Ex Wife

We have joint-shared custody, I am supposed to have them every other weekend. Back in May / June I was a mess. The medications I was taking made me not myself, and I could barely take care of myself let alone my children. Because of that my ex-wife decided to withhold custody / communication with my children. Since then I have gotten off any medications and I have my head back on straight. I'm working full time, paying child support, and doing all the adult things I'm supposed to be doing.

The ex had blocked me on Facebook, won't answer calls or texts, and is still not allowing me to communicate with them. I've gone to the police and they say it is a civil matter and my only solution is to take her to court.

Is this true? I miss them so much. I just want to hear their voices, see them, tell them Daddy loves them. What can / should I do? I have no extra money or savings and feel lost and trapped. Any suggestions would help.

Hi everyone, I'm a new sub here, have been lurking a while. I really need some advice on the divorce/annulment process. I'm UK based so not sure if anyone can help?

My wife/ ex-wife wants to get an annulment on the grounds of my 'mental incapacity' at the time of our marriage. I have Bipolar Affective Disorder and I was hypomanic (a milder form of bipolar mania, capacity still remains) throughout out the preceding months and during our wedding. My ex believes that annulment on these grounds will be the best course of action for us. We both agree that a divorce is the best way forward, we are quite amicable about it but my ex wants to divorce/annul very quickly which of course makes me suspicious. We have two children- an adopted son who has learning difficulties and a daughter who is 2. We have agreed child maintenance amicably and have agreed contact times and dates, again amicably. I'm a psych nurse so I'm well versed in what we term 'mental incapacity'. To my mind, yes I was hypoma

Last year my wife left me, we've been going through the divorce process ever since. She was taking too long to file and now the case got dismissed so now we have to start all over. That means having to re-pay all the fees and what not.

I'm trying to legally change my name so I can transition (comfortably) at work finally.

Since we are technically still married, one of the requirements in Arizona is Consent of Spouse.

She doesn't want to sign the paperwork because "She married someone named YYY and she wants to divorce someone named YYY" and "She doesn't want the name XXX on the divorce paperwork".

Now here in Arizona it takes about 90 days for a name change completion to take place for whatever reason. A divorce has a mandatory 60-day waiting period.

She wants me to wait until after the divorce to change my name, and she also can't restart the process until the end of January since she isn't working and can't pay for anything.

That being said, I can't wait anymore, sh

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I have five kids with my now ex-wife, (7F), (5F), (2M and 2M), and a seven month old baby boy. When my ex was pregnant with the baby, she decided that she didn't want to be involved with me or the kids anymore, so she divorced me and signed all her rights away. The only reason that I know she's still alive is the child support checks that I get.

My kids are obviously still upset over their mum just getting up and leaving without even giving them a heartfelt goodbye. My oldest has expressed being cross towards me regarding the situation, since she's the only one that truly understands that her mom probably won't come back. She feels abandoned and has come to me crying, because she believes that her mum doesn't love her anymore. My other daughter still believes that her mum's gonna come back, and it really hurts to hear her ask when she'll be back.

My other kids, obviously, don't understand where their mum has gone. All I can truly get from the

My boyfriend got divorced this past spring, and we started dating a couple months after the divorce was finalized. He has two kids (11 and 8) from his previous marriage and has 50/50 split custody. Because of the pаndemic I moved in with him pretty shortly after we started dating, since he needed help with the kids at home. This has actually worked out great: the kids and I get along fantastic, they are a total delight to be around.

Neither my boyfriend nor his ex wife could cook worth a damn (we’re talking spaghetti from a can/kraft mac and cheese level cooking here). I on the other hand am a massive foodie and love to cook, and now do 100% of the cooking in the house. Here’s the problem: now that the kids know what real food tastes like, they’re absolutely refusing to eat anything the ex wife cooks for them.

The ex demanded that I either stop cooking, or send her money to pay for the takeout she’s been having to buy for every meal. Obviously these are ridiculous demands, but to

My son (47M) and his ex partner “ Elena” (45F) were together 18 years before they broke up two years ago. They have two 20 year old twin daughters and a younger daughter that is 18 years old.

They were living together but my son said he didn’t want to get married and Elena seemed to be ok with that.

However when Elena fell pregnant at 43 she told my son that she really wanted to get married and finally call each other husband and wife.

She confessed that to my mother “ Katherine.” My mother Katherine was very close to Elena and her family and told her even if they didn’t get married she wanted Elena to have the family engagement ring and gave it to her.

As the reality of Elena’s pregnancy set in, my son started going crazy. He started blaming my wife and I for suggesting he go on a date with Elena all those years ago and said we all had “ forced her on him” and that this relationship has been a sham.

Three months into her pregnancy Elena lost the baby and my son moved out.

In

Divorced my ex decades ago. Two beautiful daughters, a son in law, and four amazing grandkids that love to call me Grumpy.

The AITA part? She lied to me the entire time we were married. Told me she loved me but she NEVER loved me and finally admitted it a few years ago. She pushes my buttons intentionally. Rides my @** like a donkey. Literally follows me around room to room during birthday parties, holidays, you name it. My kids think this is funny and have even tried joking with me about it. I'm not laughing. I'm tired of it. I'm not married to her anymore. We are not a family as far as I'm concerned. I am under no obligation to spend time with someone that pokes the bear, tries to make life hard, lied to me about loving me and our marriage.

My kids say it's expected of me to spend time together for the grandkids. I call BS. It creates unfair tension for them and me. I think they need to see that it's okay to not spend time with toxic people even if you share a family relation.

When my wife got pregnant I dumped her because she admitted to baby trapping me. We’ve had split custody of our son from the day he was born to the day he turned 18 when he then stayed with me full time as if his choice.

In 2017 my son married his high school sweet heart and about 4 months ago they decided to have a child. She recently decided that she wanted her mom in the room during her labor and everyone was perfectly fine with this except for my ex wife. She claimed that he as the father of this child needs to be “more realistic” and “be there for his wife during her time of need.”

We all just told her to stop cause she didn’t get to make that choice. He was fine with it and it’s what his wife wanted so my ex should not get an opinion on that matter. Well this went on for about 2 weeks and yesterday I’d had enough. We were all over there discussing a gender reveal, (nothing big they were just gonna have a friend make a cake. It would just be family) she brought up the “issue”

She’s done shit like this for years. Ruined Christmas mornings, embarrassing family reunions, anti-mask, anti-vaccine, and constant drama.

For over a decade I’ve told my family anytime something comes up because of her I’m always on the side of what’s best for the kids, and left it at that.

Why? Because my father asked my siblings and I to always be nice to her for the sake of the kids. The same man whose funeral was “really inconvenient” (her words) for the plans she made the day of the funeral and told us 3 hours before it was supposed to start.

Please, for fucks sake, tell me how to thoroughly wreck a bitch?

Update: For everyone who thinks I should just continue to be nice and do nothing, for whatever reason, please go get fucked. Hard. I’ve been nice for over a decade now, that shipped has sailed.

For those of you asking about helping my brother get full custody he is the reason he doesn’t have full custody. No matter how bad his ex gets he feels that having

A little context I (30) had a son(4) with Matt (28) from a fling, for reasons I didn't tell him about the kid being his, back then he wasn't interested in kids or marriage. I told him a few months ago and he is trying to build a relationship with our son.

Last year he fell in love with Sabrina who he had known for while and got married. I kind of knew Sabrina from far and she looks like someone who thinks highly of herself, i never understood why Matt was crazy about her. The problem is she is probably infertile or at least has trouble conceiving that's why she is insecure and jealous of me. She tries to act civil but it's very clear she feels uncomfortable around me. I remember one incident when our son called us a family and she got visibly upset but tried to play it cool. Another time Matt's mother uploaded a picture of us 3, her and Matt's father her with the caption "family" and Sabrina got so upset that she made Matt confront his mom. She constantly calls Matt when he's spending

I have 8 year old twins with my ex wife, and it is the biggest regret of my life. I read a post on here (I think) from a father saying that he loves his child, but if he could “command z” them away without harm, he would, and I relate to it so much. I love them, but my life would be better if they had never been born and if I could press some buttons on a keyboard to make them disappear without being hurt, I'd do it.

As soon as ex-wife and I got married after 3 years of being together, everyone started asking us about kids, telling us how it is the best thing we will ever do, and how rewarding and fulfilling parenthood is and how we will never regret it and all the usual stuff I am sure many you heard as well. "You don't know what happiness is until you have kids". We started trying, and she fell pregnant with twins. She really pushed for it too, and I was stupid and believed everyone who claimed it would be "rewarding" and "fulfilling".

After we announced the pregnancy, every ones

My ex-wife is a complete girly-girl who loves children and always wanted a big family. She is a primary-school teacher and was a doula for her sister's births.

We started trying when we were both 28 and had been married for 5 years. After 18 months without success we both got fertility testing.

I was found to be infertile. I went through several diagnostic procedures and treatments that, frankly, I would like to forget. I was told the odds of me conceiving naturally were close to zero. We considered IVF, but the specialist said it was not viable. The whole episode took about 5 years from beginning to resignation.

I was upset, but my ex-wife was devastated. She was briefly hospitalized for an acute depressive episode in 2015. It did not help that her younger sister had 5 children by that time.

My ex-wife wanted to use a sperm donor. I understand that biology isn't everything, but despite counseling and my best efforts at rationalization, I could never moderate the feeling of revulsi

So my wife and I have been married for 2 years and our first born is due in a month.

My wife wants to name him after her late ex bf who committed suicide years ago. I don’t know if this is a big deal or not? I kinda feel like a second choice. I know she will probably always have “love” for him and this is probably her way of honoring him?

I’ve never met him before and my wife rarely mentions him. I didn’t even know the dude and she wants to name our first child after him. Maybe I’m being a dick.

I’m entirely confused and I personally think it’s fucked up, just looking for another opinion...

EDIT: They were together until he died so basically they only are considered “ex’s” because he passed away.

Hello everyone. You can read my original post here.

I spoke to my exwife again and told her that this time of year was the best time to move a tree and give it the highest chance of surviving, and that construction was going to start anyway, and even if we didn't move the tree until the last possible moment, there was still a good chance it could get damaged just from all of the work being done around it.

She confessed to me that one of the reasons she did not want the tree to get moved was because she wasn't sure if she was going to keep the house or sell it because of 'the memories'. She was unwilling to come up with another plan. So I had the tree transplanted to her mother's house, which isn't far from her's. Her mother talked to a landscaper and I put a bench and some bushes around it. It's a nice spot. My exwife isn't happy, but the tree seems to be. Thank you to eve

Link to my first post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ieage6/my_40m_ex_wife_40f_wants_me_to_be_with_her_in_her/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Quick recap: My ex wife, who Ive known since I was 10, cheated on me but is now dying and wants me to be around before she dies.

It's been almost 3 weeks since I've posted and a lot has happened since. I got some solid advice from a lot of you guys, especially some who messaged me their personal experiences. I'd like to thank you guys from the bottom of my heart.

So here's what happened...

As many of you guys suggested, I talked to my wife. We had a long discussion about the whole situation and I assured her that no matter what, she is and always will be my first priority. I also assured her that while I wanted to say my good-bye, I would never act like her husband. It would be more like me seeing a childhood friend or something like that. I also told her I would never spend the night nor would I be alon

Edit: Title should say "take my last name". Sorry.

Edit2: It has come up a lot that my ex wants to keep the same last name as the kids. This is not the case. She assumed she would be taking his last name and was fine with that. The fiancé is the one who said he doesn't want her to change her name. He wants her to keep it so that he can have my last name.

Edit 3: It also seems worth noting, as it has come up several times, that I DID NOT ask my ex to take my last name or expect it. I was fine with her keeping her own and us just hyphenating the kid's last name. She was the one who chose to take my last name because that was what she wanted for herself. I'd have less of an issue with this if I had insisted she take my name and this same situation arose.

My ex-wife and I met in college, and I was immediately attracted to her free spirited nature and sense of adventure because I was very similar at the time. Long story short, we were together for a total of 9 years and married for 7 o

Anyone had an issue like this before?

My wife and I are separated. We separated in September.

We're in talks to divide the assets. One of the assets in question is £3000 in cash which my wife kept in a portable safe in her bedroom (the little money box ones). I was entitled to half of it, as per our mediation agreement.

Last week, she told me that there was a break in, ans the thief took the money box as well as some other things, such as jewelry.

The police give her a report, but there was no forced entry (she says she might have left the window or door open).

In a legal sense, is she still liable for what she owes me? She's completely fibbing about this, but I can't prove it.

My ex boyfriend is a piece of work. He loves Joe Rogan, Ben Shapiro, and is trying so hard to be a ‘shock jock’ in the very cutting edge city of Sioux Falls, SD. He tried being a Blood and a rapper, but failed because he grew up in a middle class home in Iowa with married teacher parents. He got an MSW, but is disgusted by poor people so doesn’t use it, instead hoping to get noticed for his ‘witticisms’ online 20 hours a day. He’s like if Jesse from Breaking Bad somehow had his genes spliced with Ronald Reagan and was left in a cornfield in Ames. Barf. He was fun at 22 and at 35 is fucking terrifying.

His wife, god bless her, met him in grad school. She went to a top women’s college, majored in Econ, and wanted to be a traveling writer while teaching abroad. Ex says no, and off to South Dakota they go. She picks up an accounting job, he’s become an...Internet comedian. She still completed a novel during NaNoWriMo last year while heavily pregnant. She still works full time as an accou

I have a small safe that I keep important documents and such. Taxes. Birth certificate. A USB with a flash game I made. Etc. But also in that safe are keepsakes. Things like concert tickets and letters from colleagues. This included letters from ex girlfriends.

None of them were sultry or raunchy. They were things like someone wishing me a great time in college and saying how they’ll miss me. They were innocuous, but they were important to me. Things Every now and then, when I opened it up to add a new tax return or something, it was nice to kinda look through the memories. See where I was and how I’ve grown.

Today I opened up the trash and saw an envelope with my name on it empty and crumpled. I wasn’t sure where it came from and, after searching, finally realized that my wife had gone through these things and thrown them away without telling me. She then added letters of her own. Things that I kept around the house, or displayed on dressers already.

I feel like it’s a gross breach

I (36M) have 3 children with my ex-wife Carol (F34) – two sons (M11, M7) and one daughter (F8). We currently have 50/50 custody where we switch off every other week. We are both very involved in their lives. My ex-wife is an only child. Her father (M62) was diagnosed with ALS over a year ago. His illness has now progressed to the point where he needs a lot of assistance with day-to-day activities – more than her mother (F63) can provide.

Because of the current situation, Carol’s work and the kid’s school went virtual back in March and stayed that way through the summer. So Carol and I agreed to change our agreement temporarily to switch every two weeks instead of every week and she went to help her mother. I didn’t like being away from my kids that long, but her parents live roughly 7 hours away. She and I would both drive halfway to drop off/pick up the kids This worked fine until school started back up – and the kids have to be physically present. Carol’s work is still virtual and

My ex and I share custody of a wonderful 9 year old boy. For the most part we get along.

My ex's wife, J, is a cosmetologist. Unfortunately, she's a terrible cosmetologist. This has been an ongoing issue and I'm at my wits end.

DS will go over to their house for a weekend visit and come home with his hair cut. Normally, this wouldn't be an issue but J is absolutely terrible at her job. His bangs start long and end short on one end (looks like she just took scissors and cut diagonally across his bangs), the back is shaved into several mismatched different lengths, and the top has random hair sticking out everywhere. I have to take him to get it fixed every time and the stylist is always amazed at how butchered his hair is. Im particularly upset this time as my son had grown out his hair and wished to keep it long and came home this morning with his hair absolutely butchered. I want to cry it looks so bad. The poor kid has to go to school like this until his stylist can see him on Wed

Thank you for such response. I have missed alot of detail to tell you guys. First is that I have divorced her before marrying M. I think she dont know as she was knowhere to be located. Second is that I have written L instead of M by mistake. I had full custody of my son as X was nowhere in the picture but now she is back so i dont know if my full custody will be maintained or not.

Also my post has been removed so i am putting original text here:

Seeking advice on how to handle the situation

Me(34M), my exwife(35F) call her X, my neighbour(AP), my neighbour’s wife(37F)call her M.

Me and my wife married in 2009. We had our baby in 2010. In Nov,2010 While she was asleep, a message pooped on her phone and was a flirty message. I checked on her phone and it was from our neighbour. I went through every single message which included sexting, sharing nudes and even had planned meet- ups at hotels. This was going on from the first week into our marriage. I felt like my world crumbled i

My soon to be ex wife (32F) and I (39m) were married for 10 years before we got separated. We have two homes-a main home close to NYC and a lakehouse upstate. We agreed she would continue living in our main home, and I would move to the lakehouse.

Seven years ago, my wife's grandmother passed. She planted a tree at our lake house in her honor. Since this was a vacation home that I'm now turning into a permanent residence, I'm going to be doing renovations, and theres no way around the tree needing to be moved.

I am willing to pay for all expenses to transplant the tree, and the aftercare to ensure that the tree survives the process, I am willing to wait until the right time to do this, however I heard late fall is the best time, so we do need to start planning it now.

My ex wife does not want to transplant the tree at all, she wants to be able to come over and keep visiting -it's a nice spot, theres a bench next to it and it's next to the lake, and she would spend a lot of time

We were married for about six years and have three kids. She had a nice body before having kids and quickly got back into shape up post-pregnancy until our last son. People did not believe she had two kids. A lot of it was genetics, her diet and being very athletic. The pregnancy with our last son was a nightmare. Long story short, she went from 110 to 145. Her body took a lot of damage. She's 39 and can't get back into the same shape that she was 10 years ago.

She went to a plastic surgeon for lipo and "contouring" consult. She wants to do it and can't afford it. She asked me to pay 50% of everything (or $7000) since it's "half" my fault that her body was ruined from our kids and I owe that much to her. She also through in facial treatments that would smooth out her skin because her skin was ruined by the "pregnancy hormones."

EDIT: No, she pays me child support.

Trying to give as clear a picture as possible for fair judgment.

My wife and I split a little over five years ago. My daughter is 12. I work long hours, so she lives with her Mom during the week, but she is with me every other Friday-Monday.

My daughter has always been a little chubby, I’m chubby, everyone in my family is chubby, but we don’t have any major health problems. Now that my daughter is 12, my ex wife has become concerned about her weight. She says that the doctor told her it would be wise to watch what she eats. She is 4’11” and she weighs around 120 lbs.

I think she will grow and stretch out. Both her mother and I are tall. I don’t think there is anything to worry about, she may just be a bigger woman like many women in my family. Everyone on my ex-wife’s side is pretty thin, so I think she is worried for no reason. She has put our daughter on a diet that I think is pretty harsh.

Daughter says she only gets protein, veggies and maybe some rice or potatoes. She doe

I'll try to give an unbiased brief history of us, i don't want to make excuses for what i did, but i will give my flawed reasoning at the time.

When we got together 9 years ago it was intense. It was the first real relationship either of us had been in. She ran away from home to be with me, she wanted to never speak to her family again but i saw that that her parents were well meaning and were certainly way better parents than mine. So i encouraged her to keep contact as she would come to regret it later if she didn't.

We both had our own troubled childhood and bonded well over similar experiences, this period was intense for both of us she even suggested a suicide pact at one point but i insisted that was a very bad idea. I was proud i was so mature and capable, i could take care of her. We could be together forever.

Within a year we were living together in some shitty studio flat and both on benefits looking for work. I got a temporary job sorting mail, i couldn't do it, i had mul

My MIL is recently widowed in her early 60’s by the sudden death of her husband (husbands step dad) of almost 20 years. My husband is an only child, so I guess we’re a close family. My MIL states she and her ex husband (my husbands bio dad) are best friends.

As long as I’ve known my MIL (12 years) she’s spent money as quickly as she got it. Credit cards, shopping sprees. “My money is my money and my husbands money is my money”. She was never in charge of the finances, and my step-FIL and MIL bought big ticket items: 100k fifth wheeler, money out 401K to buy cars. Equity out their home to buy condo in another state. Maxed out LOC, trips to resorts, cruises. You name it. My step FIL worked even after he retired to bring in extra money, assuming NOW, because debt was high. “We started later in life”, she’d say.

As soon as step-FIL died, everything that was an asset got sold and is currently in probate. I’m assuming it gets liquidated to pay off debt. She has a trip booked on a cruise

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Thank you everyone for your help and advice. I did my investigating before talking to her. I went through his social media first but nothing explicitly saying anything was going on. There were a few mentions of “his love” in some comments but that could mean anything. I did look at the phone bill and there looks to be calls with him pretty regularly.

On to hers, I was able to get on her phone when she was asleep. (She must of forgot I knew the code) Nothing in texts and no weird calls. (So she deleted them) I did find some apps she tried to keep “hidden” like Snapchat and Kik. Sure enough, there’s their conversations. And pictures. (I took pictures of all of it on my phone to have as proof) She exploded when we had the conversation and left with our child to her mothers.

I contacted a

Me (31M) and my ex wife (36F) finalised our divorce 3 years ago and she got to keep my apartment in Barcelona. I got a decent payout (since it’s Barcelona real estate) and the 2 acres of land she had inherited near the Pyrenees, France.

Let us be clear: I did not win that fight. Even with land sale and the payout combined, the apartment is still worth well more than triple that sum.

I had a job on the coast where I lived the last 4 years. My ex continued to “squat” the cottage for her holidays and getaways even though she knew I hated it, but I wasn’t living there so the cops weren’t gonna be useful.

My fiancée and I were sick of living in town, we’d been talking about moving into forest isolation for ages and the lockdown was the last straw. I told my ex I was moving to the cottage, to collect what she had left behind and say her final goodbyes.

The cottage wasn’t suited to my fiancées needs, and we needed more land to grow and build everything we wanted. So we found a bigge

Background. I(M41) and my ex-wife(F37) are recently divorced. It was finalized about a 1 1/2 months ago, filed 2 months before that. She wasn’t happy, irreconcilable differences and all that. I took it pretty hard at first but I’ve come to terms with it. We have two kids (F12 & M10). I work nights, she works days. Mon-Fri she goes into work an hour before I get off. I pick them up around 7:30 and they spend the school day at my house(online learning). She picks them up around 2:30. With this schedule the kids are alone in her house for around 2 hours in the morning. When I get there my son is usually still sleeping and my daughter has been up for a short time playing on her phone.

More backstory this past weekend the kids needed to pick something up from their mom’s on Saturday. When we got there there was a guy sitting on the porch smoking. My son asked who it was. My daughter said is was one of mom’s friends from when she was younger. I didn’t say a word. He went inside. My kid

Going to try to stay vague as I know my kids frequent reddit. This is my first ever post so apologies in advance.

I(52M) have been divorced from my ex-wife(52f) for a several years after being married for over 20. We have five beautiful children. Per our divorce agreement we have split custody, but since I was the breadwinner and my ex wife was a stay at home mom our entire marriage, I agreed to still pay child support as well as alimony. Our agreement also states that I get to claim them as dependents on my taxes.

The first year after our divorce my ex wife asked if she could claim our two children who were under 18 because she said that money could really help her as she was trying to reenter the work force after not working for over 20 years. I told her I would have to go over my finances and I'd get back to her. Well after meeting with my accountant he said whether or not I claimed them as my dependents would not make much of a difference. So I informed her that because of this,

To preface the story, my ex cheated on me a couple of years ago. We also have an 8-year-old son and daughter together, to whom we share custody.

My ex-wife recently has been calling a couple of times a day asking for help. She says that she's extremely late of rent and she could really use my help. She wants me to loan her some money, or to just find her a place to live. She said she's been trying to contact family services for more child support to no avail. I already pay her 2k a month, which is far more than enough to live off.

I just told her to go to a women's shelter, but she's saying that they don't really give the help that she needs. I said I guess that sucks, but it's not my problem. It's not that I don't care about my kids either. The worst case is that she goes homeless and I get full custody. In every way, the kids are safe and secure.

She's literally begging me of all people to help. She lost most of her friends after the incident, and somehow can't get any o

*Note to the Mods of R.A: Reddit simply won't let me make a new/throwaway account. When I prove I am not a robot and click "verify;" nothing happens. I have tried for two days. I hope you will leave this up. I don't give a shit about Karma. I just want advice...though I doubt I'm worthy of it after my thoughts that are explained below.

TL;DR: My ex wife had three boyfriend at the close of our marriage. Then she spent several hours on a couple of occasions comparing me to one of her boyfriends. Several years after the divorce, she is diagnosed with a very aggressive cancer. I am having a horrible thought that might interfere with my ability to console our adult son. How do I stop being a horrible shithead with bad, horrid thoughts so I can be there for our son please! I'm disgusting to have this thought!! I make myself sick.

My EX-wife conducted affairs with three guys at the same time at the end of the marriage.She was a manager and fired someone. That someone took revenge

For the past 3 years since moving to the states I have gotten close to my sil(now former) as I live only a 10/15 minute walk from her.

I used to believe that she was some terrible woman who abused my brother and kept him apart from his children but the past 3 years have been an eye opener to say the least.

My brother figured out a legal way not to support his former wife and barely supports his children (they have 4 kids and he pays just under $380 monthly even though he can afford to pay way more and should be paying more)

I never had a relationship with my ex-sil because I lived in another country at the time and so we had met once at the wedding and only spoken on the phone a few times. My whole perception of her was based on my brothers, stepmothers and fathers bs stories.

When I moved to where I live now I noticed that my ex-sil was really struggling and decided that I would give her money monthly and help out with the kids.

My brother recently found out because my niece t

For starters I live in Ottawa Ontario . For 12 days my ex wife has had her boyfriend in our joint owned house . The boyfriend was the cause of the divorce. The divorce is in progress with the end goal for someone to move out (un decided who). He has previously attempted to put nails in the tires of my vehicle , I caught this on camera and had a charge pending which my ex wife begged to drop so that he wouldn’t lose his job to which I (arguably dumbly) agreed. Now he is in the house , constantly antagonizes me and I honestly do not feel safe and feel eventually something is going to happen. I’ve talked with a lawyer about it however he the impression he gives me is that this is not a for sure thing and the police may not remove him. I’m looking for advice on how to remove him legally. Thank you for your time.

Update . Police came and did not assist. At this time I am pursuing re applying the charges . Is there anything I should know about re applying charges after dropping them ?