We have joint-shared custody, I am supposed to have them every other weekend. Back in May / June I was a mess. The medications I was taking made me not myself, and I could barely take care of myself let alone my children. Because of that my ex-wife decided to withhold custody / communication with my children. Since then I have gotten off any medications and I have my head back on straight. I'm working full time, paying child support, and doing all the adult things I'm supposed to be doing.
The ex had blocked me on Facebook, won't answer calls or texts, and is still not allowing me to communicate with them. I've gone to the police and they say it is a civil matter and my only solution is to take her to court.
Is this true? I miss them so much. I just want to hear their voices, see them, tell them Daddy loves them. What can / should I do? I have no extra money or savings and feel lost and trapped. Any suggestions would help.
Hi everyone, I'm a new sub here, have been lurking a while. I really need some advice on the divorce/annulment process. I'm UK based so not sure if anyone can help?
My wife/ ex-wife wants to get an annulment on the grounds of my 'mental incapacity' at the time of our marriage. I have Bipolar Affective Disorder and I was hypomanic (a milder form of bipolar mania, capacity still remains) throughout out the preceding months and during our wedding. My ex believes that annulment on these grounds will be the best course of action for us. We both agree that a divorce is the best way forward, we are quite amicable about it but my ex wants to divorce/annul very quickly which of course makes me suspicious. We have two children- an adopted son who has learning difficulties and a daughter who is 2. We have agreed child maintenance amicably and have agreed contact times and dates, again amicably. I'm a psych nurse so I'm well versed in what we term 'mental incapacity'. To my mind, yes I was hypoma... keep reading on reddit ➡
Last year my wife left me, we've been going through the divorce process ever since. She was taking too long to file and now the case got dismissed so now we have to start all over. That means having to re-pay all the fees and what not.
I'm trying to legally change my name so I can transition (comfortably) at work finally.
Since we are technically still married, one of the requirements in Arizona is Consent of Spouse.
She doesn't want to sign the paperwork because "She married someone named YYY and she wants to divorce someone named YYY" and "She doesn't want the name XXX on the divorce paperwork".
Now here in Arizona it takes about 90 days for a name change completion to take place for whatever reason. A divorce has a mandatory 60-day waiting period.
She wants me to wait until after the divorce to change my name, and she also can't restart the process until the end of January since she isn't working and can't pay for anything.
That being said, I can't wait anymore, sh... keep reading on reddit ➡
Christina Mikkonen: > I’m just going to say it because it’s affecting my husband’s mental health.
>Blizzard is currently blacklisting @savjz from events because I spoke out against the company and offended a CM by responding to their tweet with: “Are you fucking serious right now.”
>What a joke.
Janne Mikkonen (Savjz): >This is the reason that was given to me when I said I want to play at this event. My wife was part of the 800 layoffs and she spoke up about the injust practices of company. I was told I am a liability because of who I am married to.
Remember when Blizzard wasn't consistently awful to everyone but their shareholders?
So my ex and I divorced when my kids were 2 and 1. I admit I wasn’t the best dad at first and I went a few months without seeing them which prompted her to take me to court for child support which she she gets from me every month now.
Now my ex keeps the kids and I see them when I can. I work out of town so sometimes I only see them 3 days a month. But i send her money to care for the kids and I asked her if I could have them on Father’s Day since I hadn’t seen them since May 15th. She brought them over and picked them up Father’s Day evening at 6pm.
I guess she had a cook out, dinner and presents for her husband. I mean completely over the top and we are friends on Facebook and she posted pictures of him holding my kids on their Vacation, or my daughter laying on his back with her head laying on top of his and my children snuggled up with him on the couch. There were a few others of him kissing her belly and a video of him crying as she told him they were expecting a boy. She told... keep reading on reddit ➡
"These are the Cubans, baby. This is the Cohibas; the Montecristos. This is a kinetic-kill, side-winder vehicle with a secondary cyclotrimethylenetrinitramine RDX burst. It's capable of busting a bunker under the bunker you just busted. If it were any smarter, it'd write a book, a book that would make Ulysses look like it was written in crayon. It would read it to you. This is my Eiffel Tower. This is my Rachmaninoff's Third. My Piéta. It's completely elegant, it's bafflingly beautiful, and it's capable of reducing the population of any standing structure to zero."
So my wife came out as gay after 16 years of marriage and one child. She dropped the bomb about 3 months before she moved out of the house to move in with her lover of over 2 years. Our son chose to stay behind with me and still regularly talks to his mom. While consulting with my attorney about the pending divorce, he suggested filing a civil suit against my ex's lover for being the cause of the marriage breaking up.
I followed his advice and they were served with the papers. The following day, my ex and her lover confront me in front of our house and it lead to a shouting match and my wife leaving in tears. Our son is indifferent about the suit but deep down i think he feels some resentment toward us both. I know it wil be a long shot, but the suit to me is more symbolic, my way of extracting my pound of meat for 16 years of blood, sweat and tears. It's my way of moving on and even if nothing comes out of it, I will feel vindicated in summer small way.
I'll try to keep it short and sweet. My ex-husband cheated on me with his current wife. We divorced, they got together, and had a baby.
Well it's some years past that point, and surprise surprise, he's done it again. He and his wife are getting a divorce, and he's probably going to marry his new affair partner within the next 6 months if he follows the pattern. More power to him and his penis, I literally do not care what he does with his life anymore.
BUT I was pretty shocked to discover that his wife reached out to me, basically crying about what happened, how she couldn't believe it, and how now that we're in the same camp, so to speak, we should maintain a relationship so our daughters can still be in each other's lives and so we can commiserate.
Yeah, I told her to take a hike, and that if our mutual ex wanted our daughters to hang out, I was more than happy to schedule his visitation at the same time as hers so the girls could be together with their father, but that there was... keep reading on reddit ➡
Ok so my son (18) and his gf (also 18) have been together a couple of months. They make a really cute couple, but the ex wife is actively encouraging them to have a baby. We had him young, and things where difficult because of it. AITA for trying to create some space for him to grow his relationship?
Edit: apologies for any grammatical mistakes and such, I'm on mobile and haven't been able to get to sleep.
Edit 2: The ex is threatening me with all sorts of financial ramifications for this. (Ie extension of child support, trying to get alimony ECT. Pretty sure the alimony ship sailed long ago. I'll gladly pay whatever the judge decides if it helps my son make the right choice. I doubt she'll follow through, but we shall see.
Edit 3: He had a conversation with his gf and her parents. He has packed his bags and is moving in with them for now. I'm out of state unfortunately, but I've made sure he knows that he always has a place here if he needs it. I'm waiting on the drama to start wit... keep reading on reddit ➡
Me and my wife split when our son was around 4ish, I don't want to go in-depth but she got married almost 3 months after our divorce. We split custody 50/50 so I got him 2 weeks every month and summer while she got him for easter and christmas.
My ex's husband brought 4 kids together with my ex and my son, I don't have any other kids so it was just him. My son changed the custody when he was 13 to where he spends summers, christmas and 3 weeks at my place with 1 week at their. I know the divorce was hard and we did put him in therapy but he stopped after awhile cause he didn't feel anything was really changing and he seems better.
He texted me that he was coming over, and my ex called me and she was very mad at me. She said that I am poisoning our son, cause she said that he NEVER talks to his step dad or step siblings. She said thinks like he calls himself an only child, never talks to his step siblings at all, never talks to his step dad and said that if he could would live wi... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have a daughter (F12) – Amy. I split custody of her with her mother – Kim. Four years ago Kim married Bob – who had 3 kids. They have since had a set of twins together. So all together there are 5 other kids – 10M, 8F, 6M, 2F, 2M. Both Kim and Bob worked – both in relatively low-paying jobs. I try not to pry into anything that doesn’t directly impact Amy, but from things Kim has said I knew they struggle financially. According to our custody agreement I get Amy 50% of the time, but because I make considerably more I am responsible for paying any medical, educational or childcare expenses.
The past 3 summers Bob’s sister Abby would watch Amy and the other kids. I would pay Abby $250.00 a week for Amy since I was required to pay for childcare. When COVID hit, school went online for Amy as well as her older siblings. When we found this out Kim called me to let me know that Abby was willing to watch the kids (both Kim and Bob are essential workers – he works at a grocery store and she... keep reading on reddit ➡
My fiancé’s divorce became finalized very recently. He’s 42, I’m 28, this is my first engagement and his third but his first engagement was called off before the wedding. He has 3 kids who I love dearly. We’ve been together 3 years so yes, we started dating when he was married which has caused way more drama than it should have.
We celebrated his divorce by taking his kids to Cheesecake Factory and it was a wonderful night. It got me thinking I should probably try to be friends with his ex wife since we are both parenting these kids (also I wouldn’t mind her advice, only one of his kids even agrees to speak to me so I have a long way to go to win their love. I get it.) I reached out to her on IG and told her how I would love to put aside our petty little issues and be friends, support each other as women. She wasn’t happy. She told me that me breaking up her marriage (I mean yes I was quite proactive in helping that separation happen but it was bound to anyway) isn’t a petty issue, we... keep reading on reddit ➡
I live with my family out on a small homestead ranch, we're about an hour from a major city. I'm not a big believer in harsh consequences and for the most I like my kids to have a lot of autonomy to make their own decisions and mistakes.
My oldest daughter (16F) isn't really known for the best decision making. She wanted to go to a few protests in the city. I don't agree with her politics but I felt it's best to put her in a position to express her opinions - so I said yes with restrictions being to be back by dusk, check in every couple hours, leave if it gets heated, and don't do anything stupid.
On the first one I let her go to, she was pretty late coming home and she checked in maybe once the whole time. I let her go to the second one with the reminder that she needs to follow the restrictions I laid out the first time. I didn't hear from her the whole day despite attempts to call her, she wasn't back until 11PM, it turns out the protest got heated, and it turns out she partici... keep reading on reddit ➡
My ex-husband and I divorced in 2014 and have two kids. In 2017 he remarried "Liz." I really liked his new wife and we actually became friends. This was great because my ex-husband and I have a good relationship too. Sadly, they announced that they are divorcing and my ex-husband wants a "clean break" meaning he wants her out of the family picture. Their marriage is ending on a bad note. I told my ex that I don't plan on ending my friendship with her just because they are divorcing. That's between them. My ex is pretty upset about this and feels betrayed.
And for the record, they're divorcing because he "realized" he wants to be single.
My ex was always a super detached parent. Our divorce wasn't messy thank god, but she didn't want any custody or visitation of our daughter.
My daugter is 15, nearing 16. I've pretty much raised her with my fiancee, and only in the past year or so my ex is trying to get involved again. I let her be involved/make decisions/visit as it's probably healthier in the long run, but she's overcompensating for being an absent parent by trying to helicopter. One thing is she HATES the fact my daughter has a presence on TikTok or YouTube.
I've made it clear to my daughter that as long as her content remains appropriate and she's not doing anything crazy, I'm not going to take that away from her or let my ex do so.
Once upon a time I worked in the film industry, once upon a time I worked in the music indsutry and once upon a time again I worked in robotics.
We've (my fiancee, my daughter, and I) have built a bunch of filming equipment for her (remote control rails, knockoff steadicam,... keep reading on reddit ➡
My husband Mark and I divorced last year after he told me that he fell in love with his coworker Lauren and he wanted to marry her. I was completely blindsided and devastated because we’ve been together since high school and we just celebrated our fifteenth wedding anniversary the year before. It took me months of therapy before I could go through a day without crying, and even now I still don’t feel like the ‘normal’ me.
I’m doing my best to move on but some days it still hits me hard. Mark and I struggled for years to have our five year old son Cody, but just months after he married Lauren, she is already pregnant. Cody spends every other week with his dad and is excited about the prospect of having a sibling. I never talk badly about Mark or Lauren so Cody doesn’t know how it hurts me every time he says he’s excited to play with the baby or that Lauren told him that he can pick the baby’s middle name.
Cody will be celebrating his sixth birthday this July and I am planning a small... keep reading on reddit ➡
My wife’s ex husband claimed one of our two kids on his tax return without my wife’s knowledge or permission. She has never told him that would be okay, she never signed the legal form, my wife is the custodial parent, and he is almost $30k in arrears.
When only found out because our return was denied, and we confronted him. After giving us the runaround, he told us that he did it because he didn’t want to have to owe this year, and that any return he got was going to go to their previous marital tax debt. (He led us to believe if he were to have gotten a return it would have been minimal)
Then, one morning we see that the OAG has deposited $1700 into our account, and he subsequently emailed us asking us to return the money to him because it was his return. We also realized that he was awarded $500 extra in the stimulus program that was supposed to go to us because he claimed a child on his taxes.
This means not only did he illegally claim a false deduction, he was also awarded ou... keep reading on reddit ➡
TL;DR I(25)(F) was replaced in my husband (36)(M) of 5 years mother's obituary, that I wrote. They agreed I should write it and initially reviewed it and expressed that they loved it. They then changed it and wrote his ex in there as his current wife. How should I handle this? What should I be expecting from my husband right now in terms of defense?
Just needing some advice and guidance here.
My Mother in Law (64) passed away. I cared about her very much.
She could no longer walk in her final years I would carry her to places she couldn't get her chair into, cook for her husband when she no longer could and was in hospital, and just over all provided care to her how I could.
She expressed a lot of love to me and I to her. The daughter in laws (which included me or so I THOUGHT) each took a role to help their husband's through this hard time. I offered to take their ideas for the obituary and put it into words. They agreed, happily (or so I thought again). They read the obituary an... keep reading on reddit ➡
I know I’m probably the asshole, but here we go.
My ex wanted a divorce. I’m not saying she cheated, but she began to date a literal day after our divorce finalized.
She got fired from her job due to the lockdown. She also apparently went through a break up not too long ago. She says that she needs some money from me. I have gotten a decent raise, and I could definitely afford giving her money, but why should I? I pay alimony and child support. I’m not going to pay her a cent more.
We don’t have 50/50 custody, but I have our kids for Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I don’t know if I’m the asshole. If my kids aren’t going to be fed, then I’ll give them food. I’m still very against giving her money.
A couple of my friends are saying that it’s unfair to the kids for having such a drastic difference in environments. I don’t see how I’m the asshole though.
My family all says I am being an asshole for this but I think they are just too non confrontational but I will leave it to the internet to decide so here is the story.
Background 9 years ago my cousin got married to his his highschool sweetheart after she graduated community college. They had been living together and my cousin did not go to college as he was supporting her through college. She is accepted into a school in (no fault state) so off they move. They have a child which He takes care of and works nights to send his wife to school. In her final years she gets a job in her field under one of her professors. Right after graduation she tells him that she wants a divorce she has been sleeping with her boss/professor for 2 years and now that she is no longer her teacher he is leaving his wife and they are getting married. ending their 7 year marriage. I was not informed of any of this to call her out at the time I was never actually told of the divorce just my parents told me to... keep reading on reddit ➡
I share four children with my ex. They range from the ages of 5-14. We mutually agreed to part ways three years ago and all things considered, things had actually been good. She met a new guy not long after our divorce was finalized and they got married in September. They seem happy together and he seems to be a decent person, even though he‘s just 23 years old (different story for a different day).
My wife and I were both raised in the Christian church. We actually met through a church group way back. Neither of us were ever extremist per say but we both had agreed to raise our children in the Christian church. My ex wife’s new husband is Jewish. He’s a devout guy who apparently put an ultimatum on my ex to convert before marrying him, which she agreed to.
We have joint custody over the children but they have always been more comfortable spending the night with their mother so they live full time with her and I try to see them at least twice a week, usually on weekends. A few week... keep reading on reddit ➡
My ex wife and I divorced last year and are supposed to share custody of our 15 year old son. We have a standard visitation schedule.
For the last year I have rarely seen my son, when he’s supposed to come over he will just decide not to come over. Sometimes he will text me before hand and sometimes he won’t. My son has told me that his mother won’t allow him to come over, along with telling me the only time he can call me is when his mother isn’t home. He’s told me his mother goes through his phone and gets upset when she sees he’s called or texted me.
I have spoken to a lawyer and as soon as I can afford to pay the retainer I will hire him, in the meantime I’m just trying the best I can to try to keep a relationship with him.
The lawyer said that I need to start sending my ex wife a text as the designated time asking where my son is since in the divorce decree she is supposed to bring him to my home. The lawyer said to then send her another text about 30 minutes later stating... keep reading on reddit ➡
This was back in 2011 after we got married. Since then I have been falsely accused of abuse because, in her mind, the husband is a servant of the wife. Here are a couple of things that she claimed abuse on...
- She claimed abuse when I bought Vitamin D milk (I have been drinking it since I was a young child) by instinct and she said that she only drinks 2% milk.
- She claimed that not taking her to see her grandparents EVERY SINGLE DAY after her shift at the grocery store is abuse. She made the same claim when I went to see my parents. Her grandparents are healthy with no health problems. (Physically she left the house, but mentally she never left)
- She claimed abuse when I refused to take her to the flea market during an NFL game. She had ALL DAY to go, but waited until kickoff to demand to go.
- She claimed abuse when I told her that I wanted to get a cat. (She is a dog person)
- She claimed abuse when I wanted to hug her from behind while she was washing dishes (you know,... keep reading on reddit ➡
My ex basically angrily berated my choice to be childfree in front of everyone we know... stating that I tried to force my beliefs upon her, and that I knew nothing about what brings joy to life (which is apparently... children). It is crazy what people will do to distort reality to fit their own beliefs and standards.
Anyway, reading the whole thing made me feel nothing but happiness, relief and validation in my choices, not only to not have kids, but not have kids with someone capable of such vengeance and anger. It’s also pretty gratifying watching your ex-wife slowly become one of those Facebook Karens...
Edit to add: y’all will LOVE my sister in laws comment: “Raising children is the most radical form of activism”
Our brother passed away after a long, long illness in April. He had two kids who are 19 and 23. He and their mom divorced almost 20 years ago and their relationship was hostile and eventually became nonexistent when the kids became teens. He was cremated in April and we're having a memorial that had to be deferred due to the pandemic. At no point in time was it even thought of to invite his ex-wife. My niece asked me if it would be okay for her to bring her to the memorial and I said no.
To be clear, this isn't about comforting my niece or nephew.
I got a message from his ex-wife (who I haven't spoken to in 15 years) explaining that it would be an honor to come to his memorial and pay her respects. I asked her why she didn't bother seeing him when he was in the hospice. She said she didn't feel like she would be welcomed. I told her that made no sense that she would feel "less" unwelcome now that he's dead. Finally I explained that the memorial was for people for whom he had good r... keep reading on reddit ➡
My ex found herself unhappy in our marriage. She never spoke up about her unhappiness and ultimately let herself get to a place where she did not feel she was in love with me anymore. There were never any requests for me to change behaviors she wound up saying after the fact she couldn't deal with. At this conclusion, she had an emotional affair (at least).
I discovered it through changes in her behavior. The phone always followed her everywhere. The shower, the bathroom, hid under her pillow, always within reach. She would quickly close her phone when I'd approach her. It was so obvious. She would never admit it to me. I did what I had to do and went through all her shit...her phone, FB, Google history. Sure enough, it's clear it's not platonic. I confront it and we separated. She decided the day to do so was Thanksgiving day. That's the day she was going to leave the home...30 minutes before we are to be out the door to my family's Thanksgiving celebration.
I start counseling to... keep reading on reddit ➡
This is a very complicated situation and I’m surprised as the rest of you that I’m coming here for help but I really don’t know where else to turn.
My wife married her high school sweetheart when she was 20 and they were together for 7 years before he was tragically killed by a drunk driver. He was her soulmate, I know she loved him more than anything and it was horrible for her to go through. She still wears her old wedding ring on her other hand and goes to his grave on the anniversary of his death. We met six months after the incident and started dating 3 years later. We’ve been together for 4 and a half years now and got married last year. Our son is due in two months.
My wife is still very close to her ex in-laws, they saw her as a daughter and she still visits them regularly. I have no problem with this, it was extremely difficult for all of them and she’s a part of their family. I have met them a few times and while they’re not unkind, it’s fairly clear that they resent me.... keep reading on reddit ➡
But nobody will do it.
My ex wife and I have a thirteen year old son. He’s deathly afraid of thunderstorms and has been since he was little. The other night, when he was over at my house, a huge storm rolled in. He wound up sleeping with me that night because it was the only way he’d calm down.
When he went to his mother’s house a few days later, I got a call from her. She asked me how he did with the storm, then got onto me for sleeping with him. She told me that it’s okay to tuck him in whenever there’s a storm, but sleeping with him will make him soft.
I tried to tell her that it was the only way he would calm down, but she wouldn’t listen. She literally wouldn’t let me talk, she just kept shushing me. After a few minutes of this, I blew up. I cussed her out for about 5 minutes, I finished the call, saying that I can comfort him however he wants.
I’ve never done that to her before and I feel extremely bad. I was just mad that she went out of her way to tell me what to do at my house.
Edit: I’m star... keep reading on reddit ➡
Ex husband sent me a picture of our daughter as it is his weekend with her.
Card in the background celebrating ‘two years together’.
This week is two years since he first cheated on me while I was home with our new baby.
What kind of sicko celebrates that?
It honestly makes my skin crawl.
Please at least hear me out before you answer that question.
We separated after she had an affair with my (former) best friend. She planned to leave me and start over with him, and they did move in together briefly, but he ended up breaking things off and reconciling with his wife.
I think this led to my ex getting buyer's remorse, so she put out some feelers on us getting back together. I told her I was not interested, but she did not stop trying to persuade me to take her back. Eventually she realized I was done and agreed to go ahead with the divorce.
It seemed like after the divorce something changed. It was like our relationship hit a reset button and "no" turned into "maybe." We started dating again and sleeping together again, and even though this was fun, in truth a smarter man would have admitted that we still weren't right for each other. Then one day she tells me she can't go any further because she is still in love with my best friend even if they have no chance. I tol... keep reading on reddit ➡
I used to be married to Jake, and he cheated on me with Melissa. We divorced over it and now he and she are married.
Jake and I have kids, a boy and a girl.
At the holidays, we agreed to have a family Christmas with Jake's family. He wanted me there for the kids sake, and I agreed, it would probably be good to have some normalcy.
Melissa would also be there, and I was determined to make stuff work out. I felt hurt by her, of course, but she's married to the father of my children, she is their stepmother, and civil co-parenting is what's best for the kids.
So at the event, I sat next to her at dinner and tried to make conversation, about her job (we work in the same field) her hobbies and travel, the kids, etc. I treated her just like I'd treat family or a friend.
Later when the kids were playing with her and Jake, I came by to join them for that. And it seemed like she was weirded out by something but I didn't know what was up, she's a kind of socially awkward person so I thoug... keep reading on reddit ➡
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Located in Indiana, USA
Ex-wife and I have been separated and legally divorced. She is remarried and living with him, while I am living with my long-term girlfriend.
We share custody of our 2 year old daughter, 40/60. We went to the court because I wanted 50/50, but she wants 80/20 (in her favor) the judge said keep doing 40/60 until she made a decision. (covid has postponed the final decision)
Every single day is a fight. She harbors so much resentment and argues with me constantly. Whether it's her day to have our daughter or mine, she doesn't stop contacting me. It's usually verbal harassment or threats.
Legally, I'm abiding by the custody agreement. But it's not what she wants so she fights me on it constantly and will say things to our daughter to sway her feelings.
I am sick of being pulled through the wringer every single day for doing nothing wrong.
Legally, is there anything I can do to stop the harassment without jeopardizing my custody with my d... keep reading on reddit ➡
My ex has physical custody but we're still working on getting permanent custody orders; we both want physical custody of the children as we live in different states. The temporary orders give her physical custody but we share legal custody. I get 3 calls a week (which I rarely get), and the children are to made available to me when I am in the state (California).
She had a fight with her parents (with whom she lives) and said she was going to move out. This was on Thursday, we talked briefly on Friday morning because I was supposed to visit with our children, but she canceled last minute. Since then she has not answered any of my texts or calls, she is also not answering her parents calls.
It's now Fathers day, I've texted her to see if I can see them today with no response.
In the past she threatened to take the kids to Mexico, she has family there and I don't speak Spanish; also both of our children have their passports. I'm afraid she's going to take them and I might never see th... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am so sorry. I am so sorry that it has been 2 years and you are still hurting so much. I heard that you lost your job because of burnout. That you get so lonely on holidays and you feel like you have no one to talk to. That you are struggling so much during this quarantine. That you lost your in-laws, the only family you felt loved you the way you needed to be loved. That you are still so angry at him, after everything you sacrificed for him. That when you text, he doesn't reply. That he ignores all your cries for help. That all of it--the relationship, the marriage--left you unloved, uncared for, and hurting so so deeply. I am so so so sorry. I wish I could be a friend to you. I know that is weird! but if I may be so bold; I think I get you more than you think.
But if I can be completely honest with you, I cannot bear how small I feel when you wedge yourself in my relationship. I know that you know I exist. I know that you have heard from him, your mutual friends, even the fuckin... keep reading on reddit ➡
Since last week, my children are now all adults. I'm no longer legally obliged to give child support to my ex wife, and I'm seriously considering stopping the payments.
I left the familial home 11 years ago and although I love my children, I let my ex-wife have full custody. I honestly wasn't as much present in my children's life as I hoped I would be, for which I take full responsibility. I never missed any CS payments though, so I was not financially irresponsible, and I paid a significant part of my children's education.
Now that they are all >18, I started talking with my ex-wife about stopping the payments. We had a long discussion and she told me that although I was legally entitled to stop the payments, it would be an asshole move to do so, because (according to her):
- Most of the pension is used towards reimbursing the house.
- She feels that this house is a liability she only has to have because she was the one who had to take full custody, not by choice.
- Just be... keep reading on reddit ➡
I(37M) am a father to two 11yr old boys. I have one boy with my Ex-Wife (39F) and I adopted my second boy with my current wife (35F).
My ex wife has 3 other children, a set of 9yr twin girls and a 5yr old girl. We got divorced due to her cheating on me and getting pregnant by another man who is also the father of her 5yr old.
We meet up quite often since we still have to exchange our son due to split custody. Her three daughters are extremely obese.
They all have joint problems due to what she feeds them and she never gets them any excessive. I have to send my son with prepacked meals and snacks so he has something healthy to eat for the week he is at his mother’s house.
Me and my ex wife were talking a few days ago during the drop off and she started talking about all the health problems her girls have. She was talking about how they all have knee pain and breathing issue and seemed really surprised that they would have that.
She noted that our son was the only kid she had wit... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’ve been married to my current wife for 5 years. Her 2 daughters live with us (17, 12). I have 2 kids of my own, my daughter is 24 and my son will be 16 next month.
Last year, when my step daughter turned 16, my wife wanted to get her a car. I agreed and said I would help pay as well. I make considerably more than my wife, so I had a feeling I’d be covering most of it, considering my wife’s ex husband wanted no part of it. He always says he has no money, and completely shut down the notion of him contributing to his daughters car because “he has no money”. My wife and I bought her a 2009 Chevy Malibu. It’s in great shape for having over 100k miles on it. We thought it would be a great first car and she loved the gift.
Fast forward to the beginning of this March, knowing my son was turning 16 in April, I talked to my wife about getting my son a car. And then I talked to my ex wife about it, because that is who my son lives with most of the time. My ex wife has a good job and makes... keep reading on reddit ➡
My wife and I got married 2 months after I found out that she was pregnant, we hadn't been seeing each other for very long but I wanted to do "the right thing" and make sure that my child would grow up in a proper family unit. Over the years, I did actually end up falling for my wife so it seemed like everything would be perfect. I had a beautiful little girl, a wife who I thought loved me and a very well paying job.
Fast forward to a few months ago and I discovered evidence that my wife was sleeping with at least 2 other men before we got married. I tried to forgive and forget since we weren't exactly a couple at the time but then the suspicions got to me. My daughter and I look nothing alike, family and friends have always joked that maybe she was switched in the hospital but I slowly came to the realization that my daughter may not be mine.
Shortly after that I ordered a paternity test and as you can probably tell by now, she's not mine. A second paternity test later, I completely... keep reading on reddit ➡
I caught him cheating early into our relationship. I forgave him because things were still fresh, and I really cared for him and figured it was an honest moment of weakness as it was with his ex and he felt an emotional obligation. Plus we were already living together so I figured we should try to make it work.
I left him on Halloween because he was generally emotionally abusive, on a couple occasions physically as well. I caught him with messages from her a couple times just like "hey call me" type things while we were cuddling together and looking over his shoulder and he's always say "she's stalking me she can't let me go." We got pregnant and I was 6 weeks when I left. I was terrified to have a child with him even though I loved him because I felt like I couldn't trust the stability of the relationship and despite the good times, the bad times were not an environment to raise a child in. I had an abortion a few days after I left him, as soon as I could get in for one. I don't reg... keep reading on reddit ➡
[Missouri] A few years ago, my then wife and I got divorced. We had two children. During the divorce proceedings, she claimed she couldn't work due to a disability from a medical condition that happened back in 2009. The court believed her so I ended up paying a bunch of child support and I have to pay spousal maintenance when I'm done paying for the house she lives in currently.
Our oldest just turned 18 and per our divorce papers, child support drops considerably.
I just found out she went and got a job and has apparently been working for a few weeks.
Do I have any grounds for getting any of that child support back or at least lowering my financial obligations in the future?
Edit: for a little more background:
My fiancé and I are going into the next step in our life: buying a house. She’s better than money than I am, she does lots of saving while I’m able to just get by. I’ve always found it hard to save lump sums of money.
We’re considering combining our money to cover all bills, mortgage & other living essentials moving forward. We’ve discussed how I can have a separate Venmo account since I have a 2nd job (wedding photography) where I can keep that money for myself & my hobbies.
I wanted to hear from other men who have their wives control the finances in the household...
TL;DR my wife occasionally talks about her ex as though she misses him, and then the other night she said he was the only guy she ever knew with beautiful feet. (Yeah, weird... But also hurtful towards me and my nasty feet.)
So I actually tried to post this the very next morning, while replies to my first post were still streaming in, because I talked to Abby almost immediately and consider the issue largely settled. Automod deleted it so I've had to wait a couple days. In hindsight I'm glad I've had to wait because it gave me more time to consider the responses I received.
First of all, I wanted to thank everyone who responded yesterday.
Unfortunately I did receive a bit of bizarre advice-- a number of users called my wife an "alpha widow", still others told me to divorce her immediately because she MUST be cheating. I... keep reading on reddit ➡
TL:DR My ex-wife told our children that I was that farther of my current wife miscarriage from 17 years ago, which would have been during our marriage.
I have been divorced for 15 years and remarried for about 10. My ex-wife and I have two teenage children that we share custody 50/50 with. My children confided in my parents recently that their mom told them that I was the father of a baby that my current wife miscarried 17 years ago while I was still married to my ex. It's such a horrible lie, my ex knows we couldn't have even known each other back then, but my children did not realize it. My parents let them know it wasn't true and tried to explain it to them.
We are heartbroken because my ex is using a very tragic moment in my wife's life to manipulate our children. I do not know the motivation behind this, it could be that our children are getting closer to 18 and she wants them to choose to stay with her full time, which she had talked to them about in the past. On top of that my... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throwaway because I don’t want this mess on my main.
Some background: I (32M) met my late wife when we were 17. We dated all through college and moved in together and got married after graduation. Two years later, she got pregnant and we were anxiously waiting the birth of our daughter. However, it was a rough pregnancy, and she passed away while giving birth to our daughter (7F).
I won’t lie, it was a horrific time in my life. I was struggling with losing my first love unexpectedly and learning how to parent a newborn. I relied heavily on my family for support and after a couple of years I pulled myself up by my bootstraps for my daughter and got our lives together.
Around this time, I met my current soon-to-be-ex-wife (30F). She was the first woman who caught my eye after so long grieving, and we fell in love. I admit I became a little too rash after seeing how good she was with my daughter, and we got married after about a year of dating.
Flash forwards to now. She’s cheating.... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’ve (33M) been with my wife (28F) for 5 years, married for 3 of those years.
My stepdaughter, Grace, is 9.
My wife was with her ex for 8 years but eventually broke up because the feelings weren’t there anymore, we still remain friendly and he’s gone on to have more children (1F & 4M)
He sees Grace usually every other week and used to live with his children but apparently his girlfriend cheated on him, he believes there’s hope for a future in their relationship but they need space.
Apparently he’s been couch surfing since, my wife came to me a few days ago and told me she wants to invite ex to stay with us, we have a guest room and it’d mean a lot for Grace since she hasn’t seen her father since the whole thing between him and his girlfriend went down.
I don’t want my wife’s ex staying here because it’s not something I’m comfortable with, I couldn’t relax in my own home with him upstairs?
My wife has said she “understands” but is making snide remarks whenever she does anyt... keep reading on reddit ➡
You know how your Android homepage pulls articles it thinks you would like to read into a feed? Today the robots brought me a very dubious present: an apparently popular article featuring my ex-sister-in-law (let's call her Eve) from one of those Facebook-driven clickbait sites. The article is about my brother.
I don't wanna link it, as it uses her real name and photos, but for context, it's got 33,000 shares, and a video that highlights the story has almost 2M views. It's meant to be a love story about her (real) profound struggle to leave her first husband (my brother, who we'll call Jim) to be with her current partner. She seems very happy with the new guy, which is great. But she felt the need to introduce the story by painting my brother as a fat-shaming, dream-crushing, emotionally abusive bastard. She repeatedly returns to her misery as his wife as a refrain.
Let's be clear: Jim's not a fat-shaming, dream-crushing, emotionally abusive bastard, and nothing in this article revea... keep reading on reddit ➡
My bf had sex with his ex wife once because he thought I flirted with someone else (I didnt ) and he was angry about this .We had a fight and he did that .He told me it meant nothing .The woman was his ex wife .This happened at the beginning of our relationship some months after leaving his ex wife .I just found out today .
Edit :We are one year together after this insident and he didn't cheat or do anything else again .No ,I didn't know about this and stayed ,I found out yesterday cause we talked I haf a gut feeling I asked him and after a lot of pushing from my side he told me this .That's why I post this question today . The people who voted yes can they write down why they believe this ? Thank you all for the replies and the time you spend on my question .I'll take into consideration all the answers . Because some people asked ,I am 27 but I didn't have sex before him and maybe that's the reason that kept me so far glued .He is 34 and had some relationships.
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A few days ago I ran into my ex-wife whom I hadn't seen in almost 17 years. She was with her daughter. That night my ex-wife messaged me to let me know I'm her daughter's father. I was never informed of that before. I believe it to be true because she looks a lot like me. I knew my ex-wife was pregnant when we divorced, but she claimed it was with the man she was cheating with. At the time it seemed likely so I believed her. As a result I never had any opportunity to be a father to this kid. If I had known I would have gone to court for at least visitation rights. Her daughter doesn't know who her father is either. She was raised by a single mother. I messaged my ex-wife back to say what she did was unfair on her daughter and I. She answered that if I ever talk to her daughter she will sue me for 16 years of unpaid child support. And she told her daughter that her "sperm-donor" was abusive and abandoned them, so I'd better not try and talk to her. None of this is true.
I'd like to kno... keep reading on reddit ➡
Separated eight years ago, divorced seven, and lots of growth since then. We have an eight year old daughter, and she has two more children from a second, also failed marriage.
We have been through a ton since. It was a very rocky road at first, but there’s been a lot of forgiveness towards each other and personal growth for ourselves in the last eight years.
She’s a good mom, and our relationship has landed in a good place as co-parents. My biggest obstacles for never wanting to be a partner with her again were these: 1) she made me fight really hard to be as much a part of my daughter’s life as I am (50/50 custody and visitation) and 2) she two more kids by her second marriage and that’s a tough pill to swallow.
Anyways, I’ve gotten over those two. She’d asked for forgiveness about a year ago for how she treated me and her anger towards me, and I’ve gotten over myself with the “I couldn’t raise another man’s kids” thing.
So we’ll see!
My ex and I had 2 kids (8 and 6) who are the absolute best things that came out of my marriage. We separated when my second was born. We had pretty equal custody for the next two years, then I got an amazing job offer in another state. I was able to work out a plan with my ex where I had the kids for the school year and she got them for Christmas and the summer. She did not want to move, but she let me take the kids because there were much better education opportunities and housing options where I moved to.
This has been out plan for the last 4 years. My wife and I do pretty much all of the parental hard work like homework and discipline while my ex gets to take them on trips and treat them on breaks. It's tough, but I'm closer with the kids than she is. I also feel bad that my wife, who has raised both kids for almost their entire lives, and who has put in so much effort, gets no credit. She doesn't have any legal claim to the kids and if I died, she might never be able to see them a... keep reading on reddit ➡
Backstory: married and divorced, with a 3 years old daughter. She's awesome, and we're both great parents. Custody favors me, but that's for selfless reasons on her mother's part. Basically, great woman.
We had a messy marriage and we were both toxic to each other, so there's still a lot of pent up aggression. When we are face to face speaking, we read body language and also the fact that we're speaking directly to a real person leads very genuine conversation. We have this phenomenal co parenting relationship, except when we have to communicate anything that could result in conflict through texting or calling. It seems like there is no context to what we're saying and it's easy to yell into a phone or type angry things. Honestly, it drains me mentally. Not to push blame because I understand I am 100% biased towards myself, but it's mainly her who raised her voice or starts being petty over text the second I say something that she doesn't want to hear and it becomes more of a pissing... keep reading on reddit ➡
TLDR: Wife kicked me out for team photos with an incorrect date she saw on my phone, kept my phone, then read through most of my messages with ex’s from before we met, and called me a POS for my past.
Wife (43f) got upset with me (39m) last Thursday while we were eating dinner for a financial snafu we discovered last month while refinancing our home. Everything worked out okay and I didn’t realize she was still upset. We’ve been together for 4 years and married for 3. I have my own business, which fluctuates a lot, and 2019 was really bad for me (2018 was my best year). She has essentially a lifetime salary job with lots of PTO, retirement, insurance, etc.
During dinner she starts telling me that “she” provides the house, the steady income, the insurance. WTF do I do all day? Since moving in I have finished the basement, installed a yard, and more to make it “our” house, or so I thought.
I apologized for the snafu and agreed to rectify it the following day but she wouldn’t stop... keep reading on reddit ➡
So my ex and I recently split up October of last year. It was pretty mutual at first. But I could tell it wasn't what she wanted until she was over me then it wasn't what I wanted. She ended up slamming the door in my face when I found out that not two months later she was already seeing someone else and not sure if relevant but moving in less than a month after that. It got ugly but I got over it really fast.
In the middle of all this is our son who turns 4 next week. We both love him so much. After the chaos of our split had settled, we can kind of get along. We don't particularly like each other and I'm sure we both have a long list of people we'd rather spend our time with than each other. However, I think it is important to our son to not only see us still getting along but to get the opportunity to spend his time with both his mom and his dad. I thought his birthday would be a good chance for that. I decided I wanted to take him to the zoo. My ex was really hesitant at first but... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have been engaged (to the man I would love to spend the rest of my life with) for a few years. We have yet to seal the deal however he really wants to get married.
He has two ex wives. One of whom I get along with. The other hates my guts, calls me names, accosted me while I was pregnant, thinks I'm stealing her children.
Her twins and I have bonded organically. I never forced anything on them. All of our children just got along. When they are at our home, I cook, clean, clothe them like they are my own because that's what families do-blended or not.
Their mother has some sort of insecurity/anxiety/jealousy issues. Although she has been remarried and has another child. Her husband is not involved in the day to day and doesn't really bond with my fiancé's kids.
Now to my question, is it silly of me to not want to get married until his children with her are 18 years of age? My reasoning is that he still has to answer to her. I feel like sometimes I am in a relationship with two... keep reading on reddit ➡
My ex and I have a fairly contentious relationship. Full disclosure: our marriage primarily ended in Feb 2018, primarily because I lied to her about some money issues. Since that time, I truly have made every effort to be a better man and father but, I do understand that she has a fair amount of resentment towards me. Nevertheless, for our kids’ sake, I do my best to be kind to her whenever possible. For example, for Mother’s Day this year, I gave the kids some money to get her cards/presents and helped them prepare her favorite meal so all she had to do was put it in the oven for 15 min.
Our agreement allows both of us two non-consecutive weeks of summer vacation. Our schedule was set about a month ago but, last week, she asked me if she could take our 11 year old twin daughters to the beach from 6/22-28. I agreed because I knew the kids would enjoy it and asked that she let me know which planned week she was going to swap out.
So, the kids get here on Thurs and at some po... keep reading on reddit ➡
TLDR at the bottom.
(English isn't my first language so please excuse any errors. Thanks!)
My MIL hates me and I'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual at this point. I'm at a loss as to where I can move forward with her so I'm just here to talk about my story because therapy is too expensive at this moment.
My husband and his ex-wife had been divorced for almost 3 years when we first met. Their relationship was complicated at best as they were high school sweethearts at 15, married at 20 and divorced at 27.
DH was 30 years old, working at Home Depot full-time, picking up odd jobs here and there to pay the bills while also going to school part-time when we first met. I was 28, going to school full-time and was my dad's PCA (personal care assistant) before he passed away in May of 2016. We were acquainted since he worked in the paint department at Home Depot as supervisor and I was there the entire summer of 2016 as I had inherited my dad's house and was remodeling it. DH was kind and... keep reading on reddit ➡
My wife and I recently had a baby girl. My wife did not want to reveal the gender to our family and friends, so we did not announce her name until after she was born. Not long after we announced her name, I received a really nasty message from my ex-wife. She was vague at first - saying she couldn't believe I would do something like this and how hurt she was that I could be so petty - but after she realized that I genuinely had no idea what she was talking about she told me that we had stolen the name she was planning to use for her daughter; she and my wife had overlapping pregnancies.
I told her I had no idea what she was talking about because she'd never told us her name choice, but she claimed that she had told my wife her name and sent screenshots allegedly proving this. She also claimed that my wife convinced her to delay the gender so she could steal the name before my ex announced it, although she didn't have messages to prove this.
When I approached my wife about it, she den... keep reading on reddit ➡
I really appreciate any advice, even though this really is a wall of text, sorry. Feel free to read from the bottom up. Throwaway because when still married, ex-wife did actually stalk my posts on reddit. There are a lot of tiny information there, that might help understand the whole picture. TL;DR at the bottom.
In 2010, my now ex-wife and me met for the first time. She was 18 back then, I was 27. I was still in pretty bad shape from a break-up from a long-term relationship. She on the other hand basically dumped her then-bf to be with me. She just had finished school to continue on with university.
Our relationship always had a lot of conflict. Mainly because I was a self-righteous asshole all the time, and had a lot of mental issues, in the sense of never being happy or pleased with anything, frequently depressed, spending too much time at work, hypersexuality, well, alot of the stuff that happens when you never had the feeling of being loved and are searching for purpose in l... keep reading on reddit ➡
I was really sad to hear that Armando’s ex wife died in a car accident and I really was interested in his and Kenny’s story so I added them on Instagram and to my shock it looks like Armando’s ex wife was pregnant when she died. There is a picture of his daughter saying “only child no more 2016” and then a few months later a post saying “missing mommy” crushed my heart. Don’t know why I’m posting this.. just couldn’t get past it. I feel so awful for him, with that and his parents not being super accepting I can’t imagine what he’s been through.
I'm in England.
I have been divorced for 5 years now, we have a child, my ex has already gotten remarried.
I had nothing in the way of inheritance when we got divorced.
But since the divorce, last year my father passed away and my mother inherited everything of his.
Now my ex wife is talking to my sister in law, asking her about my inheritance, if my mother has made a will, if I will get money and the house when my mother passes.
Is there anything that she can do if I inherit anything in the future?
Obviously there’s more to this, but it’s the crux of the issue. This shit is weird, and I can’t figure out who else to talk about it to.
My wife and I have been married for six months. I met her after I had gotten out of a long term relationship (four years) with my ex.
Ex and I stayed friends for a few months after our breakup, until I met wife. Our friendship fizzled. After almost two years of being in a relationship wife and I got married.
Around three months after we got married, wife and I attended a party where we ran into Ex. I had not seen ex in over a year, so we spent some time catching up and I introduced her to wife.Wife seemed to be very taken by ex. When leaving the party she remarked how different she was from ex.
Wife starts following ex on social media. Over the next few weeks wife starts explicitly copying ex.She starts dressing like her and starts trying to pick up some of her hobbies. For example: ex surfs and does art. Wife starts trying to surf (out of now... keep reading on reddit ➡
My wife and I have been married for 4 years. I will call her Abby. We love each other, have a great marriage, and are talking about having kids soon. I really don't have any complaints.
BUT, before Abby met me, she was with a guy, Brock, for two years. She said she was madly in love with him but had to leave him because he was verbally abusive. Shortly after she left Brock, she met me, and the rest is history.
I thought it went without saying that Abby had forgotten about Brock. However, there have been some odd things that she has said about him that make me nervous, or even a little jealous. She once told me that Brock was so good looking that she had a hard time making eye contact. This was in the context of a conversation about why she put up with his abuse for so long. And when I replayed what she said... She's never said that I was too good looking to look at. It's almost like she said Brock was more attractive, and it hurt. I didn't bring this up though because she sometimes... keep reading on reddit ➡