So I have always had extremely long hair. Just yesterday it reached the floor when it was down. It was thick and healthy and well cared for. Recently my mother was diagnosed with cancer and it’s been a horrible time for all of us. She recently started her chemo treatments and no one is sure what’ll happen, but we all hope she’ll be okay. She began losing all her hair from the treatments, it wasn’t nearly as long as mine, but she still loved it and had really healthy hair. So I started talking with my boyfriend about donating it and we agreed I should. So yesterday I shaved my head completely bald even with a razor and everything. I had it all nicely separated and donateable and I went to a pretty highly regarded charity (I did ask if they could make one for my mother and they agreed). Afterwards I went about my day. Then I went back home and me and soon after my boyfriend came home, he was shocked to find that I was bald and thought when I was donating it I’d only cut off a little bit. I thought this was weird since I mentioned buzzing everything off since my mother was bald as well. He said he never thought I’d do it. But we changed the subject quickly and ate dinner before going to bed. This morning I woke up when he was getting up for work and he told me he couldn’t be with a bald girl. I kindly reminded him it would grow back to which he replied that it would take too long. So he broke up with me and left my apartment. Leaving me alone, hairless, and scared.
TL;DR: I donated all of my super long hair and my boyfriend broke up with me because he didn’t want to be with a bald girl
Edit: I’m feeling a lot better now. The only thing I’m sorry about now is that people keep giving awards to a throwaway account that I entered random letters into as the password
Edit 2: Guys this is a throwaway, stop giving me all these awards lol. I do really appreciate all the kind messages though lol
Last night I got a dick snap from an old hook up and I thought it would be lovely to share why it ended.
I was “dating” this guy (well call him Caleb) for about 3 months. We were never exclusive, nor did we ever do anything but hook up and pillow talk.
One day Caleb let me know he really preferred women who shave their pubic hair completely. I’m more of a trim-it-up gal myself. In the moment I thought nothing of it. I brushed it off, and of course, did nothing.
Fast forward about a week later, we’re hooking up, he pulls off my panties and verbally goes “uh.. I thought I told you i like it shaved”
Me: “It? You mean my vagina?” Caleb: “uh yeah” Me: “okay well, I don’t” Caleb: “yeah, but don’t you want me to be into this?”
At this point I was stunned. Here is this man, naked in my bed, with a hard dick—moments from inserting it—implying that he is not into it. Please keep in mind we had been sleeping together for months.
I smiled, got up and started putting my clothes back on. He starts with a “ah c’mon whys it gotta be like that”
I told him that if he wasn’t into it, then there was nothing I could do. I am not comfortable completely shaved, nor am I interested in having sex with someone who isn’t into me. He starting telling me how sexy it is when a vagina is clean shaven...how sexy my vagina COULD be if I just shaved.
I was fully dressed by then, sitting cross legged at my dorm room desk—just listening to this naked man make a case about my vaginas potential beauty.
I then asked if he could get dressed and said this.
“Listen Caleb. My vagina is beautiful, it is sexy, and up until a week ago, was enough for you to get off. If that is no longer the case—I can’t do anything about it. I can’t shave it, because that would mean making myself uncomfortable just so your dick can get a little harder, and honestly, I don’t feel like doing that for you”
He left, and I ghosted him.
Ps.. I replied to his snap with a photo of my fluffy dog and said “sorry my vagina still looks like this, you wouldn’t be interested”
It’s totally okay to prefer a shaved vagina. As a woman. As a man. The moral of the story is you don’t get to shame people for their preferences, and you can always choose to respect your own body before someone else’s desire of your body ♥️ thanks for all the love!
I’m cackling at the messages from people saying I need to shave for “my man”
Welcome to the modern age of womens freedom. I don’t have to do anything for any... keep reading on reddit ➡
I don't play the game so I'm not sure however I've seen a couple of tweets about it and people of colour saying white people can't use these hairstyles.
So I (31m) have really long hair at the moment, in fact I haven’t cut it for the past 14 years or so. I never really cared much about my appearance in my 20s, so just let it go and got used to the length. I’ve always just folded it into a bun and forgot about it really. Not needing to bother with haircuts and stylists was a plus as well.
Now though, I’m wondering if I should cut it because I’ve found long hair doesn’t look as good anymore when you start getting older (more greys and less body/shine etc). But because it’s been such a long time I feel sort of attached to it you know?
I’ve been watching the new Queer Eye makeover show trying to psych myself up to cut it and change my appearance, but it’s just not happening lol.
I was wondering if any guys here have had super long hair at some point in their lives and then got rid of it. What was it like? Do you regret it or was it a positive change? Thanks
EDIT: me as of reading all the comments in this thread https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=82jMiYBOWlc&ab_channel=THEWEEKEND%27scuts
so i'll just get right into it and will try to make it as concise as possible. writing this during my spare period in school and I live in Canada, so no turkey day for me today.
I (16m) dyed my hair orange yesterday, my sister is in school for cosmetology and she wanted to try dying my hair and offered me $20 so i said sure, and she dyed my hair a bright orange, looking straight up like ichigo from bleach being an asian dude with bright orange hair. personally i like it, it looks nice, and my sister did a pretty good job and she's pretty proud of herself too so that's a bonus in my mind (she has had self esteem issues in the past)
so today i go to school, i get compliments on my hair and i was just kinda glowing. when i was at my locker, a classmate who is ginger approached me and said it wasn't cool that i dyed my hair orange, and that i was "mocking him". so i turned and asked what the heck he was talking about, mocking him? i barely talked to this dude before, we had like 1 class together in 9th grade.
he goes on to say that he gets bullied for being a ginger and that me dying my hair orange was an "attack" on him since i wouldn't be bullied for having orange hair.
so, i started laughing and said it was ridiculous that he thinks i'm "attacking" him for having my hair dyed orange. how does that even make any sense, like if i knew someone was being bullied for having orange hair why would i then decide to die my own hair orange. he kinda just went quiet and walked away leaving me pretty confused.
My girlfriend says i shouldn't have laughed at him, and i told her i wasn't laughing at him, just laughing at the fact that he thinks i'm attacking him.
AITA? will try to respond to any questions, but my next class is about to start.
Considering this is in the case in many cultures all over the world, what started it?
I'm gonna start this by saying there is absolutely no rule against coloured hair in my school, there is no rule against hairstyles and diversity is very much promoted and there's a policy in place stop staff asking you to change it.
I touched up my roots and dyed my hair pink on Sunday and it turned out much more vibrant than I expected but I love it. We have an acting deputy principal at the moment bc ours is on maternity leave. The ADP was my former geography teacher. He didn't like me.
Anyways, the ADP was supervising a class today because the teacher was absent, and he said he couldn't focus on his work because my hair was distracting him and probably the rest of the class too. The rest of the class said it was not distracging. He said I have to change it back to my natural colour.
I got annoyed by this and said Sir if my hair colour distracts you so much you're shit at your job.
He got pissed and threatened me with suspension, the principal didn't approve but some fiends are saying that was out of line. AITA?
Edit : literally everything seems to distract this man, whether it be girls wearing leggings, the shoes we wear, whatever jacket we're wearing that day and so on and so forth. I'm he first one he's called out for hair colour
Edit 2: said pink hair
Edit 3: I am a student
Edit 4: better pictures of said pink hair the camera doesn't do it justice.
My friend has 3B hair (very coily), i met her while she was in an abusive relationship and I noticed that it was never cared for properly. She would just brush it through and slap it back in a bun, or flat iron it to wear it down. A lot of the time it was just a frizzy nest.
Today I saw her with her hair down and I was struck. It was so shiny, and silky, and her coils bounced as she walked towards me. She's also put on weight (she was severely underweight as her ex had her on drugs and took all her money to feed herself) and honestly she looked like a million dollars.
I got so emotional when I saw her. You can instantly see that she's happier and healthier, and she's such a beautiful soul. Not over a year ago I was losing sleep waiting for the call that she had been killed by her boyfriend. I'm so happy for her I just wanted to share.
So I'm the bridesmaid for a friend getting married next year. She was my bridesmaid this year as well. She chose to move her ceremony to next February.
Basically, we're both of south Asian descent with mostly Caucasian friends. In terms of hair colour, we both have black hair.
She called me today and told me she wanted me to dye my hair another colour. Not asked. Told. She wants me to dye it a lighter brown so she's the only one with black hair except for her family.
I explained that I'm not massively comfortable dying my hair, as previously I actually had a reaction to hair dye. She suggested henna dye (for those who don't know, basically its blocks of henna dye that you melt in a pot and use. It's more natural but takes forever.) I was still reluctant but said I'd look into it.
A few hours later, I got a call from another friend asking why I'd upset the bride. Apparently she'd taken my 'I'll look into it' as a refusal.
This has now completely made me want to say no. It's not like my hair is a crazy shade right now. I feel like I'm the AH though, because our other friends are saying I should just do what the bride wants.
My sister Hillary is a Cosmetologist.
While I love my sister, I have absolutely refused to let her touch my hair, face, or eyebrows. I have let her practice nails on me, but even then it wasn't a fun activity. Our brother lets her cut his hair and it's fine but he has said it's not what he asked for. She did a wonderful job on our mother's hair, but again it was not the style my mom originally asked for.
So while I trust my sister has an eye for what would look good (she certainly always looks nice) I don't want her to change how I look. I have had the same hairstyle (long, blonde hair) for my whole life and I like it. I also like my eyebrows and make-up a certain way.
Recently my cousin has my sister do her eyebrows at home, and was upset they were so arched and thin.
This led to Hillary complaining that no one in the family allows her to make them look better. I told her that she was really good at making people look good, but maybe not so much at making them feel good. I said while she did a great job, it wasn't what she was asked to do. So our cousin had every right to be upset she had taken something our cousin liked (thick eyebrows) and turned it into something Hillary liked.
Hillary asked if I would ever let her cut my hair. I said no.
She got upset and hung up.
I (19F) have a little over three feet of hair. It's naturally on the thin side, but I've been taking good care of it so there's no breakage or heat damage. People ask about it occasionally, but usually they're just curious how/why I've grown it so long. (To answer, in case anyone is curious: I don't rinse out my conditioner all the way and I manually detangle every knot instead of ripping through them with a brush, and I just like having long hair. It's not religion-related or anything.)
I do have one person in my life, though, who I'll call R (20F). She has a much younger sister, E (8F) who has alopecia and is very insecure about being bald. Their family doesn't have much money and can't afford a wig that E can wear, since she also has allergies to one of the main ingredients in synthetic wigs. R told me about a week ago that she contacted a wig-making place who said they could provide a big discount if the family could provide the hair themselves. She asked me to donate my hair, and I said no. She wasn't initially upset and didn't press me at first – I don't think she expected me to say yes right away – but she has become steadily more persistent over the past few days. She keeps calling me selfish, saying I "wouldn't even miss it," and that I "don't need it" since I'm not growing my hair for religious reasons. I absolutely would miss it, since they would need about 16 inches for a full wig because my hair is so thin. I also have psoriasis, so I'm a little irrationally attached to my long pretty hair because my scalp is so gross. R asked again tonight, so I told her my reasons. She snapped. She told me that how much I love my hair should show me just how insecure E is without any hair at all, and that it would make it a really meaningful gift. I also found out tonight that she already told E I would be giving her my hair, so she said I'd be breaking E's heart if I "went back on it now," even though – again – I NEVER said yes.
R just left furiously, and now I'm wondering if I'm wrong here. I'm pretty confident that what she did is a huge dick move, so I'm not asking about that. But I can't really argue with her assertion that I don't need it. Is it selfish of me not to donate my hair when her sister doesn't have any?
Edit – UPDATE:
I set up a time to call her parents and just talked to them, and wow, R was lying to me about a bunch of things. Luckily, she didn't actually tell E that I'd promised to donate my hair. She also failed to tell me that... keep reading on reddit ➡