Do you know what works better than methylphenidate at treating ADHD in children? Treating their underlying sleep apnea!
Check out this paper that shows the majority of children with ADHD have sleep apnea causing their symptoms, and treating it is more effective than ritalin: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/j.1365-2869.2004.00408.x https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1389945706001845
This is no joke, but it's been known for a long time that in a lot of people with ADHD, the cause of their ADHD is sleep apnea, often more subtle-to-detect sleep apnea that a lot of clinics STILL aren't checking for when people get tested (The AASM is finally starting to take this seriously after their survey found half of their clinics didn't actually test for it, https://aasm.org/hypopnea-scoring-initiative-current-activities-future-plans/).
If you have focus issues, get a sleep test! sleep apnea isn't a tired, old fat man disease and researchers have shown that it's not for decades!
I just want to take this time to appreciate one of my most beloved horror movies of all time The Fog, from the simplistic story to the stunning visuals and cinematography and trademarked style music by John Carpenter, this movie still can manage to make you feel a sort of dread over take you, the slow tense building up, the wide shots of the town, coast and lighthouse, Absolutely love every bit of this movie. Even with out the mustache Tom Atkins. I did a short 1 minute recommendation if anyone wants to check it out
Why YSK: For most of my twenties I suffered a lot due do depression. At least once a month I spent one week in bed wishing just to die. I had memory problems. Brain fog and a deep deep sadness. Honestly I was very alone and I always thought it was my fault, my laziness, my lack of willingness. Years later, during a check up I have found out that my blood pressure was incredibly high. After other check ups and test I have found out to have the Hashimoto's disease. Now I am in my 30s trying to catch up with the lost years. If you feel depressed always ask for help.
I've posted a few times about my MIL and her obsessive second-hand buying. Basically, she buys all this second hand furniture (or trash picks it) and tries to give it to us. This was super stressful for me because she kept buying us old and gross baby stuff that she expected us to use, and be grateful for!
Anyway, for the holidays she gifts us a bunch of used stuff. DH can't believe it. DH leaves all the used gifts at her house (success! It's not even making it into our home). Then she comes by the next day and brings boxes of more garbage! Old cracked cups, a broken baby swing, etc etc. DH kindly helps her load it all back into her car. Then when she leaves we notice there was another box of things that she hid in another room. DH loads it right into his car to drop off when he goes to dinner at their house next weekend.
Then, DH even tells me that he sees what I've been talking about now. I am beyond happy and proud of DH for taking care of all this literal garbage.
I often drive to work early when it's foggy outside. I can't help to notice that some other cars are driving with their headlights turned off. These are all modern cars with an automatic headlight switch, drl, and a permanently lit dashboard. An automatic headlight switch can be very handy. The problem is, that people rely too much on it: "I don't have to care about my lights, the car will turn them on automaticity". These cars only have a lux sensor and a rain sensor. The headlights do only turn on when its dark and/or raining. Fog is white, so it often doesn't get dark enough to activate the headlights.
When it's foggy outside, please turn on your headlights manually. Even when your dashboard is lit. Even when you think your headlights are on. These aren't headlights, these are drl's. If you only use drl's, your tail lights are not turned on. Making it virtually impossible for cars behind you to see you.
I have fallen into a horrible slump - or more like lifestyle at this point. I spend the majority of the day in bed, with very little energy or motivation to get out of it.
Here's what my typical day looks like:
Wake up at 4pm or later, snack on chocolate in room, then maybe motivate myself to grab some plain bread and milk before trudging back to my room. I don’t have a desk, so I just lie on my bed. I’ll feel even weaker here.
I’ll feel miserable about the amount of things I need to do, but mostly I’ll just lie/sit on bed and dissociate. I’ll experience this dissociation/brain fog for maybe half an hour before I manage to force myself to change into clothes I haven't washed in weeks and can no longer fit in to. Then I’ll collapse from my lack of energy/motivation onto my bed and then give in to my brain fog/dissociation. I can stay like that for ages, even an hour+. I'll then manage to force myself to do something - usually gathering up all my strength to get up and walk two steps to grab my laptop and then collapse back on to my bed. If I’m feeling especially bad that day, I’ll instead just use my limited energy to stretch and grab my phone on my bedside cabinet.
Then I’ll watch some YouTube for an hour or two before again running out of energy and start dissociating/brain fogging and just lie on my bed. Sometimes I’ll 'nap' (i.e., sleep for the majority of the day).
If I’ve run out of snacks, I’ll force myself to get up and go down to the local newsagent at the bottom of the road. I’ve gained loads of weight because of my lifestyle so now even this is exhausting. I’ll feel embarrassed going in and try not to make eye contact with the staff who see my buy a basket full of sweets nearly every day.
I’ll go toilet and collapse on the seat, I’ll dissociate/brain fog here too. Then I’ll eventually gather all my strength to leave the bathroom and head to my room. I’ll notice how it stinks and open the window to air it out. I’ll then collapse on my bed once again and snack. I’ll then once again start dissociating/brain fogging as I lie on my bed.
I’ll go online and look for some jobs. I’ll find nothing appealing and feel even weaker as I feel I’ll never be able to get out of this slump. I might eventually apply to something, or at least save a job to apply to later (which will probably never happen). Then I’ll go back to YouTube and see if people I subscribe to have uploaded anything new. Then I might watch for an hour or two again.
Then I’ll use all my... keep reading on reddit ➡
It infuriates me how many of you mothereffers here in OR refuse to acknowledge that your lights exist! It's not about whether you can see, but about helping other people see you on those thick foggy mornings. It boils my blood to see this.
When it comes to rain: if you have to turn your wipers on, you need to have your lights on as well. Don't be an unsafe stinky sock.
Been together 8 years. Married 4 of those. MIL has never liked me has done many many horrid things that caused myself to go NC immediately after our wedding. DH has been LC for many years, struggling to not rock the boat.
The last 4 years have been rough, we have a DD who IL’s have never met; much for their disgust DH remained strong on this.
They turned up at DH’s work with presents for the child and spoke to his employer about us. MIL was caught posting about us in a alienated granny group, when she was confronted she lied 🙄.
DH has finally come out of the fog and ceased all contact with FIL and MIL. This unfortunately means that his siblings will follow suit. But I have never felt more relieved. Here’s to hopefully a less stressful 2021 in the inlaw department.