Our daughter and son in law died in a car accident last year. Our ten-year-old granddaughter, S, came to live with us. She was obviously heartbroken over losing her parents so young; we were heartbroken over losing our daughter and son-in-law, too. But we love S with all our heart, and we are so happy for her to be with us. But being a grandparent and being a parent are very different, and the dynamic has certainly changed between us and S. We’re all in therapy and working through our emotions. We’ve also signed S up for a couple of extracurricular activities. We’ve allowed her to get away with a lot, as it’s been a tough transition, but we can’t do that forever. I don’t like disciplining her, and she doesn’t like it either. There has been yelling and rudeness, and I can’t keep ignoring it. But this is new territory. S’s parents used to be in charge of discipline while we got to be the doting grandparents. This new territory is difficult. I’m not sure if I’m even looking for advice or... keep reading on reddit ➡
Trigger Warning - Homophobia
Our daughter is turning 9 in two weeks and MIL’s attitude towards the guests of the party got her uninvited pretty quickly.
We’re planning to have a small celebration just among the family and we’ll be joined by my brother. My daughter loves him and very much looks forward to meeting him. MIL’s problem with my brother is that he’s gay and will be coming with his fiancé, whom my daughter also loves a lot. They’re together for a very long time, before my daughter was even born and she sees the fiancé of my brother as her second uncle.
MIL is homophobic and religious which has never made sense to me because she has spat out a lot of nasty comments about gay people. How can you possibly say you believe in God and call yourself a Christian, yet wish horrible things upon people who haven’t done anything to you? How does that add up? She believes children should not be exposed to this type of ”perversion”.
She basically said to us ”You better think what you’... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am positing this based off suggestion from my AITA post. My mother (parents) are wealthy and demand loyalty from all of their children. When my wife and I were getting married, my mom invited herself to her dress fitting, fought me for weeks to try and convince my wife to take my name, and set up a gift registry w/o asking us.
Later, my wife was diagnosed with cancer (which was discovered during infertility treatment). It was the worst time of our lives and my mother made it all 1000x worse. After treatment my wife suffered from severe depression. My mother would often say "she has mental problems" and that she should just "get over it, she's alive after all", and when my wife sought therapy, my mother would call her therapist a "quack" because he encouraged her to stand up for herself.
Even later, we adopted a baby (we could no longer have kids after treatment). This was an especially hard time for me as I was fully unprepared for a kid, we had 5 weeks from when we found out about... keep reading on reddit ➡
To be honest, it's not that big of a story, but it's been on my mind all day and I just need a place to vent, I hope this is the right place.
TL;DR: The title
I work at a coffee shop, and we were just wrapping up the day with only two minutes remaining until we were closed. In walks entitled grandmother (EG), and the granddaughter, where I have my back turned since I'm focusing on cleaning. They immediately walk up to the counter where I turn around to see the granddaughter, around age five, with my tip jar on its side, and her entire arm in it, fishing around and the grandmother off looking at one of our shelves. I immediately step over and pull the tip jar away.
Me: Don't touch that.
The grandmother immediately turns around.
EG: Don't yell at my granddaughter!
Me: She had her entire arm in my tip jar.
EG: I don't care, you don't yell at my granddaughter!
Me: I didn't yell, I talked sternly.
EG: Yes you did! She wasn't going to take anything.
Me: I don't know that, stop bei... keep reading on reddit ➡
My first thought is they should've just went with Renesmee. 😂
I am a retired man on a pension. I don’t get much money and I have to live frugally.
My daughter had an affair with the man she is now. This broke up her marriage. the new family member is a 15 year old teenage girl who is technically my step grandchild now. I don’t see her often nor do I know her. She lives with her mom. My daughter and her husband married as soon as her divorce was finalized 18 months ago.
This has been extremely hard on my grandson. He is 17 and moody, angry, upset, lashing out at his mom. He doesn’t want to live with her but his dad hasn’t got a stable home due to the divorce.
My grandson is in need of someone ‘in his corner’. I decided. I wanted to gift him some money for Christmas. Normally I don’t give cash to any family member but I want to help him. He is not dealing well. I gave him the money in secret and asked that he invest wisely. Not blow it on girls or pot. He said he will buy a car, I said okay.
My daughter found the cash in my sons room after... keep reading on reddit ➡
Carol was last seen in Troy, Michigan on October 26, 1983. She visited her boyfriend at his apartment, stayed about two hours, and was last seen between 11:00 and 11:45 p.m., when she left to go home. She has never been heard from again.
Her 1981 Buick was found parked in the driveway of her house on Wentworth Place, with the keys in the ignition and her purse and eyeglasses on the front seat. She didn't leave a note for her three children, which is uncharacteristic of her behavior. She also left behind all her clothes, belongings and money.
Carol was in the process of a divorce in 1983; the case supposed to go before a judge in November. Her relationship with her husband, Donald, was volatile, with many bitter arguments. He was 21 years older than his wife. Two of Carol's friends stated Donald was a controlling spouse who wouldn't permit her to choose her own friend... keep reading on reddit ➡
The shortest way to write it is: AITA for wanting my mum to cook for my kids when we go over to her house once a week.
When I was growing up, my mum would only ever do anything for me or my sister when someone was watching. F.ex, she would take us to church, not talk to us in the car, as soon as we stepped inside she lit up like Christmas and became affectionate & praised us for things we hadn't done, like "On the way here, [my daughter] said [something I didn't say] and it was just so lovely."
I know she was very depressed at some point during our upbringing. She said my dad cheated on her repeatedly, but I have learned in my later life from an impartial source that he cheated once after she slept with several men including our tutor. Regardless, she slept a lot during my teenage years, and really only came to life if anyone was watching. I know that depression is complex & insidious, I struggle with it myself, but that is just part of the backstory.
She is in a r... keep reading on reddit ➡
My granddaughter is 4 years. My daughter moved in a house that sectioned off as apartments. For the first several weeks she was fine sleeping in her room. Been to one day she started coming into her mom's room asking to sleep with her and she would ask her why and my granddaughter would say because her room is turning upside down. My daughter trying to see whether it was just a nightmare or her imagination kind of brush it off and put her back into her room. This has been consistently happening she trying to get her to explain what do you mean your room is turning upside down. Being 4 years old she got frustrated and she said it just says. But then one day she runs out of her room and says that she is seeing three witches in her room and that's why it's turning upside down. Any thoughts out there as to what this can possibly do to help my grandchild please let me know.
My daughter knows that something is in the house. She has felt something watching her she has heard things. My oldest... keep reading on reddit ➡
If all Gen 3 synths are genetically related to Shaun and Shaun is your son, does that make Curie in her synth body...your grandkid?
I had a baby recently and named her "Lena." My NMIL accidentally calls her "Lana" a few time. The names are very similar so I don't think anything of it. (Actual names have been changed for anonymity.)
Meanwhile, MIL purchases a new kitten from a Craigslist breeder. After careful consideration, MIL announces that her new kitten is named Lana. DH and I point out that names are similar. MIL says it is a coincidence and she chose "Lana" because it is short for FIL's mother's maiden name. Let's say it's short for "Lancca." (Again, not the actual name, but you get the point.)
MIL since has proceeded to call LO "Lana" instead of her given name.
Three years ago, MIL expressed displeasure that we didn't name our eldest child after her late parents, but did not share her opinion of our new baby's name. I can't help but wonder if the kitten's name, consciously or not, is what MIL wishes we'd named the new baby.
DH and I are just amused at this point. DH corrects MIL with a tone of voice s... keep reading on reddit ➡
FIL has been the bane of my existence our entire marriage (20+ years). He's one of the most self-absorbed, entitled, and selfish people I have ever met. He's the man who said he didn't need a seeing-eye-dog because "I have MIL." Yeah.
I JUST posted a success over on JNMIL, and said how much I had enjoyed the quiet. Why oh why would I ever say something like that? The VERY NEXT DAY, this exchange happens.
I went to drop off youngest son at IL's, which is a once a week thing. Youngest daughter (will call her YD, 9yo) said on the way over there, "I can't wait to see <MIL> and ask for a popsicle!" We drive up and I send the kids in. I've been teaching all day and my feet are DONE IN, so I stay in the car and wave goodbye to Youngest Son. A few minutes go by and MIL comes out and we chat a minute, then YD gets back in the car and we head out.
The next day, DH (not me) gets this text from FIL:
>"I want you to know that I am not happy with your daughter. When she came over thi... keep reading on reddit ➡
My JNMIL and I have had our ups and down but recently been on a better streak (after a sit down with SO, MIL and FIL).
We often go over for dinner and the in laws and spend time with SIL, BIL, and their 2 year old. The baby is great, both of her parents are super involved but MIL is very much a "my baby" type of grandma. I can usually just tune it out.
We were invited over for dinner on Friday and I asked if I could bring anything, MIL suggested dessert because it would be easy to pick up on the way. I asked "for 4, or 6 people" (not knowing if SIL and BIL would be there. She said 6.
That Wednesday our water got shut off because of a main break. The city provided water trailers and we had a set up to flush toilets and do basic hygiene but showering was obviously off the table at home. They knew about this and I mentioned how excited we both were to take a shower before dinner. My SO works for his dad and gets off work at 5, was home by 520, got ourselves ready, stopped for dessert,... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm mostly just looking to vent but if you have advice on what to respond to this lady let me know! TLDR at the bottom.
Let me start off by saying that I have a very large family that is very close. I have nearly 30 cousins on my mom's side and many of them have children. I see these kids often so I know them well. FH doesn't have a large family but there do happen to be plenty of young kids that we see a lot. Including his three nephews that are all 2.
Now, given these circumstances, picking ring bearers and flower girls was difficult. If I picked one nephew, I had to pick all three. If I picked one of my cousins daughters, I might have to pick all five girls between the ages of 2 and 5. So, instead of trying to navigate that whole situation, I decided instead to pick a boy that I babysit to be my ring bearer. His two older brothers will be ushers. This might seem silly to some but these three boys are very important to me. I have been babysitting for the family for nearly ten year... keep reading on reddit ➡
My FIL is a retired employee from a major US airline so as his lifetime benefits he & MIL fly standby for free anywhere.He also gets to name a few additional people to have his “buddy pass” privileges- meaning they can also fly standby for free.
I’m married to his son (we have no kids) & FIL also has two other daughters, each with 2 kids. Everyone lives in CA although different cities.
I found out that my father has terminal pancreatic cancer. Doctors won’t give a time frame. He lives in MA, 3k miles away & I’ve been flying out as much as I can on a ticket that can run between $300-600.
A friend reminded me (not by my own husband or his family BTW), “hey, doesn’t your FIL have buddy pass privileges?” So I asked them about this pass and if it would be ok to let me use it for some time. This would not only save me & my hubby thousands of $$ in flights back & forth xcountry helping mom care for dad, but would also allow me the freedom to just get on a flight if/wh... keep reading on reddit ➡
Rey's parents being unimportant nobidies is part of one of the major problems of The Last Jedi, which is that the film has basically no payoff for any of the plot points that were set up in the previous film. Snoke is nobody, Rey's parents are nobodies, Kylo Ren's training isn't important, the Knights of Ren don't seem to even exist anymore, etc. I mean, why would they set up the mystery of her parents' identity in The Force Awakens if they were revealed as nobodies in the next film?
Darth Sidious having offspring is dumb and goes against his nature, the reveal itself comes out of nowhere and copies "I am your father!" in The Empire Strikes Back, and doesn't change the fact that Rey is a dull, aimless and overpowered protagonist who pulls abilities out of nowhere as the plot requires, lacks a coherent goal, and spends most of the film being shilled for by other characters.
Zara Phillips will not self-isolate after Italy trip
Backstory: My twin, little sister ( who has a genetic disorder), and I help mine and my twin biological grandparents with some things like shopping and cleaning the house since they both suffer from Parkinson’s, our parents adopted my twin and I when we were younger, we only keep in touch with our maternal grandparents as our paternal grandparents are criminals and everyone else in both of those families are entitled with a capital E, but they are entirely different story, our older sister also helps from time to time but she is in school to become a nurse and is working part-time as a CNA so she can’t come with us all the time; Our grandparents don’t normally come either, our mom normally gets their grocery list and we go get it, but they wanted to spend some time with us, so they took us instead, we would be doing all the heavy lifting anyways and they would be in the powered wheelchair thingys that Walmart has.
Cast: Nana B= Grandma. Papa= Grandpa. Evie= my twin. Mal= My little sis... keep reading on reddit ➡