I'll admit I haven't been the most attentive husband lately. My wife has told me I need to make more of an effort in our relationship or we would have problems. I've tried really hard to invest in our relationship ever since finding out my wife is not feeling as happy as she should be.

This fuck up happened last week. My wife's birthday was coming up. I decided to go big. My wife absolutely loves surprises so I decided to surprise her with a romantic night and lots of flowers and presents. She had to go to work in the morning of her birthday and I had the day off. A lot of time to plan everything out.

I decided, being the idiot I am, to pretend that I had forgotten my wife's birthday just to make the surprise, well, even more of a surprise. The plan was as follows: my wife wakes up and I don't mention her birthday. She thinks I've forgotten it. She goes to work and I get everything ready. She comes home in the evening after work and tadaa!! When she opens the door I'll be waiting for

My parents are divorced, and because of the custody agreement I am supposed to be at my dad's for every other week. My mom dropped me off outside his house and I went to the door and the key didn't work. I banged on the door and rang the doorbell and nobody came to the door, the house seemed empty. My phone had died and my mom had left because she was dropping me off in her rush to work.

The locks on the doors were new but it was hot as hell out and my dad was supposed to have custody so I thought it would be fine to come in the window. Like I was supposed to be there.

I climbed in the bathroom window that he always leaves open, i slid the screen up carefully and came in without breaking anything. This is my childhood home, I've climbed in that window plenty of times, hell when I was little and playing outside I'd come through the window as a fun shortcut to use the bathroom.

I went towards my bedroom and there was some random lady in the hallway who freaked out, she was scared by

10 months ago my wife of 15 years explained to me she had interest in a coworker so I left it up to her to decide whether to open up our marriage. I figured it was just an exploratory phase. Something she would have a change of heart about. After 5 months of being miserable with her going off with him nearly every weekend I expressed to her I wanted to look for someone else. She replied that it would only push her to the other man. Nonetheless I started seeing someone and after the first day of me seeing someone else, my wife wanted a divorce.

We have officially been divorced for a week. We have 3 kids together. We are also living together for the time being while she and her boyfriend are closing on a house together.

Recently our family friend's wife contacted me and invited me and the kids to join her family on a trip. I planned on taking my girlfriend along with us. I explained to the family friend that if my family were to go on the trip my kid's mother would not be going.They a

I’m fucking furious, after 20 years you’d think you know someone right?

Today I asked her “hey I’m in the mood to watch some Star Wars, wanna join me?” To where she replied “sure.” I told her we can just skip all of the bad movies that the alt right has an obsession with (the prequels) and go straight to watching the objective masterpieces known as the ST. My wife LAUGHED (yes directly at me, no fucking respect from this woman) replying she didn’t really like them and found them boring. I looked at her straight in the eye, it all became clear to me, my wife is a misogynist, she just hates women, she doesn’t respect women whatsoever.

So I slapped that dumb bitch in the face and screamed “I WILL NOT TOLERATE MISOGYNY IN THIS HOUSEHOLD, YOU JUST HATE IT BECAUSE IT HAS A FEMALE LEAD” she (thankfully) started to cry with a confused look on her face and asked what came over me and why would I do that. I looked at her directly in the eyes again furiously, and asked her “what did you sa

They've been screaming for 3 hours downstairs everyday.

I see them as the children.

I wish they'd just get divorced already and spare me the uncomfortable home dynamic.

They throw me in the middle of things.

They tell me that the other talks bad about me.

They try to get me to hate each other.

And honestly, I hate them both.

The dialogue is amusing and makes the public event not so shallow. Sure as hell beats Ana's commentary during seraph towers

They were not impressed. They're actually quite mad at me lmao. I guess you could say....

That's a lotta damage

I have get this story off my chest for as it is so fucked up and still creeps me to this day and it all came back to me tonite like it was yesterday....

My wife at that time and I used to visit her parents in a state up north about a 4-hour drive. It was an old nice big house with rolling green hills in the backyard and big oak trees, we always stayed in the apartment above the garage but this trip they told us they were renovating the apartment and had us stay in one of the bedrooms. We usually stayed for a few days so we had luggage.

I was putting our clothes in the dresser and I came across some pictures in the bottom drawer. My wife was downstairs with her parents. Anyways, these pictures quite shocked me, and I'm pretty sure they were not meant to be found, they were pictures of my father in law inserting "objects" into my mother in law. Now 3 things were fucked up about these pics. One - these "objects" weren't your standard playtoys that most of us are used to. He was insert

Back in April, my severely abusive wife left me after joining a satanic cult. She lived with me until a month ago, and she met a guy online through her cult and went to visit him 2 weeks ago, 3 states away. We agreed on a 50/50 custody split but everything is backed up from covid, and she has not signed the divorce papers yet. This guy has a long criminal history including a couple DUIs, some burglaries, malicious destruction of property. Clearly an alcohol problem. She met him two weeks ago, and invited him to live with her and he just flew in today. Now, this guy is going to be sharing a bed with my daughter now. I know this, because I brought it up to my wife about how dumb it is to introduce a guy she's seeing that she barely knows while my daughter is struggling really hard to deal with the split. She hasn't been able to sleep in her own bed saying "I don't want you to leave like mommy did" but she does the same thing at her place, saying she's afraid her mother will leave her. My

Thank god the court granted me joint custody

I'm not sure if it's normal to feel this way.

I had my nikkah done at 21 and moved in with him at 22. We met on a marriage app and had only spoken for around 10 months before our nikkah. Our nikkah was over 2 years ago now. The first 2 years of marriage were hard, but it doesn't seem to have gotten better.

I honestly feel zero attraction towards him. Not because of his looks, but because of his personality. He purposefully tries to push my buttons every day and it's made me resent him. He raises his voice at me and gets angry if I raise mine in response. He makes racist/sexist "jokes" on a daily basis because he knows I'm passionate about these matters of justice. Even when I've asked him to stop. I wanted my husband to be my confidant. But after this much time, I am extremely careful about what I share with him. Any sort of vulnerable information WILL get thrown back at me maliciously when he's upset or as a "joke". He checks off most boxes for sociopathy, narcissism, and espe

I am normally fairly level headed when people do this (or compare the loss of a parent, grandparent, etc.) but someone very close to me compared his leaving his ex wife and her grief over the divorce to my grief over losing my partner. Although I could see his point that it was difficult for her to accept that someone would rather be with anyone else besides you, it still did not set very well with me.

I know that there are many different levels of grief but it almost felt like some sort of perverse badge of honor that widows earn by being involuntarily abandoned with this comparison...and it stung. I was just wondering how everyone else deals with this.

Vicki called it. Now it’s our turn. Which Housewives couples (married or not) will suffer the curse of breaking up within the next five years? The odds say that we should expect many!

Emily & Shane (RHOC) - This man often seems so turned off by her that it’s sad. I believe Emily is trying to hang on for the kids, but I think Shane’s disinterest combined with his sarcastic, self-loathing ways will finally wear on her. Did a marriage in which the engagement happened on g chat really stand a chance?

Dolores & David (RHONJ) - The only way I see this lasting is if Dolores left the show. And even then, I think it’s a long shot. It’s obvious David hates being on camera almost as much as he hates commitment. And as much as she won’t admit it, I think she’s bothered by it. I’m also skeptical that her family likes David. He definitely doesn’t fit the Italian husband they most likely desire her to be with (someone like Frank). I just don’t see this relationship lasting another five yea

Why do so many split? What really happens as all of us were once so so happy? Is it real life? Money? Kids? Sex? Other relationships? Really trying to understand? Are there more happy long term marriages? Or unhappy? I have a dear girlfriend whose husband is so disrespectful to her. Just a A H. Over and over. They live like roommates in their early ‘70’s. She does her thing, he does his. She does all the work, makes his meals, but, they spend time watching tv separated. She complains about him daily. He puts her down in front of everyone. Makes me so sad to watch.

The blog post is here: https://mustbethistalltoride.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/

And then I read a comic by the wonderful French illustrator Emma about sharing mental load: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

And now I'm crying even harder. Why do I have to be this man's mother? Why is it so easy and inconsequential for men to be permanent children? What do I have to say to make him understand? Because everything I have said thus far has only reinforced his notion that I am controlling and maybe a little OCD. I have cried and pleaded and explained and yelled and empathized and stormed out and bargained and made lists and none of it matters. My short-lived attempt at a cleaning and cooking strike was the most pathetic of all; he didn't even notice.

I don't want to sound cliche. I know there are women who are like this too. But for the love of god I have met so many men in my life, between my partners and the partners of my

The commercial with Colt yelling ,”I’m gonna divorce you!” is what got my wife and I to watch this show. And we only saw bits and pieces of them before, so we always thought Larissa was the problem.

Watching this latest season of Happily Ever After and seeing Colt and Debbie with Jess, we decided to go back and watch their previous seasons to see how they got to this point.

Wow. Just wow. I always say to my wife that Colt’s interviews feel rehearsed and read from a script, not authentic at all. Colt seems really good at acting calm for the camera. The first arrest for Larissa, it seemed weird that he told the cops she attacked him and told her he didn’t say anything to the cops and didn’t know why she was arrested. Arrests 2 and 3, Colt was cuffed and almost arrested both times but then somehow the cops decided to arrest her instead.

But now after seeing their whole story and watching the Tell All, we both are convinced Colt actually is abusive and like a lot of abusers, is able to

I don’t know if I want to tell her or not honestly, I don’t know how it helps the situation and I feel like she will tell everyone and coming from her it will be bitchy.

I’m not dating men or anything like that. I just feel like maybe I should tell her because it was mean to just say I didn’t like her anymore.

I don’t like it when men leave their wives and make it all about themselves or anything like that.

I also don’t want her to get more money out of me.

She is dating another man so she’s moved on.

TL:DR should I tell her why I divorced her or not.

The Man Who Coaches Husbands on How to Avoid Divorce https://nyti.ms/2zb0RcJ

I’ve been thinking about coming here to share my story for some time. And I guess today is a good day to share. Hoping to shed some hope for long term survival.

When I was 27, my ex husband left me for another woman. Our first child, our IVF baby was 6 months old. He stayed in her life, the whole standard custody thing. I will never ever forget the pain and anger and thinking I don’t want to live but I don’t want to die. I had no help with my daughter , I was a night shift nurse, and he took her on the nights I worked, but I generally learned how to be a new mom on my own and did it all.

He married his affair partner and they are married until this day. Actually, they are on a “family” vacation with my daughter now.

It took me a very long time to meet the mistress ( 3 years) I didn’t struggle so much with my ex leaving me for another woman . He was always a cheater and not good to me at all. I struggled with someone else being in the “mom” role. It tore me up. I was learning how t

So, I am going through a divorce and wanted to connect with someone who has gone through the process especially with kids involved. Anyone, if OK, let me know so that I can DM/connect with.

The last I checked, his posts were all removed?? I was really intrigued by his story, whether it was true or not. I must admit - I did believe his story, as crazy as it sounded. There are some weird things that happen out there that nobody would believe. Does anyone know what was in the car?

So, I decided to take the one he put into his secretary.

So this is my first time posting here, I’m on mobile, formatting sucks, blah blah blah.

So I’ve always had a rocky relationship with my mother, it was at its worst when I was 18 and she kicked me out of the house for having a boyfriend and some other health stuff I was dealing with. Over the years I did my best to forgive her and move on because I wanted to have a relationship with my mom. Once I got pregnant and got married everything seemed to be going well and I thought we had a normal mother-daughter relationship.

Fast forward to today. I’m getting divorced, mainly my fault but that’s a whole other thing, and my mother and father have taken my soon to be ex husbands side in everything. I didn’t know that, and I had been talking to her and she had been FaceTimeing my kids and myself talking to her about my frustrations with my divorce and dealing with my ex and his parents. Turns out, my mother called CPS on me not once, but apparently twice. The first time was in May about when

Her husband kicked her out within the past few days, so she is currently staying with a friend. It seems like they've been headed down this road for a while, but finally the dam broke and they officially split. She asked if she could stay with me until she can find an apartment, which she thinks may take several weeks or longer, and I told her she could not.

The reason I said no is because I recently started dating a new girl, and I'm having some of the best sex of my life. It's definitely the most adventurous, so if my sister and niece moved in it would really kill off a lot of the fun and we'd have to be a lot more restrained.

Our parents live about an hour away, so although it would be a lot more inconvenient since my sister works in our city and would have a long commute, it's not like she's without options. She may also be able to find a friend willing to let her stay with them if she looked, but I concede that it would be the most convenient if she stayed with me.

This may be a silly idea, but there are so many posts on this sub of women who are going through the situation described in the title. I thought it would be cool to have sort of a repository of general knowledge on that situation that we can link to those who come here asking those questions. I hope everyone who's been through this will give their best advice in the comments so that people will have a place to start. My contributions to this post will be US based. Hopefully people in other countries will give input based on how things work where they are.

First, a little background on me. I got married when I was 20, divorced at 31. I'll be 39 this year. I have 3 kids. They were 10, 4, and 2 when I got divorced. Now, onto the important stuff:

"I don't know if this is grounds for divorce."

In engineering, we have this term called "analysis paralysis". What it means is that sometimes people get stuck in an infinite loop of conducting excessive amounts of analysis on a problem,

Long story short, I (33M) was with what I thought was this amazing girl (30F) since 2016. Moved in together 2017 and engaged Feb 2018. We planned for a wedding a couple years from the point, but her mother who is evangelical christian couldn't accept us getting married any later than the same year because her sister who was with a boyfriend of 1 year was "likely" going to get married the following year.

Anyway, rushing past all the red flags... my wife the pwBPD found interest in a male co-worker at work two weeks after our wedding... going on dates with other men I didn't know from work wasn't right in my books.. but for her she thought i was crazy to think she'd cheat on me... but she did. She didn't tell me then, she waited until our honeymoon to tell me this same guy was betting on us getting pregnant accidentally... i wasn't okay with that... and when I pursued these things further it was met with quiet, ignorance and I was gaslit. Two weeks after our honeymoon (1 month in Afric

My husband left 6 months ago after 5 years of marriage, never to be seen or heard from again. My father is so upset with him that he's willing to pay whatever needs to be paid for this marriage to be over. The retainer fees, court costs, filing costs, it's all paid for. It's been a long drawn out case. And I just want it to be over. But I finally see an end. Court shouldn't be too far out now that everything is filed. But my heart is still broken.

They split up bc he became an elder and supposedly he wouldn't be able to spend any time there. He would have to go off and be an elder... He then proceeds to spend ALL of his time around Chris and the sisters. At some point it just seems like... Just don't get divorced. You are here anyway

Married couples that keep an unhealthy or toxic marriage going for the sake of the kids are doing more damage than good. Kids seeing their parents constantly fighting or unhappy is far worse than if they were a part of a broken home.

Its also unfair to themselves, going through the motions and making it work, rather than cutting out something that obviously isnt meant to be and trying to find happiness elsewhere.

I basically left my wife because she was angry, narcissistic, and self-loathing. No matter how hard I tried to make my situation better I knew the only way to be better was to leave.

My stress is down. I'm losing a healthy weight, by eating properly. My house is clean. My dishes are done, I thousands in my spending account for the first time. So happy that I change my life for the better. My son is beginning to question living with me, as she is an angry person, hostile to any inconvenience. I'm about to buy a house, something I've wanted for years. All this was a painful awaking, but a well-learned lesson.

I will build my life again, find a true love that will live for me and I for him/her. I hope the best for my ex, but it's all her fault and she will only suffer until she realizes that.

After my 1 exh and I divorced, well meaning people would say " I'm sorry".

My reply: "don't be, im Not! My life and my kids lives are more peaceful and productive now that he is out. Oh, and the house stays clean and the grocery bill went down"

Being s single parent was infinitely easier than being married to that ex lvm.

No more divorce shaming. No more pretending being married to an LVM is better than being a single parent. No more women's dignity and well being sacrificed on the altar of marriage.

No more. Speak your truth.

Sorry, just so fucking heartbroken and being drunk probably isnt helping. But oh well. If anyone wants to talk then I'm 100% down to listen to you go off about your problems or whatever you might wanna talk about, I'll try my best to help.

I hope you're all well, I'm sorry for venting here. Just needed a release.

For people who are divorced: at what point do you divulge?

For people who have yet to experience this delight (I kid, I kid): When would you like to know?

I struggle with knowing when this is appropriate and how to reveal. For some context (without too much detail): My marriage was very short and my divorce was absolutely the right thing, due to me finding out about some severe dishonesty pretty early on in the marriage. I have no sad/negative/bitter feelings about it at this point: divorce process itself was pretty cut and dry, no shared property/kids, and ex understood that he messed up and marriage was over so we ended things on cordial terms.

In other words- there is no baggage that comes along with it. However, I am 31, which is not quite the age where it's fairly common for people to have a marriage/divorce under their belt (at least not in my area) and I have dated guys who seemed like they really didn't care at all and guys who could NOT get over the fact that I was married

I’m fucking furious, after 20 years you’d think you know someone right?

Today I asked her “hey I’m in the mood to watch some Star Wars, wanna join me?” To where she replied “sure.” I told her we can just skip all of the bad movies that the alt right has an obsession with (the prequels) and go straight to watching the objective masterpieces known as the ST. My wife LAUGHED (yes directly at me, no fucking respect from this woman) replying she didn’t really like them and found them boring. I looked at her straight in the eye, it all became clear to me, my wife is a misogynist, she just hates women, she doesn’t respect women whatsoever.

So I slapped that dumb bitch in the face and screamed “I WILL NOT TOLERATE MISOGYNY IN THIS HOUSEHOLD, YOU JUST HATE IT BECAUSE IT HAS A FEMALE LEAD” she (thankfully) started to cry with a confused look on her face and asked what came over me and why would I do that. I looked at her directly in the eyes again furiously, and asked her “what did you say