AITA for calling my cousin-in-law a bitter cow because her daughter wasn’t the first great-grandchild anymore?

My cousin-in-law “Stella” has been obsessed with having the first great-grandchild in our family ever since she married my cousin 5 years ago. When her daughter was born, she was constantly going on and on about how she was my grandfather’s first great-grandchild and how her daughter was the family legacy. It was annoying but her daughter is adorable, so we all sucked it up and humoured her.

Well, 3 months ago my older brother, who is my grandfather’s golden boy, found out he had a son. Without going into too much detail, my brother met “Kiera” while he was at a very low point in his life and was taking a ‘break’ (i.e. hiding away) from life/our family. He gave her a fake backstory and name so when he left, she had no way to contact him to let him know she was pregnant. It took her until 3 months ago to finally get in touch with him.

This has caused a whole scandal in my family because my brother is the last person anyone would think would accidentally father a child. My cousins all though this would knock him off the golden boy pedestal, but my grandfather was worried my brother would never have kids, so this has had the opposite effect. From what my cousin/Stella's SIL has told me, Stella was fuming when she found out because my nephew is 2 months older than her daughter. Making him the 'first' great grandchild.

My brother is trying to convince Kiera to relocate to our city so when she brought their son so our family could meet him, we were all on our best behaviour. Stella hated it. She kept complaining everyone was treating my nephew better than they had ever treated her daughter and she started accusing my grandfather of being misogynistic. After the third day of her complaining, I told her to stop being a bitter cow because her daughter was no longer the first great-grandchild.

She’s since told everyone what I said, and my aunt scolded me for being insensitive and basically made this whole thing about Stella and how hard this was for her. My cousin also sent me a long message which essentially said I was an insensitive AH.

AITA?

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Out hill walking when we found some clay pigeons I assume someone missed, My cousin bet he could hit one with a rock first try and this was the outcome. v.redd.it/n3wak9zesgn61
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My Family Didn't Want Me to Be a Medical Doctor. Why? My Cousin Wanted To Be The First Female Doctor In The Family.

TLDR: My mom's side of the family played favorites all my life and then wanted me to give up my dream career because they didn't want me to be the first female doctor.

Okay, this is probably going to be a long rant because I recently lost my dad's mom, AKA the only grandmother whoever supported me and actually said she was proud of me, a few months ago and her absence it really starting to set in. Due to getting a GED, I never had a graduation, so when I finish my biology degree and criminal justice minor next year, it'll be my first ever graduation. I had planned for my loving grandmother (LG) to be there and she was super excited about it. I was talking about my graduation plans with my mother the other day and started to mention about how I wanted to make sure to get photos with LG when I remembered that she's gone. I brought up maybe my other grandmother, my mom's mom, coming. My mother, in the most delicate way possible, basically told me not to get my hopes up, that her side of the family probably won't come and after hearing my grandmother over the phone brag about how my younger cousin, YC, is going to be graduating soon and is gushing about all her college plans after my mom mentioned about my graduation and how I have high hopes for my family to be there, I felt a little bitter.

Just an FYI, if this story sounds familiar, I did post it on a different subreddit about 2 years ago, but with my old account.

This is a sore topic for me and, I'll admit, I got a little salty and it's possible I might be the one coming off as entitled in this story. My grandmother on my mom's side has always treated her sister, AKA my aunt's children and their children better and I feel like I lost one of my main supporters that kept me going through the hardest of times. For example, I started noticing when I was a kid at Christmas my grandmother would either get me and my siblings bath baskets with soaps I was allergic or discount clothes from Walmart. I didn't mind, my parents often bought me Walmart clothes and I normally gave the bath stuff away to my older sister who loves those things, but my cousins would always get expensive clothes from Rue21 or Bath and Body Works types of soaps which I'm ironically not allergic to, or at least not any I've found yet. As I got older, the differences got more apparent, nothing I ever did was good enough. And, if I did manage something good, I was compared to my cousin and how she did something similar to that, but "better".

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[Mortensen] Kyle Shanahan had success with Matt Ryan and he and Mike Shanahan had a love for Kirk Cousins. Agree with Simms here. I see @MacJones_10 as the 49ers' pick and @treylance09 as the fallback. That is mocking Trevor Lawrence and Zach Wilson as the first two picks. twitter.com/mortreport/st…
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Something fun! First generation Japanese (Issei) diving into some genealogical research, after several months of having my cousins in Japan run around checking different family cemeteries, we’ve finally found the Kamon that I am entitled to claim! Going to integrate it into my CoA 😇
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AITA for asking if my cousin made her first million yet?

Hello friends, I'm from the future. Throwaway, yada yada.

Well, technically we're a few hours away from 2021. So advanced happy new year.

I'm currently outside on our terrace while my family is gathered in the livingroom after having asked me to step outside for a bit, because apparently I've ruined the mood. I'm turning to you guys to ask if I'm the asshole for what I just did.

Family from all over the city has gathered to celebrate the new years. Covid is thankfully low in my city and we've taken the necessary precautions.

As is typical of Asian family reunions, the old people in the family love to 'check up' on their nieces and nephews. One of my aunt's A, loves to show off her kids' achievements, particularly her daughter Pat.

While listing off her daughter's achievements (passing the bar, recently getting married to a fellow lawyer), my aunt turned to me and asked what I've achieved in 2020.

She began to list off all my lack of achievements, like how I'm thirty and still unmarred (I'm a dude, if that matters), about how I'm still living at home with my parents and how I'm still driving my shitty 2000-something civic. My other cousins joined in on the jeering and listed all the other failed aspects of my life.

Now, I graduated with a degree in architecture, but after multiple attempts just can't seem to pass the exam. This has been a point of contention in the family because my other cousins are lawyers, teachers, etc, whatever. These days I basically work freelance from home.

I don't know why, but my aunt's condescending voice got to me and I said "I made my first million this year. Has Pat made her first million yet?" Then turning to my cousins I asked the same, "You guys made your first million yet? Because I have."

The room fell silent. I basically killed the mood. My dad asked me to go outside and relax because apparently I might have just ruined everyone's new year celebration.

Was I an asshole?

P.S. First million in our local currency not USD.

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Would have been interesting if The Cousins went with the first look
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If we did a 2012 re-draft, would you draft Ryan Tannehill or Kirk Cousins first?

Lets say we were doing a re-draft of the 2012 draft class.

Cousins and Tannehill have been two franchise/borderline franchise QBs. Who would you pick first knowing what you know about them?

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[Adam Schefter] Duke CB Mark Gilbert, cousin of Darrelle Revis, ran a 4.36 today at his Pro Day today. Gilbert was considered a potential first-round pick two years ago, when he was originally draft eligible, before he suffered back-to-back injuries. But he’s now officially healthy. twitter.com/adamschefter/…
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In season 2 episode 2 of "Ducktales (2017)", when Huey and Dewey meet Cousin Fethry for the first time, he is holding a sponge in a glass. Fethry is voiced by Tom Kenny, the voice of Spongebob Squarepants.
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[Schefter] Duke CB Mark Gilbert, cousin of Darrelle Revis, ran a 4.36 today at his Pro Day today. Gilbert was considered a potential first-round pick two years ago, when he was originally draft eligible, before he suffered back-to-back injuries. But he’s now officially healthy. Www.twitter.com/AdamSchef…
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Had a High Tea themed night for the UK Finale with my cousin (it's her first season) reddit.com/gallery/m8b0xh
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[FO] First commissioned piece, made for my cousin! Also first time using a kit, they gave me much more floss than was needed which was always my concern with kits! Scandinavian Meadow pattern and kit from Diana Watters Handmade on Etsy.
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My little cousins first build. I told him you have the wrong ram. He said "how you know?"
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Over a decade after seeing the show for the first time and I finally understand that “George Michael’s cousin, Maeby” was a play on...

“George Michael’s cousin (maybe).”

Mind. Blown.

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Marrying your first cousin

The desi people here will understand. Are first cousins off-limits? Or is it permissible to marry them? Please let me know your opinions and if you have any hadiths which support your opinion, please do provide those.

A bit of context: two first cousins 24F and 31M. Half their life the entire family(khandan) would tell them to get married. Boy's family does not budge and get him married to their friend's daughter but gets divorced in 6 months. Now boy thinks ok I think I should get married to the cousin. His family is a bit hesitant but boy is adamant. The extended family is also supporting him. The girl cousin thinks she is being treated as a last resort and this is just settlement, not marriage. She did not even like him in the first place. She is being asked again and again inspite her answer being no. I want to help her. Thank you guys for your replies.

Edit: Thank you everyone for commenting on here and providing some insight on the situation. I will definitely show this post to my cousin to increase her confidence and stay firm on her decision.

Some said cousin marriages are not haram and yes I agree. So many first cousins in my family are happily married alhamdulillah. I should have posted about my cousin being forced first. Since they are first cousins and the debate about this is going on in my family thats why I posted that. Cousins or not, the main thing is she does not want to go ahead.

Again, thank you all for your comments. JazakAllah khair 😊

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My cousin let me try on the gear for the first time while I’m in fire school. It’s all online rn so it’s nice to get hands on. So freaking cool, I’m still smiling! reddit.com/gallery/mbte22
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Bowzer lived with my cousin for 14 months while I was deployed and another 5 after I came home. I finally found a apartment that will let me have my boy and last night was his first night back with me.
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[Highlight] On this day in 2015, Kirk Cousins capped off a 64 yard drive by accidentally taking a knee at Philadelphia's 7 yard line instead of spiking the ball, ending the first half streamable.com/01gvlz
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New concept! This is a complet redesign of my first concept, made 1 year ago, and I’m very proud how this turned out! He’s a distant cousin related to Mancake, and a very good consumer at the ButterBarn! Hope you like him as much as I do!
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These two geniuses look like they met on a dating site that ONLY matches you with your first cousin.
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Out hill walking when we found some clay pigeons I assume someone missed, My cousin bet he could hit one with a rock first try and this was the outcome. v.redd.it/p7ct77u57ln61
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Got my cousin off fortnite for an hour. Got a cheap lews setup. Give him one lesson on how to cast it and I noticed something go for the lure. Gave him the rod and he casted back to the same spot. First rod. First cast. First fish. It's nice to see a smile on little dude. Proud of him
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WAW for “first cousin once removed” that isn’t such a mouthful? Are there better ones in other languages?

I’m perplexed about how to describe my cousin’s kids because the technical term in English is so clunky. Are there better ones in other languages?

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I don’t collect basketball cards, never really did. This guy happens to be my cousin and we were all and still very proud of him so I wanted to share my favs with the group. Draft class of 1992 First Round Pick # 6 th chosen by Washington Bullets. That was some draft class! Enjoy
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Raised by my Cree mom, never met my white dad. Didn’t know what “kind” of white I was until now. I’m trying to find him. I did come across a first cousin on that side, waiting to hear back. Any tips? Are there other DNA kits I should try that might be more helpful than Ancestry?
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This is my first time experiencing Silent Hill, I have only played Downpour(which I loved) and I remember my cousins playing The Room. Would this be a good series to stream?
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Out hill walking when we found some clay pigeons I assume someone missed, My cousin bet he could hit one with a rock first try and this was the outcome. v.redd.it/e059p0w7zhn61
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Eggo on his first trail walk with his 11 year old cousin Cooper! reddit.com/gallery/m7dwxy
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Out hill walking when we found some clay pigeons I assume someone missed, My cousin bet he could hit one with a rock first try and this was the outcome. v.redd.it/avwbaqpjzhn61
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My Tio and Cousin provided free meals to those in need yesterday in the Houston/League City area. So proud of these guys, this also the first time they fired up the 2nd smoker i built for them. Check them out on Facebook.
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Me and my cousin just beat minecraft for the first time ever! v.redd.it/q611j5ga82o61
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Family Reddit, I may be late to the party but I had no idea Robyn’s ex husband is Christine’s first cousin. 🤯
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Out hill walking when we found some clay pigeons I assume someone missed, My cousin bet he could hit one with a rock first try and this was the outcome. v.redd.it/k58e1lwpsgn61
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Guy defends first cousin marriages (which double the risk of birth defects) because Allah said it was okay
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Out hill walking when we found some clay pigeons I assume someone missed, My cousin bet he could hit one with a rock first try and this was the outcome. v.redd.it/uyhx2uhuzhn61
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The other day I went to my cousins house, and she did my makeup for the first time and handed some of her clothes. I had never been happier in my life. I'm still discovering myself, but this feels so good. reddit.com/gallery/kymb29
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my first ever squish find!!! had to snag a few for me and my cousin 🤗 reddit.com/gallery/mhghys
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Ksoo🔒 Scotty 33🔒 Lil Nine 🕊 Juju And Cho Are All First Cousins reddit.com/gallery/mdecs7
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In just a week I’ve taught my cousins Aussie 6 new fun commands (spin, twirl, high five, shake, weave, touch, and working on through which is not in this video). It’s been so fun and my first time teaching most of these. v.redd.it/o2c0mid38yh61
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Fun Fact: Taylor Heinicke (28) is older than Kirk Cousins(27) was in his first year as full time starter.

Kirk was a 4 year college starter and didn’t become an NFL starter until his fourth season. Sometimes I get the impression that people think Heinicke is some young kid lol

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First time playing bf2 with my 9 year old cousin. v.redd.it/g9kdg05sieq61
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Started watching disc golf on YouTube 2 years ago. Never played though. Found out my cousin plays a lot. He’s going to take me out for my first round on Saturday. This is my second time throwing in preparation. Grouping was about 230 feet. Excited about Saturday. reddit.com/gallery/lxrggw
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Is it possible to share 12.6% DNA with a first cousin once removed?

Hey! Sorry if this isn't the right place for this.

I know this is a stupid question, but I wanted to ask an actual scientist. I did a 23andme test about a year ago and so did both of my parents. A relative recently showed up sharing 12.6% dna with me and a little more than 25% dna with my mother. My mother swears up and down this person is her first cousin. Is this possible? 23andme says this person is my half aunt and my mother's half sister.

Either what my mom says is true and this is some weird mix up, or my grandpa had a child with his brother's wife.

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Same clips with my cousin and got my first blizzard flip down some stairs. v.redd.it/bomufvfa2pe61
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Birthday Collab, gift for my cousin. Please put your online code. Sorry if its not the best, this is my first collab
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Joey could say his first date after the divorce was going well by how much she was playing hard to get, like all women do when they really want you. Kitty, on the other paw, was mentally promising herself to never again accept the blind dates her cousin Melinda set her up with v.redd.it/79kjtlbq4mf61
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I found out what my name would have been if I’d been born a boy but I can’t use it because first and middle name are my cousins so... Any suggestions? reddit.com/gallery/mi6ime
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