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Hello fellow redditors!

The title is in fact true. I was just looking through this sub and I didn't see any success stories so I thought I would share mine. I completely overcame premature ejaculation 3 years ago. I went from being less than a minute man to literally being able to last as long as I want. Had sex again on the weekend for over an hour and I just thought back on when I couldn't last so I thought I would share how I overcame it. Its almost kind of ironic because my (now ex) girlfriend used to complain that I lasted too long. So yeah I have done a complete 180 in my ability in how to last.

Like everyone else in this sub when I started having sex I couldn't last any longer than like a minute. And for me, it was embarrassing. I couldn't even do the stop and start technique because I couldn't last long enough to actually implement it. I also tried thinking about something else while having sex and that didn't work either, still came in a minute.

I ended up getting really frustrated by this and went out to find a solution for this. Spent hours reading every thread on PEGym and searching across the internet. I also bought some penis numbing cream, ended up stinging the penis off me and I couldn't get even get hard when I was using it. Also tried to strengthening my pelvic floor with kegels and that wasn't working. I was 19 at the time and pretty sad about the whole thing because I was in the prime college years and I was afraid to have any more sex with girls. I was determined to find a solution for this so I set out to find the issue and a solution.

After masturbating as fast as I could for years on end prior to this, I had conditioned myself to cum as fast as possible. Every wank I had was over in 2 minutes. I was constantly kegeling unknowingly when I was masturbating. Masturbating felt better if i was kegeling when doing it. I didn't know this isn't what you were supposed to do, I assume this is what everyone was doing. I was also obsessed with orgasming and was just trying to orgasm as fast as possible. I then tried masturbating without kegeling and lasting more than 2 minutes and I couldn't do it. My pelvic floor muscle was still contracting by itself and I was still cumming within two minutes. I tried this more times and I still kept cumming. After years of wreckless masturbating my pelvic floor muscle was extremely tight and I was always close to orgasm. Ever

For a while I was planning to make a post about this. I kind of postponed it and talked myself out of it, thinking "Can I tell people anything they didn't hear about on this subreddit? Is it worth it?" and all. Then Life with a capital L decided to smack my dumb head with its firm, just and loving iron fist in Its velvet gloves. I got it coming so no complaints here. I feel "guided" and I feel like I need to put this out there.

I have relapsed like 4 times in a total of 10 days. And you know how deceiving it is. At your first relapse, it doesn't feel as bad (if you were stacking a fairly good streak). And you tell yourself "It was a one time thing. Now I have learned and if I don't relapse more, I won't end up like the sickly king from the Lord of the Rings". But you do. You DO end up like Theoden because the chaser effect is out there to get you. So first of all I want all of you (mostly me) to understand that there is never "just one relapse". One relapse equals to many, just like how it is like trying to quit tobacco. Let's come to weird effects of ejaculation:

• Voice problems. It's insane how it affects your voice and the way you talk. I've never been a loud guy (except the times I was putting on an act) but on SR I feel very comfortable with the way I talk. After a relapse, I feel like I am forcefully trying to throw the words out from my lungs, and my pipes/vocal cords are getting in the way too! People have a harder time hearing me. This sucks.
• Eye problems. Mostly irritation and stickiness/grogginess if you will. I have a theory: We know semen is really similar to spinal fluid. So we know when we ejaculate, our body draws spinal fluid to produce more semen. This might be the reason for general lack of lubrication in our bodies. We also know that those who waste semen excessively is more prone to spinal diseases.
• Sleep scares. Yeah it sounds creepy and it really is. After my 3rd relapse, that night I saw a nightmare. Which was very realistic. I woke up checked the room for the things I saw. After that, the first thought crossed my mind "It's only fair, I got it coming". Even though all my shortcomings, my evil, my perversions and desires I couldn't let go of, I acknowledge that wasting semen is a crime. And crimes are meant to be punished, it is only natural.
• Sleep scares part 2, which is waking up in horror. It used to happen to me frequently before I discovered SR. And it is sort of a standard for the several **Dark Night of the Sou

I'm currently struggling with very severe PE. If I'm lucky, I cum on penetration, and if I take too long to get it in, I cum before I even start. I don't have much problem lasting during oral sex, I can last at least 5-10 minutes if I need to, so I'm not sure what the problem is.

I've tried St. john's wort, tryptophan, and DXM, and none of them seem to work. Only one of those which somewhat worked is the DXM, which gave me ED at 300mg and doesn't do much at 75mg. Has anyone had any success with other supplements?

I'm obviously open to things like the 66 day challenge, but I'm also trying to quit porn at the moment and the constant jerking off leads to porn use in my experience.

I am restoring specifically because I was very surprised when I discovered that I had a great deal of trouble to orgasm during regular sex. It took me many months until I was able to do so.

The one thing I have found that helps this greatly and I found this by accident is that if I have sex when I have to really take a piss or a full bladder, it makes sex much more enjoyable and I can orgasm in a reasonable amount of time, like 10 minutes. Thank god I found this out.

What I do is just drink a lot of water right before sex.

It helps me because when my stomach area/ bladder area makes contact it gives me some stimulation that I guess gives me sensation during sex.

I was wondering if you guys are restoring because of delayed ejaculation and if you have found anyways to help?

The paper below got published in Medical Hypothesis journal

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306987709002606?via%3Dihub

Thus this is just a hypothesis that has some theoretical justification, but that hasn't been tested yet.

Hypothesis

During male ejaculation, the pelvic muscles undergo coordinated intense contraction to expel the semen out of the male genital tract, a process associated with locally increased levels of lactic acid and free radicals as byproducts. In this regards, repetitive sexual activities with frequent ejaculation would impede the drainage and cause accumulation of these byproducts in the pelvic region, triggering consequent local pathophysiological changes such as edema, venous dilation and muscular malfunction, which further leads to common complaints in CP/CPPS patients such as lower urinary tract symptoms, pelvic discomfort and pain.

Rationale

Large cohort studies have revealed that frequent ejaculation is associated with higher risk of prostatitis, especially in young men. Also, clear evidences from sports medical research has shown that intense muscular contraction will lead to locally increased production of free radicals and lactic acid. Therefore, the pelvic muscles during ejaculation would induce substantial increase of these byproducts, which if not cleared effectively, could trigger series of local cellular/tissue damages resulting in inflammation, muscular fatigue and dysfunction. If our hypothesis were validated, it could be suggested that at least in some patients, the treatment of CP/CPPS could be tuned as dealing with post-sports recovery, such as hot bath to promote local blood circulation and free radical scavenger drugs such as vitamin C and E to neutralize free radicals.

== In my case, up until 2020, I had been ejaculating 1-3 times a day for over 30 years. Might all of those free radicals that got released into my pelvis, had damaged some of my pelvic floor muscles, giving me this symptom of 24/7 urinary urgency?!

Can the damage be reversed?...

From an evolutionary perspective.

Hey guys, I'm a newbie to taking DXM and also happen to suffer from pretty bad premature ejaculation. I have a couple questions- first, how much do I need to take to trigger the side effect of delayed ejaculation as a 245 pound man. Secondly, when ordering from robocoughs site, what does it say on your bank statement. I'm 18 so not a minor, but I share a bank account with my parents so I'm trying to avoid an awkward conversation with them. Thanks for the help.

Hello everyone.

I was wondering if all of us who have prostatitis, have premature Ejaculation. I have this issue as one of the symptoms, this caused me to last from 1 to 2 mins (without trying to last longer)

I have tried things that helped me to last longer but I was wondering if there are more ways.

What worked for me is not actually safe to be taking occasionally, that would be: 1-Smoking marijuana (cause flare up) 2- Tramadol (very good but has its bad side) 3- Gabapentin ( Was helpful somehow) 4- Deep breathing and doing it 2 times in a raw ( as first time would be fast the second will take fairly good time)

I hope everyone can write their tips and experience with this.

Hello guys, Just like some of you, my desire to find cure to this menace got me here. My case is acquired premature ejaculation due to quick masturbation on my early ages. So, I've read some of the posts here and it's pretty motivating. The success stories confirm that with right practices, there's light at the end of the tunnel. That's why I was inquiring if anyone is interested to join me in the 66 days brain rewiring challenge. This is especially because when we work together, sharing insights, experimenting practices, holding each other responsible, and sharing our progress, i believe things will be much simpler. We can come up with other practices that have proved successful apart from the 66 days challenge to further boost our chances. This can include meditation and proven ancient practices. As a team, I'm sure we can find awesome techniques. Also, as much as we need to cure PE, it's necessary to be safe and avoid other condition like erection issues. We can also still share ways to stay on the safe side. Guys, I'll be glad if we go through this journey together and be ultimately successful as a team. Reach out if you're interested

No matter what age you are! Congratulations to anyone who quit porn and is retaining semen. But if there's one thing that I couldn't be more happy about quitting is my sex addiction. Porn and ejaculating go so well together and I used it to escape my problems. But it didn't help a thing it just wasted my time and made me depressed, sad and more lazy and the day that I quit was the day I had to get even more disciplined!! I had to take cold showers drink more water, brush my teeth and get work done!! And let me just say I started doing semen retention for 30 days and it's been a great experience!! but I still got to keep going, still got to keep taking those cold showers. I can't stop and neither can you!! we have to do this in order to fix our lives!! so to anyone who is trying you have my respect I hope all people can quit porn successfully if you're having trouble quitting porn just pray about it.

I am a straight male and after years of not having sex, I had a series of frustrating and amazing sexual encounters over the past month. I desperetly need to vent because I dont feel comfortable talking about this with people and because I have tons of questions and would like advise from regular folk besides what can I read online about these issues. This is gonna be long.

CONTEXT

So first a little context. In my late teens I used to have sex regularly and I didn't stopped for a particular reason. I'm just not a horny person in general and also not a big fan of casual sex. Chances just didn't show up. But this year I suddenly have tons of sexual offers and I feel more horny than before (quarantine effect maybe?) so Idecided to start shooting my shot. Over the past month I had 3 sexual encounters with 2 girls.

We are gonna skip the first 2 encounters with Girl #1 (F23): it sucked. I couldn't get properly hard, I didn't know what to do and honestly she wasn't giving me a lot to work with saying things like "Maybe something's wrong with me" (HUGE turn off), "Don't worry I can do this myself at home" after fingering (ENORMOUS turn off) and answering "I don't know" when asked what she wanted.

Now Girl #1 (F30). Was the encounter good? Not really, but it was amazing on its own weird way. First because before having sex I was alredy like "This girl is like the mines of Vienna in 1683, SHE ABSOLUTELY BLOWS MY MIND." I now can't stop thinking about her and I really don't want her to dump me because of my sex performance. Second because I discovered A LOT of things about sex.

I am going to see Girl #2 again so I really want to vent and ask questions before.

As for me I really like being submissive and I really like giving pleasure. Having the other person enjoy it just triggers happiness and pleasure in me.

I HAVE NEVER EJACULATED WHILE AWAKE

Only in dreams. Not while masturbating and not when having sex. Never in my life. I don't mind it I enjoy it nevertheless. But all the articles online focus on the relationship between ejaculating and sex. Does it carry serious medical implications?

I AM HAVING WEAK ERECTIONS

In all three encounters I couldn't penetrate. The encounter with Girl #2 we only had one condom because neither of us expected to finish in bed. A few things to consider:

• I am a heavy smoker. I'm talking a pack of 20 a day.
• I all 3 encounters I was quite drunk.
• I can get hard on my own and was definetly hard duri

I (37F) have been dating a really sweet guy (31M) for a few months and we had sex for the first time last weekend. As we’re about to do it he warns me he takes a long time to orgasm, if at all. He had one other sexual partner, an ex-wife of 5 yrs. She gave him a hard time about the delayed ejaculation which only made the problem worse.

I told him not to stress about it. We had a 60+ minute session that involved a water break. Snack packs and condom replacement. Ended in sweaty orgasms for all, but it was workout.

Three days later I’m on the toilet and 2 condoms fall out! I had no clue they were inside of me that whole time, or how both got stuck. Neither of us noticed they were missing once he came. I’ve never had that happen before.

As much as I enjoyed the sex, I can’t handle hour long sessions and condom fishing every time. I was really sore after, and I want him to be able to enjoy it without stressing over my comfort. I haven’t told him about the condoms yet, wasn’t able to see him this week until tonight.

I’m expecting another marathon sex sesh. Should I tell him about the condoms? Ask if he can get professional help for the delayed orgasms? He’s very open with me and has a therapist so I believe he can solve this. But I don’t want to make him more insecure by making it a big thing.

I see long term potential with this guy and don’t want to mess it up! Any advice on how to address this sensitive topic.

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Last night my husband and I jerked each other off. I had one of the craziest ejaculations of my life. Correction; the craziest ejaculation of my life.

I’m curious if anybody can help explain it. Either in health terms, or in terms of gay sex wisdom/experience.

To start, I was jerking off before he joined me. Got close twice and just started edging.

In general I have really strong kegel muscles. Recently, I’ve been trying to actually relax them and chill a bit with them. Habitually, contract them instantly on stimulation, which makes me really hard, but also it feels one dimensional. Recently I’ve been intentionally trying to relax them and break that feedback loop. Enjoy just being 90% hard and that sort of plump feeling.

Anyway, so he was jerking me off. I was relaxed. No kegels. He was playing with me really slowly and sensually. After a bit watching some porn together, I slowly felt like I was getting closer and closer to ejaculating. And it started to feel like I was precumming. But like a lot. And then more and more. And then it kind of felt like ejaculation without the contractions. Meanwhile my dick starts shooting streams. Not as thick as my normal cum, but more volume. Kind of the consistency that seemed similar to wet dreams liquid. He’s starts slowing down, and I don’t want him to stop. It didn’t have that “okay I’m done stimulation needs to slow” sort of feeling. And then another wave came and it happened again.

If I had to guess how much fluid, I’d maybe think like 2-3 tablespoons. Which is way way more than my normal amount.

We kept going after. It felt in one way like I didn’t orgasm, but I felt satisfied. I then jerked us both of. I didn’t feel like I could come again. But I didn’t need a refectory period.

My husband was like blown away. He thought it was hot and sexy.

We considered if it was like a mix of pee and semen. Nothing smelled like urine though. And I did have to pee afterwards and the sensation was definitely different.

I’m curious if anybody knows what this was. Has had any experience similar. Knows how to recreate this. Etc etc.

TLDR; I’ve been practicing stimulation while suppression kegel contractions. I ejaculated 3-5x as much liquid without contractions, and my orgasm was more like a pleasurable emotional arc than a physiological peak. What happened?

(Serious) Today recently, I was going to the bathroom to take a shit and when I pulled down my boxers, there was cum. Like I wasn't erected beforehand, wasn't thinking about anything sexual and didn't even feel an orgasm yet there was a full blown ejaculation in my boxers and some dribble. I found/find this very concerning as there was nothing to start this. I googled some stuff and the explanations for this doesn't match with my story. Some said it happens if you don't ejaculated enough yet I masturbate once a day and another explanation was if I were circumcised or had a very sensitive head which could rub of my clothes and cause it yet I am not circumcised nor do I have a very sensitive penis head and my penis didn't rub of my clothes. I am concerned about this and thought to share it.

How common is it for a guy to remain hard after he cums? I've been with others, and all of them cum, and go soft pretty quickly. The guy I'm with now will cum and continue to stay hard. Is that very common? Also, I've been with others who cum and their penis is so sensitive they need to stop, this guy keeps going and going and says it feels good. I know the sensitivity can vary but looking for input on how common these things are.

For reference, I am a 49f, he is 46m. I'm not sure if he's always been this way or if it's something that's changed with age.

Whenever I am having sex with my girlfriend I have a hard time getting/staying hard with a condom on and I cum really quickly. However if I’m alone at home it takes me like 10-15 minutes even longer if I tried to cum. I don’t watch porn or anything so why do you think this is the case. Could it be nerves or the fact that I recently became sexually active. I was a virgin before we met and we’ve been having sex for about a week or so. Do you think my stamina when I’m with her will increase over time?

I haven't been able to AP for a month now. Lately my libido has been out of control. The reasoning behind it to me is unknown but it did raise a question. Does ejaculation affect AP'ing? I'm aware my question touches the surfaces of Prana , specifically the Root Chakra point.

Gain weight and muscles. Help me.

My boyfriend has taken pretty much 80% of the drugs there are, i think except crack, heroin, fentanyl, xanax. There are so many that I don’t even know them bc I’ve only done weed/bacco and a bit of hash. But we’ve started having sex not long ago & he lasts probably around a minute-two minutes. Is there a correlation between taking lots of drugs and not being able to last?

I recently experimented with Priligy to help with lasting longer. I cum way too fast normally with absolutely 0 ability to control it, even after trying exercises. I was happy to find that Priligy helped me last longer and allowed me to have some control over it as well. I am not depressed so I don't need SSRIs otherwise. Now that I know this works, I am thinking longterm. I am wondering since I'm having a lot of sex if it's better to just get a regular SSRI prescribed daily, perhaps at a low dose, instead of using the Priligy so often.

Anybody with experience here?

I made an appointment with my primary care doctor. Told the scheduling desk it was "to discuss sexual health including Prep" (HIV prophylaxis). So when I got there, he didn't know I was gonna be like "And I cum too fast too, you has pills for me plz?"

He asked me what I thought was best. I told him about dapoxetine+sildenafil.

He quickly told me sildenafil won't help with PE, but I said, "but it'll help get up the second round--and with PE, if you can't get up the second round, you might have nothing." He immediately accepted that response, which was heartening, as this is not an easy thing to explain to people who don't get it, given the stigma and that fragile male ego of mine. As I've said to folks here, for me, the ejaculation/orgasm isn't the problem, it's that my dick gets soft after that lol; if I could cum and stay hard, PE+light priapism just might make me very multi-orgasmic, and I mean... why not be that?

Maybe the expense: brand-name sildenafil (sold under a different name) was back in the day very expensive, but generic sildenafil is pretty dang cheap, less than $1/pill at Costco. For an on demand drug, that's pennies per day. Paroxetine is also in generics. More on cost at the bottom.

He did some googling on dapoxetine and concluded it's not approved in the USA for anything--just not available. I kinda thought that was true. So I suggested we do paroxetine instead. They are both SSRIs and so do a similar thing in the brain. And I told him I wanted to do it on demand not everyday; both to spare my kidneys but also I just don't need it everyday. After all, I'll be taking Prep (Descovy) daily and that already puts a load in your kidneys and liver.

So I walked out with Rx for sildenafil, paroxetine and Descovy and my doctor's blessing to take the Descovy daily and experiment however I like with the sildenafil and paroxetine.

I went over to Costco and the best part of this very good experience was that the paroxetine after insurance cost me about $3 for 30 pills, the sildenafil is not covered by insurance but cost only $27 for 30 pills with a small Costco discount applied, and the Descovy was covered by insurance 100%.

Of course I started experimenting the very moment I got home. I have this dream that PE is actually a gift and if I just get the right drug in my brain -- like just the right puzzle piece -- that I will be better off than without the PE and the pills.

I'll tell you more about being on the drugs in my next post but I

A question for the guys around here...

I've been on 10mg of lexapro for over a year now (1/2020), and thanks to the miserableness of COVID I just had sex for the first time last night since starting lexapro and unfortunately I couldn't finish. I was able to get hard no problem, but we must have been going for an hour before I gave up - great for her, but frustrating for me.

The thing is is that I'm able to get myself off no problem, but last night I struggled. So I'm trying to figure out if it was the lexapro causing me a problem or just the nerves of being with a new girlfriend mixed with alcohol and being exhausted after a long day of hiking.

Thoughts? Any other guys not have issues alone but have issues with a partner since starting lexapro?

Thanks!

Hi. Serious question - I meditate 20-30 minutes a day and did yoga often pre-Covid. I haven't done as much yoga at home but I plan to start doing again.

Does anyone here know (from an eastern medicine perspective) the effect of ejaculation on a guy's energy flow? It feels to me like an energy draining experience and I wonder if it counters the energy-moving benefits of yoga and meditation.

Hi all, today I had the most embarassing massage ever. It's a professional Turkish Hamam with massage not a dodgy place. I went 40 days without porn or masturbation. I did not go there with any bad intentions but just wanted to relax and get a proper massage as I go to the gym regularly.

I was lying naked face down but very well covered massage just started she didn't touch me inappropriately and didn't even brush my penis but I guess because of my sensitivity+nerves I ejaculated right away. I just kept quite but felt so ashamed I'm sure she noticed it but didn't say anything. DOES THIS COUNT AS A RELAPSE?? I feel so embarassed and sad, do I have to start from day 0??

It literally just happened and I feel very tired, not sure if it's because of the whole experience that is meant to relax you or because I relapsed.

Please if you have any sort of experience let me know if it had an affect on your confidence, motivation ext.

I have it but I was only able to masturbate ONE time before my first seizure and before I went on epilepsy meds and before I learned how bad circumcision was. I was also (I think) 14 when I first masturbated successfully but I didn't have an urge to continuously do it.

So, since about 6 months on HRT (MTF) until about 6 months ago (approx 3 years) I have been unable to produce any fluid whatsoever during an orgasm (dry orgasm/anejaculatory orgasm). However quite suddenly 6 months ago I started producing a completely clear, lubricant like fluid during orgasm. At first it was only a bit, enough to create a light film over the glans, but now it is significant in volume. It overflows. It's enough to cause dampness in my underwear.

I spoke to my GP (doctor) today and he was bamboozled. My T result was at 0.7. Nothing had changed. Yet here I was suddenly producing liquid after 4 years on hormones. He has sent me for a semen analysis. I suspect he thinks that because I was born with low T to begin with, my body may have adapted to the lesser T level and restarted Semen production or my prostate has activated. (I've been unable for 4 years to achieve a prostate orgasm). My GP also theorised that my body may have activated the female equivalent of the Seminal Vesicle called the Skene's gland. If my semen analysis results come back clear, I may need to see a specialist urologist about the issue.

Has anyone else had a similar occurrence? Do you know what it might mean?

It's been lifelong. It's not merely a habit, or a product of conditioning; I have tried to re-condition my body/systems to longer delays from erection onset to orgasm, and lots of things work a tiny bit that only I notice (meaning, a partner would still be like "wow, that was fast--how did you even do that?" Not looking for solutions to PE here, I do that in other subs. I'm 40; I've tried everything you could mention probably.

That said, one of the most aggravating things about my PE is that lubing my glans is almost an instant orgasm. In restoration circles, we talk about the penis and especially the glans having lost sensation and my problem is the exact opposite; I'm so sensitive. Like, numbing creams for example, even applying those is so stimulating, I am brought nearly to orgasm by merely applying the cream; worse with a typical lube that has no numbing agent. Maybe if it were injected like local anesthesia that would work /s.

So i'm both excited by and scared of the idea of my glans being in a permanently lubricated situation after/during restoration. I can imagine it bringing me some or maybe even great relief from my problem with PE (but I try not to get my hopes up anymore) but also maybe somehow making it even worse.

Any feedback or encouragement?

Mine: I had learned about it by googling when I was 13 or so and was actively trying to cum the first time. It actually took me a couple tries. The first few times I just had a bit of pre-cum and I thought maybe that was what it was supposed to be. One night I was laying in bed humping some clothes because it felt good and I started getting lost fantasizing about things and I came for the first time. It was probably one of the strongest ones I've ever felt.