It's woman. The word you're trying to use is "woman", "lady" or hell, even "girl". Unless you're a fucking a scientist writing a research paper or narrating for a fucking nature show. Just say woman.
If you can say man, you can say woman. Everytime I see guys use "female" in conversation or a post, my thoughts immediately turn to them being an incel/niceguy complex. I've heard the "reasons" why "female" is used and I'll let you know it's fucking bullshit.
We are not a different fucking species. Jfc.
Edit: I should have added that in medical settings I think it is completely fine. In any matter pertaining to science/medicine/research is not a problem. This post is mostly about casual conversation and regular posts.
Edit 2: Happy New Year everyone! One last edit to clarify a bit more. This post is a rant. Plain and simple. I do not expect much to change after today, and no, I don't consider this the biggest issue on the list of world problems facing women Lol
I hope you all have a great, safe, and healthy 2021!
I'm tired of seeing guys on Reddit and Quora and in real life, stating things like, "Well if that woman would have just gotten an IUD" when she had an unplanned pregnancy, or "They need to provide free IUD's and better education" in countries where many poor people have pregnancies..
Firstly- poor people should be allowed to have babies too.
Secondly-- yes, I support the idea of education and free IUD's and birth control-- but female BC is not just some super easy thing and there is a problem of this being pushed on people. It's not fair to push the problem of systemic poverty and population control solely onto women by pushing them to take the pill and get IUDs. Plus we are constantly told that IUD's and birth control pills are super easy and painless and have no side effects-- and this is a lie. We need honestly from our doctors. Many women have some kind of side effect to birth control pills and this information is still skewed and dishonest. It's so hard to find research regarding mental health and birth control pills. Some studies suggest birth control is strongly correlated to depression, but even with this information, people never want to acknowledge it. They just want to keep women in charge of birth control and not support men's right to birth control. Hey, why aren't there MRA's out there fighting for more male birth control options? hmmm.. I wonder...
Also- IUD's aren't just like, wha bam, super easy breezy. Some women say they barely felt it, but many women say that insertion was extremely painful, some say even the most painful thing they've ever experienced.
I'm tried of the burden of birth control being forced only on women. We need to share this burden with men. Women tend to keep their struggles and pain regarding their female body parts, including trans women who get monthly cramps and PMS type symptoms from hormones. So when we get all these side effects we usually keep it to ourselves and collectively so. We are told our complaints are nothing. We tell our doctors and they shrug in our faces.
You can read here of women complaining about IUD insertion. What's even more sad is we are told pain is so rare and unusual, so they don't even regularly give the pill suppository to soften the cervix the day before, to make insertion easier. They should obviously give it to everyone: [https://www.reddit.com/r/endometriosis/comments/kf4ejh/is_mirena_iud_removal_as_painful_as_insertion/](https://www.reddit.com/r/endometriosis/comments/... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m just searching for a solid voice of strength, with a lot of distracting fiction in the background. Something that will keep me entertained and wanting to keep reading (action/war/magic/twists and turns) but also contains calming reason and emotionally settling words. I hope that makes sense. Thank you.
Edit: I type this with golden tears in my eyes. I am filled with gratitude from all of your recommendations. The days since I lost my best friend have been cloudy and long but I have been embraced by so many internet strangers that the hurt has subsided a little. Thank you all so very much.
Fuck! Just let me be excited!
I get it, you don't like her policy or whatever and you think you're so noble for not liking her "not just because she is a woman".
Whatever! You have NO IDEA what it is like to go an entire lifetime without ever seeing a woman in such a position of power! It's exciting! That gives me hope that maybe me or my daughters could maybe become president! Before this it was always just some unreachable goal. We always knew we "technically" could do it. BUT IT HASNT BEEN DONE!! SO FUCK YEAH! THIS IS GREAT!
"You shouldn't only like someone because of their gender". Of course some fucking dude would say that to me. I'm not even happy about her, I'm happy about the door this opens up!
EDIT: OMG thanks for all the awards and upvotes, I did not expect this to blow up so much. So many amazing responses and comments! You all are amazing!!
So I used to work as a security officer, and I was damn good at my job especially since being viewed as female its a struggle to be taken seriously in a job that is considered by society to be a "mans" job.
Anyway. The story
I was gate guard for a an outdoor public owned entertainment area, i was there to keep random people from parking blocking the entrance and to let the trucks on her were bringing stages ect for a huge event.
While waiting there a man walks past taking his young son to daycare. Kid was 3 or 4. He was in the process of explaining to his son that boys don't cry only girls do. He sees me and wants me to tell his son the same.
I instead tell the son something like, boys can cry to too, only really strong men and boys cry, its weak men that think only girls do. If you cry iys because you are a strong boy.
Well the dad went red in the face, hurried to the daycare down the road them came back to yell at me.
I turned around and pointed out, im a female in the role of a male. Im doing a "mans" job. That he is a chauvinist pig to teach his son such toxic masculinity.
He responded with, well im french and that is our culture.
I replied this is new Zealand and its not our culture.
Tdlr: ED wants female security guard to reinforce toxic masculinity to tolder son and doesn't like the response.