I moved out of my parents' house almost two years ago. We still live very close to my parents and they drop in every other day or so just to say hi or whatever. This doesn't bother me, but what does bother me is them taking things without asking.
They take rolls of TP, dish soap, cat food, cat litter, etc. My brother is even guilty of this with my alcohol. I can't drink a lot because of the amount of medication I take for my mental disorders so whiskey and blue Hawaiiantheir wine is a treat for myself. However, my brother comes over (sometimes while I'm out) and will drink all of it.
I have talked to them about this and have told them how much it bothers me, but thier response is: "Well, I raised you." or "What have I given you over the years?" I get that. My parents worked hard to raise me and give me the things I wanted. I appreciate that more than they know, but this is still my house. I would never go and take things from them without asking, but it's okay if they take my things simply just because I'm their daughter?
My brother says the same things about the alcohol, but is more like: "It's been in there for x amount of time. Figured you wouldn't miss it." Look, if they needed to borrow something or needed some TP or whatever until a certain day and asked, I'd give it to them no questions asked. But them going behind my back and just taking the things that my fiancé works hard for just boils my blood. We buy in bulk and things that should last us three months only lasts for one at the most.
Things came to a head when I caught my dad pouring some of my $20 laundry detergent into a water bottle. I said some things, he said some things, my mom and brother got into it and they left pissed off. Before they left, my mom yelled that I can keep my shit and that they will never "ask" for anything ever again... even though they NEVER asked to begin with.
So, TL;DR: AITA for getting angry at my parents and brother for taking my household essentials and alcohol without my permission? They think that they're entitled to my stuff because I'm their daughter, but I would never do the same to them and it just really gets under my skin when things that's supposed to last us for three months only lasts for one.
Edit 01: Thank you guys so much for all the responses! Changing the locks was something I never considered because my parents guilted me into thinking that they're entitled access to my home. I was raised in an authoritarian Christian home which is... keep reading on reddit ➡
Ok it’s $90 but I just ordered it and I will use it only for me lol - not for kids laundry
I’ve recently discovered laundry detergent can come in sheets. I’m trying a pack of truearth I found at the local grocery store and want to check out earth breeze. I’m trying to find a no waste alternative without spending 5x as much for laundry detergent.
I had no idea that lingerie soap even existed until I happened to see it in the store while I was walking around. Is this one of those things that women are just "supposed to know" but no one actually tells you? Anyway, it was only about 300/400 yen (about 3 or 4 USD) so I decided to try it.
This stuff got out stains I thought would never come out, and my underwear feels cleaner than ever. I'm so happy. The kind I got was foamy and marketed as "women's detergent" for getting out blood and makeup specifically; I just had to hand scrub for a few seconds and wash with all my other clothes in cold water.
Maybe some of y'all needed to know, too. Honestly, I felt silly because I had never thought to look for it before. Awesome stuff, I highly recommend looking for some near you!
EDIT: Someone asked for a picture; here's the link on Amazon jp but it's not available right now:
I was pouring detergent into the washer and while doing so I thought, this looks so thick and syrupy, and absent-mindedly licked off the tip of my index finger that has caught some soap on it.
The worst finger-lickin moment I had in my life. The soapy taste still lingers in my mouth!
Every few days I do laundry, and every few days I cringe. We have different people that need or prefer different detergents. When I measure liquid Tide, I always "over-pour" because the measuring cup has such a wide mouth, it's impossible to get he correct amount. (I'm sure that's no accident. The more product you accidentally use, the more you need to buy.)
Then, there's the good ole Purex. Nice, but hard to see the nearly-invisible measuring marks inside the cap. I've managed to scratch markings inside the cup, which do the job for now.
Then, there's the All Free & Clear. The cup is narrower, which is good, and clear, which is great. But it's always gunked up with a thick layer of detergent goo... because you can never get it ALL out of the cup.
And, on top of it all, each different brand requires a different amount detergent. It just seems like a huge, glaring flaw with the entire detergent measuring system, ultimately designed to get us to use more than we need.
I know I can't be the only one who has noticed this, and was curious as to what solutions other people have come up with.
I've had a lot of interest in understanding how much of Hilaria's work to become a high-level Instagram Influencer was driven by "need for attention" vs. "desire to make money", because that answer can then inform us about: the causes of "The Birth of Hilaria", Alec and Hilaria's feelings about income and wealth, and how her now-month-long absence from her job might be affecting their lives, apart from any of her lies.
Of course both attention and money are factors, but I've leaned toward the $$$ being dominant, given:
And then I saw this Wendy Williams Show cooking segment (cued up to Hilaria's All ad, skip back to the beginning if you feel like watching the whole thing!) Though these shows try to avoid making it obvious, the whole point of the segment (and all such segments) is for Hilaria to make money by selling copies of her book. But then at the end, Wendy (hilariously ungracefully) asks her: "and so you're working with All?" at which point Hilaria goes into what is clearly an additional ad that she is being directly paid for, extolling the virtues of All Sulfate-Free detergent in her messy, busy household.
I'm not the world's most expert-watcher of daytime TV segments, but I've seen more than I should probably admit, and I've never seen an ad this blatant, much less an ad-within-an-ad. Maybe it's become more common recently and I just haven't seen it? Or maybe it's something that the Wendy Williams sh... keep reading on reddit ➡
Super sweaty chick here, hence stinky arm pits in shirts. I have been using Arm & Hammer for quite some time and looking for new suggestions!
What is your favorite laundry detergent?
I always wash likes in cold and air dry. Thank you!
What’s the best detergent to keep your gi fresh? To get the occasional blood stain out?
I (32m) am currently getting the silent treatment for telling my wife (32f)that her system of eco friendly cleaners and essential oils aren’t working and I want to switch back?
We’ve been married for 10 years and have very defined roles and chores in the house. I work longer hours, but her hours for her job leave me as the primary caregiver for our child. I typically do dishes, cook every meal, grocery shop and meal plan, do household repairs, car repairs, take kid to school and pick up, do appointments for him etc.
At home, my wife is responsible for laundry, shops for taxable items like medication and toilet paper, and budgeting and financial planning (I make 3x her salary, but she’s better with money.). I point these things out not because I feel we aren’t being equitable, but because I can see how a post about a man complaining about his laundry not being done might attract claims of sexism.
We both work hard, her job is just odd with hours and days. Over the past two years, my wife has really gotten into essential oils and eco friendly products. It hasn’t really bother me too much, but I’ve noticed that the cleaning products just don’t work very well. I feel like I’m doing twice the work to get the same results. The detergent also does not seem to get all the smells out of my clothes. The essential oils, in my opinion, don’t do anything she has convinced herself they do. In general though, I’ve kept that to myself.
The problem is that these products don’t work well. It’s hard to do the dishes, when the soap doesn’t cut the grease and grime. It’s hard to get laundry done, when I have to rewash stuff because it still smells (I’m a big sweaty guy.). It’s hard to deal with allergies or headaches when she thinks wintergreen is going to “increase my circulation and open my airways” so we don’t need medicine.
I approached her this morning after finding my clean clothes for work were not actually clean. I asked her if we could get some tide to wash my clothes. She got defensive and asked why. When I said that I didn’t feel like the detergent got my clothes smelling fresh, her solution was to put these dryer balls with drops of essential oils on them into the dryer with them.
It annoyed me, and I asked if I could just get some tide. I even offered to do my clothes myself if she was against using that sort of detergent. She got mad at me. I ended up saying that I appreciated her interest in finding environmentally friendly ways to deal with cho... keep reading on reddit ➡
It’s full of waxes which get all over your skin, smells headache-inducingly strong, and most of the time the scents aren’t even good! People should just use unscented and then “scent” themselves with perfume or cologne or body spray if they want to smell good. Wearing a custom scent rather than the one a giant mega corp like tide picked out for you is much more attractive.