Thinking about leaving your spouse/partner, or leaving the home of abusive parents? Try your best to get your hands on important personal documents like your birth certificate, passport, social security card etc... it can be very difficult to get replacements.
These documents can be targeted, they can also open the door to "having to go back" for them. Don't let anyone hold you hostage.
While New Year's resolutions are quite cliche, some people do find them motivational. So let's take this opportunity to share some of our sexual health goals, along with other goals that we have to improve our lives.
Staying Porn-Free
- Be sure to get educated about porn addiction. We see so many of the same questions asked over and over again. Please - read these pages which were written for YOU.
- Make sure you have a day counter set up by navigating to the sidebar on a web browser. Note that the badges don't work on Reddit's app.
- Leave your commitment in this thread. Do you want to give up porn for 2020? Or forever?
Other Sexual Health Goals
- Do you want to explore retention (abstaining from orgasm for periods of time)?
- If so, for how long? A week? 30 days? 90 days? Sign up in our monthly sign-up thread!
Progressing
- Every slip-up is an opportunity to improve your recovery strategy. What has worked for you in 2019? What hasn't worked for you, that you could improve upon in 2020?
- Consider getting an accountability partner.
- What life goals are you pursuing right now, or that you want to pursue in 2020? This is important, because you can't just think about quitting porn all of the time - you have to live a fulfilling life too!
Anyway, drop your resolutions in this thread and let's live the best year of our lives!
Some of the boundaries on my list was not to belittle me being gay or my relationship with my girlfriend, not to interrogate me, call me names/be rude, and not to guilt trip me. . She absolutely lost it when I told her I was moving in with my girlfriend. She called me ungrateful for not wanting to live under her roof. I told her that I wouldn’t tolerate her calling me ungrateful and that I had made my decision. She told me that “she would always love me unconditionally” even though I am “forcing” her out of my life all because I won’t allow her to be rude to my girlfriend. I again told her that I wouldn’t tolerate her crossing the boundaries and that I was going to hang up, she then asked me if i was getting all this “power” from my therapist. I said yes. She then started yelling about how it’s bad for me to go to therapy if i’m not going to therapy with her. Seriously considering going NC.
Edit: wow thank you all so much for the support. this means so much to me. none of us are alone in our fight to reclaim ourselves. thank you all and i love you!!
Some of the documents can be found on twitter:
https://twitter.com/trzef/status/1341204820288561157
https://twitter.com/forestillusion/status/1341230631913541633
https://twitter.com/eclipse_tt/status/1341189295856627712
https://twitter.com/AhabsArtwork/status/1341205959985614849
https://imgur.com/a/V7h6BddI wrote about her in the what gives me joy prompt, I swear it's totally relevant.
..............1k likes and I'll do it UwU
edit: Y'all I don't like how fast that number is climbing, but it gives me serotonin to know people like my cat. Her name is General Anastasia von Mittens.
Have more cat.
Edit 2: I did it. I have proof. I fucking did it. 👁👁👄👃👄👁👁
I applied to Princeton as a joke and memed the shit out of my app, so I may as well go the whole way, huh. I doubt I'm getting in, but the app fee was worth the serotonin boost for the night.
Proof: https://imgur.com/a/UcxwkyG
Edit 3: https://imgur.com/u1NOIp7
Security is done doing their things, so I feel good to post this. Some details will be changed for the sake of anonymity.
Me: Helpdesk rep for a company that works with hotels
HD: Hotel Director (Aka Horrifically Dumb)
HD calls in for an unexciting and common issue with Word.
It's very specific to my company so I won't go into detail, but I have to remote in, close any word documents he has open, and do Stuff to fix it, which I do... now for the fun part.
Me: "Alright HD, that should take care of it. Can you go ahead and open any word document to check that it's working now?"
HD: "Sure. Any document?"
Me: "yep, just to make sure the issue is gone."
HD: opens passwords.doc
Me: Blink. Blink blink. Blink.
Mute. "WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK???"
I was now staring at page 1 of [redacted] of a doc with passwords for computers, email accounts, and network accounts, for what I could only assume had to be everyone that works at this hotel. Now, this isn't the only hotel in the company. This is a chain of resorts and hotels. Network access is going to be for the entire company, and he had IT people's passwords in here, clearly labelled "IT" and "IT Admin" about halfway down the first page...
screenshot.
unmute.
Me: "uh... alright. go ahead and do what you were doing before that caused the issue..."
HD: "hey, looks like it's working! thanks a ton"
Me: "yeah... no problem... hey, one of the things that sometimes is an issue afterwards is Saving As. Can you just hit Save As and make sure it doesn't error out?" (this is legitimate)
HD: "sure, no problem"
He hits file, and I immediately see the password.doc in recent files and the path to it...
Strike 2: It's in a dropbox.
Strike 3: Our company doesn't use drop box.
Wrapped up the call like nothing happened, since he's a director and I'm a lowly helpdesk rep...
Hang up, Call InfoSec.
I'd like to say that's the story of how I got a Director fired, but he actually still works here. They chewed him out and made him delete the copy on the dropbox.
Is there another copy somewhere else? who knows!
But if there is, I bet he'll think twice before opening it while someone is remoted into his machine.
If you’re good enough, no one will ask any questions. Or if they do you better have the right answers. It’s not wrong because you weren’t gonna get the job anyway but now you actually have a chance.
