Brownies hot out of the oven are good, but when they've been chilled in the fridge, they some how have a more fudgey texture, and are far more satisfying to eat.
My daughter (12F) has a new friend (13F) that has been visiting our house a few times. We met through a local recreational sports team. I’ve talked to her parents. We’re nice to each other but definitely not close. But the girls get along like “besties” every time they hang out.
During her first visit, I noticed she kept looking in our pantry and sneaking snacks AFTER I already gave them popcorn and other snacks. I was a little taken aback because I was raised to wait to be offered or ask first. Later during the day, I let them have ice cream while they were playing outside. The friend comes back inside the house by herself and goes to our garage to the outside fridge and grabs two more ice cream bars and goes straight in the bathroom. I learned later it was two ice cream bars while I was cleaning the bathroom.
I was concerned because I wasn’t sure if she had an eating disorder, or if she’s restricted from these types of food, and also didn’t want her to get sick when her mom picks her up! As far as her health, she looks healthy and her parents are well off.
I let it pass the first visit, and the second. Maybe she’s just really hungry? But it’s a little more awkward after the third, fourth, and fifth time! If I’m in the kitchen or living room, she will come out alone then turn around. But if I’m in the back rooms, I’ll hear the pantry door open. I’m astounded at how much she can eat honestly. A big bag of chips, handful of candies, chocolates, etc. During her last visit, I hid some leftover piñata candy in my lunch bag and zipped it. The friend found it and unzipped my lunch bag and took some! My kids will eat maybe two pieces, but this girl can eat over 10 pieces (I’ve seen the wrappers)!
Again, I’m not close with her mom and I don’t feel comfortable to say anything as I don’t want to offend or upset them.
Is this normal? Do teenagers really eat this much?? Should I just ignore it and let it go?
UPDATE: I posted this before prepping for dinner and didn’t check until afterwards and am blown away from the comments! Thank you all for the feedback! I will slowly go through comments. My daughter has had plenty of friends over but I’ve never experienced this before. I can easily tell my children what to do, but am very uncomfortable correcting kids that aren’t mine, and I don’t want to embarrass her. Also, I DO have healthy snacks in the pantry and always have a bowl of fruit, but the friend hasn’t touched those yet.
It's funny peeking into people's lives and knowing that their last moments were going to be completely meaningless.
Getting disciplined has always been my weakness. I used to have a crappy system of organization that used to "work", but was vastly inefficient, it used to cripple me and waste my time more than save it, and I believe that's why I dumped it naturally at some point. Now I haven't had any system for two years.
My colleagues and friends think of me as the most organized and cleanest person in the entire universe....... however, that's total bs.
Why YSK: I know a lot of people who have complained about how they broke their fridge after they did this, and know even more people who choose to just leave behind/sell their fridge when they move because of what a hassle it is to transport. Knowing how a fridge/freezer works will save you money and time, and prevent you from breaking it yourself on accident.
The concern comes from an issue that was common in older fridges/freezers. When tilted past a 45 degree angle, the oil in the compressor had a tendency to spill out into the cooling tubes and clog them, preventing coolant from filling the fridge completely. This used to be the end of a fridge's life and meant a hefty bill for a new one. Over time though, oils were treated so they wouldn't congeal around foreign particles, which prevented blocking. Additionally, more stringent, coiled cooling tubes were made with better materials like fiberglass and unique polymers that became an industry standard because they would give and compress to push things through the pipe. These two features have worked in tandem to prevent blockage, but their efforts won't stop people who ruin their fridges on accident.
Because coolant tubes are usually quite small and oil is fairly viscous, it takes some time for the oil to move through the tubes. What usually kills a fridge/freezer after transport is turning it on before the oil has had a chance to settle in the compressor. If you run it without oil, the machine simply won't function outside of forcing pressure into the oil-filled coolant tubes, which only pushes the oil further up the pipe and compresses it into an actual blockage. It's a waste of a good fridge.
The solution, of course, is to let the oil settle. In most fridges/freezers, the oil will settle back into the compressor after sitting upright for 24-48 hours regardless of how long it was on it's side. At bare minimum, give it the same amount of time upright as it was in transport.
I hope this helped!
The title says it all. I am the primary budgeter and grocery shopper for the family. As such I try to stretch the budget with lots of dried goods and select fresh produce while splurging on the important things like organic meats and eggs. The fridge is full, the freezer has a decent selection of fish and meat, there are canned and dry goods. I made a batch of refried beans and pico de Gallo earlier this week. It’s not enough. Any tips or tricks y’all use to stop the complaining from family members and keep them happily/healthily fed?
Edit: I have some ideas, thanks for your responses. Discussion with hubby over the post pointed to the two most common suggestions: involve his opinion more and make him do the darn work. Thanks for all the thoughtful comments and commiserating.
Hubs has to work up to 12 hour days starting at 4-6 am and I need better things to make for lunch that can be stored in a lunch box/eaten cold or room temp than a turkey sandwich lol we don't eat a lot of dairy and I'm thinking high protein to keep him going in his physically demanding job.
This is a constant debate that I have with my family: they think chocolate should be eaten straight out of the fridge. I think that makes it completely flavorless. Besides it messes up the texture, I mean you may as well eat a candle or a bar of soap. When it’s warm and slightly melted though, it’s just perfect. It tastes sweeter, it immediately starts to melt in your mouth, it’s just glorious.
Oh and don’t even get me started on people WHO KEEP CHOCOLATE IN THE FREEZER. Are you okay?? Why are you eating something that has the exact same texture as cold, shiny, hard plastic? Who hurt you?
I live with my grandparents while I pay off my loans before I get to move out on my own. My brother 4 years younger also lives here occasionally, happening to be here today. My mom and stepdad, who have a weird rocky relationship anyway, were visiting today. My mom was already drunk and looking for more ways to keep her party going (I’m sure you can tell why I don’t live with her.)
So, as she’s going through all of their beer and going to my grandpa’s after, she starts to eye mine as well. For a little more background, my grandparents always let them walk all over them and do what they want. So, my mom goes for mine next. Now, if it was any old Bud Light I’d probably be less annoyed. But this is stuff only sold in a different state, that I drove an hour and a half detour on a 5 hour road trip to get, because I love it. So, I said hey, no, that’s mine you can’t have it.
She tries to ignore and laugh me off, saying she’s taking it. So I took it from her hands and said no she isn’t. Then comes my brother pulling his badass routine with how he’ll take it and smash it in the driveway he doesn’t care. Told him to fuck off. Then my stepdad pulls the she’s your mom, it’s a beer, stop it. I reminded them of how I got it, and that you don’t just take peoples stuff without asking. It isn’t yours to take. And instead of understanding that, they call me disrespectful, an asshole, and storm off before they get chewed out more. My grandma and grandpa just stayed out of it.
Am I the asshole? I understand it’s just a beer. But I don’t care if it’s a beer, a soda, my car, anything. You don’t just walk into someone’s place of living and take stuff you know is theirs without asking them. That’s rude and disrespectful.