Edit: Extemporaneous typing.
TL;DR: watch the Apple memories of 2020 videos by yourself first.
This happened about 45 minutes ago.
So... anyone that has an Apple device may have noticed they do these “memory videos” for 2020. Anyways, I had just discovered this feature and was watching it with my girlfriend. Slowly, other immediate family members joined around us after having heard the “chill” music played along the montage.
We saw some cute pictures of our pets, museums visits pre-COVID, my GF and I spotting deer, us decorating our new apartment, time spent at my moms house, visits to forest preserves, and other no contact activities we did this summer and fall.
Then it happened. About 3 minutes into the montage it shifted from a picture to a short clip of me sliding 2 fingers into my girlfriends vagina. Time froze. Someone said, “Oh my” in the tone of an antebellum age southern lady, and I whipped my phone down. People walked away, but a proverbial fly on the wall would have collided with the amount tensions in the air, which would require more than a knife to cut.
I’m now home laying in bed typing this and thinking about how 30 years from now, this is going to be one of those embarrassing memories that keep me up at night.
I'm 36-mother of two girls (9/5) I met my now fiance (38) 2.5 years ago. He's a good man, Treats my girls well and loves them. future mother in law is a generous lady truth be told. His family are respectful and helpful. We visit them a lot. After we got engaged I pretty much considered this my extended family. However my mother in law tends to do things that either intentionally or unintentionally hurt my feelings for example: when there's a family dinner at a restaurant we're not invited. On Christmas my girls didn't receive anything from her while other kids in the family got gifts and cards. Also all the kids in the family get a trip once a month but my girls never participate. Mother in law excuses were "I forgot".
This week. My Future mother in law was doing family photo album and was gathering family pictures from everyone. SIL and her kids/brother in law and his kids and so on. She called and asked if I could send her some pictures. I thought that was nice of her. I sent them pretty much after my call with her ended.
We were invited to her house. The entire family was there to look at the photo album bc it was complete. We took turns to look at it. And when it was mine and my girls turn I was stunned.
Turned out she picked the pictures that had just me and her son. Not my girls. Although We took a ton of pictures. The 4 of us My girls were excited wanting to see the album then asked why their pictures weren't there. I didn't even wanna think about how they'd feel. I was caught off guard otherwise I wouldn't have let them look at the album. I asked MIL why she excluded my girls and she didn't even reply she just ignored me. My fiance stared at me. I felt awful I got up, took my girls and walked out immediately. Everyone was confused. My fiancè followed us Then we left
At home he told me that I really shouldn't have walked out before dinner and should've just ignored this whole thing because "Who cares about a stupid photo album?"
I told him It's a symbol of family. the girls felt left out when all the kids pictures were there except for the girls although I sent her pics of 4 of us as a family. He said his mom didn't mean it and promised that This will change once we get married And said he'll "get everyone in line" so I shouldn't even consider this a problem.
And that my girls are the light of his life and that's the only thing that matters. And that I was overreacting over a photo album.
Mother in law called and was upset Saying me walk... keep reading on reddit ➡
Seriously , I am sick of it . I have this one cousin and because of all the attention she gets she is starting to get really spoiled . Here is a scenario : me and the rest of my cousins watch o video on youtube , we all like it , except my cousin . We tell her that we can't just change a video because just one of us doesn't like it . We explain to her politely that we can't do that . She looks at us , turns away , and goes to our parents . Only when she gets there she starts crying other and complain about . (usually ) My mom comes in and tells us to let her pick the video . We tell her that she is the only one who wants it . What argument she comes up with ? "Well she is the youngest " like seriously ? I don't care if she is the youngest , she is still equal to us . And that goes in many ways . The exact same argument over and over again .
Edit : I also wanted to mention that the only person that can stop her it's my dad . If she starts crying and try to use his pity , he goes " Why are you crying when you know that crying won't give you what you want ? " That's when she shuts up . I kind of liking the fact that one of the adults can actually make her a better person . Too bad one is not enough .
Why , just why ? Did this happen to you , or I am the only one ?
Edit #2 : Apparently , there are also people in the comment section that had the complete opposite experience - the oldest or the middle child is the favorite . I am sorry to hear that too . I think that , in both cases , parents or the whole family shouldn't pick favorites . This shouldn't be normal .
Edit #3 : I've just got home from my dance classes and oh my God if this post didn't blew up . All I wanted to say is that , if you are the youngest that doesn't make you an a-hole . I've read people's comments and there are some people who had the opposite way - some of them worse than my case . At the end of the day , this is all just from my perspective , it doesn't speak real facts . I hope people who had a bad relationship with their parents get better . Your parents should NOT compare you or any of your siblings with each other . It isn't normal .
After an incident regarding my two nephews Christmas gifts last night, I’ve noticed that I’m under no obligation to let kids win at video games. I think it would be equally stupid to let them win at board games, or arm wrestling, or whatever.
Life sucks, there are people that are better at things than you are. I’m not a super great video game player myself, and you know what, that’s fine. There are players better than me and if I want to beat them I need to get better. That’s just something to know in life.
I might be swayed on this if they were my own children, but seeing as I don’t have those I don’t think you can change my mind here.
Edit because of the butthurt in this thread: if you’re going to make up stories about things that didn’t happen, at least be original with your insults. Kids had fun. Mother got pissed. Playing again next weekend and trust me I’m not throwing those games either.
So i (F21) was having dinner with my family. My sister(31) and her fiancé, my 2 brothers (28, 23) and my parents.
Let me give a small back story before i continue. My sister has hated me all my life. I don’t know why but she does. I tried my hardest to have a relationship with her but she never cared for it.
You’d think after we’ve all matured, she’d quit whatever it is she’s on but she’s still the same as she was when we were children. My parents never called her out on how she treated me so she just continued it.
One of her favorite things to do is compare me at a certain age to her when she was that age. For example, “I was smarter at 14 than OP was, i even got better grades”. And that brings me to today. My sister was on her shit again and comparing me and the college courses i’m currently taking vs the ones she took.
She took it to another level and said i wasn’t smart and she could prove i cheated 12 years through school and 2 years in college (???). She asks (this is her exact question) “if you’re so smart what is the noun of a pronoun with an adverb”. Everyone around the table kinda just stares like what? She asks again. I tell her there’s no answer to that as it didn’t make any sense. Her conclusion, i’m an idiot.
So, i decided to ask her a question. I asked her to tell me how does precipitation work in the water cycle. A simple question to me. No answer. She gets red and says i purposely used a “big word” to confuse her and i wasn’t being fair. Here’s where i could be the ass. I mocked what she said “But i thought you were smarter than me”. My brother chimed in and said it was a fair question and she got embarrassed and walked out.
My dad says i owe her an apology and said i should’ve been the “bigger person” as i’ve always been. I told him i’m not going to apologize and she can cry about it Aita?
This is prompted by the comments on a r/Facepalm post with lots of people saying if someone hasn’t checked up on you this year they’re a shitty friend, there’s no excuse etc.
Why YSK: Over the years I’ve known friends and family withdraw from the world for months on end because of depression or other illnesses. They often carry a lot of guilt about this and it becomes a self perpetuating issue because they’re afraid of the response they’ll get when they eventually do make contact again. You often won’t know what’s going on with them, they’ll just drop off the radar. But these people will need your friendship and support more than ever when they begin to engage with the world again. So if someone goes quiet don’t write them off as a ‘shitty friend’. Be open minded about their reasons, give them space, time and understanding, and be ready to pick up the threads again when they’re ready.
(Citation needed for sub rules about health flair? Here’s an NHS document that describes withdrawal from social activity as symptom of depression)
I am vegan. My husband is not. For New Year’s Eve we ordered a giant box of Mediterranean food that was mostly vegan with a few non-vegan sauces for the husband. Last night, I was looking to use up the last of the nonvegan garlic sauce. Since it's only a few days old I figured it had to be fine and mixed it into my husband’s portion of spaghetti.
As hubby takes his plate to the TV to eat I hear him in the other room going, “Oh god! Oh god!” I think, damn, he really likes it. Until he marches back into the kitchen announcing that it was bad, off, no good. “It tastes like chemicals!” he says. I take a bite off his plate, because that’s what people do when something is bad. The militant vegans will probably be here soon to tell me that this single action probably took out a big section of the Amazon and killed the last forest fairy but anyway. I still think it’s fine but except for these stolen bites I’ve been vegan for a long time, so maybe I can’t tell anymore. We dump his plate, throw out the rest of the sauce, feed him off of my portion of dinner, and resolve to have ice cream later to make it up.
Except something is nagging me. After I finish my dinner I go back to the garbage can and pull the sauce out. It’s kinda...bubbly. I can jellies and vegetables sometimes and start freaking out: oh my god I just ate botulism. I call out for husband. My vision is greying. I am having a panic attack. We live in an urban area, hospitals are at capacity with COVID, and I just gave us botulism.
Husband tells me to calm down as I'm taking off my sweater and pants to get maximum airflow on this rolling ball of overheating anxiety attack. Botulism doesn’t taste bad, he says. I challenge him to show me where an authority says that something that tastes bad can’t coexist with botulism. I decide while he’s doing that I’m going to return to the arms of my teenage fling with bulimia.
After I’m done horking up enough mangled spaghetti and bread to convince myself that that cursed stolen spoonful of botulism must have come out too, I clean up and rejoin my husband. He says, show me this sauce. So we go to the fridge, in which I’ve wrapped up the remaining sauce in order for the CDC to test it for botulinum when I am in the hospital with paralyzed vocal cords. My husband examines it, prods it, and suddenly sticks his finger in it to taste it before I can stop him. “Huh,” he says. “That tastes good," he announces. “Something else must... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (33M) am having an issue where my family is pressuring me to resume contact with my brother (35M) after I went no contact years ago. Five years ago my brother I were working at the same company, I had been there for 3 years and he had been there for 2 (he was hired because I referred him when they were looking for new employees). When a management position came open he and I both applied for it and told each other it was no hard feelings if the other one got it. He was hired for the position and I was not, I was genuinely happy for him and did not have any negative feelings about him getting hired, I was proud of him and thought he deserved it.
A few months after he was hired for the position my former boss, who I have a great relationship with, left the company and asked me out for lunch. He told me in confidence that the reason my brother was hired over me, was that my brother took an email I sent him venting about a work issue and forwarded it to the hiring manager to explain why I was not a good fit for the position. I confronted him about this and he admitted it, and said he thinks it wasn't an underhanded thing to do because it simply showed how I wasn't “meant for” management because that's not how managers act.
I was devastated, I cut him out of my life completely, I told him that he was no longer my brother and to forget that I even exist. He tried to justify his betrayal and told me that it wasn't as serious as I was making it out to be, but I refused to be swayed despite massive pressure from my family to make peace with him. I found another job and I seldom interact with my family due to how I feel I was shown very little sympathy for what he did to me. The attitude I got from my family was essentially that it wasn't a nice thing to do, but he has children to take care of so it's understandable that he'd do anything to make more money to provide a better life for them, my mother said this to me almost verbatim.
He has attempted to contact me several times over the years and we once ran into each other at a store, but I ignored him and kept walking. He was not invited to my wedding, and he and his wife have not met my wife or my first born (10 months). My parents have been allowed to come and visit but my mother told me that the holidays aren't right without my family there, and they have begged me to put the past behind us and let this go so we can be a family again. My wife sides with me and thinks that my brother is an asshole, we spe... keep reading on reddit ➡
I 23F have always been civil with my 19M half brother. We were close as kids but he started to have an attitude at 13 and pretty much stopped being nice and started messing with my things/making fun of me and doing pranks to annoy me/privacy was gone with him coming into my room and taking my things. Whenever I complained my stepmom would normalize his behavior and make excuses. My dad never really grounded him and thought that talking to him will get him to behave better. I'm currently in college I live in a rented apartment and have car to help me get to the university or other places. The car isn't expensive or fancy at all I saved up for it 2 years ago.
I decided to have Christmas dinner with my family- It's the perfect opportunity to be with family since I haven't seen my dad in a while. I arrived at my dad's house. And left my purse and my keys on the kitchen island after my stepmom told me to help with dinner.
My half-brother started talking about my car in the kitchen while my stepmom was listening and asked if he could take it for a couple of hours to hang out with friends. I politely told him no. He threw a fit and brought up how I needed to relax and not worry but my answer was still the same.
While we were sitting at the dinner table. My half-brother got up,washed his hands and I thought he went outside. I got busy talking to my dad and after I got up to wash my hands I noticed my car keys weren't there. I went outside to ask him and neither he nor my car were there I lost it I started calling his phone but he hung up on me several times. I was furious I told my dad I'd call the police if he didn't come back with the car.my stepmom jumped to defend him and said I was being unreasonable to call the police. I called him one last time then I called the police. My stepmom freaked out when my halfbrother got picked up by the police. She told me to go explain the situation to the authorities otherwise he'd spend the night in jail. But I refused especially since I still hadn't got my car back.
Stepmom yelled that I ruined dinner and that it was no big deal he was going to return it after "borrowing" it from me but he didn't really borrow it and she heard me say no. I don't know what she told the police. But I didn't give permission to use the car. My stepmom's side of family are mad at me for doing this to my brother and hinted that I don't consider him family. My dad's side of family sided with me saying he deserved it. My dad said I overreacted... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (25M) have a girlfriend (23F) who is absolutely beautiful, but she does have a large facial scar. My family often jokes about it, they have a super dark sense of humor. It bothers my girlfriend, and she says it doesn’t feel like a joke, it feels like she’s being insulted under the pretense of it being dark humor. Even though I explain it’s just how they are and they don’t mean any harm, she doesn’t really want to be around them. I told her it was really important to me we spend Christmas with my family, we would all quarantine first and test but it was important to me. She resisted at first, but after some urging from me she gave in. She said I absolutely could not excuse their behavior if they made a rude comment about her though.
We got there and it was fine for a while. Then my mom and sister broke out their matching ugly sweaters, that had my girlfriends face all over it. They both laughed, saying my mom made them (screen printed) and it was just a joke. My dad thought it was hilarious, I even chuckled a little because she’s really beautiful, so it was ironic they put her on the “ugly” sweater. My girlfriend looked at me, and when I said they were just being ironic, she shook her head, got up and left. Didn’t say anything to anyone, just took her car and left.
I called her several times, and she didn’t answer. The only text I received was “You need to find your own way home.” That pissed me off, and I called her a couple more times. The whole time, my mom is upset because it was just a joke and she didn’t realize my girlfriend was going to overreact like that. I told her that a warning would have been nice, but my sister agreed it was just a joke and my girlfriend was being a baby about it.
I had another fight with my girlfriend when I finally got home and she said I was an asshole for putting her in that situation and I said I didn’t realize they were going to do that and they were being ironic because she was beautiful. She said I let them treat her badly and was trying to make it her fault when it was my family who was acting badly. I said it was just a joke and that she was overreacting. She asked how it was supposed to be a joke. I said that was just their sense of humor. I said I was sorry she was offended by the joke, but she ruined the whole day with her reaction. She said that no, them realizing she wasn’t going to take their bullshit anymore ruined the day.
We aren’t speaking currently, but when a cousin called to wish me a merry Chr... keep reading on reddit ➡
I 37M had experienced 2 loses in a short period of time. I lost both my daughters (bio9/adopted14) both suffered from chronic conditions. I was a single dad dealing with so much. Soon as my oldest passed away. My youngest got sick in the same year. I had no time to grieve I found myself driving to the hospital again. Talking to doctors again. It was a difficult time. My youngest passed away a year later in 2018. My family started talking about how I needed to move on. My brother told me that I can rest now that I'm no longer spending time with doctors and worrying about my daughters and their issues. That hurt me even if he was trying to comfort me. My mom wanted me to get "another chance" to have kids but I ignored her My dad suggested that I move out of my house but I told him I was comfortable enough to sleep at my house since he thought I should run from memories.
I'd spend most of the time by myself. I met a parent just like me in group therapy and we begun talking. He's a struggling dad with a sick child. I met his son Adam and he's such a sweet soul. They both begun visiting me. Adam reminded me of my daughters he is 16 and he's smart & empathetic. Hes a good cook for his age he cooked for us a lot and he brought books and would help care for my plants. He's at the hospital now.his dad and I spoke about the surgery he needed. Their need for money. I decided to help out by using my youngest daughter's emergency fund to pay for surgery. This gift is from my daughters to Adam. He couldn't believe it and started crying because they've been struggling to come up with the money for months and it also affected education. He stopped going to school for a year.
I received a card from Adam. It's heartwarming. I haven't told my family but when they visited me my brother brought up that he needed money to renovate his house and how he has no money. Mom brought up my youngest daughter's emergency fund and asked me if I could help. I told them that I've already given the money to a close friend and paid for his son's surgery. They just stared at me. Then Mom and brother started yelling at me for doing that. That I was out of my mind to give away the money that was supposed to go to family who's struggling. They brought up how supportive they've been and I was ungrateful. My brother called me an asshole for handing people "I barely knew" money and not my own family. I told them to drop it or leave. They kept berating me and I yelled back at them and told the... keep reading on reddit ➡