I am stuck in a different state than my family and friends right now due to the virus so on my birthday my boyfriend and parents were going to throw me small party. Just me, my boyfriend and his little siblings, and his parents. A super low-key dinner.
I'm vegetarian, I have been for 13 years, it's not anything new or anything that people don't know.
So when I went to their house and saw them cooking pasta with bacon piece's, and cooking up veggies in the bacon grease pan, I realized there was nothing I could have except beer and I was hungry. I reminded them I don't eat meat, and they were like "you can pick the bacon bits out, there just sprinkled on top, and give them to ( boyfriend) he'll eat anything. And we made vegetables that you can eat too."
I didn't want to pick meat out of the pasta or eat vegetables that were cooked in bacon fat so I said I wasn't sure, I didn't like meat flavor at all. I might have something else.
They said there was hardly any bacon grease in the pan, while they'd used it for bacon they just didn't wash in between but I wouldn't even taste it
Then I ordered a pizza to their house and when it arrived his parents were mad and upset that I had. I said that I mentioned that I wasn't into eating meat so I might get my own food.
My boyfriend and I left early and went out ice skating so the day turned out fine lol
AITA for ordering pizza?
I F32 lost my son to SID at the end of November. He was only 5 months old It was unexpected he was our first after awaiting for 4 years. This was so devastating. My heart feels heavy I can no longer hear him laugh/cry/watch his dad play with him. The house is empty and I barely find the energy to get out of bed because my family needs me.
I spent Christmas with my in-laws. My family weren't happy they insisted that I come to celebrate New year's eve and eat dinner with them. I found my aunts who have been very supportive and we talked. My husband apologized for not attending. My brother went on about how disrespectful my husband was for not coming and how he was treating my family like they were less than but that's not true.
Before dinner was ready my aunt talked about my son and wanted everybody to take 3 minutes of silence to honor him. In exactly 15 seconds my sister in law got up and said she wanted to tell the family something. everyone was looking at her. And she announced that she and my btother were expecting. My aunt and I were stunned while everybody else got up and congratulated her. It was very disrespectful to do that. I didn't move from my seat. She kept staring at me until my mom told me to go hug her and congratulate her and my brother.
Then my sister in law smiled at me and said She wanted me to answer "some questions" about my son's death after dinner to know "what went wrong" and prevent it in the future. I lashed out at her and told her she was disrespecting me and my son by talking like that. She felt defended and kept asking why I was talking to her like that. My mom told me to knock it off. My brother said nothing he just looked upset. I got into an argument with my mom and sister in law. she told me to not treat your sister like that and ruin the night for the family. . I left before dinner.
My mom called my husband and told him that I ruined the night with how I reacted to the news and that everyone lost their appetite because of unnecessary stress caused by me. She sent me a text saying that my sister in law found New year's eve as the perfect opportunity for the announcement but I was sad and petty and ruined their night and needed to apologize to my brother and his wife because they were incredibly upset for ruining their year and their joy.
I just want to mention that my husband was so mad and said that he would've put everyone in their place if he was there when they berated me and hurt me like that. I don't know what m... keep reading on reddit ➡
So i (F21) was having dinner with my family. My sister(31) and her fiancé, my 2 brothers (28, 23) and my parents.
Let me give a small back story before i continue. My sister has hated me all my life. I don’t know why but she does. I tried my hardest to have a relationship with her but she never cared for it.
You’d think after we’ve all matured, she’d quit whatever it is she’s on but she’s still the same as she was when we were children. My parents never called her out on how she treated me so she just continued it.
One of her favorite things to do is compare me at a certain age to her when she was that age. For example, “I was smarter at 14 than OP was, i even got better grades”. And that brings me to today. My sister was on her shit again and comparing me and the college courses i’m currently taking vs the ones she took.
She took it to another level and said i wasn’t smart and she could prove i cheated 12 years through school and 2 years in college (???). She asks (this is her exact question) “if you’re so smart what is the noun of a pronoun with an adverb”. Everyone around the table kinda just stares like what? She asks again. I tell her there’s no answer to that as it didn’t make any sense. Her conclusion, i’m an idiot.
So, i decided to ask her a question. I asked her to tell me how does precipitation work in the water cycle. A simple question to me. No answer. She gets red and says i purposely used a “big word” to confuse her and i wasn’t being fair. Here’s where i could be the ass. I mocked what she said “But i thought you were smarter than me”. My brother chimed in and said it was a fair question and she got embarrassed and walked out.
My dad says i owe her an apology and said i should’ve been the “bigger person” as i’ve always been. I told him i’m not going to apologize and she can cry about it Aita?
I F33 am a nurse and I been crazy busy lately. So busy that I'd spend two consecutive days at the hospital. I covered shifts during weekends/holidays for this year. We're not doing well financially and I've only been working for a few months and we have debts to pay for on time.
I'm exhausted all the time. I don't get to sleep much. My husband's parents are a.w.a.r.e of my work nature but still acted upset I didn't go shop for their gifts earlier. They did receive gifts from me and I made sure everyone was happy. My husband told me his mom wanted to bring the family and celebrate Christmas at our house. I politely declined and explained that I can't be serving 10+ people when I'm committed to a very demanding. Very strict schedule. My mother in law still pissed at me for this and told the family that I was using my job as an excuse since "I obviously can't even cook a decent meal let alone host a celebration". I really thought that they let another family member host Christmas dinner.
Christmas day at 2pm I got off work and went home feeling exhausted and could barely take a shower. My husband didn't leave the house and when I asked him about wether his family invited him for dinner he said no because "I ruined it" when I refused to let them come. I knew he was starting an argument I just left it at that. At 6pm the door rang and I saw his mom and dad walking in. I greeted them and brought them coffee and biscuits. They said they came to give us our gifts on behalf of the family and they stayed for over two hours. His mom started giving me looks and asking when she and her husband were going to eat dinner. I got up and decided to reheat the pizza we had from the night before and when his mom saw it she stared at me and asked if I was serious, she asked me where is Christmas dinner and was stunned that I didn't cook for the occasion. I told her I didn't cook because I wasn't expecting anyone to be invited to the house. She got upset and said that I should've cooked for the occasion REGARDLESS of wether we had guests or not because she said it's part of the "celebration" and talked about how every home had a Christmas feast. She said I had no ettiquete and that I was clearly Starving her son by not cooking even on holidays.
I got into an argument with her while my husband and his dad sat there watching. She called me disrespectful and to stop using my job as an excuse for my lack of function as a wife. Then they left. My husband said I should've taken a... keep reading on reddit ➡
I 23F have always been civil with my 19M half brother. We were close as kids but he started to have an attitude at 13 and pretty much stopped being nice and started messing with my things/making fun of me and doing pranks to annoy me/privacy was gone with him coming into my room and taking my things. Whenever I complained my stepmom would normalize his behavior and make excuses. My dad never really grounded him and thought that talking to him will get him to behave better. I'm currently in college I live in a rented apartment and have car to help me get to the university or other places. The car isn't expensive or fancy at all I saved up for it 2 years ago.
I decided to have Christmas dinner with my family- It's the perfect opportunity to be with family since I haven't seen my dad in a while. I arrived at my dad's house. And left my purse and my keys on the kitchen island after my stepmom told me to help with dinner.
My half-brother started talking about my car in the kitchen while my stepmom was listening and asked if he could take it for a couple of hours to hang out with friends. I politely told him no. He threw a fit and brought up how I needed to relax and not worry but my answer was still the same.
While we were sitting at the dinner table. My half-brother got up,washed his hands and I thought he went outside. I got busy talking to my dad and after I got up to wash my hands I noticed my car keys weren't there. I went outside to ask him and neither he nor my car were there I lost it I started calling his phone but he hung up on me several times. I was furious I told my dad I'd call the police if he didn't come back with the car.my stepmom jumped to defend him and said I was being unreasonable to call the police. I called him one last time then I called the police. My stepmom freaked out when my halfbrother got picked up by the police. She told me to go explain the situation to the authorities otherwise he'd spend the night in jail. But I refused especially since I still hadn't got my car back.
Stepmom yelled that I ruined dinner and that it was no big deal he was going to return it after "borrowing" it from me but he didn't really borrow it and she heard me say no. I don't know what she told the police. But I didn't give permission to use the car. My stepmom's side of family are mad at me for doing this to my brother and hinted that I don't consider him family. My dad's side of family sided with me saying he deserved it. My dad said I overreacted... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (42M) was hoping this issue would blow over, but my kids (15F and 12M) are still refusing to speak to me, and my daughter suggested I post about it here.
My wife (41F) comes from a lot of money, and her family really hates me because I’m not rich like them, but my wife doesn’t care and loves me anyway. Every Christmas they’ll send her and my kids extravagant gifts, while I get a pair of socks from Wal-Mart, but its whatever.
I lost my job due to the pandemic (my wife is a SAHM) and was really worried we wouldn’t be able to have Christmas this year. Next thing I know, my kids are sent Christmas cards with $250 cash in each. This is way more money than either of them needs, so I took $100 from each of them and used it to buy a nice Christmas dinner.
My kids tutted and complained the whole meal, and they didn’t even seem interested in opening the gifts my wife and I got for them. We told them to stop being ungrateful, and my daughter jumped up and yelled that she didn’t want to eat dinner with us, and my son followed her upstairs.
My wife and I believe what we did was justified, but because my daughter suggested I post it here, I thought why not. Do you guys think I was an asshole in this situation? For further clarity, I have never done anything like this, and definitely would not have done if I had a job. AITA?
I proposed to my fiance last week. Her and my sister have always gotten along really well. Last night, my fiancee began getting screenshots from random people of a post my sister had made in this group of over 110,000 people bashing my fiancees ring. We didnt even know these types of groups existed. My fiancee is incredibly upset. I called my sister and told her to take it down. She apologized, but said it was 'too late to take it down' and 'it was all in good fun'. She said the people in these groups just 'do it for laughs' and dont mean any harm by it.
Regardless of the intent, harm was done and now my fiancee (and I) dont want my sister to come to our home for christmas dinner (we live in an area with no COVID cases and lifted restrictions, even so its a small dinner, only 10-now 9-people coming).
My mother is incredibly upset that I uninvited my sister. Even though she thinks what my sister did was wrong, she thinks since my sister apologized, and since 'shes always had a dark sense of humor', we should accept her apology and not 'upset my grandparents' by not having all of their grandchildren there. I think once I explain to them why having my sister there will upset my fiancee, they will understand.
Since everyone is so curious, it’s a 3.5 round solitaire with a pave band. My sister insulted the band, said it looked gaudy, said “no one will ever believe it’s a real diamond”, though she knows it’s a real diamond from our great grandmothers engagement ring-and said my fiancée only likes it because “she has disgusting taste”.
She saw the ring before I proposed and said she loved it.
My wife and I regularly have my mother over for dinner, and my wife is a much better cook than I am (I also hate cooking and am horrible at it, she does 99% of the cooking) so she was preparing dinner last night when the knife slipped and she cut a few of her fingers quite badly. I helped her get bandaged up but the sight of the blood and mess made me feel sick so I went to lie down after helping her get cleaned up. My mom finished chopping the onion, and then came to join me to finish our movie. Once my wife was feeling better (she almost threw up and passed out from the cuts) she finished cooking dinner.
My friends are now saying that I was TA for not stepping in and finishing dinner or taking her to urgent care because one of the cuts may have needed stitches. But she never said that she needed help, and I wasn’t feeling well because I didn’t sleep well the night before and was having a really bad reaction to seeing the blood. I feel like she should have asked for help if she needed it, or we could have ordered dinner if she felt like she didn’t want to finish cooking, but she said she was fine and that the cuts weren’t a big deal.
So – AITA?
Ok. We should have ordered in. Fine. I get it.
But also, a few things:
I AM A WOMAN TOO. I get that my wife wasn’t “born with cooking skills” cause I sure as hell wasn’t born with them either!
I ABHOR cooking and suck at it. Like I don’t just hate it, I cannot stand cooking. So she does the cooking in our household and I sometimes help but feel mostly useless. We have an understanding that she cooks and I do other things.
I do things around the house that she doesn’t like to do. I think that’s pretty equal.
I don’t sleep well cause of my PTSD and that plus blood was a bad combo.
My mom had no obligation to help with dinner. She is family yes but a guest in our home.
I’m repeatedly having to say this: MY WOFE SAID SHE WAS FINE. It was her fingers for crying out loud, not like she cut her hand off.
Edit 2: ok. I get it. I’m the asshole as everyone has pointed out. I need to apologize to my wife, and pick up a cookbook.
Share your Christmas dinner, wherever in the world you may be, for /r/soccer to rate or trash.
Cheese boards are also accepted.
I hope you've all got enough gravy for Big Sam, and your mum best not have burnt those roast potatoes - because /r/soccer's harshest critics will no doubt be out in full force to judge every sprout, carrot and Yorkshire pud.
I know shitty title but I’m in a rush to get to work so excuse my grammar
Also I want to point out me and my brother have two different fathers
I (19f) lost my father last year to cancer he left me 90% of his stuff including his family home that was left to him by his dad it’s been in their family for over a hundred years. My brother (34) and my dad didn’t have a relationship but he did leave him 10k, my mom was pissed at the will reading but since she got 10k she couldn’t do anything about it
For the past year me and her live ok together. she went on acting like it was her house like before which I had no problem with till in may my brother and his girlfriend (30) moved in (without even asking me)
They’re messy entitled and rude I told them in July I want them out by September because they don’t pay for anything nor wash a dish In August they announced they were pregnant and my sil smugly said “guess we won’t be moving out now” It didnt go down well but when I told them I wanted them out my mom and brother basically laughed in my face
Well the past few months have been hell they’ve become worse than before and my mom enables it than demands me to treat my sil like a princess because she’s pregnant I once had to wait outside McDonald’s till they opened to get her a McMuffin
Well here were I maybe the asshole Because my sil is pregnant she eats everything she sees like the cupcakes my friend made me for my birthday she ate all six didn’t even get to try them. I can’t even make my lunch the night before because when I go to get it, it will be gone she’ll have a smug look on her face while rubbing her belly than laugh and say “I couldn’t help my self blame the baby” if I put stuff in my room my mom will open the door with the spare key sil can go through my mini fridge
Well a week ago I was running late to collage I didn’t have time for my breakfast or to make lunch and I had to go to work straight after so all I had that day was a bar of chocolate when I got home I was starving I made myself dinner while it was cooling down I went to use the bathroom
I must of been in there 10 minutes at most by the time I came out she had 70% of my dinner ate and I literally lost my shit of course she started crying my mom and brother started screaming at me for making her cry making excuses like how she couldn’t help it and it was my fault for leaving food around her
Well I had enough I told them get out just like before I got mocked but here’s the... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm (35 F) a design consultant, and work for an engineering company in the states. It's necessary for me to have dinner at restaurants with clients who handle tender contracts for engineering designs we need to complete. It's important I make a good impression with regards to explaining my company's conditions for the contract to be completed, why we are the best fit for the contract, how we will go about fulfilling the design conditions etc.
I also have to leave an impression in how I present myself in meetings and dinner events like these. It's a death sentence to be late to anything like this. Especially given the stress the pandemic has had on us recently, a missed contract (which have been really lucrative lately) due to showing up with messy hair or a few minutes late is a death sentence for our company. And hubby and I are in a tight situation financially; our kids are in pre-school and he has been off work during the pandemic. I knew this was crippling to his self-esteem to be a stay at home dad.
So I had a scheduled dinner with some really important clients who required the execution of a particularly important design procedure. The compensation for completion of the design was... high, to say the least.
I must admit that in the morning, hours before the dinner, I had only just informed my husband (35 M) that I would be needing him to attend with me as part of the requirement to bring along my partner. He agreed and said he would be ready to go whenever by the evening. True to his word, he was ready a couple hours before the scheduled dinner, and I finished up an hour before the dinner was due to start.
We take off looking dolled up. The restaurant was in a part of the city I (and he it seemed) had never been before. My husband spent upwards of half an hour claiming he knew the address, driving around aimlessly and making me late. I repeatedly told him that I wouldn't think he's less of a man for using the GPS but he refused repeatedly, saying that he knew where to drive to.
He didn't. By the time the scheduled dinner was supposed to start, we were nowhere near the restaurant. At this point, I could sense the contract slipping through my fingers and yelled at my husband to just use the GPS, and he finally did. We arrived 20 minutes late at the restaurant and the clients were pretty pissed off, but I tried my best to smooth things out and apologized for showing up late to the dinner. But it seemed too little too late by the pained expressions... keep reading on reddit ➡
We typically avoid frozen dinners, but she was weirdly excited about the whole thing. I just thought she really wanted pizza.
Cue the utter devastation when she found out it wasn’t in the shape of Disney’s Elsa or Olaf.
Anyway, it had me rolling.