My daughter is a single mom, my grandson is 11 and my granddaughter is 8. They’re being evicted from their current residence due to the property changing hands. My wife and I offered them a place to stay while they look for a new house.
The only issue is that they keep reptiles. Well the reptiles aren’t the problem exactly. I have no issue with lizards and snakes and the like, but they breed their own feeder roaches. Thousands of live bugs in containers they use for breeding and food. I understand it’s cheaper to breed the roaches yourself, but I do not want the risk of an infestation if they escape, I used to see bugs all over the reptile room in their old place.
I told my daughter to get rid of the bugs, she knows plenty of other keepers who would take them. Breeding them isn’t hard either, once she gets a new home it will be easy to start again, and buying food for the lizards for a month won’t hurt.
She is incredibly mad about me asking her to get rid of the bugs. They are apparently my grandson’s project and he’s very proud of them. I support him having a hobby and being responsible but I don’t think an eleven year old boy is capable enough to not accidentally cause an escape. My daughter works (not from home) so it will be my wife and I’s responsibly to wrangle any escapees 8 hours out of the day.
Am I wrong for asking this? My daughter is so upset by our request and thinks it’s unreasonable since the bugs are clean and well kept, and I’ll be disappointing my grandson. She asked that I at least buy the reptile food since I’ll be “forcing” her to get rid of the roaches. I reminded her it’s my roof my rules and the animals are her responsibility. She won’t be paying us rent so she has extra income for the month to buy the food. She wants me to tell my grandson myself that we’re “forcing” them to get rid of the bugs, but this is just a transparent guilt trip.
I don’t think I’m strong arming her into this or that my request for no cockroaches in my home is a crazy one.
Hello everyone I’m editing the post to say a few things. One they are dubia roaches and no I don’t know how she got them, I wasn’t even aware they were illegal in Florida until I made this post. I’m hardly an expert on reptiles or bugs so forgive me if I get some things wrong. Two they have to leave their current housing situation because the new owner is changing the property. I don’t know if “evicted” is the right word in this circumstance but they were strongly suggested to leav... keep reading on reddit ➡
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Our of nowhere my 13 year old grandson announced his intention to write a book. He's always been a voracious reader and I'm excited about his new interest - what is the best way to help and encourage him to set about achieving his goal? Thanks in advance!!
THE DISAPPEARANCE OF DYLAN EHLER
In the afternoon of Wednesday 6th May 2020, three-year-old Dylan Ehler was visiting his grandmother at her home near Queen Street and Elizabeth Street in Truro, Nova Scotia. They were playing outside together in the yard and Dylan's grandmother got distracted by her dog — when she finished dealing with it and turned around to talk to her grandson, he was gone.
Emergency services were contacted immediately and investigators began combing the area Dylan vanished from in search of anything that would lead them to the missing toddler. The very same day, they made an important discovery.
Dylan's rubber boots were found in Lepper Brook, a waterway located a mere two-minute walk from his grandmother's home. One was found at 7.20pm and the other was found later in the evening, further down the brook near where it meets Salmon River. Salmon River runs into Cobequid Bay which connects to the Bay of Fundy — known to have the highest tides in the world.
Police quickly shifted their focus towards recovery efforts, examining the Salmon River shoreline and the river itself. Underwater cameras and thermal imaging devices were used and after nothing of value was found in the initial operation, law enforcement expanded their search to include the area near the mouth of Cobequid Bay. They also re-canvassed residents of Dylan's grandmother's neighbourhood.
Although the water was clear and visibility was good, they could find no further sign of Dylan. On 15th May, police announced they would not be continuing the underwater searches unless there were new developments in the case.
RESPONSE FROM DYLAN EHLER'S FAMILY
Support for the Ehler family came pouring in, locally, provincially, and nationally. Some Truro residents put rubber boots on their doorsteps as a sign of hope that Dylan may still return, with one saying: "I put out a teddy bear and a blanket hoping that he would… just find his way up the road, and I left the light on so he could see my yard is all lit up.”
Then, on 20th May, a local newspaper revealed Dylan's mother (Ashley Brown) had been charged with assaulting Dylan’s father (Jason Ehler) four days before Dylan went missing. On the same day, Jason was charged with "uttering a threat to cause death,” to Ashley. He was also charged with committing mischief for deliberately damaging Ashley's cellphone.
Dave MacNeil, Truro Police Chief, has stated from the very beginning of the investigation he does not believe Dyl... keep reading on reddit ➡
My husband is the youngest of two boys and my MIL favours his older brother (my BIL).
To give an example, my husband does her weekly shopping and drops it off as she’s vulnerable and shielding due to Covid. He’s done this every week since March. She has shown little appreciation and expects him to do it. Twice my BIL has dropped by with bulk bought tea bags or bottles of water, and she will go on and on to anyone who will listen about he goes out of his way for her, his kind heart, he looks after her.
There are also many times that my husband and BIL have given him a joint present and she will hug BIL only and say ‘I know BIL really gave me this’.
I know she loves my husband and I think the reason for this is that BIL took on a lot of responsibility when they were young and my husband was shielded from things. My husband stepped up in the last 10 years or so and my BIL is has stepped back due to his own family responsibilities, but my MIL hasn’t changed her mindset.
So at the weekend we went to drop shopping off at her house and stopped for a chat. We were talking about my pregnancy and she turned to me and said ‘You do know I will never love any grandchild as much I love BILs son because he is BILs child and my first grandchild.’
I have no idea why she said this to me and maybe it’s common for grandparents to favour their first grandchild, but she knows I’m 20 weeks pregnant and I already had it in the back of my mind that we would be treated differently. My SIL already gets special treatment for being mother of this grandchild and I thought having a baby may change this, but it looks like it will just highlight the favouritism more.
My husband thinks I’m jumping the gun and getting upset before anything has happened but I feel so down about this unnecessary interaction and having to deal with this once the baby is born.
Ok, first let me say that posting here wasn't easy as I try to solve family matters on my own but I need your opinion.
So first my Grandson and Step-Grandson are the same age 17 with a three-month difference between the two of them. They both applied for Colleges in California where I live. Now they both got into the Colleges that are near my house.
My Grandson called me and asked if he could live with me while he went to Pepperdine. He even offered to get a job to help with the bills. First I know it's super pricey here in Los Angeles. So, I said that if he comes out here and just helps me around the house he could live with me for free and I'd provide a monthly allowance. I don't want to see him struggle and I want him to be successful. We came to an agreement and he'll move from Michigan to love with me in the Spring Semester.
My Step-Grandson later called me to ask if he could live with me because he got into a Community College in Los Angeles and I said no. He asked why and I went into how he had been stealing from family, the mall, and had been arrested 2 times in the last three years. He said that he has changed but my daughter said that her good jewelry was missing last week. She didn't want to assume it was him but when he had a new iPhone (that she didn't buy) she became suspicious. She asked him about and he said he had no idea. My daughter did his laundry and found a pawn slip for her jewelry in his pants. He looked at my daughter in the face and lied.
He said "Just give me a chance!", "Your playing favorites!" and "I'll come anyway with my bags!"
I said that I didn't trust him and that's why he can't live with me. It has nothing to do with favorites. I told him to look into student housing or getting a job out here, and I wouldn't provide any references to potential jobs out here from mutual friends because he got fired for stealing clothes from the job he had was and banned from the mall. I later when on to say that if he comes here bags in all I wouldn't change my mind and he would be homeless if he came here without a plan.
I called my Daughter and Son-In-Law, they stayed quiet about it
I realize that this may be somewhat cruel but I said this so he can understand that he needs to be accountable for his actions, and if the roles were reversed I would do the same to my Grandson. I won't enable self-destructive behavior by letting him stay at my house. He started crying saying "Please I don't wanna live on campus!" I said sorry you... keep reading on reddit ➡
Always read stories on here about other MIL's, even though up until tonight issues with MIL weren't that bad, I think recent events deserve a post for how vile she was.
Sometimes I just wish that somehow people could have the same opinion about something, and not argue so there are no conflicts or hurt.
But the there are people like my MIL who think so strongly about certain things that she thinks her opinion is the only one that really counts. And if it does any damage to someone, it's okay because she feels no sympathy for hurting someone.
Up until tonight her feeling towards my step son were swept under a rug.
But after my stepson came home tonight, clearly upset about I guy he had been out with, and me and his dad asked him, MIL laughed when my stepson told us what had happened.
She then went on to tell him, he was still young and all this crying over a guy was a faze he would grow out of it, and he needed to get over it.
This caused a more already hysterical step son, who ran off to his room, and I asked MIL how she thought what she was saying was right.
She told me that he was just experimenting and one day will understand what he was doing was stupid, and how her step granddaughter (daughter from my first marriage), and mine and hubby younger kids, will learn from Thier older brother to, so they don't make that mistake.
My hubby told his mom that no matter the way our kids grew up was thier choice, sexuality and all, we would happily still accept them.
MIL then told us that we were parenting right then.
She got kicked out after that. We were both done with her.
We've been ignoring her ever since even though, she's been messaging us about our 'disgusting' behaviour me kicking her out for no reason.
Thankfully I'd I brought up going NC with her, hubby I know would agree.
At 72 I must qualify as 'granddad', and the young (18+) partners I like are therefore my 'grandsons'. I have a friend in his 60s who like me is hung and top, and we enjoy sharing young lads in threesomes.
My friend told me he had been contacted by a 18 yr old lad, who was bi-curious and a virgin. He'd met twice in my friends car and sucked his cock, but had expressed an interest in being fucked. This was a problem for my friend who couldn't accom, so he asked me if I could host a visit so he could fuck the boy. He said the boy was a bit timid, so asked me if I minded just watching this time.
They arrived one morning, and after snogging on the sofa we went up to the bedroom. My friend fucked the boy doggy then on his back. I watched, but I had stripped naked as I watched him taking the lad's virginity and had a very hard erection. My friend climaxed and withdrew, but the boy saw my big erection and made no objection when I slid it up his ass. I had a great fuck, and the boy thanked us for taking his virginity.
I was pleasantly surprised a couple of days later when the boy contacted me, saying he wanted to be fucked again, just me this time. He came over, we kissed and got naked and I enjoyed his hairless young body and tight ass. We had a hot fuck, and it was a disappointment when the pandemic stopped this being a regular thing.
So when the virus allows, I'm looking to fuck some more grandsons.
So recently when I smoke some fire crystal I've been seeing aliens. It was so bizzare. I always waved hi to them but the always scurry away into their space craft. One of these days the aliens came back and picked me up in there UFOs. On board they brought me to this room with ropes and shit. They proccedes to give me anal probes and mouth probes at the same time. Then a third one and dumped it's probe juice on my face. Then the aliens got all ashamed so they said if you tell anyone we'll break you're legs. Then spit probe you again
Then they made me watch while they gang probed my wife and made me watch.
They turned out to be really cool. We all smoked a bowl of some fire together while they ran a probe train on her.
Does make my future grandson gay? He's in his third trimester. I'm kind of worried now that this whole thing he may have been turned into a gay.
When you were spit probed by aliens, did your grandson turn out to be a gay too? Thanks for the advice!
I (71f) took step grandson's (13m) xbox because of his grades. So I am strict when it comes to school and my grandson's grades went really bad this year. Last year he had almost straight a's but they dropped a lot he doesn't ask for help ever and says hes doing fine, but clearly he's not. I took away all of his tech after 9pm, and will give it back when his grades rise. He kinda stopped leaving his room and is a lot less social. I know he eats because he has a mini fridge upstairs but he never eats meals anymore. His mom doesn't live with us his dad is out of the picture, but his step dad and grandpa live with us. Before I took it he said "just because you didn't grow up with this xbox doesn't mean it's the problem." I said it is the problem you spend to much time on it. From what I hear from his step dad he lays in his room and does different exercises. I'm pretty sure he's just throwing a tantrum but AITA.