Over the last year, I’ve gotten much more interested in sustainable & ethical clothing and have immersed myself in researching these topics.
Questions like: is _____ ethical? Is _____ sustainable? Where can I buy affordable but ethical clothing? Plague my google search history.
As a 24 year old who is finally making a decent salary but has been primarily a fast fashion consumer up until a year or so ago, I want to do and be better.
But a point I’ve seen made many times while reading countless articles about clothing manufacturing ethics and sustainability is that by definition, fast fashion is bad because it’s not made to last and is made for mass consumption. Trendy pieces and cheaply made pieces made to last maybe a season or two.
So where does that leave the consumer who has a closet full of items purchased at fast fashion retailers, but rarely makes new purchases and many of their current pieces have remained in their closet for years?
Obviously the issue is layered and nuanced. Sure maybe I have a fast fashion t shirt that cost me $3 that I’ve gotten three years of wear out of, but obviously a $3 shirt wasn’t made sustainably or ethically. But is there a point where the trade off of ethics and sustainability becomes worth it?
Is the “fast fashion” buyer who makes new purchases maybe a few times a year and keeps that clothing for years better or worse than the “mid range” clothing buyer who buys clothing monthly (or maybe even more?) and gets fewer uses out of each article of clothing?
This topic bothers me because I feel like there’s no good choice unless you have $$$ to spend on the few brands that are sustainable and ethical. Is Aritzia or J Crew that much better than Forever 21 or Fashion Nova? Is the clothing quality that much better that it warrants a 300%+ price increase? Are their ethics/sustainability practices better?
Even luxury and designer brands have questionable histories, like Chanel.
It’s just so frustrating! I feel like in the last year or two in particular there has been a sharp uptick in clothing “boutiques” and online only clothing stores which just muddy the waters further & make the shopping process that much more confusing for the average consumer.
I’d love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this matter! This has been bugging me for forever and no one IRL I know wants to have this conversation.
ETA: I just want to include that for the time being I’ve decided to predominantly buy secondhand and have been b... keep reading on reddit ➡
Some backstory on me: my husband and I met at BYU, we’ve been married for 3 years. I’ve been PIMO (well as “physically in” as we’ve been able to be during the pandemic) for the last year or so, but finally decided to leave after reading the CES letter last month. I told my husband right away because I needed support while going through the complete shock of what I learned. I couldn’t hide it from him even if I wanted to because it was such an emotional rollercoaster and we’ve been home together every day for the last year. He knew something was wrong. I wish I could have had the space to go through it alone and then bring it up to him in a less volatile way because I think the suddenness of it has caused him to dig his heels in deeper. He’s very much still TBM and the last month has been so hard.
Now to the point of this post since it’s already getting long: not only has the last month been tense because of the endless discussions about our new mixed-faith status, we’ve also stopped being intimate. Like at all. There’s some affection during the day and talk like nudge nudge wink wink maybe tonight...but every attempt I make falls flat and the rejection stings.
I finally asked him last night if there was something wrong because it’s been a month since we’ve had sex and he basically told me it’s because I stopped wearing my garments. I stopped wearing them immediately after reading the CES letter because they made me feel disgusted and angry. He told me that the fact that I could give up my faith and our entire life based on the words of some random guy hurts him and seeing me every night without my garments on is a constant visual reminder of that. It turns him off.
I wanted so badly to say “the fact that you base our entire relationship on the words of some dead pedophile makes me question who you are too!” but I just held my tongue and kept scrolling reddit.
I’m starting to feel afraid for my marriage. Losing my faith and entire identity in the middle of a pandemic is enough. I can’t lose my partner, too. Despite how messed up things are right now, I love him and I don’t even want to entertain the idea of divorce. He seems uninterested in marriage therapy and keeps offering that we speak to the bishop about this. I have no interest in talking to the bishop, and even if I did, I know nothing will change because we’re basically at a stalemate. He just wants me to come back and I won’t.
I guess I need reassurance or advice from you all. How can I... keep reading on reddit ➡
I don't consider one better than the other, but I am curious what the split is regarding makers and projects. It seems like there is A LOT of fad-based stuff (e.g. bernie mittens), but I wonder whether that group is just louder, can pump things out faster, etc.
I seem to be very particular about my knitting (I don't reeeeally sew) and require my project to be pretty close to perfect in terms of quality and especially in terms of fit. The knitting itself is meditative and relaxing so I have to be knitting something, but other than that I am 100% a product knitter and that product must be lux!
I find it interesting how that makes me feel a bit alienated from the knitters on /r/knitting and on Ravelry.
Ladies! I've been wearing garments my whole adult life, and now that I don't want to wear them anymore, I'm having a hard time finding something else I love. (Garments are the WORST, but I have to admit having no panty line has been great.) What have you found that you love?
As long as I'm going to have to wear garments (or at least as long as my person situation makes it prudent to) I think I need a good nickname. Something less obviously nonbelieving and less offensive to believers than "my Fanny Algers" but maybe that would raise an eyebrow. Any ideas?