make a GoFundMe campaign or go broke in case of an untimely death on my part. I wanted to give them some financial security if tragedy strikes.
I come from a very close family, me being the youngest. My siblings have been more than just my siblings, they have been my guardians, my support system, and I owe them the world. The same with my parents. I would never be where I am without them and the sacrifices they have made for me. Our siblings helped pay for my education, my first car, helped with bills when I struggled to make ends meet, they checked up on me constantly when I hit a rock bottom with my mental health. They opened up their homes to me many times. With the exception of my half brother.
We didn’t grow up together and didn’t have any communication until I was in high school. Even now we see each other a few times a year and text every once in a while. He’s my brother and I love... keep reading on reddit ➡
I(m) was raped by my half brother when I was 8 years old and it has severely affected my overall quality of life (depression + anxiety). Ask away
I guess I didn't throw them hard enough.
Before you instantly YTA , we’ve gotta take a walk down memory lane. About two years ago my brother proposed to his now wife and since she got a ring on her finger , became obsessed with money. Both her and my half-brother are in their early to mid 30s , but despite that , demanded that my parents (my half-brothers biological dad) , and my half brothers biological mom and step dad pay for 33% of the wedding each while his wife’s parents who are separated pay a combined total of 33% (they were aiming for something like a $20k wedding) She then demanded thousands more from both of my brothers biological parents and not her own parents which caused some drama in itself , but not as much as when my parents declined giving more as they were saving up to do something for themselves and couldn’t spare more. The second they said no, my brothers wife to be stopped talking to my mom and started to not invite her to things she was previously invited to. I.e. mom get togethers and girls things , w... keep reading on reddit ➡
So the run down is, in 2016 my brother was moving from Delaware to Alaska due to military orders. We packed up all his stuff and he moved to Alaska. Before he left he gave me a weight bench and some Bowflex selecttech dumbbells.
Fast forward to 2020, he moved back to New York where myself and most of our family is located two weeks ago. I haven't heard from him in quite a long time. We've spoken maybe a dozen or so times over his near half decade stay in Alaska. He texted me this morning saying he's swinging by to grab "his" weight set because he claims he lent it to me and he needs it now because he has back problems (doesn't make much sense to me). I mentioned that he told me when he was moving to Alaska that he was giving them to me because he claimed he was going to dedicate an entire room in his new big Alaska house to professional gym equipment.
I told him he doesn't get to be a bully to get his way anymore and I will not be rewarding his forgetfulness and that it's not my... keep reading on reddit ➡
Me and my brother one night we’re going for a bike ride when we found a lawnmower, we picked it up, brought it home and planned to get it running. I got it running the next day and we had plans to sell it for 130$. My brother was going to use the money to buy a good new baseball bat and I was going to save my money up. This was until I found out I wasn’t getting half of the money. He said he was going to use the money to buy the bat because the bat was 110$ and I was astonished how something that we picked up from the trash turned into his. My dad says “anything that comes under this roof is owned by me (my dad)” and that he gives the lawnmower to my brother. When I Got my baseball bat my dad didn’t just give me the money, he made me beg for it and I finally got one for my birthday and it was worth 40$. For some reason my brother just gets the money handed to him for the bat and it’s worth 110$ instead of the 40$ mine was worth. They say I’m being greedy when I demand my half o... keep reading on reddit ➡
Just found out that my half brother and his girlfriend are on their 4th kid and they arent even 30 yet, they were wondering why I was laughing so I went “Do you want a congratulations or a condolence” because she was calling the baby a ‘mistake’ but dont people who have mistake babies abort them?
To make things worse they live in a 3 bed council house where 2 of the boys already share a room and Im not sure where the 3rd boy sleeps. Other worse thing is that they want to name the baby a name that would cause the girl to have the same name as a pornstar.
I’m visiting family and these two boys, both 15, go to the same school and hang out a lot and play fortnite together etc. they are not related by blood or marriage but they share the same half sibling because one’s father used to be married to the other’s mother and they had kids together in a previous marriage. They don’t know what to call each other and they sometimes tell people they are brothers, but that can also cause confusion.
The relationship works out to be like this:
Mom 1 married Dad 1
They have a Son X
Mom 1 marries Dad 2
The have Son Y
Dad 1 marries Mom 2
They have Son Z
The relationship between brothers:
X is the half brother of both Y and Z, but neither Y or Z are related by marriage or by blood.
What is the term for the relationship between Y and Z?
UPDATE: Thanks for all the awesome comments. It seems the official term is “cross sibling.”
I (f20) have an older half brother, who we’ll call Sam. Sam is 30 and is unemployed, still living with his mom. My dad was with his mom in the early 90s before having an affair with my mom and having me and my younger brother who’s 18. Our dad died in 2008 when we were all at significant ages. I’ve always been fairly close to Sam, but over the past couple years I’ve realised his hostility towards me. My family is entirely boys, so my dad was elated when I was born and absolutely adored me.
He’s always massively favoured my younger brother over me, and constantly makes me feel worthless. As a kid I was extremely smart and on track to get into an Ivy League, but during my teenage years I developed severe depression and slipped off a bit. I’m still at college hoping to pursue a career in law, but he always makes me feel like it’s not good enough, and always tries to imply our dad would be disappointed in me which absolutely breaks my heart.
He makes fun of my height, what I look like,... keep reading on reddit ➡
He said she built it and then later had to sell it at a loss when she moved to CO. Is that right? If she sold half a million dollar house she should have easily made hundred's of thousands of dollars, even when incurring a loss. Where did all that money go?
Does anyone know if this is possible? I know it's probably a long shot but I can't seem to find much info on this. My lady and I are talking about pursuing reciprocal IVF. I would be the gestational mom, using her egg. I'm actually a gayby myself (I have two moms and was conceived at home with donor sperm) so I have several half-brothers through my donor. I know that it can get complicated using known donors, I'm not really asking about that. I'm just curious if anyone here knows anything about this? If it would be possible for me to carry a baby conceived with my partner's egg and my half-brother's sperm or if this would cause some kind of inbreeding issue? We're trying to figure out a way to ensure our baby would be as close to both of us as possible, genetically speaking, and we want to explore all our options. Thanks in advance <3
Okay buckle up everyone, we will start at the beginning...
I (26F) have little to no relationship with my birth father and his son. I was adopted by my step dad at age 4 and have always refered to him as "Dad". My birth father claims he wasn't ready for kids when my mom got pregnant with me, but later had a son of his own (now 24M).
I talk to my birth father and his son MAYBE twice a year; birthdays, holidays, whatever. However I talk to his parents (my bio grandparents) weekly.
So a few months ago my half brother messaged me on Facebook, he asked if he could add me on Snapchat and I said no I don't have one. And he was like okay cool whatever. We caught up a little, conversation ended, and I didn't hear from him again. Until today.
He messaged again asking for my Snapchat, which I said I don't have, again. He said "well I need to talk to you privately" and I said "I mean no one sees my messenger, what's going on?" Weird but whatever, I thought. So then he sends me a "secret" Fa... keep reading on reddit ➡