Ex Wife

We have joint-shared custody, I am supposed to have them every other weekend. Back in May / June I was a mess. The medications I was taking made me not myself, and I could barely take care of myself let alone my children. Because of that my ex-wife decided to withhold custody / communication with my children. Since then I have gotten off any medications and I have my head back on straight. I'm working full time, paying child support, and doing all the adult things I'm supposed to be doing.

The ex had blocked me on Facebook, won't answer calls or texts, and is still not allowing me to communicate with them. I've gone to the police and they say it is a civil matter and my only solution is to take her to court.

Is this true? I miss them so much. I just want to hear their voices, see them, tell them Daddy loves them. What can / should I do? I have no extra money or savings and feel lost and trapped. Any suggestions would help.

Hi everyone, I'm a new sub here, have been lurking a while. I really need some advice on the divorce/annulment process. I'm UK based so not sure if anyone can help?

My wife/ ex-wife wants to get an annulment on the grounds of my 'mental incapacity' at the time of our marriage. I have Bipolar Affective Disorder and I was hypomanic (a milder form of bipolar mania, capacity still remains) throughout out the preceding months and during our wedding. My ex believes that annulment on these grounds will be the best course of action for us. We both agree that a divorce is the best way forward, we are quite amicable about it but my ex wants to divorce/annul very quickly which of course makes me suspicious. We have two children- an adopted son who has learning difficulties and a daughter who is 2. We have agreed child maintenance amicably and have agreed contact times and dates, again amicably. I'm a psych nurse so I'm well versed in what we term 'mental incapacity'. To my mind, yes I was hypomanic when we got married, but I did have capacity to consent to it on account of not totally loosing my mind. I am further concerned about how an annulment on the grounds of 'mental incapacity' will affect my life and my work.

My ex is one of those 'get it done now' people. She wants it all over with, in her words so she can 'get over it and move on with her life'. I don't think she has anyone else 'around' but who knows. She is a church goer so I feel she may be using annulment so that she doesn't get looked down upon if she were to get married again. I frankly don't care for any of it. I still love my ex and she still loves me, but our marriage didn't work out and we're both pretty cut up about it (her more-so I think, hence why she wants to get over it by annulling the marriage). It was one of those situations where living with our adopted son and daughter set me off into various episodes, so we decided to move me out for a more positive relationship with the kids. I see them 2-3 times a week and have a good relationship with them both.

So that's my story. What do you all think about this? Is annulment the best way forward or should it go to divorce? If you're from elsewhere in the world please feel free to comment.

Last year my wife left me, we've been going through the divorce process ever since. She was taking too long to file and now the case got dismissed so now we have to start all over. That means having to re-pay all the fees and what not.

I'm trying to legally change my name so I can transition (comfortably) at work finally.

Since we are technically still married, one of the requirements in Arizona is Consent of Spouse.

She doesn't want to sign the paperwork because "She married someone named YYY and she wants to divorce someone named YYY" and "She doesn't want the name XXX on the divorce paperwork".

Now here in Arizona it takes about 90 days for a name change completion to take place for whatever reason. A divorce has a mandatory 60-day waiting period.

She wants me to wait until after the divorce to change my name, and she also can't restart the process until the end of January since she isn't working and can't pay for anything.

That being said, I can't wait anymore, she left me a year ago and she gave up any rights then to control my life in anyway whatsoever. My name change is something that needs to be done so that I can keep moving forward.

She wants to hold me back to satisfy her own personal reasons and I think that is FUCKED UP.

Now that being said, there is an option if spouse does not agree with the name change. I can send her a certified mail delivery of my stamped copy of my application and a notice of hearing which states the date, time, and place of the hearing. This provides proof of notice.

Now I am unsure what this means as far as me changing my name. Is her reasoning enough for the court to deny my name change? I don't want to waste $300 since I don't make a lot of money.

This whole thing is very frustrating.

My ex and I divorced when our son was only a year old. After that she moved and didn’t have that much involvement with him because she was more focused on her business and barely called on birthdays. My son is 9, last year we started having more contact with her. Her business fell through and now she came back wanting to have more involvement in our son’s life. He was open to speaking with her but is still a little weary given he barely knows her. They’ve spent some time together for months. Since it was Mother’s Day yesterday my ex asked if he could sleep over at her house so they could spend the weekend together. My son said yes to it and I gave my permission.

I dropped him off Saturday afternoon and the plan was to pick him up Sunday evening. That Saturday night my ex was calling me because my son was inconsolable, wouldn’t stop crying. She asked me to talk to him so he could calm down because nothing she told him was helping and he only wanted to talk to me. My son kept telling me over and over he wanted to go home. He said he had a nightmare something bad happened to me and he wanted to go home. For like 5 mins I was trying to calm him down and had my ex FaceTime me so he could see I was okay. But that wasn’t enough for him, he kept saying he wanted to go with me.

My ex told me to just stay on the phone with him until he fell asleep and I don’t need to come get him. But my son wouldn’t calm down so in the end I drove to her house. We had an argument when I got there. She didn’t want him to leave because we agreed he’d spend the night at her place. My son was still wanting to come home so I took him back with me. Nightmares rarely make him this upset but this one did and he even wanted to sleep in the bed with me.

Next morning I had a ton of texts from my ex telling me what an asshole move I did taking our son home like if she couldn’t handle him on her own and I had no right to go back on our agreement. All she wanted was me to cl him down not get all dramatic and take him from her. They still spent Mother’s Day together but she was still pissed off about it so they really only spent a couple hours together before she dropped him off. Again she sent me another message sarcastically thanking me for ruining their Mother’s Day weekend. I’m starting to second guess myself and wondering if I was an asshole for cutting their weekend off even if know my son was upset. Was it the best choice to make? AITA?

I met my wife in my early 30s. She was in her mid 20s at the time. I was already well established and had made a significant amount of money working as a quant and investing my savings diligently. She on the other hand had never gone to college and was content working for basically minimum wage.

So when I meet her we click instantly and I fall head over heels for her. We get married and move in together, and soon after have three kids. When we were expecting our first born she had told me she wanted to be a stay at home mom. Obviously I was jealous but I went along with it since it seemed logical.

So she spends the next 20+ years as a stay at home mom taking care of our kids while I work 12 hour days and then some. I’m not demeaning stay at home moms by the way, but in the context of our marriage she had an extremely easy going life style, we hired a live-in nanny and also a part time chef she barely had to lift a finger in over 20 years.

A couple years ago I discovered she had been cheating on me with her friend’s husband. Divorced obviously followed.

The only major asset we had in the US was our house, which was a premarital asset. We had a shared bank account, but since I am a finance guy I handled all our investments, and for tax reasons invested it abroad in my home country.

Now if we had just grown apart, or she said she was unhappy, I’d have no problem paying what’s fair. But the fact she cheated on me is what makes me resent paying her a cent.

So in the divorce she is awarded half of our investments made during marriage, >90% of which are abroad in my name, along with alimony for 20 years for 30% of my pay.

So here I am given an opportunity to get out of this entirely by moving back to my home country and never looking back. So I sell our house as fast as possible, move the money abroad, and move back to my home country while stringing her along about why it’s taking so long to liquidate our savings. Once abroad I immediately stop alimony payments.

Now she has no legal recourse (I’ve double checked with lawyers) and is left with her share of the small amount we had in the states.

The reason I’m asking here is that my own children are split on this. My son is on my side 100%, while my daughters are 90% on their mothers side. I figured it would be interesting to see the opinions of people here.

My ex and I separated about 4 years ago now. We have a 7 year old and a 5 year old girls. He has a son from a previous marriage that he has full custody of, he is 10.

He’s been remarried for 3 years now. I recently got married and welcomed a son last year. Well I dropped the girls off to their dad for a gender reveal party. Ex and his wife are expecting.

Well I was watching the live video on Facebook and it was a boy. He said “thank god, thank god” then he said “I didn’t want anymore girls. I would have shot myself” my girls were standing there and that looked at the camera and I could see it in their eyes that his words had hurt them.

I went to pick my girls up and I told him he should watch his words around the girls because when he said that it really hurt their feelings. He told me it was none of my business and I was trying to ruin his happiness. To which I responded that I was not trying to do that but protect our daughters for never feeling adequate when it comes to their brothers and he was showing blatant favoritism. He got mad and spewed some nasty names at me. I took the girls home and they told me that their daddy only loves boys and he doesn’t like girls.

I calmed them down. AITA for bringing it up to him on their special day?

My ex wife and I have joint custody of our son Brandon (12) but he spends his summers with me.

For the past few years Brandon and I spend a few weeks during the summer up at my father’s old place by a lake that he left me after he passed.

It’s the best place for kayaking, long hikes, and bike rides.

My ex got married a year ago and her husband has two sons; who I’ll call “Todd” and “Jared.” Todd is 14 and Jared is 10.

Brandon gets along just fine with Jared. They’ve gotten pretty close and I’ve taken Jared along with us a few times if we’re celebrating something for Brandon.

I’m talking birthday trips to Disneyland or going to the beach. Last summer Jared also joined us for our summer trip to the lake.

The one my son really had problems with is Todd. The kid has had behavioral issues and when they all first moved in, Brandon complained about how much Todd would bully him for no reason.

Calling him names, going into his room and breaking/stealing his stuff, and other things. I immediately confronted my ex about keeping our son away from him because of the things Brandon said he’d do to him at their house.

I threatened to take her back to court to change our custody arrangement if she didn’t do something about it.

My ex is aware of Todd’s issues, so she and her husband try to keep him in line. Todd leaves Brandon alone now but they don’t interact at all when he’s over there and my son absolutely hates him.

The other day my ex called to ask me about my summer plans with Brandon, it’s already been agreed that Jared would be coming and she asked if I’d consider taking Todd too.

I said no and I only bring Jared because my son invites him and they actually get along. Todd is the last person he’d want there.

Well my ex said Todd is jealous that they get to do something “cool” for the summer and feels left out.

She believes this would be a great way for them to learn to get along but I told her that’s up to Brandon and he’s made it clear he wants nothing to do with Todd.

Now she won’t let this go and telling me I’m being so unreasonable about this when it could be beneficial for the boys. And she feels guilty that Todd will just be at home while Jared gets to come with us.

I’ve not changed my mind about this and being treated like an asshole. Even after Brandon told her he doesn’t want Todd with us this summer she’s still making a big deal out of it.

It’s hard to see how I’m being an ass about not wanting Todd to come with us when all he’

Background: My ex wife (f34) and I (m31) divorced over 2 years ago. We share custody of our 6 year old son and co-parenting has been fine although we're both learning to adapt to our new normal, but we both have a ton of respect for each other.

I have a girlfriend that I've been seeing for 10 months. She loves my son and just moved in my place recently. My son's birthday was days ago and just like every year, his mom and I celebrate it together. We took family pictures like my son wanted meaning the three of us.. him, his mom, and I. We do this on occasions I'm talking when my son wants us present for birthdays or Christmas or any event. He has many pictures of us 3 together and currently started doing projects for fun using those pictures.

So Me, my son, And my girlfriend were visiting my parent's house. My son was showing my brother the family pictures that him, his mom and I took and he lifted his eyebrow and looked at my girlfriend then asked if she knew about this and she said yes. Then he burst laughing which made it awkward for everybody.

My brother said the pictures were very awkward, and that I was doing it for show infront of my son and that there's probably a lot of arguing behind the scenes when my son isn't around. said that it's not fair since this gives my son a false sense that his parents are going to be together again. And also not fair to my girlfriend to be excluded like that while me and my ex still act like were married taking family pictures together. I firmly told him off and said it was none of his business. Told him my ex wife is still my son's mother and will always be in the picture. My girlfriend stopped eating then excused herself to the bathroom. My brother just shrugged his shoulders and said he'd NEVER share a picture with his ex wife even if he's offered a million dollars to do it. kids just have to learn to adapt to the new dynamic And that I should expect my girlfriend's wrath over this. I called him a jerk and told him my girlfriend isn't a bitter, narrow minded POS like he is and I'm sure she understands that I'm just looking out for my son's best interests.

Well...We got home and my girlfriend was upset and kept saying that my brother had a point in some of the stuff he said. She said that what I'm doing wasn't wrong but she argued about how the future is going to look like when we decide to get engaged-or married and that she might be excluded from her future Stepson's family pictures. That would make her upset.

Short back story, I (34M) got married young, dated many really but relationship ended q few months after being married due to her having a long time affair that came out shortly after.

Her parents have always been good to me, treated me like their own. I have no family of my own so I embraced it. In fact when my ex and I split up they gave me the money to start over. Her dad taught me everything, how to work on cars, we replaced the floor in his house, built a new front deck onto his house, I owe a lot of my handyman skills to that man.

I've always kept them close, they would always insist on meeting the women I dated and have us out for a nice dinner, I remarried and they where even at my wedding.

Now recently my ex wife, now divorced again, newly single, hit me up to say hi and catch up, this will be important later.

I told my current wife about it, she's not mad. When I spoke with my ex father in law recently he asked if I was going to be in town soon if I could come help with some projects around the house, adding another deck, some new flooring up stairs and so on. I said sure, I'm currently out of work due to the world going to heck, so I said I could come visit for a few days (they live about a days drive away).

This didn't go over so well when I talked to my wife about it. I said I wanted to help him, that it was important to me, she said she "didn't trust my newly single ex" to not try something with me. I said you don't need to trust her just trust me, and yes I would stay at her parents house. All I want to do is help. My friends say I'm an asshole for not being sensitive to the situation, and obviously my ex still wants me. Does that mean I can never spend time with her parents? The people who still call me their son?

AITA for wanting to help?

Edit: For those people down in the comments they are assuming I want to help my former in laws so I can cheat with my exwife: first off, if I was just trying to go mess with her, I could make that a day trip and not commit to a huge home improvement project. Second, as I said down below, I'd not go there with a 10 foot poll for many reasons. Lastly, yes there are people out there that just want to help and not have sex as a motivation, having it my way she wouldn't even be in the picture. Stop trying to assume I'm doing this for her. You're all wrong on that fact.

I’m agnostic and my ex wife is Muslim, i had a talk with her about leaving religion out of our kid’s life so she could decide what she wanted to do when she’s old enough. I hate religion but I won’t feed my kid that hate since that’s not healthy either. My ex agreed to that but said that if my kid asked questions like “what are you doing?” When she prays she would have to answer and i understood that. But 1 month later my kid is already telling me “god creates the little animals and you can feel him in our hearts” that made me so angry!! But I don’t want to show that anger since my kid is most likely to not share her ideas with me anymore. The only thing i can do is talk to my ex about it but it sucks because i know nothing will change.

Any tips?

So for the last 4 or so weeks my kids (7m & 5f) have been ingesting a spoonful of turpentine everyday, and been using it topically to treat mosquito bites.

100% gum turpentine, my boy said the bottle read. Paint thinner. I've questioned them about it and I have zero doubt this was happening.

Now I've wanted to book in for a tox screen and bloodwork but would have to travel 2 hours to get it done, the only other option being police and CPS (both unfavourable options) or seeing a GP.

What am I in for here? What damage would chronic ingestion of turpentine cause a 7yo or 5yo child? What are the things I should look out for? Would turps even show up in a screen in such small volume?

And if theres anyone here from Victoria, Australia, would a GP be able to help initiate a tox screen?

I (M 30) was married for about six years before finalizing a divorce with my ex (F 32) a few years back. We share a son together who is four years old. When we split we agreed that I would have him during the school year and she would get him in the summer. Earlier last year she announced she was pregnant and our son was thrilled. Meanwhile me and my fiancé (M 28) have been looking to find a surrogate to also add to our family.

As my ex wife progressed through her pregnancy she claimed that dealing with our son and her new baby would be too much for her. She wanted to sign away her rights to our son. I did not think it was the best thing to do because our son was old enough to be attached to his mother but she insisted. So I legally have all rights to my son. My fiancé is planning on trying to adopt him once we get married.

Luckily for us a friend reached out and offered to carrying a child for me and my future husband. We agreed and we got the news a few months later that she was pregnant. Our pregnancy was about three months behind my ex wife’s. I do let her parents see my son frequently because they had no say in her signing away her rights. Of course my son is excited to have a sibling from our side so his grandparents told his daughter.

Since then it’s been a bit hell. My ex wife has non stopped harassed us about copying her. She accused us of having a baby out of spite. I’ve tried to not let it get to me, I’ve always wanted a big family and I thought when I got divorced I lost my chance. Unfortunately my ex wife gave birth to a stillborn, I gave my condolences because the lost of a child can be so upsetting. My sister reached out to her as well because they had been close while we were married.

My daughter was born a few months after this happened and we made one announcement on social media about it. My fiancé and I are pretty quiet people and we don’t like attention. We just wanted to let friends and family know that we had a healthy baby girl. My ex wife, her parents, her boyfriend and her extended side of the family have not stopped harassing my family about bragging about our child when my ex wife was clearing in pain over losing hers.

I’ll be honest, my ex wife’s feelings were not considered when we announced the arrival. I was just overjoyed to have a new addition. So, I’m here to ask your opinion, AITA?

Me M43 and my ex wife divorced 6 years ago. The reason was her refusing to move with me out of the country and leave her folks and the town she grew up in. She was a very generous-kind hearted person and our seperation never affected the mutual respect we had for each other.

I work in construction. I left the country and met my now wife and stepdaughter who's 18 She lives with her mother. My relationship with her is based on respect although we're not that close. Anyways my ex wife got sick in the last couple of years. I stayed in contact to check in on her since I live in another country. My wife is okay with that since she knows my ex and I knew each other since childhood. My stepdaughter however would make comments about her although she never met her. She'd ask me inappropriate questions. Compare her mom to my ex and ask if I ever thought about going back to the country and getting romantically involved with my ex again. I snapped and told her to stop and that was it.

I recently was able to get an apartment that I was planning on renting out. But my wife said it'd be great if we let my stepdaughter move in to the apartment as her 18th birthday gift. Said she'd be very grateful for this support and I agreed thinking my stepdaughter is more deserving than others.

She was happy when she knew. She saw it and was excited to move next month. last week I recieved the worst news in my life. My ex wife passed away. My stepdaughter came into the room and saw me sitting on the floor. She asked and I told her my ex-wife passed away. She looked at me then smirked and said 'ding dong, witch's finally dead' I was stunned. I yelled at her telling her to get out.

I told my wife what happened and that I'm taking back the keys to the apartment from my stepdaughter after the disrespect she showed to a woman she never even met.

My wife argued that she was joking. I asked if this was good time for her jokes seeing me like this and acting insensitive. She didn't respect the woman I loved and grew up with for years. My stepdaughter heard and was crying. I my wife called me harsh and that she's just a kid but I refuser to discuss it and now they're claiming I'm being cruel and shouldn't go back after promising.

I'm (40yr) male and wife is (39). I've been noticing strange behavior with my wife for some time now. So I suspected she was having an affair. So I decided to go through her phone and computer and there it was. As I went through her browser history I saw "Sex with ex gave me closure"

"Sex with the one that got away"

"How to not tell husband about affair"

"Pisces/Gemini compatibility"

When I confronted her she said that was just her thoughts but she didn't have sex with her ex. She said she met him one time but they were just talking and they were just "friends". She said she would never sleep with him because he is a bad boy and would ruin her good name.

What do you all think. Am I overeating or my suspicions is correct? How should I approach this?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9576273/Armie-Hammer-happier-healthier-blond-Cayman-Island-dental-hygienist.html

“'Armie's happier and healthier than I've seen him in a long time,' they said. ‘Lisa really helped him turn his life around” 'He's even introduced her to his father and stepmother - it won't be long until she meets his kids.'

“According to the source the only 'obstacle' in the budding romance is Armie's estranged wife Elizabeth Chalmers who has 'made his life a living hell.'”

“She's really mean to Lisa,' they said. 'She even called her ugly and fat – which she clearly is neither.'

“He left the Ritz [Carleton] because Elizabeth made his life a living hell,' they said. 'Lisa is a super nice girl and has a great reputation on the island.”

His close friends/enablers are working really hard trying to rehab his image. But based on the comments it is not working as well as they had hoped. A is being dragged I am here for it 😂

I don't know where else or who else I can say this to. There is noone else. So I'll tell to my MGTOW gang. Free agent fo' life!

Slightly confusing but any help appreciated.

I'm currently stationed in the UK. Been here over three years now. Before that I was also overseas for a year. My ex moved into the house I own with my kids when I was leaving so they didn't have to move in with her and she could still be a parent as we had divorced a couple years before that. It was only supposed to be for the first year but then I was given this opportunity. Spoke with her about it at length and we both agreed to it with the understanding that she would vacate when a certain goal was met and I returned (goal still not obtained), or my youngest reached 18 and graduated high school. My youngest and my oldest have moved in with me over to the UK now and she was supposed to leave after the first of April. She's still in there. I had turned off the utilities but she just got them turned on in her name which confuses me since she has nothing that says she rents or owns. I had to provide a million and one documents showing I owned it before they'd turn utilities on.

Just need to know what I can do to force her out and get her out of my house. My mom who is handicapped is supposed to move into it. I spend a fortune redoing a bathroom to be ADA compliant for her and she's stuck waiting.

Thank you.

[Edited because I'm an idiot and did something to submit before I finished typing]

Before you pass a judgment on my friend who I am calling Ben, he has tried everything to be a good dad. He tried to co-parent since his son was 4 and all it got him was pain and suffering at EM's hands. She basically chased away Ben's social life and his chances of having a relationship with anyone with EK or EM putting up a fight.

Ben agreed to counciling even when his insurance couldn't cover it and he owes my husband and I $200 for one session.

He has a job and pays child support and watches EK almost every day off. What sucks is EM has a social life and friends and talks crap about Ben. I found an FB post complaining about how Ben cosplays and spends money meant for her on his hobbies. (Actually Ben supplements income by building props and costumes for others, most of the pictures she had was from when Ben was in college.) This guy is also working 2 jobs on top of it.

EM also attacks Ben's friends including myself and my husband. She blames us for her souring marriage and also Ben's hobbies which literally he never shared with her because of this. (She was the one cheating really, Ben was not amused by that news)

So when the Pandemic happened Ben decided he had to put his foot down after what happened in 2019 at a convention. Basically he was with myself, my friends and well his new girlfriend when EM decides to DUMP EK on hin. Just imagine that kind of scene where she just showed up handed off EK and then told him to GO HOME or she was calling CPS on every parent at the convention.

She basically said she didn't want her son catching the Nerd. EK is very much a male version of his mom and a bully, which Ben has tried to carb with grounding, psychology and therapy, none of which EVER WORKED. It got so bad that I nicknamed the kid THE RODENT! Something this kid wears like a badge of honor! (We have actually wanted to spank this kid, but didn't want to face child abuse charges, so we usually try to help Ben)

All six of us were at a loss of what to do, luckily Ben's mom was thirty minutes away and came to grab EK before he could do much damage. This kid already called me fat, called a little girl dressed like Sailor Chibi Moon a slut (she was 8), and was already told by Con security to stop being a disruption.

At the end of this I have never heard Ben raise his voice and what came out was something no kid needs to hear. "I HOPE I NEVER SEE YOU OR YOUR MOTHER AGAIN!" (It also echoed in a parking lot)

Ben just decided to tell his son exactly w

I’m really not trying to be a “bitter baby mama” but I’m also trying to be a good mom at the same time, help!!

Here’s the deal: I’m a parent of a 5 year old feral princess. Her dad and I broke up years ago and have been co parenting successfully since then.

About 2 years ago EX met “SM”(step mom). SM is reallllllly nice. Like preschool teacher type of nice.

She met my daughter pretty quickly in to the relationship with EX but I didn’t say anything because I knew her through mutual friends and by all accounts, she’s a fine person to have around kids. Since meeting EX 2 years ago, they’ve already managed to get married, have a baby, and have SM become a stay at home mom.

It’s great and cute but this means that SM is doing the bulk of childcare for FP(feral princess) and I’m not sure that I agree with how she’s doing things.

4 was a rough age for FP. She was becoming a very demanding, whiney, and quite frankly, bratty child. I started to see improvement until SM went on maternity leave and began spending full days with FP.

I noticed SM would post things like “target trip with FP, she doesn’t let me leave without getting her a new toy”, a new toy would be posted at least once a week, sometimes more if they went to other stores. It happened with other stuff too “I needed to clean today but FP wanted Starbucks and the park so we went to Starbucks and the park”

Then there’s more. She posts “she threw a 30 minute tantrum this morning because EX couldn’t drop her off at school. You can tell by this smile that daddy was late to work and dropped off his little princess”

Another: “someone didn’t want to take a shower tonight. I told her she could smear chocolate on her face if she agreed to take a shower after. That’ll do the trick!”

Another: “first trip to the grocery store with no tantrums!” —she doesn’t throw tantrums at every store I take her to??

I’m sooo happy that FP is clearly loved and happy at their house but we swap weeks and I fear that having a straight week of them just giving in to every tantrum and toy request is bad for her. She’s throwing tantrums just like she did at 3 and 4 and sometimes even worse because now she sees that at EX’s house, she’ll eventually get her way.

WIBTA if I had a discussion with them on instilling more consequences for bad behavior(no giving in to tantrums) and to scale back on the random toy purchases every week? Would it be an AH move to enforce our old schedule(court ordered) if they don’t

So I just found out through my kids that my ex-wife has been feeding them turpentine mixed with sugar or honey as a way to worm them, and also been using it topically to treat mosquito bites. They are 7m and 5f.

Reading up on what it does if you ingest it (because who the hell would ever think its a good idea to drink paint thinner as medicine?) it can be devastating and it really doesn't take whole lot to mess you up, especially if you're a child. Think... one tablespoon could potentially be enough to change your life kinda messed up.

I don't think talking to the ex is going to yield any results and realistically I dont even expect her to be honest about it anyway. My only evidence so far is the secondhand account of the testimony of my 7yo boy (he told my mum/his grandma and she went and told me).

Do I have any legal options here? Should I be collecting evidence and if so what kind? I honestly don't know what to do... I can't have my kids being fed literal poison and to top it off they were saying "yeah the government tells us its poison but its actually good for you." This isn't the first time they've come out with little nuggets of conspiracy soaked wisdom like this (tap water makes you docile and obedient sorta stuff) but this one is truly terrifying.

They were meant to go back to their mother today but I've got them in my care until next weekend due to an undisclosed 'emergency' that my ex sprung on me about an hour ago (nevermind that I'm starting a new job tomorrow and wasn't prepared in any way to look after them for a week with no notice) but please if anyone here can give me a few tips or pointers I would be so grateful. I'm stressing pretty bad about this, I don't know what to do.

I'm embarrassed and don't want this to be seen on my main account.

Me F33 and my husband M35 have been married for over 2 years. Since day one, His mom, mother in law played favorites and spoilled my sister in law rotten. She'd always praise her while neglecting me. Always busy sending gifts her gifts and inviting her to events while ignoring me. I didn't mind keeping my distance. I don't hate to be left alone. But one way or the other. The way she treated me (still) hurts. My sister got most of the attention especially with her preg and all that.

In the past few months my in-laws have been busy with my brother in law's issues with sister in law. My mother in law tried everything to try to fix those issues until my brother in law told her his soon to be ex wife was being unfaithful and he discovered her affair recently. My husband and I knew nothing about this til his mother came crying and badmouthing my sister in law basically shaming her, and regretting all the good things she's done for her. Then went on about wanting to make sure brother in law's 2 kids are getting DNA tested and see how things go from there. I didn't want to get involved and focused on my son. Things have thankfully calmed down and everyone has calmed down as well.

I gave birth to my son 2 weeks ago. Everything was going well. I was only able to see both my family and my husband's family when I was discharged and arrived home.

Only mom came to visit in my family. While My mother in law came with her 2 sisters and her niece as well. First thing she did when she saw the baby was asking everyone wether he has any of his father's features. I felt uncomfortable but I didn't pay much attention. My mom did all the work and served drinks and meals after she helped with cleaning. My mother in law took a sip of her coffee. Looked at my husband while we were busy with our son and said "Well, when are you taking the DNA test?".

The room went silent. She paused for few seconds then casually said she was just kidding. Then put her hands together looking nervous.

My husband started laughing-even motioned for me to start laughing. I really didn't get the joke at all. My mom just kept staring at me I felt absolutely awful. I couldn't wait for the visit to be over. My mother in law left without even saying goodbye to her grandbaby. I then asked my husband about what happened and he said his mom was just joking and she wasn't talking about me in her joke saying she's still shocked by what she f

I've known Nolan and Bella for a few years. They were married when I first met them, but they've been divorced for the past two years. It was an amicable divorce and they stayed friends, and I've stayed friends with both of them- although I've always been closer friends with Nolan and see him a lot more often than I see Bella.

So anyway, over the past few months I started noticing that Nolan and I were attracted to each other, but I figured he was off limits because he's Bella's ex. But then he told me that he has feelings for me and was interested in pursuing a relationship, and I realized that I feel the same way.

But I don't think that Bella would ever forgive me for dating her ex-husband, and I'm trying to decide if I think this is worth imploding our friendship over. I honestly think it would be really unreasonable of her to try to stake a claim on him considering the context of their marriage ending (she cheated), but I don't know that I could use that as reason alone to just ignore her hurt feelings.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you decide what to do?

tl;dr: I want to date my friend's ex, but I feel like that's a big moral transgression and I'm not sure how to weigh the options.

It's afterhours Friday April 30th and the market just took a bit of a dump. Nothing to panic over but a solidly red day following an all time high. Previously I have focused by DD efforts into research on Boomer Stocks. Great stocks with real products, strong histories of growth, objectively clear market conditions (e.g. steel is up bigly US Steel will likely have a great Q2)

This week I need to focus on the other side of my portfolio - Becky Stocks. My fat ex-wife always makes me add some Becky to our portfolio so I looked into the Becky index and found ETSY. It looked like a solid option at first with earnings still approaching and other similar stocks gaining post earnings (Amazon, Shopify), but then to top it off it dumped 5% today. A $25 billion dollar company lost over a $1 billion in value in a single day. Not because of any particular negative news or anything, it appears to just be a general sell-off.

Does Becky still like Etsy? - Yes

Etsy has grown revenue and profits by margins ranging from 100 to 500% YoY growth in all the key financial metrics. Etsy is more popular than ever and Google Trends data/Alexa rankings don't show a noteworthy slowdown. (https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?q=%2Fm%2F0byvh_&geo=US)

Does Becky have incentive to buy cute Etsy items as things slowly open up? - Yes

Responsible Becky hasn't had the ability to host house parties or show off newest 'Live, Laugh, Love' decor. Everyone wants to get out and see friends/family and Becky knows that theme parties and custom theme'd decor is he best way to prepare for these parties. Just as a general rule there is suddenly a lot more incentive to make your house more guest friendly moving forward.

Was Etsy just over-valued and dumping?

While the P/E for Etsy is high at 76 that is comparable to Amazon (who is going to rate lower partially because they just had great earnings while Etsy hasn't reported yet to clear out Q1 2020 from it's ratings) and less than companies like Square and Shopify. Obviously growth is assumed, but Etsy clearly has room to grow so it should not be a problem. Etsy is currently trading almost $50 below it ATH from March 1st and while having wild swings over the past months it has been generally stable as a stock and there isn't any reason to suspect another major shift downward.

TL D/R What does it all Mean?

Etsy is a solid growth stoc

My ex-wife and I have been divorced for 2-years. We share custody of our 2 sons, 5 & 7. We still live within half an hour of each other which makes co-parenting relatively simple in regards to picking up and dropping off the kids. All in all, I think we do a pretty good job of making sure the kids are as well adjusted as they can be at this point and we communicate as well as we can. However, there was one thing I haven't told my ex about yet.

About 3-4 months ago, I met someone. We took it relatively slow starting out, but have since gotten fairly serious and have been spending a lot of time together. I have made a point not to have her at my house when I have the kids, because I'm not ready to introduce my kids to anyone that they might think of as a replacement to their mom and also because it's only been a few months. New GF knows I have kids and am divorced and she hasn't pressured me at all into meeting them or anything like that. Since the relationship is relatively new, I haven't told my ex. For one, I don't know where this new relationship will go, it's my first relationship after the divorce. Also, I don't know if my dating life is her business or not as long as I'm not exposing my kids to any of it.

This all blew up in my face a couple weeks ago. My ex was going to drop the kids off with me in the afternoon and my new GF had spent the night the night before. New GF and I stayed in bed a little later than usual, as new couples are want to do. What I didn't notice during this time, was that my ex had called and sent texts saying that she needed to drop the kids off sooner than she had planned due to a work emergency.

Ex ended up just driving over to my house and saw my car there so she rang the doorbell. Which just happened to be answered by my new GF wearing nothing but a towel because I was still in the bathroom. Needless to say, a whole lot of awkwardness ensued and my new GF rushed out of the house as fast as she could. My ex and I got the kids settled in and then she wanted to talk to me before she left.

My ex was pissed that I had a girl over and accused me of exposing our kids to random women. I tried to explain to her what happened and told her she wasn't supposed to just show up at my house like that anyway and that she was half a day early with dropping the kids off, but she wouldn't listen. She called me an asshole for not answering my phone and called me and my new GF a bunch of names too.

I get that this all came as a

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I was putting off this conversation because I was so confused and hurt. He actually was the one to initiate the conversation.

He started off by apologizing for downplaying my feelings, and said he was just so panicked in the moment finding out that she could be out on the streets that he was lashing out and behaving terribly. This led to a conversation where he explained the reason for his feelings about the situation.

They apparently got together very young and were pressured into marriage by a very religious community. Eventually they realized they just didn't like spending their day-to-day together, slowly became distanced from their religious beliefs and decided to divorce. Her family isn't on good terms with her because they don't believe in divorce as an option.

During this time, she didn't work and he provided for them both, due to the religious pressure. She never got the skills or resume building that he did during their relationship. On top of this she had a myriad of mental health problems. The reason he feels personally guilty for her situation is because he feels like he started the cycle of her being permanently dependent on others.

Then I got to what she actually said to me, and he was horrified. He said he wouldn't have made me keep seeing her if id just told him the first time, which was admittedly 100% percent my fault. He said that he is sad for her but that my feelings are his priority. We talked and he remembered one of her friends he could reach out to, who's agreed to let her stay and help get her into a trauma/mental health program. He's also said that he will cut off contact and hope she gets the help she needs.

So, I'm emotionally very tired but entirely relieved. I'm going to try to start the habit of communicating my hurt when it starts instead of bottling it up and venting online.

Thank you for those who were so helpful in sharing your compassion and advice. For those who were negative or mean, I hope the world brings joy into your life again.

Goodnight guys.