I am a skinny person(90lbs) and I've been body shamed all my life for being so skinny. Eventhough health wise everything is alright. I have felt im gaining unwanted attention from people rather than fat people for being skinny. It has started affecting my self esteem that i only wear fully covered baggy clothes now. From been bullied at school to being called names like 'hanger','slenderman','pencil stick' etc. And getting comments like 'dont u have food in ur home', 'are u homeless 'etc . Whereas for fat people they are often viewed as rude to say things like that. Why is skinny shaming considered only a joke!???
Im sorry if i hurt anybody with my post. I didn't mean to hurt anyone.
I’m not sure why the glorification of being overweight became a trend. Obviously there is no reason to be rude towards someone due to their weight. Yet, allowing someone to believe that their weight isn’t a problem just because they’re comfortable being fat is straight absurd.
Edit: No I do not recommend telling a complete stranger this. That is just rude and you know nothing about them. However, when talking to a friend, or a family member you should mention the importance of dropping some weight. Unless, you want to help them die indirectly by supporting their habit then remain silent. The hypocriticalness in this comment section is comical. You would not hesitate to tell a alcoholic, anorexic, bulimic, or crackhead (etc.) they have a problem but somehow find it hard to comment on someone’s problematic weight? It doesn’t make sense.
I'm a fat guy. I wasn't always fat, but I am now, and it sucks. Whether I'm beautiful or not is entirely beside the point. I'm not healthy, and I'm not happy about it.
I don't encourage eating disorders, and I know that obesity doesn't subtract from my worth. I don't hang my head in shame at my weight. I know I'm a good person, and this extra weight can never change that. I have many obese people in my life who I love, and I don't plan to ever change that either.
What I do want to change is the state of my health. I don't need to be Channing Tatum, and I have no expectation to be, but I'm sick of being sick and tired of being tired. I want to go on hikes again where I don't run out of energy 30 minutes in and put pressure on my knees that will quickly destroy them. I want to be able to move and even do basic tasks with full energy like I used to. I want a body that won't quickly degrade with health problems as I age.
I don't care if I'm beautiful as I am. I'm not healthy. I'm not as happy as I could be. I don't need assurance that I'm fine as I am, I need better habits, and I appreciate encouragement to improve over affirmation that I'm beautiful as is.
In my household, we eat a LOT of yoghurt. In marinades, to thicken curries, in baking, with granola... You name it. So much so, that my husband and I switched to 0% fat in to reduce our fat intake without jeopardising the recipes we love too much.
We've done this for years that we haven't really though much of it and enjoyed many dishes with yoghurt since.
We recently bought some full fat Greek yoghurt as we are introducing it to our baby. We bought a large pot as we thought it would be nice to treat ourselves too seeing as we need it for the little one anyway.
Hot damn. It's only plain yoghurt but it tastes so ridiculously decadent and creamy. We'd forgotten what we had been missing and I feel like I have been cheating my taste buds for so long.
Already made my best butter chicken in years and today, I had the most delicious granola, fruit and yoghurt for breakfast.
I'm not looking forward to when we use whole milk over our semi skimmed. It will be the cups of tea from my childhood and I won't want to look back.
Any of you have anything similar where you've had a "reduced x" version of something for so long and then realised the error of your ways when returning to the good stuff?
There was an updated line of dialogue from OG Gambit that I heard the other day that went along the lines of; “The Vex have consolidated their subtypes, you must be kicking the crap out of them!” Before it used to say “strengthened their subtypes” meaning making the ones they already have stronger, however this new line suggests change, which is the Wyverns. Since The Vex can not simulate paracausality, it is impossible for them to simulate a perfect outcome against Light-Bearers or Darkness-Bearers. However over the past couple years they got a strong message from us that their current frames were not nearly enough to triumph against us, even after upgrades. However, since we have been fighting The Vex for so long they have nearly unlimited data about our fighting styles, aka ape with a shotgun. Thus they created the Wyvern, essentially an Anti-Guardian Vex frame, and after playing Grandmaster Glassway I gotta say, GOD DAM THOSE THINGS ARE EFFECTIVE. I wonder if after seeing the efficiency of these frames if they will continue to develop more Anti-Guardian Vex, a scary thought fighting something that makes a Wyvern seems like a Goblin.
Edit: This is NOT correct, this was pointed out to me within 5 minutes of this post going up. So yes, I know it’s wrong, but I’m not changing it because I like the conversations that it is sparking.
Some posts here that are literally not unpopular at all:
I’m actually disgusted going through and reading all of these. Everyone goes their whole lives being told that being/becoming fat is the worst possible thing you could be, that it makes you gross and unlovable, etc. Fat people are paid less, they’re turned away from opportunities, they’re consistently misdiagnosed, and they live in a world where everyone sees them as nothing but a ‘lazy’, ‘greedy’ person.
We know for a fact that fat-shaming has the opposite effect than intended. It makes people MORE likely to gain weight. If you actually cared about people’s ‘health’, you would know this. You would stop spreading negativity when people need positive reinforcement, access to resources, and support. You all just want to stay up on your high horse thinking you’re morally superior for being thin.
Body positivity is vital in providing positive change.
Edit: this has gained some traction. I HIGHLY recommend, regardless of your opinion, you read Hunger by Roxane Gay. It’s beautiful and sad and an amazing look into trauma, experiencing life in a fat body, and the ways both influence her every day. Your Fat Friend (@yrfatfriend on Instagram) also has some really good articles on many topics surrounding fatness that are worth reading!! (She has also just released a book What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat that I haven’t read yet).
Throwaway for obvious reasons, also on mobile.
I(F24) am part of a small group of close friends and we all know eachother from school. Max(F24) was also part of our group but she kinda lost touch with us after high school beacuse she moved away. She moved back two years ago, happened to meet up with some of us and pretty much became part of the group again.
Max has gained some significant weight since coming home. This didn't really seem to affect her so neither i nor the rest of our friends made a deal about it since it's a very personal topic.
Slowly though, Max started becoming oversensitive to almost everything. I order a salad? I'm holding on to some archaic stereotype that women need to watch what they eat. We see someone working out? Victim of fat-shaming that can't handle the pressure and falls into society's trap. Someone of thin/average built complains about something in their appearance? Nope, super offensive and insensitive because they don't know what it's like to truly be victimazed and shouldn't complain.
This has been building up for the pasr year and only got worse during Covid. We were on a Zoom call and one of our friends happens to be a nurse. He was telling us about a patient that was significantly overweight and that caused severe breathing problems. He tested positive to Covid and that made it worse. Our friends has been working himself to death and was on the verge of tears telling the story because the patient was in a lot of pain and his daughters spent an hour pleading to see him(visitor restrictions etc)
Max lets him finish and immediately goes on a rant about how we are body shaming her and every fat person, that our friend has no right to complain since he is young and healthy. On and on it goes, calling him a jerk and us 'sheeps' for playing along with him and not berating him for saying such things.
I tried to calmy tell her that our friend is burnt out and needs to vent, trying to avoid addresing the weight issue. She isn't having it, keeps interrupting me and everyone else trying to calm her. It goes on for a bit and i finally have enough. I straight up tell her that we've all had enough, I personally can't keep minding everything i do and say to please her and that she needs a wake up call. I called all that #HAES stuff bullshit, that for someone that is happy the way she is she certainly doesn't act like it. I told her that she either needs to do something about herself if shes unhappy or simply learn that the wor... keep reading on reddit ➡
TL;DR, my sister needs my expensive bracelet but it doesn’t fit her. She wants to use a cheap silver chain on it, but she’s not going to pay to have it tailored after she’s used it- so it will only fit her. She bullied me and nagged me about it for a few days and after constant harassment I called her fat and that she wasn’t allowed to use it. My dad is trying to ground me and my sister has already tried stealing it from my room once after telling her no.
Throwaway account bc I’m not about to be harassed on my main account.
Greetings from Australia! Everything is pretty much normal now after COVID-19. My (F16) Sister (F19) has been working as an part-timer for a big hotel company in Australia for the last few months. She’s now part of the official team for full-time and there’s an event coming up to celebrate 50 years for the Hotel Company.
The party is next weekend and it’s supposed to be very classy attire. She went out and bought a new dress and she’s got arrangements for having her hair styled and nails done. She came into my room yesterday and asked to borrow my $1700 Diamond Bracelet (it was a gift lmao we’re not rich). I let her try it on but it didn’t fit her wrist. There’s a huge weight size between us (like 150 pounds) and I’m really skinny.
She said she could get it tailored for $80, and put a cheap silver chain around it to lengthen it a bit. I told her no because then the bracelet would be suited to her wrist and not mine. I asked if she was willing to pay to have it tailored again after, and she said no because “it’s not her problem” and ‘she doesn’t have the funds for it’ (absolute bullshit). After I knew the attitude she was taking, I stood my ground.
She told our parents and my dad is trying to grind me down. He’s been saying that he’ll pay for the bracelet to be tailored and I need to do this for my sister because she needs to look presentable. After about 2 days of non-stop begging and guilt tripping from both of them, I kinda snapped and said that “No diamond is going to stop her from looking fat”
My dad is trying to ground me for it and my mum said if he grounds me, he can go sleep somewhere else because he’s picking favourites over their two kids. My sister’s already snuck into my room once (to get the bracelet) when she thought I wasn’t in, and my mum is mad at her too.
Reddit, am I the asshole?
Edit: added TLDR
I'd totally forgotten he'd got a new bird table. Just thought the dirty old git had been on manoeuvres again.
I get that y'all are trying to make fun of gamers but you gotta also realize that these sort of jokes hurt people that browse the sub too, make fun of them for their horrific personality and not their looks.
And let's all be real for a moment..." Fat Acceptance" is for Fat Women...not Fat People. Majority don't think that fat men are attractive.
EDIT 1- Look if you are fat...love yourself, just don't give up trying to be fit and ACCEPTING that "its probably just genetics...i am perfect the way i am"
EDIT 2- Your life is your decision...i am not dictating anything here, just saying a harsh truth. Am overweight myself by 30 pounds and still stand by what I say, because as much as I love myself, know that at the end of the day I am responsible for my weight for my choices.
When doing general research on google, I’ve found that most websites talk about a fat burning zone for cardio, which is 70% of your maximum heart rate. What is the point of being in that zone and on what basis is that 70% figure calculated?