My wife (34) and I (33) are having our second child. We have a daughter (5).
She’s been grouchy her whole pregnancy so her sister offered to plan her a gender reveal party.
The plan was that all the food and decorations would be blue or pink and in the end we’d get one of those special sparklers that would light up in either blue or pink to reveal the gender.
We went to the doctor and got her to write the result in a folded piece of paper that we passed over to her sister without looking.
So flash forward to the day of the party and the moment of truth comes and the sparkler turns out to be pink for a girl.
I don’t know what came over me but all I felt at that moment was very bitter disappointment. To be honest, all I was hoping for for baby #2 is to be able to toss a ball around with him and coach little league. Or watch him go on Boy Scouts camping trips.
I know my daughter is only five, but I’ve already started to deal with the dramas of being a father of a girl and the t... keep reading on reddit ➡
According to psychiatry.org, gender dysphoria is a conflict between a person's physical gender (assigned gender) and the gender with which they identify.
It's important to remember that something you haven't experienced can seem strange or made up. Don't let how something feels or seems influence whether you believe it's real.
Gender dysphoria has been a recognized condition for decades. It's experienced by real humans and causes real suffering when left untreated. It's not something that's a kink or a fetish or a wild idea that will go away if you try really hard to forget about it. It happens to real people who need real treatment--it's not something that you can "just get over."
They tend to bring out the /r/unpopularopinion type. Constant posts about gender (specifically trans people) is one of the reasons it became an alt-right shithole in the first place. It brings out an absolutely staggering amount of transphobes (see the post about gender reveal parties on the front page right now), even when it's not a transphobe asking the question. The only way I see to really prevent this without a specific 'no transphobia' rule and some very rigorous moderation is to just eliminate all posts about gender entirely.
Drastic? Maybe, and someone can probably think of a better solution. But I think this is a good jumping-off point.
Y'all, This is a throwaway since the events happened recently, Hubby's family are all over social media.
I'm (27F) 20 weeks pregnant, Last week hubby and I had an appointment with the doctor and the ultrasound scan revealed that IT'S A GIRL! YAY🎉🎊
I was so excited I couldn't stop smiling because, I've always secretly wanted an adorable baby girl that I can shop /dress/cook with and not just sit around and watch a hockey game with her dad, so lame, also I won the bet, my husbad thought it was a boy but he's equally happy he's just upset he had to handle laundary for the next few weeks.
Anyways, we decided to keep it a secret because of course I was going to have a gender reveal party, however my mother in law knew we had an appointment with the doctor and heard some talk about baby gender reveal (thanks to hubby) she called and asked to know the gender I told her she was gonna find out at the party but she insisted saying she wants to help with organizing the party. I eventually... keep reading on reddit ➡
If a Girl Slaps me I’ll Slap her Back
If a Girl pays half the bill I’ll pay my half as well
If a Girl sucks my dick I’ll suck hers
I'm a woman who went to Urgent Care to get an exam done recently that involved taking my shirt off, and unfortunately, no female doctors were available. I was asked prior to the exam if I wanted a "chaperone" to be in the room with me, and I thought that was pretty cool. And I bet men can request male chaperones as well.
YSK this because it's a great solution if you need to be seen for an issue, but aren't comfortable being alone with the doctor.
Edit: It sounds like in some places, it's protocol to have a chaperone there, which is great! It might vary based on doctor's offices or maybe some doctors are just better about remembering to get a chaperone because this is the first time I've ever been offered a one.
The whole Will and Jada Smith situation got me thinking, and I can't get this thought out of my head. Imagine if Will Smith had cheated on his wife with someone so much younger than him. He would've been obliterated. And even now, despite going through so much heartbreak, his emotions are being used as memes and joked about.
I'm a woman, and I get it, we have it rough. But lately, more and more questionable actions are glossed over because the person doing them is a woman. Had it been a man, the outrage would be insane.
I'm going to immediately be shut down in the comments, but I've seen a lot of this behavior on reddit too. Just think about it for a moment.
So, as the title says, last night, I received 500$ posted into my bank via Zelle. I immediately called both PNC and Zelle this morning, frantic someone had hacked into my account and I was about to become a victim of a scam (I’m aware it was a deposit to my account and NOT a withdrawal, but still).
They calmed me and said my bank information was not stolen nor am I at any fault. If I felt better, I could dispute this and get reissued a new bank card. I asked if they could simply reverse the transaction in which Zelle said no and PNC said I could dispute it. Both had warned me while the money is legitimate, I could be part of a scam in which money is sent to my account “by accident” and then I receive a text or phone call from the sender for the money back via Zelle in which they could get my bank information that way.
I asked for my rights and they let me know I’m at no fault, to never accept someone asking for the money back and to guide them to speak with their bank, and even then... keep reading on reddit ➡
Kinda rough to be posting here.
My MIL had usually moved between JY and JMaybe. She’s not the easiest person to deal with but she’s a great person and I really love her.
The problem at hand is that we just found out the gender of the baby (GIRL!) and we were all really excited. My mom and I thought she was going to be a boy but that didn’t ruin the fun for us and we’re equally excited about having a little girl. Well, my JMMIL had said it was a boy and before we gave the news kemp’s saying it was a boy so why even find out.
Anyways, news come out, it’s a girl everyone celebrates... except for her. She kept saying it’s a boy and she still KNOWS is a boy so she won’t call her a she. She kept trying to convince my mom to not buy anything yet because it could still be a boy and there’s nothing conclusive about it (like the ultrasound we showed them that HIGHLIGHTS it’s a girl) and just kept being negative all around and saying to her the baby was still a boy.
I just felt bad because,... keep reading on reddit ➡
Old story. I mentioned this on another subreddit and because it's reawakened how bizarre this is I decided to post it here as well because I really need a good vent.
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During pregnancy me and DH wanted to keep LOs gender a secret. Our firstborn. MIL and FIL and my parents insisted on knowing so we let them in the secret. We specifically told MIL not to disclose our daughter's gender because people have a propensity to buy everything pink and sequiny and frilly, most of which seems uncomfortable for a little baby to wear. I'm going to sound spoilt but also very picky about the kind of clothes I'd like my kid to wear. I also don't like to hear crap like 'Oh my, a girl. Daddy better watch out for the boys' and 'With a boy you only have to worry about one dick, with a girl you worry about all the dicks in the world' (True story, someone actually said that)
MIL said that she wanted to throw us a shower.... keep reading on reddit ➡
Okay hear me out. I do NOT believe in gender roles. I think, is it more common for a women to cook and clean while the man works? YES. Does that make it okay? NO. You should do whatever works for you in YOUR household. A women should be able to be the breadwinner if she wants and every man should be able to cook for himself and clean for himself.
However, Angela is being downright rude and close minded. She says “Well I want him to know how we will do it America”. First of all you aren’t in America yet. They are currently living in Nigeria until they are married (to my understanding, still on Episode 7). So if she plans to marry a Nigerian man, then she should be willing to learn a few Nigerian customs and dishes that she can prepare to make him feel at home when they do actually move to America. It’s just something that comes with marrying a spouse from a different culture. You don’t shame their culture, you learn each other’s culture and find a way to incorporate both cultures in y... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m a guy and I’m a bit split on this. I mostly play as female characters in games like GTA, Red Dead, Monster Hunter, Pokemon, etc. I think it’s mostly because these are all third person games and I just simply like how how women look and dress, as opposed to the dull and minimalistic appearance of men (gender dysphoria anyone?).
But when it comes to first person games like Skyrim or Fallout I tend to play as a male because I feel like I’m supposed to be playing as myself. Same applies to life simulation games such as Animal Crossing and The Sims.
With Cyberpunk on the way I’m still not sure what genitalia I’ll go with lmao. Originally I was gonna go female but that was before we learned the game is locked into first person view.
I’m genuinely curious what everyone else chooses and why.
If true gender equality comes to fruition, then what it will mean is that people will stop giving a fuck about one another's gender. Everyone would have equal opportunity, treatment, respect and appreciation, while being judged based on character, ability, personality and other proper grounds based on the situation. There would be no need for gender-based celebrations, since all related hurdles would have already been crossed.
What will be celebrated though, is mankind coming one step closer to overall human equality.
Edit: sex not gender
I know we all have the strength to press on, I just don’t know how to use that strength
Hey, I thought I was genderfluid but I don't even know. Right now I don't really have a label. Is that like... okay. I'm a girl-boy-human thing IM SUPER CONFUSED. I am either Bigender, Genderfluid, Non-binary or trans.
Right now I just am
I’m saddened that I need to make this post, but it needs to be done.
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