I broke down to, he said his mom would tell him you'll be as good as Dr. J one day, but you'll never be as good as Magic. Happy mothers day to all moms. Someone post a link please.
TL;DR - grandma was a ward of Arizona due to mental capacity, died of Covid in nursing home who hid it from my dad.
My paternal grandmother was a schizophrenic, since my father was a boy. I didn’t have much of a relationship at all with her, living in another state and her mental capacity being so degraded. She became a ward of the state of Arizona back in the 1980’s, when my dad was 15. She’d sometimes have clarity moments, when she’d know who my dad was when he would call…most of the time, she didn’t know anyone.
Fast forward to COVID - her healthcare facility/nursing home had the virus take about 40 lives, including my grandmother.
And they didn’t inform my dad.
So when he called to speak with his mother, the woman who answered said “oh dear, you were Lori’s son…”. This is how my dad learned his mother passed. By a slip of the tongue. Then, he gets told that she died WEEKS ago. And no one called him, they threw out her personal belongings.
And misplaced her cremated remains.
I am so angry, so hurt for my father. Arizona literally threw away his mother. She may have been “a crazy person”, but she was kind. Talented. Funny. She was a fucking person who deserved better than to be swept under a rug.
Sorry for the long post. I'm in a weird situation. I got pregnant with an IUD during spring break 2020. I moved back in with my parents when school went online, my boyfriend stayed in his college apartment. I'm 20, he's 22, baby was born in December and has only seen his dad twice (for just over a week each time.) We're not really in a relationship at this point, but neither of us are seeing anyone else. It was just hard to deal with a long distance relationship, online school, and a new baby all at once. We'll probably start properly dating again when I move back in August but that's not really on my mind right now, just know there's no hard feelings between us.
Now that baby's dad's parents are vaccinated they're finally interested in meeting their grandson. Great, I told them that they could get an AirBnB within a 5 hour drive of my house and I'd love to bring the baby to meet them. Charleston and Savannah are in that range, so it's not like I was making them come to the middle of nowhere with nothing to do. I'm just not super comfortable traveling further than that with my infant.
His mother said absolutely not and told me her plan was for baby's dad to travel to me, pick up the baby and fly 1,100 miles to where they live, spend a week at their house and then for me to pay my own way to get up there and pick up my son. I said no for a few reasons: my son is breast fed and hates bottles, this would be his first flight and I'd want to be there (plus I don't really want him flying right now,) and his dad has never been alone with him, ever. When he visited, if I showered or something he would take the baby to the living room and my parents would be there. He has never had to soothe him, get him to sleep, or change him without me being there. It's not that I don't trust him, I just don't think it's a good idea.
I suggested waiting until August when I move back to our college city where I'd be happy to take my son to his dad's apartment or welcoming them to my apartment to meet him. I was clear that I wasn't comfortable being separated from my baby for that long.
Now grandma is upset. She thinks I'm purposely keeping my son from having a relationship with her. She thinks that bc she and her husband are in their 60s, and I'm only 20 that it's unfair to ask them to travel to my part of the country. But I even suggested waiting until I move back to school, which is only a 6 hour drive from their house.
I feel like I'm being annoying. My parents have gotte... keep reading on reddit ➡
Part three because the first two have been a hoot and I’m STILL getting questions. Love you. Hope you’re having a fantastic day.
My husband and I have been married for 8. We have 2kids 6&3. He was adopted. His bio mom reached out recently. He was very open for a relationship with her And kept seeing her alone for months til he started taking me and the kids to visit. His bio mom was mean to me while nice to the kids. I was never welcome by her.
My mother in law on the other hand(adoptive mother) is the most generous, sympathetic woman I've met. She and my husband are no longer on good terms and He stopped visiting her months ago. He'd take the kids to see his bio mom often and at odd times like during school hours or late night when kids'd be sleeping. Whenever I point that out to him he'd say the kids needed to bond with their bio grandma.
He'd get upset whenever I take the kids to see their grandmother we'd start arguing. He doesn't talk to his adoptive mom because his bio mom influenced him. She's nasty and he's been acting irrationally eversince she came into the picture. Yesterday I was getting the kids ready to go celebrate their grandmother's birthday. My husband didn't want to go. He asked where we were going. I told him and he started arguing about how he's in no contact with her therefor the kids shouldn't go see his adoptive mom. I told him me and the kids have the right to see her since She loves us and they absolutely love her. So robbing the kids of a relationship with her suddenly was not acceptable.
He said they have grandma (his bio) and I should respect/encourage them to have a relationship with her too. I said I'm not stopping the kids but he was the one stopping the kids from seeing the grandmother who quite frankly been there their entire lives. He called me a hypocrite for complaining while doing the same thing. I'm not. It's different to not get along with someone than demand and dictate if others should talk to or see them.
I lost control I just blew up saying I will be continuing to let the kids have a relationship with their grandma wether he likes it or not. We ended up going to the birthday. Mother in law is devastated to say the least, her son didn't come and hadn't been visiting. We got home and we were silent all evening.
He fed the kids, did the dishes, then stopped by the bedroom door to tell me he was going to see his mom for an hour and asked if I needed anything. I asked him, what would I possibly need at 11pm?. He started laughing then gave me a look then walked out. He still thinks I was wrong for how I blew up.
You know the drill, Renee + Esme = Renesmee
Charlie + Carlisle = Carlie
My grandmothers are Joan and Georgette I would maybe be Joanette or Geoan lmao
Grandfathers are Robert and Gary: Rory or Garrett
(PSA: I do not in any way endorse or condone the use of Renesmee as a name for an actual human being)
My mother was recently diagnosed with a chronic disease and briefly hospitalised because of that. After she was discharged my grandmother from mothers side invited herself in our home, saying she wanted to help us out. I am 17 and in last year of highschool. I have online classes for 8 hours and then assignments too. We do have a housekeeper but she only cleans the house and does the dishes. After my mother came home, I took over doing the laundry and maintaining the garden. I also helped my mother with cooking. My grandmother is a very religious woman and would read religious stuff for hours. She also wanted to do some religious activities in our house that we consider offensive since we are all atheists. She took over my room saying she couldn’t sleep alone in the very comfortable guest room. After studying till 10pm, I usually watch Netflix for an hour. She wouldn’t let me do that saying she wanted to sleep. I asked her to sleep in another room then to which she rudely cut me off. She snores. My mother is sick. My father has long working hours. And I am a student in last year of highschool. We all expect to sleep till atleast 6:30. She would wake at 5 and wake everyone up by banging the doors and fumbling with the latches loudly every morning at 5. She never helped in household work. Instead would order us around and make us do stuff according to her will. She wouldn’t even serve her own plate after the food was cooked. In our house we respect personal boundaries. She however kept violating mine. Always dictating me and judging everything I did. She doesn’t even have a good relationship with my mother because she sent my mother away when she was a kid for no reason whatsoever. 2 weeks after she started living with us, she had a major fight with my mother which shot my mothers blood pressure which is dangerous for her disease. The next day I called an aunt of mine asked her to tell my grandmother to leave. Which she did 4 days later. But then the next day another 2 aunts of mine called me and started yelling at me saying I was being very ungrateful and what I did was unacceptable. Apparently my grandmother after going home had cried a lot about how humiliating it was for her that I wanted her to leave. AITA??
My grandma was not like other grandma's. She was a relentlessly unique individual. She was beautiful, confident, and creative.
She died of cancer about 10 years ago and all of her belongings were put into a storage unit owned by my aunt aka her oldest daughter and my mom's older sister. Unfortunately, my aunt passed away in February and the storage unit in Maryland and has be cleared out because my family no longer wants to pay for it. As a condition of my grandmother's and my aunt's wills pretty much everything now goes to my mother, my grandma's only remaining child, and me and my brother and sister who are her only living grandchildren.
In this storage unit, one of my grandmother's sisters (Aunt B) found nude photographs of my grandmother. She had them done when I was really little. I saw the photos once during a Thanksgiving visit and didn't think too much of them because I was a child at the time. But I remember them vividly and they've always kind of stuck with me since I saw them.
Apparently Aunt B wants to take the photos and essentially store them away because they're lewd or inappropriate or something. I have asked, respectfully, if I can have the photos since they're just going to be put away and more than likely collect dust in a garage for the rest of time.
These are beautiful, black and white, professionally shot photographs of a powerful and imposing older black woman who had the confidence to pose nude and display them in her home. She's also my grandmother and something about that level of confidence being a part of my lineage really speaks to me.
However my Aunt B and my brother are basically telling me it's weird that I want the photos and aren't really trying to get them to me in Atlanta. My brother lives near Maryland and has been going back and forth to the unit getting different things that my mom wants that he can bring with him when he visits for Memorial Day.
My mom says she refuses to "pull rank" and demand the photos because she doesn't want to start drama with Aunt B. Also I'm being told to let it go and forget about it and to stop being weird because I want naked photos of my grandma.
Clearly it's not weird... I love photography. I love artsy shit and have a small collection of prints and drawings from artists I like and some of them are nude. I can also see a lot of similarities between my grandma and I just by looking at how she lived her life so freely and open-minded.
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