Dress

So me (32M) and my soon to be wife (23F) are planing to get married in a few months. I come from a very religious house hold with strong Cristian beliefs and one of the traditions in my family is if the woman getting married isn’t still a virgin they shouldn’t wear a white dress on their wedding day.

My family knows my soon to be wife wasn’t a virgin when I met her because my mom asked me when I started dating her if she was pure, and I was honest and told her she had boyfriends before she met me.

My wife was really upset when I asked her if she could wear a coloured dress on our wedding day but she agreed, so we’re looking at getting glittery blue dress instead.

Now she’s saying she won’t marry me because she’s too humiliated by the whole situation, but I really don’t see how it’s a big deal. AITA?

Our country has no restrictions and we are allowed to have parties and weddings if we follow some state imposed rules.

My (22f)s brother (23m) is getting married on January 2021 to S (31f). She wanted a very uniform aesthetic wedding and only selected her blonde friends and me as her bridesmaids so that everyone would look the same. I still think it's stupid but since she didn't force or ask any of her friends to dye their hair (not to my knowledge at least), I shut my mouth.

Now to the ah part, A, one of my bestest friends from my friend group finally came out as gay to her very strict Asian parents and they kicked her out. She was devastated and was staying with one of my friends. We had a girls night, got really drunk and did something stupid. We all shaved our hair, bleached it and colored it different colors of the rainbow flag to show support. Looked kind of stupid but she seemed really happy to see her friends supporting her and at the end of the day, it's just hair. Who cares.

The next day when I was sober, I called my SIL and told her what I had done. There was still almost 4 months to the wedding and if she wanted to replace me, she could have. She said it was alright and in November, we picked out the bridesmaid dresses ($950 for one).

It was expensive and I had to pay it all for myself. My SIL never commented on my hair whenever we saw each other and never told me she had a problem.

Last week on family dinner, she pulled me aside to tell me I was being replaced.

But since I already bought the dress, she wanted me to give the dress to her friend to try it on. if it fits, she will keep it and if it doesn't, she will try altering it or buy a new one.

I was a bit sad because I had asked her several times before this and she always said it was okay. I told her, her friend can keep her dress and I would need a full reimbursement for it.

She told me it was not possible and since she was going to be family, she wanted me to give her the dress for free so that even if her friend can't fit into my dress, they could try returning it to the store and buying a new one in a different size.

I am a college student and I had to spend a large chunk of my savings to buy that dress. I want full reimbursement. I asked her why she didn't tell me before we went dress shopping and she told me she didn't want to hurt my feelings and kept her mouth shut.

I was mad. I told her I don't want to keep that dress and I needed a full reimbursement no matter wha

I broke the dress code at my last firm because of shoes.

I got called to the carpet for wearing black Sketchers to work, so I started coming in every day dressed to the nines. We're talking cuff links, high quality silk ties, gold face metal band watch, pocket squares, some of the finest bourbon wingtips you ever laid eyes on. I got tailored dress shirts and custom suits cut for fuck sake. It wasn't cheap.

I did this every day, while making sure to casually point out that the very managers who complained about me were wearing Keds in the office.

This went on for a few months. The interns and staff started dressing like me. We started comparing notes on tie knots and pocket square folds. We got high and tight haircuts with straight razor shaves. We bought badger hair shaving brushes and eucalyptus shaving soap.

The partners started getting embarrassed as we were dressing considerably nicer than they cared to.

They had a big meeting and declared the entire dress code dead. Jeans, tshirts, flip flops. All fair game unless you had a client meeting.

I got married to my soulmate three years ago, despite seeing a lot of red flags in his family, specifically my MIL. She would constantly berate me with passive aggressive comments about how I keep my house, my career choice (I am a chef which is not her idea of a sustainable job), etc. My husband and his mother are very close with one another, and I normally bite my tongue as to not put him in a situation where he has to choose between her and I. However, something happened this past month that spiraled me.

My husband’s father passed away when he was seven, and since then his mother has been a revolving door of different men, despite my husband urging her to settle. Finally, she met a very nice man and they got engaged. For timeline’s purposes, my husband and I got married two months before my MIL’s boyfriend purposed. They were engaged for another two years before deciding on a wedding date. Shortly after the wedding date was set, my MIL invited me to dinner (which was incredibly out of the ordinary), and asked me if I would be willing to lend her my wedding dress for her wedding.

Needless to say, I was shocked. My wedding dress was made custom from a very nice designer, and it had been my dream dress for as long as I could remember. It is also important to note that it was paid for completely by my mother and I, and in fact, my MIL did not pay for anything in our wedding, except for $200 towards our honeymoon, which I thanked her profusely for. So, for her to ask if I would lend her my $4500 dream dress that she had no part in buying that I had custom made for myself, seemed ridiculous. I gave her a polite ‘no’, and explained to her that that dress was very sentimental to me and I would feel uncomfortable having someone else wear it. I didn’t even mention anything about money.

She threw a complete fit in the middle of the restaurant, going on about how she wished her son had married someone more grateful and giving than myself. She commented on how the dress doesn’t even fit me anymore because I’ve “gained so much weight” (I had two children since then), and how it would be stupid of me NOT to give it to her. I excused myself from dinner and went home to tell my husband. To my surprise, it seemed like he was taking her side. He tried to reason with me that I would have no use for it anymore, so the nice thing to do would be to give it to her.

I called my mom, who was furious. She called my MIL and went off on her for even asking that, and explained

TL;DR: offered to lend a friend a dress for a party, she feels uncomfortable in the short, revealing one I offer and wants the long, modest one I was planning to wear. I say no, she gets mad.

My (24F) friend group is having a party for New Year's with a green colour theme. I just so happen to have two nice green dresses; one a few years old, and one brand new one I bought in the Boxing Day sales.

My friend (26F) mentioned she had nothing to wear, and as she's around my size I offered to lend her the older dress. She came over to try it on today, but unfortunately, though it fits her well, it's pretty far from her usual style; she tends to dress quite modestly, and the dress I offered was quite short and form-fitting.

No matter, she said she'd find something else to wear, and we had a nice time hanging out for a while, until she asked to see the new dress I was planning on wearing. The new one is much more modest; past the knee, with a loose and flowy skirt. I modelled for her, and she gushed about how pretty it was and immediately asked if she could try it on too, which I agreed to.

She then said that she felt much more comfortable in this dress, and I should lend it to her for the party. I told her it was brand new, and I'd bought it specifically for this party and really wanted to wear it myself, but again she was welcome to the older dress.

She said she only liked the new dress, the old one is too short for her, and since there's two dresses, and I'm comfortable in short dresses it isn't fair for me to take the longer one. There would be other opportunities for me to wear the longer dress in future, and she doesn't have the time or the money to go shopping for another.

In the grand scheme of things, it's really just a dress, my friend means much more to me and I wouldn't want her to be uncomfortable, but I think she's being quite rude just demanding I give her the dress she likes better.

AITA for wanting to wear my new dress, even if my friend is more comfortable in it?

Little bit of background:

First and foremost, we live in Australia, my state hasn't had any new Covid cases in five months, and the party we're attending is small and in compliance with appropriate social distance guidelines where I live.

Secondly, I've been good friends with this girl for close to a decade now, we frequently borrow from each other's closets and have both borrowed brand new, unworn things from the other before with permission. It's a really strong, happy f

My daughter is 14 so she's at that age where everything is a huge deal to her. She was supposed to sing/play violin at our church for Christmas tonight and her choir leader decided to send me the details at the last minute. He said that she needs to wear either white dress or a red sweater.

So I had to rush to the store to find her something to wear and I found this lovely white angel dress for $30. I grabbed the dress and was super excited to show her it, as I thought she'd love it. But when I showed her she said that she didn't like it and that it'd be embarrassing to wear in public. She said that'd she'd be made fun of. I refused to go out and get a new dress and she started throwing a fit saying the dress was awful.

So I told her to either wear it or she doesn't perform tonight. I guess she thought I was bluffing so she told me that she wouldn't wear it. So I called her teacher and told him that she would not be coming tonight.

Shockingly, the teacher got an attitude with me and said that if she wasn't there it would ruin the show. Her teacher informed us that she would not be able to be in any other holiday shows and she wouldn't get anymore violin solos. My wife took my daughters side and said that I should've just got a different dress. I don't think I should give in to teenage temper tantrums.

AITA?