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Edited to fix the fact that I get upwind and downwind confused. Thank you for pointing that out.
EDIT TO ADD: 1. Yes, listen to the authorities, track the news, and don't trust that you can track the weather conditions yourselves. We had to track it ourselves. There was no information for my area to access because we are sufficiently rural and remote, so thankfully, our own knowledge of fire conditions was what got us out on time. I apologize if I've come across as touchy in responding to those posts, I did not realize how close this was to my surface. 2. Additionally, this LPT does not apply everywhere. For example, as I have learned through the thoughtful and helpful responses to this post, in some areas, ash will be float from very far away (50miles/80km) and will not pose a danger to you. Also, if you live in Australia, I have learned that you probably do well to evacuate on a particularly warm and dry day even if there is no fire. Stay safe, everyone, keep your spaces defensible, and keep a go-bag ready. 3. I'm glad this has gained some popularity, and thank you for the rewards. I just want some good to come of my experience.
This is pretty lengthy but I want to give you enough background to show you that this is reasonably credible advice.
I lived in North Central Oregon on a ranch for four years and in Eastern Oregon for one year, and fire season is really common east of the Cascades. Fires will happen, usually due to human stupidity but also fairly commonly due to lightning strikes. My husband was a river ranger over there and regularly had to direct firefighters, life flights, and aerial water dumps to burn sites, keep people safe from themselves, and maintain areas in such ways that the space is kept defensible. Horrible and concerning but not unexpected at all. Also relevant detail, we live in an RV on our friends' property, so moving out is relatively easy.
We have had ash rain down on us plenty without being more concerned than having a vague feeling that we'll make sure the bug-out-bags are packed, but we never had to evacuate. If it doesn't change, all you need to do is monitor weather conditions - particularly wind direction - and go about your day as best you can. If the wind shifts, putting you downwind of the fire, leave. Obviously, don't inhale more smoke than is absolutely unavoidable.
We moved to the Willamette Valley about three years ago and were pretty excited about being out of th... keep reading on reddit ➡
Take this from a guy that has BDP (Borderline Personality Disorder) with a dash of anxiety and depression. Sometimes you can do everything right (cold contact, flirt a bit, ask for her number, set up a date, etc) and she'll still flake. Was she really busy that day?? Did she have something SO important to do that came up last minute?? Did her dog REALLY die?? Honestly idk and at the end of the day actions speak louder than words. I COULD give her another opportunity and a second chance but wouldn't it be better to use my time and energy for someone that's actually interested?
I have a habit of overanalyzing every small detail in my life (for better or worse...mostly for worst), but after reading some Stoicism and adapting the principle on actions being out of my control, it has given me comfort and solace. Maybe I wasn't her type, maybe I came off a little too strong, or maybe her dog really did die and I'm just an asshole for not giving her time to mourn.
Bottom line: Don't beat yourself up if she flakes. At the end of the day that's her decision, she made her choice and the only thing YOU can do is wish her the best.
Stay strong warrior!
Yes I can see what he does. Never goes up the wall, skid turns around quickly to face the opponent, constantly fake challenges on both O and D, power slide cuts, and never goes for aerials.
But I can’t. The MOMENT I try and slow the ball down like he does, I get the ball taken away. If I try to slow roll the ball diagonal across the opponents net, and then wait for him to challenge and hard cut to his backside, He will usually read it and then fake me out, or he will take a 50 and get a super lucky wall bounce and just bang it into my net.
I’ve watched the videos so many times at work on breaks and at night on the couch. As soon as I jump into a match I feel like “ok this is where it all comes together”
But it never does. I just don’t understand safe distances to challenge in this game. It’s apparent across all modes I think. Back to the grind I guess. At some point I gotta face facts.
So my husband and I have been in the LS for quite some time, and know that this is basically a numbers game when it comes to meeting people. Over the years we have learned to voice verify, text a bit (just to get general feels for if folks are as experienced in this as they say they are), stuff like that.
Even with all of that, over the last few weeks we have been in constant contact with an experienced LS couple, voice verified, lots of texts, and in that time, scheduled three separate meet ups ...all of which they cancelled within 24 hours (or less).
I get that shit comes up, people have lives, but now they're saying bc of obligations we may not be able to meet up until mid summer??? What the fuck is that shit? Let me pencil you in for July???
We had turned down plans with people who we knew were reliable on all three occasions, which is even more frustrating.
Then....the people who put that they live in X major city (about a 15-30 min drive for us/them) only to find out they actually live NOT in X major city, but another 30-45 min drive beyond that. Call me greedy, but I'm not going to do a meet and greet when it's a 2-3 hour round trip (nor would I expect them to, either, especially when we are DTF in the right situations / chemistry but not always an expectation)
THEN THEN THEN the 20 year old photos. Just show us what you look like now, or relatively recently. Met some folks a few weeks ago and photos were great. They show up and it's like holy shit, those pics are fr 1992. Also also, they didn't even make an effort to look presentable when we met and we're heavily hinting to immediately go back to our place. They were dull and uninteresting, so even if they were slightly attractive, there was no intellectual chemistry (and they admitted they shaved about 5-7 years off their ages, which put them outside of our preferred age range)
Folks, there is someone out there for you. Please don't lie, or waste other people's time if this isn't what you want to do. If you realize someone you've been chatting with isn't maybe your cup of tea, tell them instead of wasting time with meet-ups you have no intention of intending.
Be honest about your age and looks - it's not always a deal breaker (we love all body types), but for some people it may be.
When you meet someone for the first time, actually dress better than if you're going to the piggly wiggly at 12a to pick up a box of tampons. If you don't care enough to put on clean jeans and a t-shirt,... keep reading on reddit ➡