I have been dating a wonderful woman (31F) who has been a great match for me overall. We started dating in August of 2020. I got divorced in January of 2018 and took a couple years off dating, did a year therapy, traveled until COVID hit, and tried to improve myself before getting into another relationship.
Full disclosure is I cheated on my ex-wife after 5 years of marriage due to the fact that we never had sex. I got involved in a church around age 24, met my ex-wife. We married within a year. She wanted to "save herself" for marriage. We did that, but once we got married she was still never willing to have sex with me. I was a horrible communicator and instead of ending things I was miserable for 5 years then cheated on her. She told everyone in the family, and every mutual friend we had, etc, then I had to tell them the full situation and be embarrassed / have my personal info out there. But yeah, basically I still to this day have never had sex with my ex wife, once, period.
She remarried the same year we got divorced and I've not tried to contact her or anything since. I thought we were done. We're not FB friends or anything anymore. Onto the issue.
I DID tell my current partner about my past infidelity in its entirety and she was understanding / empathetic and appreciative of my honesty. However, my ex messaged my GF on FB (not sure how she found her), and told her to "watch our for my web of lies" and she gave a very fictional story of what happened. She basically is saying I denied her sex for years, and that she begged me for it weekly and I denied her (it was actually the opposite). She said after 5 years of denying her, I cheated. I own up to my mistakes but she is peddling a fiction that only shines her in a positive light and me in a negative light.
How do I handle my ex in this situation? I have her blocked on everything I know of and I can't think of how she even got my GF's info. We aren't even shown as in a relationship on FB or anything like that. We have some pictures together, but our accounts are both very private. My GF has my back and believes me, due to the fact that I'm not showing signs of 0 sex drive and just the fact that I was honest initially. I am just wondering how people have dealt with prying ex's trying to ruin their lives in the age of computing where it seems anyone can figure out anything about anyone if they try hard enough?
But Bill kept the Windows
UPDATE: I just alerted the FBI on my dad. I hate this so much. Fuck.
So my parents, who have been married 52 years, just split this week. My dad (74) screamed at my mom (72) for no reason and just left. They've been playing the divorce card since I was 8 (I'm 36 now). Like they'd have a fight, Dad would threaten to leave, Mom would beg him to stay, and in the end, they'd stay together but nothing would really change, like they wouldn't get help and fix their shit, they'd just continue in a toxic holding pattern. I thought things were getting better for the last 5-10 years but I guess not. There's no physical abuse, but definitely emotional/ verbal.
My dad's been a Qanon "believer" for 20+ years, since before it was officially Qanon (I know Qanon itself hasn't been around that long, but idk what else to call it). I could go into all the crazy, but it would take forever. Suffice to say, he lives in a completely different reality, and is addicted to his phone. He and his buddies will spend all day reading shit, then calling each other and discussing it. My mom thinks it's all horseshit, and she'll ask him questions to try and challenge him. I guess she found out one of his buddies that he trusts so much got arrested a few years back for running a ponzi scheme. I just pray he hasn't squandered their retirement in this shit. He's bankrupted us before, and he doesn't believe he should have to tell her what he does with "his" money.
Here's where it gets weird, and Idk how worried I need to be. He's been arming himself, and when he left (Tuesday after memorial day), he took the guns, but not a change of clothes. He came back yesterday (Saturday), without telling my mom or being invited, and just started doing random house projects he'd been working on like nothing had happened. He accuses her of controlling him when they fight, but then yesterday he asks for her opinion while doing work on the house when they're supposed to be separated. My mom didn't know what to make of it, and she thinks it means either he's lost his grasp on reality, he wants to reconcile, or he wants the house. I told her she needs to start setting boundaries. She has a lawyer and she's contacted therapists, so at least there's that.
I've talked to my dad, and he seems upbeat, relieved, positive and ready to get on with his life. Then he'll text me negative things about my mom and that I'll probably disown both of them when it's all done. I'm trying to keep him talking just so I can kn... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hello again everyone, it's about 6 months from my first post on here. If anyone's interested in reading stupidity and naivety, here is my original post. https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/kdzp1w/my44m_wife41f_was_recently_contacted_by_her/
TLDR- Still seeing my stepdaughter, Son is in therapy/counciling, enjoy a shadow of an old family life.
In short out of the blue one day my wife of 5 years claimed an ex-boyfriend she used to write with suddenly appeared again wanting to know if she could work on an old mutual project together. Well as you might have guessed she was having an affair that went back for quite a long time. Their dirty emails to each other disgusted me as they were extremely almost intentionally hurtful. It wasn't bad enough for her to cheat on me, but he said he wanted her to go home and greet me filled with him so to speak. I held my shit together for the kids for Christmas. She has a daughter and I have a son.
I confronted her threw her out and went as no contact as I possibly could. Her AP (Chris) sent me a few messages after the fact claiming that I have no reason to be upset because in his eyes I stole her from him, and he'd been holding this one-sided grudge for the last five years and talked as if we had been enemies for quite some time. In short my stbx's family never approved of him so she dumped him. She went on to claim they were "Soulmates" and that's why she couldn't turn him away.
Well I've been keeping my health, working out, continuing to work from home, but that'll be over soon. I've kept contact with my stepdaughter through her grandparents and her biological father, whom she also cheated on with this man, (Though he's cheated on my stbx multiple times.) He's an alright guy to have a beer with and for all his faults he seems like a good dad. I see her twice a week now, never overnight, and even still I've kept her former room empty because it's too depressing to me to consider doing anything else with it. She's been my princess, and she's always excited when she comes to visit or I show up to take her to dinner or for bike rides.
After a bit my son has decided that he thinks he could benefit from therapy and has been seeing a doctor. His mother (My first wife.) and I have been keeping a close eye on him as he was pretty close to his stepmother. She's tried to contact him and apologize... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m going to buy new bedding. My stbx INSISTS on sleeping on ugly red flannel sheets, even when it’s 95° outside (we don’t have central air). I hate red and I hate flannel and if I change the sheets he deliberately kicks me and tosses and huffs all night to make a point that he’s uncomfortable, so I’m buying expensive neutral cotton bedding as soon as I’m out and I can’t wait.
I'd like to start with if mods don't think this is related enough to GME or too much of a stretch feel free to remove it but I think it has everything to do with it*. Also I am not a financial advisor, there is no advice here anyways but I'd like some smarter maybe divorce lawyer apes in here to chime in.*
So first I'd like to say, I believe wholeheartedly GME is going to FUCKING ANDROMEDA. That's my personal opinion.
Now, I've been monitoring a lot of sources, always back tracking comparing to what is written here, what the other side is saying and one thing that was REALLY bothering me is seeing all high profile very rich figures suddenly getting a divorces suddenly, "they can't grow together anymore", that has been my favorite one as of today.
Since I am from the school of thought that the market bubble is about to pop, and whether GME is the rocket that breaks the bubble (which I think it is) is up for debate, one thing is for certain. A divorce is one of the few times a person can pull money out of a retirement account early and not pay an early withdrawal penalty. When an agreement known as a qualified domestic relations order is reached as part of a divorce, it allows for an early withdrawal from the account.
It bothered me since Plotkin as I started to look into it, January 31st right after the first-try at take-off, imagine not even a week later filing. My little stupid brain at the time thought "oh split half protect your assets as you go bankrupt hehhehehe". Then we'd all be in here joking how GME was going to sink pensions and retirements aiming for measly little 10k-50k, omg 100k! Ya, no scrap that for me. This in my opinion really is the infini-squeeze and Melvin the culprit in question who brought this to the world and was the most knowledgeable of what is about to happen. And so they got to work early.
Then my next train of thought was Michael Burry, why did he have those books with Buffet? Why is Buffet and Munger crying about their little Berkshire Hathaway (which I think is going to look like a little puny ant in comparison to MOASS)? So I looked into Berkshire Hathaway. Basically it produces a majority of it's revenue from insurance and most of it comes from everyday items for the masses before taxes. Think ex: Coca-co... keep reading on reddit ➡
Title unfortunately describes these past couple of weeks of me losing just about everything and now this crypto crash is happening but life is still good because I have my dogs, my immediate family and good friends. For all those wondering why this crash is happening, I believe it is a myriad of economic changes currently taking place and there is definitely a bright spot on the other side of this.
With a little luck, the “little people”, like myself may be able to change their lives for the better in a short period of time.
When life is harsh, especially if fucking crashes like these happen as often as they do lately in addition to all the other ancillary bull shut that takes place randomly, remember to consider the good things in life first before dwelling on depressing news and events.
Excited for crypto to change the world for the better, just going to take a little bit longer than we want but the good things always take patience and especially this year, I am trying to be as patient as any sane person in these tumultuous times.
Cheers to all in their endeavors and remember to smoke a bowl, grab some goodies and get lost in movies and the outdoors right now because I know I need to.
She who shall not be named somehow got the documents (look on her instagram) and damn...
I hope the reason wasn't anything too awful and her family is supportive of her through this. Wonder how Jessa and Ben feel....
Adam opened ACS for Fri May 7th with the announcement that he and Lynette are getting divorced.
Freddie is honestly one of the most pathetic characters ever. This all happens before he even turns thirty, mind you. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if the new iCarly involved Carly starting an OnlyFans with her boyfriend and Freddie still did the videography for free just to be "supportive" and "sex-positive".
It's kind of crazy how many shows have main characters that are pathetic simps for women that have zero interest in them until maybe the series finale. Freddie, Gordo in Lizzie McGuire, that kid whose name I can't even remember in Zoey 101, Ross from Friends, Ted on How I Met Your Mother, Leonard from The Big Bang Theory, the list goes on. It's only funny and cute when the character is a teenager cause you assume they'll eventually grow out of it. When it carries into adulthood, it just becomes sad.
Side note, but that kid Nevel Papperman is going to be in the reboot. I really hope they make him a total Chad, like he grew up to be an out-and-proud queen with a hunk boyfriend.
Edit: to the ladies, thank you for your encouragement and beautiful sentiments! So many already I wish I could reply to each one 💜
so, there's this beautiful woman who's a couple years younger than me that I see around the church I go to. I'm very attracted to her but I'm pretty shy because I was abused as a kid and have some weird attachment/panic issues when talking to women.
this morning I woke up and got ready. I knew she would be there today. I told myself "you're gonna do this! you're gonna ask her out today and you're not gonna puss out!" I show up kinda late because she usually does. but when she gets there, she's not alone. her sister and her sisters boyfriend came with her. I got a little freaked out by that because it was that moment that I realized her sister is someone I've known for years and was my dream girl when we were teenagers. so I walked in behind them. I don't stop her.
her sister saw me and gave me a hug, introduced me to her and we went inside. I sat down behind them and on the other side of the room from them for an hour wondering if I'm going to have the balls to talk to her after all. towards the end of the service, she turned to look at me, and we stare at each other for a few seconds. I smiled, she looked down. she's a total stunner and I get anxiety just looking at her. the service ended, I had no-one to mill around and talk to so I walked out and hung around to find someone to chat it up with to hopefully time walking out to my truck at the same time they go to theirs.
they arrive at their vehicles at the same time I do. but then they hang around and talk and I feel really awkward asking her out in front of her sister. so I just wait, I was not going to go home without saying something. after a minute, they break it off and she gets into her car, as she's about to leave, she turns and looks at me again. I smile and she just stares.
she turned back to put it into drive and I walk straight to her window. she turns and is surprised. huge smile, super sweet. I say that I didn't want to keep her too long and that I didn't want to bug her when she talked to her sister. then I popped the question...
we're going out tonight. 😁
I (F52) just started dating a sweet guy (50) after meeting at the dog park and chatting a few months. I’m just warily entering the dating pool after 3.5 relationship ending in heartbreak. Dog Park guy lives separately from his wife and near the end of his divorce. 2 young boys (8 and 10) and I don’t have kids. I told him I want to take it very slowly until divorce is final. We haven’t even made out though the attraction and compatibility are there. About 6 dates/1 month in. Am I being too cautious? Any advice?
I read somewhere that the second generation tends to be more lenient in its beliefs so I wonder if any of the married adults would ever separate or get divorced. If so who would it be cause my moneys on JinJer.
Ok, Queens, let me give you the rundown on the situation. Like any bidaily afternoon, my former husband presents me my allowance of $1500. To preface my, former husband, for lack of a better word, is sub-par successful in a business firm relating to bio botanical research; therefore, he earns a tad bit of money annually (532k yearly for being the CEO). But as well, his sub-par annual earnings don't suffice to be an HVM-- it's only a step to becoming one.
Now that some background is here, my former husband doesn't give me my allowance that afternoon. My former husband came in crying to me that afternoon. Men do not grieve; if a "man" sorrows, he's a boy; boys cry. He was crying because his dad, mom, sister, and brother died in a horrific car crash hours ago.
And honestly, why should I care? I'm myself, and yes, they were my former father-in-law, but that doesn't matter? He should know this for being a part of a "bio" firm that biologically (I never took biology in high school, nor did I go to college in general) does stuff to robots called "Botanics" and that I'm not biologically connected to his family.
So anyway, after that, I told him that the women in his life matter more than anyone else-- you should always put your wife first. And to my shock, he continues crying, claiming "trauma" and "pain."
Bitch please, the only person experiencing trauma is me, for being deprived of spending power and pain in consequence of trauma. To say he was a subhuman in response to my rebuttal is an understatement. He downright became a vicious dog spouting that I have no empathy in his situation.
To conclude, I'm in a relationship to be loved. I'm not in a relationship to fix my former husband in his grief. I'm not a caretaker for him. I dumped him after taking what was mine (emergency cash stash, luxury goods bought by my former husband, and a dog he grew up with).