I know that airports are traditionally hated by everyone for the constant rush and anxiety, but for me, I love them. The feeling of sitting in a seat (especially at night) watching so much happen around me reminds me how small I am in relation to the rest of the world, and I love this feeling so much. Does anyone else feel like this in airports?
Why YSK: The world can be a lonely place. Many people are desperate to find somewhere to belong, and this desperation is often taken advantage of by groups that either have an ulterior motive or just relish fucking shit up. They do this by claiming feeling shitty about yourself is just what life is, and that anyone who doesn't believe that is fake or delusional, effectively sowing the seeds for further isolation from people you might have formed a genuine connection with.
Bad emotions are part of the human experience, and it's important to acknowledge that it's okay to feel shitty sometimes (and conditions such as depression are very real), but you're not going to be any happier unless you allow yourself to change. And yeah, change is scary. But it's better than cyclical doom.
I'll end this by sending internet hugs to each and every one of you who need one. Take care of yourselves.
Edit: Aw, shucks. You honour me. Thank you for the 'thank you's, the shiny awards, and for checking in on my wellbeing (I'm okay). To those wondering - I am not referring to any group in particular, but if you're in one that seems to fit the bill, perhaps you'll find some help here. To those commenting "no shit" and the like - I'm glad you've got things figured out. Not everyone does.
It was funny at first, even seeing whole subreddit dedicated to it but now I feel like it’s gotten to the point that Forever 21 is about to roll out a line of clothing called Shut up, Karen or something like that.
Edit: Thank you for the awards guys! Too kind. Hopefully more people see this thread and we can officially start to bury the beaten horse.
What should i do?
Despite having many supportive friends and my family who I care about, I cant shake off this sense that not having a girlfriend/partner means that I dont really have anyone. I know rationally it doesnt make sense. I have many close friends and I can pretty much find at least one person at a given time to share anything which is bothering me, my fears etc. How do I get rid of this feeling?
Edit: Thanks to everyone who commented giving their outlook and sent positive vibes. Happy New Year to all of you
Note: From the discussion below, I realise it may be more appropriate to say reframe rather than revise the story.
Why YSK: There’s significant evidence that story editing can improve mood, reduce depressive symptoms, help you find clarity and achieve closure on upsetting experiences. Having studied the research on mental health and tried many approaches myself, I always come back to story editing. It’s accessible, works for problems big and small, gets your mind unstuck, you name it.
TECHNIQUES: You can do a sort of brain dump, where you write without stopping or censoring yourself for 15 min (a form of the expressive writing pioneered by James Pennebaker). Another effective way is to write about an upsetting event from a third-person’s perspective ( a form of self-distancing).
If you think about it, it makes sense - we are storytelling creatures, after all. Sometimes the stories we tell get us into trouble and the way out is to learn to take control and not get frozen in bad stories.
EDIT: Wow, this sort of exploded. I did not expect such a wide-ranging conversation. Thank you everyone for having such a deep, exhilarating and wide-ranging discussion with me. That's what I love most about Reddit!
I hate having this and I'd like to hear how others have overcome this.