Myself (27M) and my wife (27F) are having a boy, we already have a girl who is now 2. My wife is really into films, oscar type films and she is like an analyser when watching them so she wanted to make a gender reveal short film, 10 minutes long to say we're having a girl, kind of weird but I went along with it, we posted it and she was super happy with it but it cost so much, she hired expensive cameras, we drove out to scenic areas for the right shot, I'm working full time during this process, exhausting.
So we just found out that we're having a boy and she started writing a script, I thought there's no fucking way I'm doing that again so I posted on facebook "we're having a boy", she's pissed at me telling me to delete it but the damage is done, I don't feel bad, I saved us at least £4k.
What I don't get it why she's just making films about gender reveals, she can write a script about anything and not be on a strict ~6-7 month time limit.
This is posted here because many people get offended by this question. I genuinely don’t understand the point of gender reveal parties.
1.) what are the point of gender reveal parties? Is it just another “look at me” type party? Before Covid, I was invited to one but I don’t care what genitalia the baby has. I declined.
2.) when did they become a “thing”? Growing up in the late 80s early 90s I never heard of such parties happening. In the past few years I hear of them being all over.
For quite a long time now I've been wondering why certain groups of people and media discourse surrounding some events are so fixated on these things.
Why exactly do people care about who sleeps with who? Or if a person in a position of power is a man or a woman? Or if their skin color is different?
To preface this I would really like for my opinion to be changed but this is one thing I’ve never been actually able to understand. I am a 22 years old, currently a junior in college, and I generally would identify myself as a pretty strong liberal. I am extremely supportive of LGB people and all of the other sexualities although I will be the first to admit I am not extremely well educated on some of the smaller groups, I do understand however that sexuality is a spectrum and it can be very complicated. With transgender people I will always identify them by the pronouns they prefer and would never hate on someone for being transgender but in my mind it’s something I really just don’t understand and no matter how I try to educate myself on it I never actually think of them as the gender they identify as. I always feel bad about it and I know it makes me sound like a bad person saying this but it’s something I would love to be able to change. I understand that people say sex and gender are different but I don’t personally see how that is true. I personally don’t see how gender dysphoria isn’t the same idea as something like body dysmorphia where you see something that isn’t entirely true. I’m expecting a lot of downvotes but I posted because it’s something I would genuinely like to change about myself
My wife and I are having twins. We only recently found out, though we don't know the sex because the legs were obscuring it. We do plan on getting another ultrasound at 19 weeks to find out the sex, but until then, it's conjecture.
I haven't been that vocal on what the gender of the baby is. I honestly didn't care, but after she asked me, I just said I wanted a boy and a girl. I don't think that's inherently bad. I'm not favoring a gender, and even if I get two girls or two boys, I'll love them the same.
She didn't get full-on mad, but she was disappointed. She said I wasn't supposed to have gender preferences for our future children because I could be disappointed in them and not love them as much, and she didn't want that. She is a tad bit hormonal, which is totally reasonable, so I do understand not to take anything to hurt me on purpose.
So, I am wondering if I was seriously wrong in this situation. AITA random people of the interwebs?