My point is, do we overemphasize the ability of individuals to make it to the top if they just try hard enough, within our current system? Is the system rigged, in a sense, so that trying and dedication aren't actually enough?
I’m 19F and my boyfriend is 21M. We have been dating over two years and have lived together over one. We run a small farm together and have two dogs together as well.
To preface this, I believe trade jobs are an amazing factor and I don’t believe everyone needs to go to college if that’s not what they want to do. There is nothing wrong with trade jobs or not wanting to go to college.
However, my parents kind of pushed education when I was younger so I knew I was always going to college. I am almost graduated with my associates degree and starting my bachelors degree this summer and around six months ago landed an amazing job, full time. Due to recent world events, I am working from home until further notice (technology field).
My boyfriend has worked at a local manufacturer doing a trade job for around two years, he actually makes a couple dollars more than me on the hour and that doesn’t bother me at all.
Here’s where the situation gets tricky. I usually work from my bed because I had back surgery a couple months ago and cant sit comfortably at my desk. I have free time during the day working from home to do chores, activities here and there, etc. I usually watch Netflix or listen to music while working too. I work from 8-5 and get an hour for lunch. My work is mostly on the computer so more mental than physical.
My boyfriends job is pretty physically demanding. He works from 5:30am-3:00pm with only a 30 min lunch and 15 min break.
He is constantly making remarks about how my job is so much easier than his and we make almost the same money. Just remarks about how I don’t work as hard as him. I usually just laugh it off but the other day he just kept on and on and I finally lost it and told him if he “wanted an ‘easy’ job like mine then he needed to get a degree to get that job or work towards finding one, otherwise he needed to leave me alone about my job”
He got super angry at me and claimed I didn’t believe in trade jobs and their value. That’s not the case, I am just tired of him talking down on my work because it isn’t physical labor.
Edit to add: I have been informed SEVERAL (seriously, please stop commenting that) times there was a post made from a boyfriends perspective on a similar matter recently on this sub. My boyfriend does not have Reddit, and now that I have read that post, the boyfriend in that thread says his girlfriend makes more than him. I do NOT make more than my boyfriend. My boyfriend also doesn’t even know... keep reading on reddit ➡
Obviously there are limitations to this, but dropping out with only a few accredited hours remaining could be more financially burdening than just finishing given the potential loss of future revenue. I know for a fact my company weighs in this criteria when creating an offer for positions that dont require a college education.
Back in 2011 I went to university, and for some reason made the decision to study Environmental Science. I still have no idea why I picked this, other than the fact I had decent grades in maths and geography, so it felt like a mix between my two best subjects.
Looking back, I didn’t really consider the job market, or what types of jobs it leads to, whatsoever. I didn’t even consider what exactly the modules of the course even involved, so it was always a case of making it up as I went along when choosing the structure and modules.
It was a fun degree, I made some good friends, and I got a good grade, but so far it has only really lead to getting some fairly low-skill, generic office jobs that any new graduate could realistically do. For example now I am working for a local council in a kind of admin/data role.
There were so many other choices that would’ve been better with my A levels. Pharmacy, civil engineering, computer science, for example (in that order of preference).
Just wondering if anyone else has had similar thoughts?
I've had plenty of programming subjects during the 3.5 years (which was actually way longer for me for reasons), but that was basically just building some "foundation knowledge", and I can program some stuff, but I don't think that's enough for finding work. I guess most workplaces know that fresh graduates are still mostly clueless and I'll learn way more in my first working year than I did in university, but I still want to prepare and learn as much as I can even before finding my first real programming job.
I learned Java, database management (mainly MySQL and JDBC, Hibernate) mainly, but not in a professional level.
What should I learn now, and from where? Sure I know some Java, but building a modern program/app requires a bigger knowledge, but I guess I should also learn some frameworks like Spring or something like that.
Could you give me some advice what to do now? As a fresh graduate I prefer free sources, but if it's not that expensive (<20 EUR) I'm willing to pay for it if it's actually better than free alternatives.
TL;DR graduated about a week ago but I'm still dumb as f**k, I know the basics but I want to be an actually good programmer, where to start now preferably for free, or for a low price (<20 EUR). I prefer getting better at Java, but I'm willing to learn anything.