First, I don't care if you sell nudes but I have a problem calling it female empowerment, you are not doing this for a greater cause, you just want easy money without somebody judging you for it. And to be honest I judge too, I would never date a girl posting nudes of herself on the Internet. Also calling it Female Empowerment is very disrespectful to all the people in the world who fight for real issues like the lack of girl's education rights. Just because you are getting called a whore for your OnlyFans doesn't mean you're the next Malala Yousafzai.
EDIT: Right, so I've been at it on and off for like 12hrs at this point. Gonna call it a wrap for the night. Thanks for the awesome conversation, thanks for the awards, thanks to the mods for all their (ongoing) hard work keeping this thread clean, and thanks to those who shifted my view. If you're looking to get in on the discussion I'd recommend jumping in on an existing chain rather than leaving a top level comment, as I'm pretty swamped and can't promise a reply. Also if you think I'm a racist or a sexist I'd love to hear some specifics on why you think that! Got a lot of accusations along those lines but they were invariably short on the details when asked. I'll try to get back in the AM. Thanks all!
So not a lot of dog in this fight, I'm not a huge hiphop (or rap) fan these days and what I do listen to is fairly underground - far from the poppy variant of this song. I just became aware of this debate and thought I'd chime in with my view here.
I'd also add a large part of... keep reading on reddit ➡
The year is 2028 and the United States has elected the first woman as well as the first Jewish president, Sarah Goldstein.
She calls up her mother a few weeks after Election Day and says, "So, Mom, I assume you'll be coming to my inauguration?"
"I don't think so. It's a ten-hour drive, your father isn't as young as he used to be, and my arthritis is acting up again."
"Don't worry about it, Mom, I'll send Air Force One to pick you up and take you home. And a limousine will pick you up at your door."
"I don't know. Everybody will be so fancy-schmantzy; what on earth would I wear?
Sarah replies, "I'll make sure you have a wonderful gown, custom-made by the best designer in New York."
"Honey," Mom complains, "you know I can't eat those rich foods you and your friends like to eat."
The President-to-be responds, "Don't worry Mom. The entire affair is going to be handled by the best caterer in New York; kosher all the way Mom, I really want you to come."
So Mom reluctantly agrees and... keep reading on reddit ➡
Don’t get me wrong, I (21/f) support women loving their bodies and accepting flaws. But what about the men? Where is all this support for men that don’t fit the stereotypes of what a “real man” looks like? So many women I know support body positivity but will make fun of a man for his penis size openly and It makes my blood boil. The hypocrisy is so upsetting. Men are humans too, with emotions and insecurities and we should be validating their natural bodies as well.
Edit: essentially don’t be an ass about people’s bodies? Feel like it’s not that hard y’all.
Edit 2: if you haven’t encountered this in your friend groups, thats good! Keep in mind I am in my early 20s and as such, have many friends around the same age and have repeatedly witnessed a lot of crude and hurtful comments directed at previous sexual partners. I would hope that matured adults no longer talk like this. I really want the basis of body shaming to be addressed though and this idea that some bodies are less than ot... keep reading on reddit ➡
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The original post has been removed and I’m not sure why, I didn’t have any messages about it. The TLDR is I have a friend, Kate, and I wanted her to be my best man. My fiancée disapproved and we got into a fight about it.
My fiancée and I ended up making up and reconciling a few days later. We were talking compromises and it was still a touchy subject but I thought it was going good and we’d recover. I wish I could leave it at that.
She’s now my ex-fiancée. A little over two weeks after our fight a friend of Jas contacted me. She told me Jasmin had been venting to her friends over the Kate situation and she couldn’t keep quiet any longer because it wasn’t fair to me. This friend sent me messages between Jasmin and them where Jasmin is essentially talking about not trusting me and Kate and saying some prett... keep reading on reddit ➡
Seriously wtf is up with that. Just write "I'm 24f and my dad (48m) something something". This is so confusing. Every single time I have to go back and reread the sentence.
Edit: 1 - Whoa, thanks for all the awards and fake internet points <3
2 - To all the people saying this isn't unpopular: I think I've been called an idiot by enough people to warrant this as unpopular.
3 - To all those calling me an idiot and saying I can't read: I hope you drop your phone in the toilet. Doesn't hurt to not be a cunt.
My girlfriend of a year (Anna) and I are basically testing out living together. Overall things are pretty great, but as we’ve gotten more comfortable and more serious with each other we have one issue that has become a huge sticking point, and after a major disagreement over it and lots of words on both sides, I’m curious who was the asshole in the argument.
So I have three brothers and when we were at home, it was always normal that if we got heated or frustrated with each other that we’d let off steam and not have to bury our aggression, same with our parents. It’s not like we were constantly screaming at each other, just that raising our voices wasn’t a big deal and wasn’t something to get punished over, they figured that with four boys it was normal we’d be loud and argumentative sometimes. Obviously we knew not to raise our voices at school or at our jobs when we were old enough, but at our home base it was ok to be guys and not have to stifle ourselves. I think it’s pretty norm... keep reading on reddit ➡
I just found this sub and this is just the craziest story from right before schools shut down before coronavirus that I wanted to share....
Basically there was a little girl in my son’s class (5th graders- 11 years old) who would say my son was bullying her. At first we believed the teachers/her and would discipline him at home but his story was always consistent that he wasn’t doing it and then he started gathering witnesses who confirmed that he was not bullying her and there were never people corroborating her stories. The stories also just frankly didn’t sound like him or anything he’d do. Kids also said she was bullying him and other kids by pushing them. We also learned that she had put a “love note” in his backpack and he didn’t notice it and left it crumbled there for months without being addressed- it was right around the time she sent it that the accusations of bullying started.
You would think that this story would end with just a few calls to the principal and parent... keep reading on reddit ➡
"the term [sexual harassment] is growing more and more broad and it's not just 'don't inappropriately touch people'. If you made some awkward joke and someone took it a certain way that can be just as liable. If you are perceived to be looking in a certain way at a certain angle, it could be liable... But I don't think the answer here is 'stop interacting with people"'.
["There's only 16 women in the company total? Out over over 200? That would blow my mind a bit if true. Who the fuck are the dogshit brains running these companies? The letter was originally from 2018, they have t
The title is pretty self explanatory but I will give more insight into the particular situation. So my boyfriend likes to play golf and because of the quarantine he hasn’t been able to. He was telling me yesterday that the golf courts are now open and he is going there next week. Then randomly he says that he told that to a friend (a friend that I have never heard about, by the way) and that she is joining him to drive the cart (she doesn’t play). No one else is going. Me and my boyfriend aren’t currently in the same country so I can’t go with him. I don’t feel comfortable with this but I don’t know wether or not I am being overly jealous and I am afraid that he might picture me as controlling if I ask him to invite someone else or not to go with her. Do you think my worries are legitimate? What should I do?
First of all, thank you so much for all of your advices, opinions and good wishes, I had never expected to have more than 2 or 3 replies so alm... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throwaway because my usual account easily identifies me.
I just learned that I earn 30k more pa than the rest of my colleagues on the same team. We're meant to be on the same level but when I took my job I negotiated a higher pay. I know I'm on the maximum for my band but I didn't realise that everyone else was so much lower.
I do the same amount of work/have the same amount of experience as my colleagues. The real kicker, and what's been really bothering me the last week, is that I'm the only guy in my team. The other three are all women. Don't know what to do. Should I keep my head down and keep about my business? Or should I say something to someone and risk kicking the hornet's nest?
Edit: A lot of posts have been asking how I know what their salary is. One of my colleagues was talking about getting a mortgage and was pretty open about what she earns after tax. My other colleagues also indicated that's what they earn when giving her advice about getting a mortgage. Even account... keep reading on reddit ➡
After discovering a surprising but welcome Spirit Blossom Vayne's splashart, I was wondering how many female (human) champions were showing off their feet in their skins, be it bare or in sandals, and I ended up making a list of all of these after searching through in-game models. Since in-game models do not always strictly follow the skins' splash arts, I also took the time to look up splash arts to make a similar list.
As a disclaimer, Kindred, Xayah and Zyra are barefoot in their base skins (though Zyra does have some kind of heel) but they do not have human feet. Monsters, Yordles as well as child (or child looking) champions are not included for obvious reasons.
Lo and behold, the real treasures of League of Legends :
Barefoot champions and skins
Hey guys. I've seen many posts here saying something like, "Men have no problems, they make all the problems", or something like, "The truth is that you women/girls have it easy, and yet you aren't thankful". And here's something I would like to say:
STOP IT. STOP IT, ALL OF YOU! STOP MAKING THIS A COMPETITION ABOUT WHICH GENDER HAS IT EASY AND SHOULD SHUT UP.
This isn't like that. We shouldn't play this 'blame game'.
Yes, some men rape. Some women do too. That doesn't mean all men rape and are disgusting.
Yes, some women play with feelings. Some men do too. That doesn't mean all women play with hearts and manipulate them like puppets.
No one gender has it easy. Life is hard. There's no higher likelihood of crime because you're a guy. There's no higher likelihood of cheating because you're a girl.
Stop this. It's time we actually acknowledge that both sides have problems. It's time we actually stop this stupid and unnecessary 'competing'.
Alright. If you're here, thanks for read... keep reading on reddit ➡
Watched the trailer for the new ghostbusters movie and ended up having a long conversation with my wife (during which we confirmed we both agree) about the Ghostbusters reboot and why it was crap. We ended up talking about the slippery slope of “nobody gave it a chance because...” and drew parallels to the recent female versus male sports pay issue. At the end, we just agreed the movie was crap because crap is crap is crap is crap. Not girl comedians bad boy comedians good. Although, they didn’t do themselves any favors trying to emulate the originals. The new movie coming out with a genuine storyline actually has a shot.
Listen. I love creating my own characters, many of whom happen to be female, all different from each other in their unique ways. I love seeing my gender represented in media, be it games, popular franchises or other things. I love it when we get well-written and interesting female characters that are organically woven into their world. I love Leia in the OT—even though she did suffer from the "damsel in distress" trope somewhat, she was also capable, ready to get her hands dirty, smart, funny, tough, emotional and vulnerable (not to mention she's literally a feminist icon because she really pioneered the idea that women could be action characters too). I love how Mon Mothma led the Rebel Alliance through trust and respect. I love how Padme was a brilliant politician who always saw the best in people and inspired them through kindness and compassion. The Clone Wars in particular is filled to the brim with awesome female characters like Ahsoka, Asajj Ventress, Luminara Unduli, Barris Off... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throwaway account, English is not my first language, I’m on mobile - I apologise.
I (27F) have been married with my husband (M32) for three years and haven been dating for a little over 5. My husband has this friend (F31) ‘Mary’. They’ve known each other since they were in high school and she’s considered ‘one of the boys’, if you may. That basically means she’s always invited to all the fishing trips and stuff, which I don’t mind at all, I trust my husband.
Well, my problems with Mary started when she first found out I’m half Romanian. It started kinda innocently, with her asking me to say certain words, teach her some insults etc which didn’t necessarily bother me, but it usually put me on the spot whenever we were out with my husband’s group of friends. It only escalated to her googling stuff about Romania and asking me ‘are you a vampire? do you bite your husband by the neck?’ to ‘are you a gypsy? I bet you’ve got some of that gypsy blood in you’ (which is just blatantly raci... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’ve met my soulmate. He’s amazing, I’m crazy in love.. But the closer we get to marriage and children, the more resentful I become. I’m sad and resentful, at no one and everyone, and I’m struggling with how to come to terms with it.
He’s white, I’m Korean. We’ve talked about race on multiple occasions. He’s even brought it up by asking what it was like to live in the US as an Asian female. He listened to my experience and asked a lot of questions. He’s the first non-minority I’ve ever dated who has made me feel heard and understood. He also has a million other wonderful traits, I love him very much and I’m so excited to have found the person I want to share my life with.
However, the more serious we get, the more frequently I experience episodes of anxiety about identity. I’m a Korean female adopted into a white family. My parents are white, my siblings are white, my extended family is white, my adorable little nieces and nephews are white, and I am almost always the only Asian per... keep reading on reddit ➡
I've had a low libido in general, which has dropped even more recently because of my struggles with metal health and resultant medication. My struggle with depression has also caused some erectile disfunction and an inability to cum on occasion. My partner is kind, generous, understanding and extremely supportive but I know this is frustrating for her as she has a much higher libido than me. We have a pleasurable sex life with plenty of foreplay and lots of laughter and fun during sex. But because of my lower libido, inability to maintain an erection and feeling like I'm letting down my partner, I'm struggling with my feelings of self worth and masculinity because...well because this makes me feel like less of a man.
EDIT: appreciate all the support and advice guys. Thought I'd address a couple recurring points that have come up in the comments.
I am an attorney at a small law firm with 2 assistants, Amy and Kate. Amy dresses in business attire, appropriate for a law office. Occasionally, she might wear jeans, which isn't against the dress code I wrote when I opened my firm, as I never wanted an employee to feel forced into getting dressed up if they were have a rough morning.
When I hired Kate in April, she never had an office job but always dressed appropriately for work every day for the first couple of months. Over the last 6 weeks, her attire has gradually grown into a shirt and jeans almost everyday. When she arrives at the office, she puts on her makeup for 20-30 minutes. Occasionally, she will skip makeup entirely.
I was a little concerned since Kate is the first person people see when the walk in the door to our office. I let the appearance issues slide since I'm a man, and I don't know if I should comment on a woman's physical appearance and, technically, she's not in violation of any of my firm's dress code requir... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (21M) have made the decision to go to therapy. I have many issues I need to sort out. This pleased my sister (24F) cos she's been to therapy and talked about so many benefits to it.
So I have many issues I want to sort out. But I want two distinct factors in my therapist:
I want a male therapist
I want an older male, someone over 50
This is because one of my issues I want to sort is my own issues with my masculinity - what it means to be a man in today's world. I also have "daddy issues" that I need to sort and would feel more comfortable with an older male, rather than someone my own age.
Anyway when I said this my sister said I was an AH and sexist. However she specifically sought out a female therapist so idk why she is having these double standards. AITA?