I am a 28-year-old woman, and have been married to my husband, a 32-year-old man since 2018.
My husband is ethnically Japanese, and a second-generation American. His parents are from Osaka. He kind of sort of half speaks Japanese, mostly sentences he has memorized/greetings, and his parents speak great English.
On the other hand, I lived in Japan for three years, so I am conversationally pretty good. I have studied hard to get to the level I'm at, and I have passed level 2 of the Japanese Language Proficiency Test (not great, but not bad).
Lately, my husband is super into me calling him goshujin sama, which can be translated to "my honored husband." It's extremely unusual to call your own husband this, as it is usually reserved for other people's husbands as a respectful term, but it's kind of an anime/Japanese geek culture thing. I was OK with it in private because it makes him happy.
Last week went to his parents' house for dinner, and on the way over he asked if I could call him goshujin sama all evening. I immediately shot his idea down with a firm "no," because that would be SUPER embarrassing. His parents are native Japanese speakers in their 60s. I'm not going to subject them to what you'd pay a waitress in a maid cafe $20 for a cup of coffee to call you. To be honest, I don't think my husband really gets how the phrase is properly used, despite his insistence.
He kept trying to convince me, reminding me that he is Japanese and knows what is proper (despite the fact that I speak better Japanese than him), but I was having none of it. I just shut down and tuned him out.
We got there, and some time into the night I called his name to ask if he wanted a drink. Despite him being in hearing range, he ignored me. I said it again, and this time he looked at me, gave me this pleading shrug, and then turned back to the TV. I didn't get him a drink and just got myself one.
A while later, I said his name again, and he audibly sighed. He told me that he wanted me to call him what I call him at home, to which I responded I would most certainly not be calling him what I call him at home. This was ALL in front of his parents by the way.
On the car drive home, I told him that I wasn't going to call him goshujin sama anymore because he can't draw the line between fun playful couple stuff and his parents. He has sulked for the past week and I don't even know what to do. Normally I would not even consider the possibility that I was wrong here, but he's... keep reading on reddit ➡
On the Night of May 15th, a Twitter profile tweeted Doge Coin is the chosen one by Elon Musk because of its lower fees and less environmental effect.
Elon Musk replies that he wants to speed up Block time 10X and increase Block size 10X to reduce transaction fee 100X, for Doge Coin.
If the solution of blockchain scaling was simply to change the variables, why Adam Beck didn't think of this and why Satoshi didn't think of this.
Even now projects like Ethereum can increase the limit and make transaction fees on the chain reduce over 1000X.
THE SOLUTION IS NOT TO JUST CHANGE NUMBERS.
It seriously has a bad effects on the network security and decentralization. (Please remember this)
Many projects like BCH and BSV has tried all this. And failed.
This narrative is so 2013.
Bitcoin has proven itself again and again over the years on why it is the King. And projects like Ethereum are working for years to scale in this perspective.
If you are new to crypto, please do not get manipulated by Elon Musk's tweets.
IMO, Doge Coin is just a tool for Elon to flex his dominance around this space. It won't last long as he clearly has no clue what he is talking about.
Relevant to the story:
My boyfriend is 6ft / 183cm and 229 lb / 104kg.
I am 5ft6 / 168cm and 120 lb / 54.4kg.
From a medical standpoint, my boyfriend is obese and I am a fairly normal weight. I really don't mind his weight - he was obese when I met him, and that wasn't a problem for me. He has struggled with his weight for many years and constantly talks about wanting lose weight, but never actually diets / exercises. Again, not a huge deal for me, but I try to be supportive and offer him advice or general encouragement whenever he discusses his desire to lose weight.
An occasional point of contention between us is that he has a tendency to offer me diet advice. For example, whenever I make a smoothie, he says, "You shouldn't drink those things. They're full of hidden calories." Or when I do strength training, he says, "You'll just gain weight because you'll put on too much muscle." It's annoying because nutrition & fitness are actually big passions of mine. I'm not an expert by any means, but I've done several courses and I feel I know more than the average person. Plus, I feel that I can demonstrably show that I can manage my own weight, so I don't like that he constantly feels the need to give me advice.
This past weekend, he and I met up with a few of his mates at a beer garden. At some point, the guys were talking about their experiences with online dating. My boyfriend said that he'd used Tinder prior to meeting me, but that he deleted it because there were "too many desperate fat chicks." He said this in such a disgusted, dismissive way, that I genuinely saw red for a second and just blurted out, "Seriously? You're going to criticise fat chicks?"
There was a really long, awkward pause, and then one of his friends made a joke and the conversation sort of moved on, but my boyfriend didn't speak to me for the rest of the evening. He texted me the next day to say that it was incredibly rude and disrespectful to comment on his weight, especially in front of his friends. He says he thinks he wants a few days away from me to decide whether or not he can forgive me. I agree it was rude of me to call him out in front of his friends, but I also think what he said was obnoxious and borderline sexist. I've apologised to him, but I'm not sure if I'm genuinely the asshole here.
Edit: Yeah, we broke up. I feel lighter.
2021-06-07 Update (for clarification):
The early access front-end is showing the mobile layout even on desktop, we know it looks dumb atm.
Remember, it's an MVP (Minimum Viable Product) release and which will continue to be updated up to feature parity with v3 (we have a LONG to-do list) before considering implementing any major changes.
We've implemented all the features we believe are necessary to at least read manga.
What we have right now:
What we don't have yet:
Literally anything you can think of, yes we'll implement it, no don't ask us when. Updates will be always posted in our Discord announcement server.
While it may not seem like much progress was made looking at the frontend alone, the entirely rewritten backend's performance and speed is something we're quite proud of. The frontend is still mostly unfinished and missing much of the aspects laid out in the design documents we have, but we hope that you enjoy the new look nonetheless. On this topic, here's a message from our Front End volunteer team:
>You might have noticed things look different now. Some of you might already have seen some screenshots before, some will see the new look of MangaDex for the first time today and we are excited to finally get you all reading again!
>As always when things change it'll take us all some time to get used to them, and most predictably, there will be things you hate, things you love and things you have no particular opinion on. Also, as it currently stand
Today there's a "Clucoin" thread with 1000s of upvotes, a bunch of fakey sounding positive comments, and very few people pointing out what looks like a generic crypto scam. The other posts on the sub itself all have less than 100 upvotes. I vaguely recall seeing more of these for different coins not long ago. This seems blatantly botted, how do these manage to stay up?
My fiance and I have been together for about 6 years, engaged for 2. After we got engaged, we sat down and had the "deal breakers" talk. Basically things in our lives, our futures, hypothetical situations that leave little room for compromise (ie adopting children, finances, family boundaries, religion etc).
One of the things on my list was no pre-nup. I'm not here to debate with anyone about their use, I just think that if you're preparing for divorce before even getting married, it's a sign that you're probably marrying the wrong person. He agreed and everything was fine.
Lately his family (particularly his mother) keeps on bringing up signing a pre-nup. I've told her no many times, said this is an issue between us and we will discuss it privately and make our own decisions as a couple. He also tells her no, although more weakly. Well, last night we went there for dinner and she brought out an actual pre-nup drafted by her lawyer. She put it in front of me after dinner and told me to sign. Obviously I didn't even read it let alone sign it.
She called me a gold digger. No one, including my fiance stood up for me so I stood up for myself. I told her that there is no gold to dig here: I make four times as much as he makes (I'm an MD and he dropped out second year), I've paid off all my student debt (he has over 100K left), I have my own house, ample savings and will certainly inherit more from my parents than he will from his (they have 6 kids and are middle class). What is she worried about? That shut her up real quick especially when my SIL then said "if anything, he's the gold digger here".
My fiance is now angry with me. He said it was emasculating for his family to know I'm so much more successful than him and his brothers are making jokes and changed his contact info to "gold digger". Personally, I don't think I was rude or out of line but he thinks I was an asshole and could've handled it better.
My wife and I live fifteen hours away from my family, this is so that she can be close to her family and so that I don’t have to deal with mine on the daily basis. The other day, about a week or two ago, we decided to visit my family. When we get there, everything is going great, we are all getting along and happy to see each other.
About three hours into our visit, I decided to show my wife around my hometown, she had never visited before and had only met my folks once, at our wedding. Both of my parents volunteer to tag along just in case I get lost, I hadn’t been back home in years and some of the roads had been changed. We agree that it was a good idea and started to load up in my car.
As I started to buckle up I notice my mother is getting into the front passenger seat. I stop and look to my wife who is staring at my mother with a confused expression.
“Um... Mom,” I said, trying to sound polite because I know the slightest thing can set her off, “can you hop in the back seat? That’s (wife’s name) seat and she gets car sickness if she is in the backseat.”
My mother scoffs and rolls her eyes at me. “She can just sit in the backseat,” she said exasperated, as if she had explained this thousands of times to me, “we won’t be gone long so she won’t get car sick.”
Now, my wife can get car sick from a three minute drive if she is in the backseat, especially when she is around strangers, and yes, my folks are strangers to her. Taking all of this into consideration, I quickly pipe up and say, “so can you. I am not arguing this with you, mom, this is my car and I want my wife to enjoy being able to look around where I grew up.”
She scoffs again and turns to my and says with the most condescending tone I have ever heard. “You won’t mind if I take this seat, will you? He’s my baby boy and I haven’t been able to see him since you heartlessly took him away from me.”
Luckily, my wife and I didn’t have to anything because my hero of a father jumped in and told my mother to get out of the car. He isn’t the type to deal with bs and my mother knows this. She quickly hopped out and turned to get into the backseat, I sighed in relief for a moment until my father stopped her.
“We are not going with them.” He said, anger very evident on his face as he stepped in front of my mother. “We need to talk about how you treat our daughter.”
You see, my mother has always hated my wife, where my father treats her no different from any of my siblings and I. Needless to say, a... keep reading on reddit ➡
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