#Trash of the Count’s Family | 백작가의 망나니가 되었다
#Written by 유려한
The "official" synopsis only has a single line: "I can't be a trash forever."
Miraclerifle's synopsis: The MC of this series reminds me of Yoh Asakura from Shaman King, wanting to have a peaceful life but things getting in his way/having to achieve something to get there. This is a literary RPG fantasy where the MC is transported as a minor character in a novel,... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am a mother and have a graduate degree but my father and brother are so condescending to me it is as though they literally believe I am delayed. For example, my father does not think I know how to work a thermostat and when I suggested he use the “warming” setting on his oven which mine has but apparently his does not, he said “oh——there is no warming setting” as if such a thing does not exist and I am an idiot for suggesting it might. When I mentioned that I didn’t want my kids to get bitten up by mosquitoes in the summer, not only because it is unpleasant but also because there is a possibility that they carry disease, he slowly and condescendingly tried to correct me to my daughter by explaining that a long, long time ago, mosquitoes used to carry diseases like malaria but that isn’t the case anymore—even though cases of West Nile virus have been identified in people on our area every year since 2000. I have more examples also. I have become so disturbed by this treatment that I... keep reading on reddit ➡
Basically I’m a senior and applied to colleges this year. I have a twin brother who has better grades and test scores than me. When we were applying, I wanted to shoot my shot at a few top colleges just to try. I wrote all the essays and stuff. My parents and my brother would make fun of me for even thinking I could get in and would say it was a waste of an application fee. I felt so discouraged, that after spending hours on writing essays, I decided to only apply to two of the easier “top school” and paid for the application fees myself. I didn’t tell my family that I applied.
Fast forward to now. I have a iPhone XS. I use faces id. I am working on hw when my brother comes down and says he got into my phone and read through my email. He then starts talking about how I applied even though I said I didn’t. I felt so violated. My phone is my property and my brother just goes into it and reads my stuff. This is probably the fifth time it has happened and I just got rid of Face ID.
Does... keep reading on reddit ➡
Okay so last month I got a message on facebook from this teenage boy from up in Scotland who said "hello my name is Jordan and I think we may share the same dad, I know this sounds extremely weird and if you don't want to talk I understand but I'd appreciate it if you could" I wasn't sure what to think at first. I'd have thought my dad would have told us about a baby brother when we were younger or something, after all he and my mum have been separated for the past 20 years since I was 3. I messaged back, he said he "thinks" we have the same dad so he could be wrong. I said hello and told him my name and asked him why he thought he was my brother to which he then proceed that his whole life he thought his dad's name was David (insert fake last name here) and that's not my dad's name and said that my father's name was John (real last name here) to which he said he knows my dad's name and then he sent me photos of him as a baby and child with a man who was in fact my dad. My world at thi... keep reading on reddit ➡
Finding it really hard right now. I’ve got no support and my family just don’t really get how traumatic it was for me to find my dad dead. No one ever asks if I’m ok. I’m dealing with so much trauma by myself. If I act sad or distant people are so confused as if I’ve got nothing to be sad about. I have cptsd and my entire family think that’s just a made up thing. I’ve been screaming out for help for months and months and no one is listening. My feelings are never taken into consideration and people act as if I’m an emotional punching bag and I can just put up with anything, but I’m exhausted. I’m so tired of having to be this strong person that takes nothing. I’m so tired of being invisible to everyone. I’m so tired of not being asked for my opinion or to be involved in decision making, to just be expected to go along with everything. I’m tired of my mum constantly hurting me and then justifying it by saying she was treated badly by her parents. This is all just too much. It’s way too... keep reading on reddit ➡
so my parents are both poor artists, they do customized artworks. recently for the past two years, business has been super slow, sometimes even going 3-4 months without a single job. now theyre taking jobs that take 2 weeks to create and profit only $2,100SGD. IT SUCKS! they're owing a lot, in debt, and living off loans from the bank
i just need advice on how i can help as a son financially. im working at my local movie theatre to earn money and i am trying to get a second job. besides the basics like get good grades, have good saving habits, and helping with housework, how do you guys think i can help :/ such as get into stocks..? i just want to know if there's any ways that a 17-year-old doesn't know about..
My mom gave birth to me when she was 42 and my dad was 52. I have no idea why they waited so late to have a kid. I’m an only child.
We’ve always lived in the same house together but it felt like we were just housemates instead of a family. We argued and yelled a lot. Neither of my parents was very affectionate: no hugs, no kisses, no “I love you’s” They weren’t physically abusive and they provided for me financially (which I am grateful for), but there was never an emotional connection.
When I was around 6 or 7, my mom was diagnosed with cancer. At the time I didn’t even know she had cancer. Whenever I asked, people would just say she was “sick.” Even as the cancer got worse, we still argued. When I was 10, she passed away.
Ever since then it’s been me and my dad living in the same house. The late elementary/middle school years were rough because we argued every other day. We almost never talked unless we were bickering or I was asking him for something.
Fast forward to now, I’m 18... keep reading on reddit ➡
Am I at fault for wanting to do stuff my parents consider wrong ? Is this narcissistic behaviour?
Am I at fault for wanting to do stuff my parents consider wrong ?
Hello there , so to clarify the situation of my life : I’m 24 , still live at my parents, I have 3 siblings ranging from the ages 20 to 6. My parents have been married for 29 years and never had any other romantic relationship other than the one that have with each other . I like going out at night , I like going to parties but I really prefer just going out with friends or my boyfriend and just go around in the car and talk about anything (most times we end up in front of my house still talking for some time). This my parents consider as extremely disrespectful towards then , because they didn’t “raised me to” like going out like this and I’m “offering myself” by going out instead of just inviting my boyfriend to get inside de house and talk to me there (for reasons such as : no privacy on the conversations because ever... keep reading on reddit ➡
Brief: 35 yr old cousin now in hospice care from a rare brain tumor. My larger family is disconnected. Some for animosity some for no particular reason. We're all basically in stages if no communication.
Cousin is with parents. Am interested in advice on how to offer or give support or company or whatever eases their tremendous burden. The hook is that because of the family dynamic I cannot simply ask.
Edit: I truly appreciate the ideas. While this is not the first time I've said goodbye to a close family member, this is the youngest. Bought some sweet and salty snacks, some bran muffins and a big order from KFC. Fried chicken is good hot or cold. When I got there, the kitchen was a disaster so got all the dishes washed and put away, cleaned the appliances and counters. Folded laundry. Only then did I venture into my cousin's room. I hope he is pain free and slips away while surrounded by his family.
I grew up with 5 siblings and I was the 3rd of 6 kids. My elder brother who is 3 years and 10 months older than me is having his 2nd child which is his gonna be another son. My elder sister got married last year and she’s already decided with her husband on having 3 children.
Should also say that this post is for people who do.not have children.
Of course you can’t control your child’s gender and gender disappointment is a common thing. But my dream would be to get married with my girlfriend and have 3 kids. 2 sons 1 daughter. I might not have that but it would be a dream come true if I did.
What is your dream family ?
I found a great job in a different far-away country and was very happy there. My family missed me so much and they were so sad all the time, so I gave up and move back close to my family for their happiness. After that, I decided to become a digital nomad while working as a freelancer.
Now I am trying to travel to countries close to me, and I have severe restrictions here too like I can't live in a country more than 3 hours away by flight. They also try to force me to live with them in hometown forever and marry someone and have kids and blah blah blah, which I don't agree to ever.
They make me come home 2-4 times a year and for a month every time. This time I've to come back urgently 2 months ago because my maternal grandmother died and I am stuck here since because I can't leave because a big festival is coming soon. Now it's finally over, I still can't go because of coronavirus scare.
And here is the worst part. When I am at home, they don't let me work. Small annoying/unimportan... keep reading on reddit ➡
I've never been close to my parents or sister, but lately I'm super close with my younger sister since she has grown, which is great. My parents both finished college and are well payed at their jobs. My father is an engineer which always got to his head, thinking that he is the smartest person ever knowing everything about everything and he is most of the time just a cold, cold person. I live with him so it's been a nightmare to say the least.
My boyfriend's family on the other hand is crazy af, they're all super chill and I consider his mom a mom I never had at home (super dope and you can talk about everything with her).I like spending time with his family more, I like going around with his family more etc..
Is this normal or should I be ashamed?
Hey guys. So my dad is dying, more than likely within the next 24 hours. I’m 600 miles away with no feasible way to get there before the weekend, if even then. I have to wait for the financial aid gods at school to disburse my refund to be able to afford to go.
He is totally unresponsive. My uncle held the phone to his ear late last night so that I could tell him I love him. It may very well have been the last time I get the chance to do that.
My heart is breaking. He was my stepdad, but he raised me since I was two years old. He stayed in an abusive relationship with my mom for me, because he didn’t want to leave me with her. When things started getting worse two years ago, she refused to get him medical help. I had to force myself into the house (when they were only living 45 min from me instead of almost 9 hours) to get him to a hospital following a stroke. But he still went back to her, afraid that she wouldn’t survive without him because of her mental health struggles. Then i... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hiya, I'm 22 F and graduating in 3 months. I'm currently living at home with my parents, which is a good situation, but I feel as though I'm holding myself back from growing as an independent adult if I choose to keep living here. Its comfortable, familiar, and hard to leave. Rent where I live in California is extremely steep so it's likely I will have to move far away, maybe even to another state. The prospect of leaving my parents terrifies me, we are super close and I have never lived outside of my home city. I also feel really guilty about them missing me. Do you think it's important to move out, or should I live with my parents to save money and stay close? Does it get easier to be away from family?
It doesn’t matter to me if 10% abuse a system meant to help people, or if even 90% abuse it. As long as the people who need help get it.
Human decency is the ability to see others as, well, human. I don’t give a shit why or how people are on wellfare. I don’t give a shit if they are grifters (statistically they are not). I don’t give a shit if they are addicts or recovering addicts, if they are poor and working 3 jobs or poor and working no jobs, if they are disabled in some capacity, I just don’t give a flying fuck. I give a flying fuck if that person is cold, or hungry, though, because that person is still a fucking person, regardless of all circumstances. And I have this weird idea that people deserve dignity and respect and I dunno, being seen and treated as human beings.
Edit: Woah my angry rant blew up a bit. Wack. I just want to say a few things, this will probably get me called a “virtue singular” (?? What is that) but yes, if I see a homeless person near my house, I’ll ge... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hey reddit quick question. I have a toxic family. All so stuck up and etc... the thing is they all have a very negative attitude towards me because I grew up in a wealthy family. I’m thinking about not even going to these family functions we have once a month anymore. Is this okay? There’s nothing wrong with this right bc my parents make me feel like I’m committing a sin or something for not going lol. Am I okay for not attending these things.
I have recently moved out, 22(F) and I have been having a hard time coping with the fact my family was more abusive to me than I thought. The distance from not having to see them daily, and deal with their crap, gives you a different perspective of how many things werent actually okay or even normal/common. My family gave me love, but they also manipulated me a lot and guilt tripped me into doing everything for them. Making my mom's doctor's appointments, haircut appts, calling for my 18 year old brother doctor's appts, getting information for his schooling, having me sit down and talk to him when he misbehaved, I have basically had to do big parenting for this kid. But in the end, he has treated me really bad and my parents allow it. He has anger problems and has thrown me against walls to where I fell on my grandmother and we both fell on the floor (she disapproves of his treatment). He has kicked, punched me in the stomach. He puts me down every time I slightly upset him. He will fi... keep reading on reddit ➡
My dad made enough for our family of 5 to be stable and then some. Since my brothers moved out my dad said he had enough money saved to get a lake house (which was his dream). I can’t work yet and I feel helpless because my mom revealed to me that we are in debt because of the lake house my dad bought. I’m crushed because I don’t know what to do. I feel bad because I feel like I spend too much by existing. I just wish my dad were more wise about spending as most his decisions are impulsive :( I just feel like a burden. I’m the only kid left in the house and I feel like the reason we are in debt
For starters, my father and I (F20) have a pretty terrible relationship. As a child he would abandon me at his parents' house so he could go out drinking and all that while my mother was at work at night. His family was pretty awful to me. They're very cold and very religious. I always did very well in school, never got in trouble, and was a pretty quiet kid. But that was never enough for them. They would make rude comments about my appearance, criticized anything I liked, and have always favored by half brother who is nothing but trouble over me.
My father is very manipulative. You have to question his every action in order to understand what his true intentions are. He is selfish and disgusting. However, my mother has refused to divorce him despite the emotional and verbal abuse we've all dealt with from him over the years. Just like him, his family is very flip-floppy. One day they're your best friends and the next they hate you. My family moved away from where they lived and they... keep reading on reddit ➡
They said they are sick of me but I'm not doing anything. I stay quiet in my room all day to myself. I'm the one who should be sick of them. They bully me everyday. They roll their eyes at me. Walk past me and look me up and down. They cut me off when I talk to them. When someone asks them about me they tell them "I don't know her". Talk about me in the other room like I can't hear them. Tell people I need help. Come in my room and just stand there and look at me. Call me weird. Tell me to kill myself. Hit me. Yell at me. I'm sick of it. I can't deal with it everyday. I don't want to live anymore. Everyone I go to about it joins in on it. I don't know what to do.
The hard core truth is... I do so so much better with my life and my goals when I'm not around or near my family. Intend to chace my goals more successfully when I don't let people get the best of me and who I am when I have no control over the issue or matter itself.
I don’t remember when it started, but my parents would fly a lot and they would send a text when they arrive at the destination.
“The eagles have landed”
This morphed into mamma and papa eagle have landed.
When my sister (who can talk under water) started travelling she adopted the call sign “The Noisy Minor”
I (love speed and fast cars) adopted the call sign “The Peregrine Falcon”
My brother who is 6”3 and 120kg (270lbs) is “the Finch”
My wife is the “fabulous flamingo”
And our 1yr old daughter is the Puffin.
I am (13M), and i don’t feel comfortable in my family anymore. I don’t speak to my brother anymore and when he speaks to me i normally just judge him and ignore him, i really have no respect for him even though i used to admire him, he also still lives at home and has stopped studying and i don’t even know if he has a job. He’s like 20. My sister (22) always talks to me it gets annoying. I usually try to avoid her because she’ll start a conversation and her and my brother both kind of disgust me. Last summer, my mom and dad got into a fight causing my dad to move out, but he still picks me up for school, etc. I asked my mom if they could divorce because i felt like it would make the whole family feel better and she started screaming at me. I also found her cheating with this guy that came over to our house often, she doesn’t think i know and she says they are just friends and i really dislike that guy. My dad wants to come back in the family he always stays at home and it really pisses... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hello, I am posting this so I can get some opinions on what people think. So I am a 19 year male out of 7 siblings. However things are bad right now with the family. First of all My older sister is 22 and she is getting married this weekend and having a baby in August. My older sister has managed to get most of the kids against my mother including my older brother, they have removed our mother from every single social media platform and don’t talk to her at all. My older sister also tries to manipulate the younger children into thinking my Mom is terrible. Which honestly my mom is amazing, she is the one who practically raised us even in the toughest of life.
Do keep in mind my younger siblings are 18,15,13 and 6. But some examples of my sister manipulating the kids - Telling my younger sister(17) that our mother was abusive towards her and that our mothers current boyfriend is a creep. My older sister and her almost husband to telling my younger brother(15) to move back with his da... keep reading on reddit ➡
I was raised by my mom. I know my father although he has always lived far away. He would visit me every few years when I was a child. He is kind when I reach out, and although my expectations are not high, I would like to at least know him.
It can be very awkward at times. My step mother is very nice and polite, and we try very hard to like each other.
I grew up lower class and was raised by a very liberal family near Portland, OR. As you can imagine, when I hear someone denigrate the poor, my first thought is that there must be some sort of mistake, because no one would intentionally embarrass themselves by sounding ignorant.
My father has lived a pious, upper class married life for the last 20 years.
It feels strange to be experiencing a cultural fissure between myself and a parent. I have a hard time parsing out how he feels politically from how he feels about me personally. Sometimes I feel that line is blurred.
It hurts to think that my father and in laws feel uncomfortabl... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm a 19-year-old female. I live with my parents, my mom, and stepdad. My dad died when I was about six months and he was a murderer. Since he died it was only my mom, me, my aunt and grandma living together. We were really poor but we had each other. When I was about 7 or 8. My mom met my stepdad.
They dated for some time and a few months before I turned 9 we moved from Brazil to Sweden. I never wanted to go, I was great in school, one of the top students actually while really young. I considered my grandfather my dad since he treated me like his daughter and I've always called him dad, I still call him dad. My mom and I were best friends the whole family was very close. But ever since we moved here things have taken a bad turn.
My stepdad is an alcoholic. Now that I come to think of it the first sign that this wasn't gonna go well was when he and my mom had a fight while dating and the day after they were talking just fine. She told him that she was gonna go to the bank with my gra... keep reading on reddit ➡
They are inconsiderate and ignorant. During the worst times of my life, they made everything worse whether they knew it or not. Is this a normal feeling to have?
So I grew up in a “well to do” family. My parents both teachers. Lots of money. I grew up thinking I was always the problem. At a young age I was exposed to sexual assault, at the time myself being a kid I thought this was normal. It wasn’t to years later I realised that my uncle was sexually abusing me and obviously my parents had to know about it! How could they not!? But well to do family they sent me off to live with my grandparents claiming I was the problem. I went and had a happy life with my grandparents and loved every minute off it. They passed and I was left to my own devices. I started using drugs and alcohol to deal with what was going on in my head. I’m now 29 and fully understand everything that went on, I haven’t touched a drug in years but yes I still drink heavily. Meanwhile my parents a building a new house showering my brothers kids in love and I can’t fucken understand how they knew everything that went on and they lived there life’s and thought I was the problem!... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi there, I’d like to begin with saying sorry if this is super all over the place. This is something I’ve been wanting to talk about for awhile, but there’s been a lot of stress with doing it, I’m going to try to do it now. Thank you for taking your time to read this, it might get long. I feel like my emotions are all over the place right now, so I apologize if you feel like this post is a little crazy. Some of this is from my notes on my iPad.
Let’s start off here: I used to live in Pennsylvania. All this time I thought we left because of my sick uncle, and my sister having a rough time in school. We were on Christmas vacation back in Pennsylvania at my dads cabin, my mom went to drop off my half sister with my sister in Virginia because she was there with us for a few days. My mom ended up getting tired after dropping her off, and needed a hotel. And my dad dropped my brother off at our aunts house so my brother could hang out with our cousin. So then it was just me and my dad at... keep reading on reddit ➡
My name is Keenan Dakota, I have lived at Twin Oaks, an income-sharing, intentional community in rural Virginia for 36 years, since 1983. I grew up in northern Virginia, my parents worked in government. I went to George Mason University where I studied business management. I joined Twin Oaks when I was 23 because I lost faith in the underpinnings of capitalism and looking for a better model. I have stayed because over time capitalism hasn't looked any better, and its a great place to raise children. While at Twin Oaks, I raised two boys to adulthood, constructed several buildings, managed the building maintenance program, have managed some of the business lines at different times.keep reading on reddit ➡
Who here likes their husband and 6 yrnold to come with them grocery shopping? I do it late at 7pm and all of a sudden my husband wants to go with. However, this usually slows me dow and our kid will be tired and hangry.. i wouldnt want them to.come anyway. I find grocery shopping annoying especially with people.
So who shops as a family and who here doesnt??
Side note.. we just got done being separated and trying to make up. (Im the one who wanted to leave::abusive-emotional and phsyical and controlling
I have an opportunity to attend a graduate program outside of the states. It would be a great opportunity to push outside of my comfort zone and develop new perspective but it would take me away from my family for about 4-5 years. Given the trend of life expectancy within my family, my Mom and Dad are already cracking "when I'm gone" comments and my Grandmother and Grandfather have already well exceeded expectations. So, I'm likely to only have the next decade or a half at most with any one of them still in my life. It drives me crazy to think about them being gone and I'm worried that I'll be wasting away incredibly special years by moving so far away and end up absolutely regretting it later.
But, my folks would push me to pursue the program, stating that you shouldn't hold out for later in life. And this makes sense too along with the worry that our younger years are pinnacle to the path that our life will tread. Then, as well as being a lost opportunity, would not studying abroad... keep reading on reddit ➡
My cousin's husband is pretentious and insecure. He disrespects and looks down on anyone who has a lower educational background and a salary. Some of those people are my parents, especially my mom since her English isn't that fluent. He had snubbed my parents and hurt my mom emotionally without apologizing, so over time I grew to really hate him.
Here are a few examples of the things he had done that made me despise him:
Whenever I see my relatives, I have a really hard time conversing with them. They speak a european language that i really don't understand at all. They also barely speak english which leaves me sounding stupid when I try to speak their language. I can't not talk to them, because I need to make conversation etc...
Any suggestions for how to get over the awkwardness of the situation?
My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years, living together for 5 years, and we are starting to think more seriously about marriage and children. We are planning to get married within the next 6 months, and want to have a baby within the next 2 years. We will be renting to own a 3 bedroom, 2 bath house starting October this year and we are finally financially stable.
The only problem being that pregnancy would be extremely risky for her due to a medical condition, so she is unable to carry, and I am physically disabled which takes adoption off the table for us.
Are there any other options that we have? We both very much want to be parents.
Thank you in advance for any suggestions.
My second daughter was born about 1 month early, 1 month ago. The first thing I've ever said to both daughters is that "I will love you forever". Shes doing great now. My wife stayed in the hospital for 3 days until we could take her home. So the first day my other daughter that is 1 year and 9 months and I went and spent the whole day with them. The first night I came home and asked the older one to pick out a book that she wants me to read. She goes to look and finds a book near the bottom of the stack and I start to read. The second page I lost control because it was about a mother that sung to her son every night and the final verse was "I will love you forever". I start crying and couldn't stop because I missed my new daughter and wife. My older daughter stood and hugged me until I could settle down. I love my girls. I posted this elsewhere but I feel it would fit here also.
My husband (21 male) and I (22 female) got married last June. We have been dating since we were 16 and my entire family has always loved him. This issue pertains to my fathers side of the family. Last year for thanksgiving we went to my husbands family gathering and everything was great but this year we went to my family’s gathering (only my dads side, mom is not in the picture) the gathering was at my aunts house which is 5 hours away so it was decided that everyone would be staying for two nights. We drive up and find out that my husband and I are not allowed to share a room but my cousin (19 male) is allowed to share a room with the girl he has casually been dating for 2 months. We are put in separate bedrooms (which causes some younger (7&8 female) cousins to have to sleep on the couch. I said that they could take my room and I could sleep in my husbands room and my family acted like this was a ridiculous suggestion. I feel very disrespected and I don’t understand why my younge... keep reading on reddit ➡
Every year, we draw for names on thanksgiving. If for whatever reason one can't be there for Thanksgiving, someone will draw for them. This helps so we dont have to buy each family member a present because theres about 18 family members we spend ever holiday together. This past thanksgiving my cousin (who is the same age as me, 28F) and I were not at Thanksgiving do to other commitments but we were spending Christmas with this family. This is my mom's side of the family.
About a week after Thanksgiving, my cousin messages on our family chat asking a question about the exchange. And my aunt answered saying she has her name and will message her. So I messaged on the chat asking who had my name. Not one person responded!
Dec 19th, I ask again who my name was because I was running out of time for a gift. Nada. Not one answer. Message again with a question mark. Nada.
So today I go to my aunts, who's hosting. And I keep asking and everyone is just ignoring me when I bring it up or chan... keep reading on reddit ➡
hey, I've (26M) been having a bit of a hard time lately talking to my family. I am the oldest of three kids. I have a sister(24F) and brother(21M). My parents are still happily married. When i was young from the outside looking in, it looked like a normal family. There was just one thing ruining that picture, me.
I suffer from depression and anxiety. When I was young it would come out as rage. This was due to me having a father who would mentally and physically abuse me. At times he would get my siblings in on bullying me. They would do it verbally due to that I was much bigger then them. And when I would exploded do to the abuse i would get hell for it. I would be called the bully, a brute, and brat.
My mom would try to be a mediator for us. because she did not want to take sides. but after many year she gave up and stay out of it. so it would be me verses three other family member and a mother who just watched. But to keep the peace at time she would side with the others.... keep reading on reddit ➡
My family is super toxic, my Dad was abusive and my mom was better but not a whole lot. I talked to them about the issues and they said that if I didn’t like the family I should go find another one. I don’t want to get into the details because it’s still pretty fresh. My dad and I’s relationship was non existent but this was coming from my mom and it’s the first time I really held her accountable for the stuff she did and she got really mad. Anyway, regardless of wether things change with her I can’t tether myself to them anymore because of how much harm they do to me but I find it hard to untether myself from them because at the end of the day they’re still my family. How can I emotionally detach myself from them and give them no power to keep hurting me?
We made plans 4 months ago. It was going to be extra special because this would likely have been my last trip with my grandma ever. I paid for the site, bought more gear to accommodate them (my husband and I are experienced campers). They had all agreed. My husband requested time off work.
Today I was going to buy one of my aunt’s plane ticket because she lives in Florida. So it was going to be my aunt from Florida, one that lives locally and her son (my daughter’s age), and my grandma. The local aunt was the one that backed down.
My grandma won’t go without my local aunt. My daughter is bummed. I’m sad. There’s no explanation as to why my aunt backed down she just said she couldn’t and she apologized... profusely.
I know things happen but I’m really bummed out. Am I overreacting?
So, I’m thirteen in a family of four and the past 6 to 7 months, I haven’t gotten a single thing that my doctors said for me to get, such as my EKGs, my checkups, the glasses I was supposed to get 10 weeks ago, etc. I’m having honest problems with my chest and my rhythm, sometimes to the point I get headaches, get dizzy, or have to control my breathing to get relief from the sudden chest pains I have. I’m honestly afraid that somethings gonna happen to me one day because of my mother not caring for my medical needs. What do I even do?
I'm a 25 year old who has a remote job and living with my parents and a sibling as my property is under construction. I work from home 5 times a week and have two weekends and both my parents don't really have much social life.
My mom is mentally and verbally abusive and my dad is not such a strong man. I have some friends and I like to spend one weekend with at least. Even spending one weekend out is pretty abnormal for my age I think. I should be enjoying my life. I feel like a prisoner and I don't think I can wait until 2023 when my property is finished. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I hate the complains and I hate asking for permissions.
Eventhough I have a lot more financial freedom, since I worked from home I feel like I'm living like a teenager again. I hate this. Just tonight when my dad complained that he couldn't go out with his friends if I go because no one will look after my mom and sister alone..It really irked me and I told him I won't be in this house forever... keep reading on reddit ➡
Don't get me wrong, I love my family but I've always secretly wanted to be a part of my uncle's family ever since I could remember. Their children were all scholars or consistent honor students and had each other's back despite constantly bickering. Their mum always stood up for them, something I really envy because my own mother rarely ever does that for me. My uncle, their dad, is pretty loaded. Every week they'd go out of town or buy new shoes and gadgets. In short, they're smart, rich, and belong to a happy family. Right?
Until three years ago, I found out something I wasn't supposed to find out. Turns out my uncle has another, older kid out of wedlock. It was too late when he realized that I was at the table when he blurted it. He then kept blabbering on about how scared he was that his children will never be the same if they knew, and they'd hate him forever. I was shocked to find out that my aunt knew it as well, and that she was there to help the mom during the baby's deliver... keep reading on reddit ➡
Has anyone been involved with Children Family Services and had a home inspection? What is the process? And helpful tips besides the basic clean house?
Im (f18) the youngest in my family and have an older brother (m29?) that has anger problems. First we aren’t a close family (hence why idk his age). The other day me, my mom (f50) and him were having a conversation while we ate dinner.
My mom invited him to go out to eat with us and my dad this weekend and he refused and my mom continued to coax him. He then went off on my mom saying the reason he never goes out with us as a family is because when he was a little kid my mom “abandoned” him in the store for 15 mins... and that when they reunited my mom scowled at him for getting lost, he procedes to say he is traumatized from it and was so furious he left the table and didn’t tell us goodnight like we all do before we leave from the table into our rooms.
I had a similar experience when I was a little girl going out with my mom but I’m not going to say I’m traumatized from it... if anything I still go out (and I like going out) with my mom and she still “abandons” me, lol I’m joking,... keep reading on reddit ➡
Despite being in the same family, all she thinks about is how to use someone else’s money and how to make others do things for her so she doesn’t have to.
My family is very average, financially. Her friends are more on the rich side, hence her spending levels are not so average. From where my mum comes from, she’d rather die than to see her child not being able to buy and get something because of no money. So she always give her more than she needs.
I (23F) currently live away from home. It was only recently that I found out that she has portrayed a false image of how the family is doing very poorly financially. She would seek money or asks me to buy things for her and I gladly did because I thought she really needed it. However, when I spoke to my mum once over the phone, I found out that she has been telling my mum the same thing (urgently in need of money). I assume it was so that she can get more money from both sides. Because of that my mum has not stopped giving her money in e... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (17) am the eldest of three kids in my family. I have a younger brother (9) and sister (13). My younger sister has mild special needs. My mother is always very concerned about her academics and her being able to be successful in the future. I think that this is valid and a good thing to be thinking about, but sometimes it is a bit much.
My dad goes on business trips sometimes and he tries to help with my sister as much as he can, but my mother is not always clear about what needs to be done for my sister's schoolwork. My dad works on what seems to need to be done but it's never good enough for my mother. She just has such high expectations of my sister and my dad and they are not realistic, especially when she does not communicate what she is thinking needs to be accomplished.
When we don't manage to read my mother's mind, she gets really agitated and starts yelling at everyone. She brings up things from the far past that we have all done even though we have all learned from them... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (F18) never had family dinners or meals at the table growing up, last night my brother (M24) and his boyfriend (M26) made the three of us dinner and we sat there making jokes, there was no fighting or pressure to do anything. I never had this growing up and I wish we did this sooner, it was peaceful. I plan to do it again and hopefully make it something normal for us.
My brother is the only person I can be real with. All other members of my family, it's a game. I'm one person to my mother, a different one to my sister. And so on for my entire family. They're insane. Drama dominates their lives. Its filled with chaos and money problems. They perpetually hobble themselves and create the means of their own destruction. They all hate each other but pretend they don't. I don't even know if some of them like me or if are playing the game as well, and just using me for their own gain. It's insane. I hate it, I'm losing my mind. I don't know what to do.
I'm thinking about getting one of those Alexa speakers for my home, but I have mixed feelings about having my kids use it. How do you all feel about your kids using voice control products like Alexa?
So my son is about to be 5 years old now, after my son was born his mother dealt with postpartum depression with me being young (24) and immature I began drinking more and going out more to try to avoid it.. long story short I began talking to another girl and eventually told my sons mother it was probably a better idea to take a break from each other since living together was becoming unbearable for both of us (yes I was still very involved in my sons life & no I wasn't sleeping with the other girl while with my bm)... I have dated a few girls here and there but now being more mature (28) I realize that I should have tried a lot harder to keep my family together instead of looking for the easy way out. I have tried countless amount of times to try to get her to realize how I feel but she says the feelings aren't the same anymore and its too late (she is not in a relationship at the moment)... tbh im pretty fucking bummed out and my depression is getting the best of me.. I feel li... keep reading on reddit ➡
My father wants to have a talk with everyone. Where anyone can say anything they want. Including my wife.
I met a very loving girlfriend and just got married.
My parents have hurt her badly.
Here are some examples.
My friends and I experience that keeping in touch with family consistently can be hard because we're "too busy" or "lazy" or even sometimes just keep postponing interaction into the indefinite future. But consistently reaching out does help with keeping relations strong and even making us feel more connected, regardless of how long / what we talk about. We're working on this simple game-like app which encourages you to keep in touch with family - with the idea that if you're a busy professional / college student away from home - you find it super easy to regularly pop in at least a conversation starter with your "meaningful relations". Nurtureapp.co.uk - would love any feedback!
So I dont know whats wrong with me but I am slowly forgetting my family ever since i took a big hit in the head by a baseball bat.I'm 16 and have a 21yo sister and I do not remember her at all. Don't have a mom but dad feels like its my step dad i feel no connection. What do I do?
I finally had the courage and speak up about my dad raping me from age 7-15 & nothing came about it.
Long story short, my aunts and cousins told me to just forget about it and move on, my brother told me “I’m sorry this happened to you, but I just want to be everyone’s friend.” My mom who witnessed him molest me at 13 is still living with him.
Summer 2018, I got in contact with police but I was 8 months pregnant (with my husband) I wasn’t ready at the time to pursue charges. Technically there is no statute of limitations in California but I read of this weird loophole where once you start a statement with police you only have a year to press charges.
Luckily I do have my husband and child. But I didn’t have the same support as a lot of people who come out with something like this.
My brother's beliefs:
Black people and muslims are less intelligent, races shouldn’t mix and should live in their countries of origin. Women need to be subservient to men. Jews abuse their overwhelming power and the holocaust is exaggerated. Gay people are sexually deviant. The world was so much better when the white man proudly conquered countries and spread “our” knowledge. Suffice to say, he considers himself a national socialist / fascist. He gets all his information from alt-right sites like Breitbart.
He’s early 30’s and we live in a socially progressive European country. Up to a year ago he was living with our mother, hadn’t had a relationship and hated his job. He’s tried several studies after HS but never finished one. He’s been diagnosed with a mild depression. He doesn’t have many friends and is quite cold towards people. He started getting into general conspiracy theories and now spends hours every day looking at news and videos that confirm his vi... keep reading on reddit ➡
I searched online but only found more articles related to the US.
Edit: thanks for the early replies. I know the perspective about the US millennials and economy can be discussed forever (and it is all the time) so I am hoping to get a perspective on the view of other countries and their age group.
Edit #2: good morning! I haven't been able to read all the comments, but the input is from all over the world and I didn't realize how much interest people would take in this post. I asked the question with a genuine curiosity and no expectations. To those who are doing well at a young age compared to your parents and wanted to comment, you should absolutely be proud of yourselves. It seems that this has become the minority for many parts of the world. I will provide an update with some links to news stories and resources people posted and some kind of summary of the countries. It will take me a bit, so it won't be as timely as I'd like, but I promise I'll post an update. Thanks everyone!... keep reading on reddit ➡
...Which doesn't really surprise me since my family's really big (like I'm pretty sure we have a few thousand people at this point), but I'm learning Japanese (and I love the culture) and so one of them- a cousin, I think, my family is complicated- decided to message me after finding that out. It was a little girl.
If it would've been anyone else, I probably would've ignored them because I don't speak Japanese fluently yet (and don't get me started on the writing) and I didn't want to disappoint whatever expectations that person would've had in me (also the message came out of nowhere and sent me into panic mode because I'm really introverted and don't know how to interact with people at all), but come on, it's a little girl, maybe eight or nine, I couldn't just ignore her like that (even though I hesitated a lot)...
...Guess who has something like a pen pal in Japan now?
Of course i love my family.But seeing them everyday makes me hate them.I can be so happy around my friends but when i get back home i turn into a whole different person.It just makes me angry.returning home and seeing them again knowing we will scream at each other.everyday.i want to move out but I'm still too young to do so.do you know what i could do?
(Btw i'm not native so my english might not be the best)
I have family I haven't seen in a long time coming to stay for a week. I've never been a hostess and we're a family that has a lot of turmoil.
Has anyone ever had family visit for a week? They'll be staying at my house, so I won't have to make hotel reservations. I'm just not sure how to fill the week. What all have you guys done during family get reunions? I guess itinerary wise if that makes sense.
Any awkward/funny stories?
Is you're family biologically related to you or did you choose your family (friends)? Were you adopted/did you adopt someone? If so, are you the same race as them? What was your experience because of this? Whats your family culture like? Where are you from (country/region), any religion? The more detail the better.
I'll be creating my own characters to represent these stories but it would feel fake if i just made up characters considering I only know my own experiences. Have asked my teachers if I can include photos of peoples families if they are willing to provide but I'm waiting on that. But until then, please share your stories below. And if you'd be interested in maybe having a one to one conversation about family that would much appreciate! Thanks :)
Well the cat’s out of the bag on this one, but it doesn’t matter because now I have justification to reinstate previous, more stringent cell phone rules.
My daughter is 16 and as most 16 year olds, she has her own phone with less parental control. But I still have sensible rules like no turning off iphone tracking, always answer my texts or calls immediately or within a reasonable time frame when not in school or practice, no dead battery excuses. But I know teenagers can be sneaky, so I have a backup tracking plan that I keep secret from her. I have an extra older version iphone on my family plan that I use as an emergency phone. I hide this phone somewhere in the car that I let my daughter drive, kept on silent. It’s always charged so I can track it when my daughter is out.
This past weekend, my daughter told me she was going to her friend Brett’s house to prepare for an academic competition and an oratory event. When I checked on her iphone and the secret iphone, the locations m... keep reading on reddit ➡
It’s a point of contention with my DH that my parents watch my sisters kids full time. My parents do their best to try to be available for everyone if it’s needed but in order to get that you have to give my parents enough time heads up. This is because they work (well for free) m-f and sometimes Saturday’s with the other family. This means if we have any last minute or even a week advance on something it may or may not happen because they are with the other family.
I realize his frustration, and we don’t need anything regular at this point, so I don’t know how I could even present it to my parents.
I don’t want to cause any hard feelings so I don’t know if it’s even something I can bring up or if it’s just a situation where they had first dibs and have a more regular work schedule. Maybe I’m being unreasonable in my wish that if they were busy it wouldn’t be because they promised their time to my sisters family (unless my family asked for something regular and in advance notic... keep reading on reddit ➡
I often read about family problems in this thread and I wonder who here has a family without any problems? What do you believe is the key to a happy family unit? Even if we come from broken families, how can we break the patterns from past trauma and start a new ? to build a healthy and loving environment for our children to grow up in?
My 4 year old sister in a bath with my 6 year old sister: GIVe me My buBbLEs!!!!!