It's not a tragic romance about true love- it's a warning not to let yourself be ruled by your emotions alone.
The parents are ruled by a grudge preventing the happiness of their children and causing violence and death in the town they live in because neither wants to forgive the other. Like, their unnamed grudge causes fights to break out in the streets, causes deaths of people who have nothing to do with their grudge. You could make the argument that the fact that no one can name what caused this animosity, that it must not have even been so terrible, and they are holding onto it all out of pride.
Romeo is introduced to us by saying how he wants to kill himself because his romance with Rosaline ended, then immediately falls in love with the first cute chick he sees that same night, implying that he falls in love easily- that he is more in love with being in love than anything else. This is further exemplified by the fact that, unlike with many of Shakespeare's couples in other plays, we really don't get a chance to see either Romeo and Juliet as individuals with their own personalities other than "in love". Romeo, what about Juliet do you love so much other than her appearance? Anything? Wit? Kindness? Determination? What, other than appearance, makes her worthy of your obsession? He never takes the time to praise anything other than her surface qualities.
Romeo allows his obsession to shut down any thought of the potential consequences in eloping with Juliet. This is seen by how cluelessly he responds to Tybalt on encountering him, post marriage. He doesn't even behave rationally, just thinking: Well, I love Juliet and she loves you, therefore we're buds now.
As for Tybalt, his failure is giving in to blind rage, provoking a fight between himself and Romeo, which results in Tybalt's death.
Mercutio is pissed cuz he knew all of this needless fighting and death was based on these two families being made up of absolute drama queens all worked up over some straight-up bullshit and that none of this had to be this way, but because Romeo is his himbo friend he goes ahead and gets murked trying to keep his buddy from killing himself. This is why he dies like: "For the record, you guys' families are toxic af. Bleeehhhhh..."
Finally, if Romeo had given a moment to think about anything at all in the crypt (self-reflection, analyzing the damage this family grudge has done to everyone, commentary on the crypt's interior decor) rather than *immediately... keep reading on reddit ➡
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Credit to u/steadydietofoats for the banner: So, I drew all of the Ivies/UCs
> Long ago, there existed 8 Ivy League institutions. Harvard. Yale. Princeton. UPenn. Columbia. Cornell. Dartmouth. Brown. Each institution was reigned upon by the Ivy League, a set of eight godly entities of the most powerful degree, devoted to keeping the League alive. Without these eight, there may as well be no school system at all.
> Every Ivy Day, there are global celebrations to lift up these collegiate heroes, and the contributions they've made to humanity–gods of a modern time.
> The... keep reading on reddit ➡
Me (29M) and my partner (28F) met 8 years ago just before I graduated and we clicked almost immediately. A few months after I graduated, she and her 3 year old son moved in with me. Right after graduating, I started making low 6 figures working for a large bank and then went on to do my own thing having a very lucrative career. My income was more than enough to support the 3 of us so I was comfortable letting her stay home, work on her hobbies and volunteering.
I thought our relationship was going well, she's been pressing me to get married for the last 4 years but the time never seemed right because I wanted to get my own business off of the ground first and she seemed comfortable with that. Last week, she asked me what I thought about open relationships and whether we could open ours. I know why she asked, I spend a lot of time travelling for work and she probably wants some action on the side while I'm away working, hell she might already have something on the side. I knew right then we were done but I needed to find out how screwed I was before pulling the trigger.
I set up a meet with a lawyer my friend knew and I have to admit I was scared, I'd heard stories of how men were raked over the coals in divorces all the time so I walked into the lawyer's office expecting to lose 50% of everything and more. At first things looked bleak but then he asked how long we had been married. When I told him that we weren't married, he called me "The luckiest mf to ever walk into his office". Common law marriage doesn't exist here which means that when we split up, she gets precisely...nothing...zero...zip...nada. I'm trying to figure out the best time to tell her we're done but that's all I have to say. Not getting married was the smartest decision I've ever made.
Happy to be on the rocket with you fine folks. 🚀
For some background I am about to graduate as a dentist and also about to get married to the woman of my dreams. She is an elementary art teacher. Somehow in the last two years of dating we have been able to stash away about 40k from my student loans and her job. Most of my peers have asked me if we are borrowing for our wedding or had family help but the truth is we just have the money and that’s made me give thought to how important she has been in achieving those savings.
On the expense side we split everything 50/50 and are both savers but we never put much thought to the saving part. Both of us grew up very poor and so both of us have this unconscious aversion to spending. The fact that she split everything, even the first date, is a big reason our finances are so manageable. Splitting everything keeps us very cost conscious because we have to talk about every purchase. It also allows us to sometimes afford more than we could individually when we decide to.
Rent utilities and internet combined, we each spend ~450 per month. She saw the promise in our very cheap apartment and pushed me to rent it. I rented it and she moved in after just a month of dating. I owe her for encouraging me to rent a more humble place than I would have on my own. If I had felt I needed to impress her I would have spent a lot more but I didn’t because that wasn’t what she was impressed by.
We both own mid 2000s economy cars out right and each of them get ~30mpg although mine takes premium. In the winter we use her awd car so that’s saved me the expense of winter tires and rims. We fix our cars ourselves and she has learned how to wrench from me so we never pay repair bills. Having two people working on the car makes it so much easier.
During the week we cook for each other and never eat out.
Outside of these big things and just a general attitude of frugality we hardly ever focus on the nitty gritty. We are not FIRE people. We don’t keep a monthly budget. We take wonderful vacations several times a year, either driving or using airline points. When we travel we eat at expensive restaurants and stay in moderately priced AirBNB. I buy her clothes and jewelry at boutiques. When we go out with friends locally a couple times a month we never pay much attention to the checks and buy whatever food and drinks we want.
All this is to say that without her being okay with living more humbly at home, we would miss out on all the amazing experiences and wonderful things we’ve been... keep reading on reddit ➡
EDIT: Thanks for all the comments, I'm trying my best to atleast read them. I'm getting valuable life tips and ideas. I hope that this is useful to others as it is to me.
EDIT2: I might aswell share my best decision yet even if I'm very young. You guys all shared amazing experiences and I want to join the fun. I got into the hardest Engineering College in my country without any basic knowledge. I had to study 'til 3-4 AM to make up for the lack of basic requirements. Fast forward 3 years I'm still finishing my last exams while working in a very qualified and people-driven IT company. I learned that if you have supportive surroundings (family, friends, partner) and a great will to succeed you'll eventually accomplish most of the things you undertake. I repeat, I'm still very young, but life has yet to prove me wrong. I have to admit that the fact that it might scares me, but when the time will come it'll be an opportunity to grow even more.
This is from last year but just happened to see it.
And for those who don't know what they are talking about or are trolls and are assuming without reading the study that it's "somehow biased and all these women were just stupid little teenage girls who don't know their own mind and can't possibly understand their own feelings and of course since they are not parents they can't possibly understand the choice they made..."
You're absolutely wrong.
These were legally competent, fully formed adult women and the majority of them were actually parents. Which is the case across all women who abort. In fact, this study had a few percentage points MORE than the average percentage of mothers who abort.
The average age was 25, which means that after 5 years there were PLENTY of women in the study who were likely in their 30s and beyond when they were responding to the researchers. AKA they are not "just a bunch of stupid teens". Some of them probably have one or more teenage children themselves.
> "The study included a mix of white, black, and Latina women from 30 clinics across the U.S. The average age was 25, and 62% were already raising kids."
So yeah, sod off with that sexist, ageist crap. ;)
After stressing over an exit strategy and I’ve decided there will be none in the foreseeable future. I have ordered a nano ledger and will safe-keep and HODL my XRP indefinitely. I believe in the blockchain more than I do the American dollar. I don’t care if it hits $15, $50, or $100. There is too many happenstances going on with XRP for it to be ‘coincidence’ and with me coincidences are turning into Providence.
Hello new generational wealth.
Bought a sports car, decided it was a bad decision after the fact, paid $2.5K to unwind the deal.
Years ago, I was the CTO of a software company that was perhaps the worst run company I've ever seen. It was run by a "chairman" who used to be a flight engineer, and who had no experience at all in the software industry. One day, in his expansive wisdom, Mr. Chairman decided that we were going to give his friend (a local pastor) an office. I was ordered by Mr. Chairman to make it impossible for anybody ("Even you!!!") to access any of Mr. Pastor's files (because, y'know, privacy and stuff). I attempted to point out a couple of problems with that scenario, but was immediately shut down and ordered to do what I was told.
Now, this particular person had... well, let's call it a quirk. When anything went wrong with his computer, his solution was to format his C: drive. (Yeah, I know...) The inevitable happened, and Mr. Chairman ordered me to restore all of Mr. Pastor's files from the backup (which we normally did... ahem... religiously). I looked at him innocently and said "What backup?" It took possibly five seconds for steam to begin pouring from his ears, and for him to start screaming, "YOU MEAN YOU DIDN'T DO A BACKUP??? WHY YOU....!!!!" and so on. I waited for him to finish, and then asked him politely how he proposed that I do a backup of files that I'm not allowed to have any access to? The silence that followed was glorious.