Hi, long time lurker here. This is my first post. Looking for some advice to get over my cheating wife.
My wife and I have been married for over 11 years. I recently discovered that she has been cheating on me for months with a ex-colleague. She was laid off a few months ago due to COVID, but my freelance job is still on, and I make enough. Yesterday she went out in the afternoon stating she ‘just had to get out’ and see her girlfriends. I have been suspicious for a while now so I go through her phone when she uses the bathroom. It was laid out in horrifying detail: him telling her he reached the restaurant, her replying him to order appetizers, her even sending money to him to cover her part of the bill etc. He left the restaurant to check in in a nearby motel and messaged her when he had and she followed a little later with a bottle of vodka and a six pack. Later that night she messaged him ‘you are so naughty’ and him replying ‘so I guess you liked it better this time huh’. I took pics of all these conversations.
I did not disturb her the whole day. My stomach is in knots though. I could not even think of her being this horrible person. We have had a good marriage (a few arguments here and there but nothing significant). She has been a great wife otherwise, and an excellent mother to our twin boys aged 8.
It was amazing to watch her go through her nightly routine as if nothing happened. She came back with burgers for herself and the kids (I told her beforehand I would have a homemade salad), tucked them in, came to the bedroom and applied her usual night cream, and lay down and asked me what I did since she was gone. I managed to mumble an answer , asked her about her friends. She told me a made up story and turned to her phone. I guess that is when she sent him the ‘naughty’ message.
She is preparing breakfast now. We woke about an hour ago and she hugged me with a breezy ‘morning’ and went to brush her teeth and wake the kids. I am so numb. I cannot believe she cheated so blatantly and now acts as if nothing has happened. I am off to meet a lawyer later today to begin the separation process. I just cannot get how shameless she can be. I will follow his advice as to how to rip the bandaid off, but I want some insight into her thinking - how does one be so calm, so nonchalant, and act this happy? I am getting angrier by the minute.
Edit: A few folks have mentioned ‘if you are thinking of getting a divorce...’ I AM. No two ways about it. She has r... keep reading on reddit ➡
So currently I’m a FOH manager at a brunch place that recently opened within the last few months. I love the job, my staff is amazing, but I’ve been hit really hard with the seasonal depression lately. The pandemic isn’t helping our sales at all either, so I’m a bit afraid of us closing up shop here soon as well, which isn’t helping my mental state at all.
Recently, though, we had to hire a new dishwasher to help us through our (thankfully) busy weekends. Today has been a pretty bad day for my mental state, and I’ve been dragging my feet pretty hard, messing things up left and right, and dealing with a few Karens here and there, so it’s been rough.
About an hour ago, I was walking into our dish pit with some dishes and this guy is just fucking FLYING with a huge smile on his face. He’s pushing through silver in the middle of a rush, has an almost empty pit, and just vibing his face off in one of the nastiest jobs in the whole restaurant without a care in the world. I figured, if this guy can have a good time, there’s enough good in the world to go around, and it completely changed my mood for the better.
I guess the point of this post is mainly to get this outta my head, but also to let you guys know to appreciate it when even in the middle of a shitty time, look for the people who are making it through.
Edit: It's really great to see everyone appreciate this. I wasn't expecting much of anyone to see this, but it's awesome to see everyone's stories of people being good to their dishies. Spread the love, folks! We all need that shit right now.
We have to be rational.
95.000.000 million people worldwide have been vaccinated. That is a powerful statement for the safety of these vaccines. We would have seen hundreds of thousand of grave illnesses and deaths by now. If there were any doubts 2 months ago, now we have overwhelming evidence that the majority of people will have mild or no side effects.
Now we have to trust the science. No need for fears and anxiety. Let all get our shots, end this pandemic to get our lives back.
Are there any anime characters that could not just win, but take Superman out like it's nothing?
edit: sorry for not specifying which Superman, I would say just the most powerful within reason (no plot armor) I don't know every version of Supes