Last night I had a really bad migraine and my husband was at work. I asked my son(16m) if he could give his sister(2f) a bath since my head was killing me.
He was perfectly fine with this and when my husband got home he found me asleep. He woke me up asking if I had made dinner or given our daughter a bath yet. I told him that I had a migraine so our son gave her a bath. He screamed at me saying that this was not ok for him to do unsupervised.
He said that my migraine was no excuse to not take care of her. Then my son hears him yelling at me and tries to get him to stop. He hasn’t spoken to either of us since, what should I do
Edit my son is not related to my husband
I (m35) have a 16 year old daughter. I’ve been a single father since she was about 3 years old as I got sole legal custody due to some addiction issues her mother has. We have a really good relationship, but I always worry about her not having a woman to talk to.
Over the past few months she hasn’t really seemed to be herself, I know she went through a bad break up but I’ve been worried it’s more than that. I’ve tried talking to her, and my sister only lives down the street so she’s tried talking to her also, but my daughter is really keeping to herself and it concerns me.
She went out to see her friends for the first time since quarantine started yesterday and asked me if I could give her room a quick tidy whilst she was gone. I agreed because she does a lot of chores but she’s not good at cleaning her room. Whilst I was putting clothes back in her closet, I stumbled upon what I now know to be her diary.
I shouldn’t have read past the first page but I just wanted to know if ther... keep reading on reddit ➡
He wanted the party to be extravagant, but wanted to spend as little money as possible. He had finished all of the other decorations, and he was left to work on the cake.
"Why not get it ordered from an upscale bakery?" his wife said.
So the father visited a ton of different bakeries and did research, but found the prices to be too high.
My daughter is inviting all of her friends, and I'll look bad if I don't put together a good cake, he thought. Then, he stumbled upon a shop that opened once a year to provide free cake to its customers.
How quaint, the father thought, but desperate, he walked inside to see if they could provide a cake for his daughter's birthday.
He was met by a Buddhist monk chanting and lighting incense.
"Hello," the father asked, "I would like to buy a cake."
"Of course," the monk replied, "just draw a picture of the cake you would like on the notepad on the desk."
The father thought this to be weird, but wanting to save as much money as possible, he ga... keep reading on reddit ➡
EDIT: After another restless night, I was very surprised to wake up to this. Thank you so much for your condolences and for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I wish I could respond to all of you but I am mentally exhausted. Again, thank you all so much.
My (44M) daughter (17F) committed suicide two months ago. It was honestly a big shock as she’s never shown any signs that she wanted to take her life. My wife and I blame ourselves and wishes that we could’ve done more. She was in therapy for something unrelated, she was very afraid and would panic at the sight of blood, so we thought that her feelings in general would be addressed during her sessions. We were always very supportive of her, asking her about her days or if she’s having any troubles about anything when she’s noticeably looking down.
We only started cleaning out her room a week ago. I was going through her closet and tucked at the very back was a small backpack with her diary in it. I really wanted to read it becau... keep reading on reddit ➡
My 7 year old daughter’s doing virtual school in our living room recently. I heard her teacher address a girl named Kelly a few times, which stuck out to me because my daughter’s class is only about 15 kids and I know them all by this point in the year.
A couple times more and I realized she was calling my daughter Kelly. My daughter’s name is Keeley, pronounced Kee-Lee.
So after school was over I asked her if that had been happening all year in this teacher’s class and she said it had and it really annoyed her. I asked her why she hadn’t corrected the teacher if it annoyed her so much and she said she had repeatedly at the beginning of the year but the teacher kept calling her Kelly, so eventually she gave up on reminding her.
I sent the teacher a quick email explaining the misunderstanding but got no response. This teacher teaches a special subject (think music, gym, art, or language), not just one grade level, so my daughter will be in her classes for the next several years, s... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (f24) have 4 children. I had my first when I was 19. My children are 5F, 3F, 2F and 1M. All of our children have been planned, but it’s always been my husband pushing to have another. If he’d have let me I would’ve stopped after our oldest. I never really wanted to be a mom, and don’t feel as though I connect with them very well.
A few nights ago I was putting my eldest daughter to sleep when she started asking me loads of questions. She’s a really curious little girl. I had a traumatic birth with her and post natal depression so always struggled with bonding, and still do struggle connecting with her. She told me she wants lots of babies when she’s older and then asked me how many I wanted when I was her age. I told her I didn’t want any and that I didn’t even want any when I had her. I know she’s only 5 but she massively misinterpreted it and got upset. I comforted her and put her back to sleep.
In the morning she must’ve told her father what had happened when he was making her... keep reading on reddit ➡
Not all in the same sentence btw!
Edit! Wow this post took off. I’ve received twice as much karma in this one post than I have from 10 years redditing!
And wow! Silver! My first and only. Thank you so much.
I'm a 37 year old man. My daughter and her friend (I'll call her Brooke) are both 19. They met in college - they've been friends for almost a year.
Brooke's come over to our house too many times to count and she's always made me uncomfortable. Though she'd never explicitly flirted with me up until a couple days ago, I could always tell she liked me. But because there was no proof and she never made a move, I just tried to ignore it and keep my distance. She seemed like a good kid; never in a million years did I think she'd take it any further than laughing a little harder than necessary at my jokes.
The other night I got 3 messages from a number not in my contacts. There was one sexually explicit text and 2 faceless nudes. As I was looking at them and trying to figure out who they were from (I thought maybe an old hookup or something), I got a video that included Brooke's face. My heart dropped and I felt sick as soon as I realized what was happening. I was freaked out, and I impuls... keep reading on reddit ➡
Apologies if you have already seen this and commented on it, due to a posting complication it got removed, so it has been uploaded correctly now.
My son Jake is gay, he came out when he was 18 and me and my wife couldn't have been more proud of him! He is now 31 and his older sister Lucy is 37. We've all been a happy family until about 6 months ago, when Lucy converted to Catholicism. Neither me, my wife or my son are particularly religious.
Since then Lucy became more distant with her Jake, and I started to notice Jake looking less jolly than his normal self. I decided to ask him about it, because I could sense something was wrong. At first he denied something was up, so I kept asking him what what was wrong until he finally broke down in tears one day. He told me that a few months back Lucy had called him to meet up.
Apparently when they met up she had tried to talk to him about his sexuality. According to my son, she literally begged him to repent and give up his 'homosexual... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hello. Thank you for all of your kind responses and your heartfelt stories. I am still reading through all of them and I am planning to sit my daughter down tonight to sincerely talk about my past and my feelings. I emailed her school counselor last night and will also bring up finding a family counselor that she likes. Your advice has been greatly helpful and I would like to thank everyone again for your kindness.
For background context, we are both fully Chinese. I immigrated to the United States by myself when I was 26. I had to learn English on my own and after living for so many years in the United States, I think my reading, listening, and writing skills have become good. However, I have a heavy Chinese accent when I speak and I am still mixing up words that I normally wouldn't when I am writing. I also grew up poor when I was a child, having grown up in a village that still doesn't have plumbing to this day. Due to this, I have a habit of saving takeout containers, using foo... keep reading on reddit ➡
Wife and I have been married 18 years, we have our 16 year old daughter who has been dating a slightly shy/ awkward young man for around 3-4 months now.
He seems very nervous around my daughter and has admitted in a passing comment here and there to my wife and I that he can’t believe she agreed to date him and he thinks she’s way out of his league. He seems very respectful, just shy.
My wife is usually an independent, awesome woman and her ideals align closely with mine particularly in term of feminism and equality. We have both striven to raise our daughter to be as independent and capable as possible.
Since my daughter has been dating this kid my wife has changed considerably and has given our daughter advice that has left me with raised brows more than once.
Some of the advice I’ve heard my wife give is ‘oh it’s cute for boys to pay for everything, especially in your first relationship!’ Or ‘oh honey don’t worry about that, he can pay for you, if he really liked you he wou... keep reading on reddit ➡
My husband (36) and I have two kids, my husband also has autism and so does my son (17) both relatively mild cases. My daughter and I do not share this mental disability with them.
Now I’m a nurse which means due to COVID I’ve had to be at my workplace, my husband however could work at home. My children being school aged were also obviously home. I noticed that after the first few weeks my daughter started receiving a lot more money from my husband, I noticed my son also giving money , and when restrictions were eased car rides in addition seemed available to my youngest.
I called In sick so I’m off two weeks, and I’ve noticed that when my daughter asks for things from my son or husband she’ll try to either hug them or raise her voice. These are both sensory overloads for them and they’ll agree to anything to make it stop and avoid a meltdown, before they hate loud noises and uninitiated physical contact.
I know this because I admittedly have done this myself ONCE before when my... keep reading on reddit ➡
I divorced my husband Roger 10 years ago. Since then, he's been nothing more than a Disneyland dad to our 16 year old daughter Ann. He got a really well paying job recently and bought a gorgeous house with a pool and a very nice car instead of paying back child support.
She'd been talking about moving in with him for months, saying how much fun she had at his house and how much she loved him. I could tell Roger didn't want that but was letting me be the bad guy by saying he wanted her there but I wouldn't allow it. After weeks of needling, I finally agreed to a one year trial period.
She's been staying with him for over a month now and she's begging to come home.
Now that Anne is with him full time, he isn't trying to impress her. He's only buying her dollar store face wash, along with dollar store shampoo/conditioner/body wash instead of her expensive preferred brands. He's strict on clothes, so he took her croptops and short shorts away and she can only wear things that go below... keep reading on reddit ➡
I(49M) am happily married to my wife of 24 years (49F) and have a daughter (22F). My wife and I both Hindus, growing up in very religious families; which we tried to carry on at home, with our daughter.
When my daughter entered her high school years, she decided to convert to Islam. Although we didn't 100% approve of her decision, we supported her through her conversion process. She decided to keep her Hindu name, although she went to the mosque on Fridays, and refrained from eating pork. When she went to off to college, we kept close contact with her, talking with her as often as possible.
About a month ago, she legally changed her name from Devi to Fatimah without telling us. Naturally my wife and I were disappointed, but we spoke to her, where she explained that she simply wanted to fit in with her Muslim friends and community, which was fine.
A short while later, she told us that she actually changed her name so that she would be accepted by her new boyfriends ultra-conservative... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have a five year old daughter named Colette. Ever since she was born my mil called my daughter "letters" as a nickname (because Colette ends in lette i'm guessing). It's not the greatest nickname in the world but I let it go.
The other day, my daughter randomly said: Why does grandma call me "letters". My name is Colette.
I told her: It's her nickname for you.
Colette: that's weird
me:Do you not like being called "letters"
Colette: not really
me:it's ok to tell grandma that you want to be called Colette instead of letters.
Colette went to my MIL's house today. My husband dropped her off and picked her up so I didn't see my MIL at all that day.
That night I get a call from my MIL. She tells me that it was really rude for Colette to say she didn't like her nick name. And that I shouldn't have told her to say that. She said I was raising her to be bratty. She also said that Colette couldn't come over until she apologized and says that she likes being called letters.
That last... keep reading on reddit ➡
My daughter (she just turned 18) got into a car accident and injured herself. Me and her are very close. I'm her dad. She isn't able to wash herself in the bath until she recovers. My daughter has always been relaxed with nudity in front of me and my wife when she is walking to and from the bathroom/laundry room or if she needs something while in the shower. Me and my wife are the same with her.
I've been bathing my daughter during her recovery. Her mom wanted to be the one to do that, but my daughter insisted I'm the one to do it. My daughter is a lot closer to me, and sometimes my wife and daughter argue. It doesn't surprise me she wants me to be the one to help her and I don't mind.
I take her clothes off, help her in the bath, wash her, dry her, and then put new clothes on her. In the bath she is able to wash her thighs and waist area. This means I do NOT wash her vagina, she does. I wash everything below her thighs, and everything over her abdomen. I use a washcloth on everyt... keep reading on reddit ➡
I had my daughter when I was 19, she’s now just turned 18. At the time, my boyfriend and I (now husband) were going through a rough patch and decided to go on a break. I was devastated and angry so decided to have sex with one of my good friends at the time, and three weeks later ended up finding out I was pregnant. My boyfriend and I hadn’t had sex in over three months, so I knew it wasn’t his, but we reconnected and when I told him he amazingly decided that he would raise our child as his own.
The biological father of my daughter is no longer in our lives, nor does he know that he has a daughter. He is half Italian, so has very olive toned skin and distinctive facial features. My husband thankfully has naturally olive skin so when our daughter did too, it didn’t cause an issue.
The fact that he’s not her biological father has never been an issue and we rarely even think about it, he is her dad and he always will be. We decided not to tell her because I didn’t want her to have som... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (f36) have a 16 year old daughter. About three months ago, she came out to her father and I as gay. We’ve always had an idea as she’s never been interested in boys, so obviously have been incredibly supportive. We baked her a rainbow cake the next day and watched pride documentaries. When COVID started intensifying, I told my parents, both in their 70s to come and stay with us.
My parents aren’t the most accepting of people, they’re the topic old white religious heterosexual couple, and I don’t want them being like that to my daughter. My daughter asked if she could come out to them and I said no, but the longer they’ve been here the more she’s wanted to. I know for a solid fact that they won’t accept her, and I don’t want to have to choose between my daughter and my elderly parents because it’ll be my daughter every time. I told them she shouldn’t come out on social media or to the rest of the family until they die in case it gets back to them which has devastated her. AITA?
Just for some background, my family is a bit larger. We are all pretty healthy people, but we are not naturally thin. Both of my parents are bigger, I’m a bit bigger, and growing up my sister was to.
Now my sister works hard to fight being a bigger. She eats like a rabbit, and does pretty crazy workouts. People tend to look up to her for keeping her weight down and “getting healthy” but from my perspective she is constantly stressing herself out to maintain this appearance with all of the running etc.
My daughter turned 14 a couple of months ago, and has been expressing distaste about her body for a while. She’s a bit chubby like myself. It makes me sad, but I’m trying to teach her to love herself for who she is. I know that my words haven’t gotten through to her, as she has been going to my sister for advice.
First was the at home exercises and running. It is difficult to watch her beat herself up with these exercises. She claims to enjoy them, but I’m sure she wouldn’t do them... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have an 8 year old daughter, and to make college more easily accessible for her, my ex wife and I each put money into a shared fund for her. My ex wife and I do not get along, but we make an effort for the sake of our daughter.
At the end of last year, my car basically blew up. Completely blew a gasket, broke down every time I drove it and ended up being written off. My current wife and I decided to save for a new car, and to wait for one I was sure I wanted as I loved my old car.
On my way home from work I drive past a really high end car dealership, basically sells vintage top class cars. They’re absolutely beautiful but I’ve never went in because they’re extremely expensive. A few days ago I drove past it and thought why not, I’ll have a look and just not buy anything. I walked in and saw a truly beautiful Mustang, rang my wife and told her I’d found the car I wanted. We hadn’t saved enough so I used the money from our savings, and without thinking dipped into the college fund... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throwaway account + obligatory mobile formatting apology.
I (52M) am the father of 3 kids, 15F, 7F, and 7M. The last two are twins and are very close, having the tendency to copy each other. I love and adore them all equally.
My son is not a very masculine kid, and is less interested in some of my hobbies because of this. He has always preferred whatever his mother and older sister did, like baking or dancing. I have no problem with this, I love him as he is, but to be honest, I’m slightly disappointed that we haven’t had the kind of amazing father-son bonding that I got to have with my Grandpa (my Dad died when I was pretty young) when I was a kid.
Since I’m at home almost all the time now, I’ve been seeing just how feminine his interests have gotten. Asking to help cook every meal, helping his older sister alter second-hand clothes, and playing pretend. He’s even asked to have his sister paint his nails. I’m not upset or bothered by it, but it isn’t typical for young boys.
I... keep reading on reddit ➡
This has been started and stopped many times in the last couple of days but I feel that everyone who blindly supports “Blue Lives Matter” should read my story.
My biological father was Police Chief of the small town I was born in.
Instead of growing up to see a person who followed the law, protected his citizens and created peace... I grew up in paralyzing fear.
This man told me day in and day out that I was an Ugly Worthless Bitch. The first time I heard it, I was 8 years old. He’d later tell me I deserved this since I was a girl.
This man told me he would shoot the family dog and it would be my fault. (He would later kill strays I brought home to save. 3 animals died this way before I had to stop and realize a stray had a better chance at life without my help). The same dog I was never allowed to feed or care for unless he allowed it.
This man threatened to bury me and my mother in the backyard of our property because “who would care or find us?”
This man threw away and/or fa... keep reading on reddit ➡
I made a post awhile back about finding out my girlfriend of 6 years was cheating on me. I wanted to leave her but was conflicted because I was the main provider and loved her daughter like my own. It got deleted for some reason, I don’t know why.
ORIGINAL POST: I apologize in advance, this is 100% drunk stream of consciousness.
I’ve (39m) been with my girlfriend (31f) for 6 years. The first 4 were good, the last two have been on a steady decline leading up to the discovery that she’s been cheating on me with her coworker for a year. Long story short, I suspected, snooped, found out. So it goes.
The thing is I pay for everything. I have a great job that affords me the ability to not care about the cost of anything. She quit her job to be a SAHM and I pay for her daughters private school, hobbies etc. It was honestly not a big deal until I found out she was cheating on me and... keep reading on reddit ➡
My daughter in law, Katy, is currently 37 weeks pregnant with my first grandchild, a baby girl. I really love Katy, her and my son have been together about 6 years now and I have a good relationship with her, but we’ve recently come to a head on this discussion.
Due to COVID, the hospital Katy plans on delivering her baby in has a one birthing partner limit, and instead of choosing my son, she chose her mother. My son claims that they had a discussion about it and he was okay with it, but I think it’s completely inconsiderate of Katy to deprive my son of this incredible experience. Sure, her mother is her support system, but so is my son. Katy is also an extremely insecure girl, and has said she doesn’t want my son seeing her in that much pain and discomfort, which having 3 babies myself I do understand, but I do not think it’s good enough reason to not let my son see his baby being born, it’s his baby just as much as hers.
They come round to my house for dinner once a week, usual... keep reading on reddit ➡
About 7 years ago, my wife's best friend and her husband split and it looked like they were headed for divorce. Around the same time my wife (then girlfriend) and I split. I think it is worth pointing out that my wife was the one who called it quits. When we split, we were officially broken up. This was not just a break.
I did not see any chance for us and figured our relationship was done, so when my wife's best friend showed interest, I decided to sleep with her. We were never serious. It was purely physical. This went on for a few months, and then she broke things off with me because she and her husband had decided to give things another shot. It was not long after they reconciled that she announced they were expecting.
She never reached out to me to confirm either way if it could be mine, so I assumed it was her husbands. I didn't know she had been sleeping with him while we were together, but I suspected that there was some other guy she was also sleeping with based on some of h... keep reading on reddit ➡
My daughter has been calling her father every day when she’s with me, sometimes for an hour or more. She’s been doing this since around when the pandemic started. It’s very frustrating to me because she never calls me when she’s with her father, and when I call her she only talks for 5 minutes before saying she has to go.
I asked her father to stop accepting her calls daily, and limit it to a couple times per week. He said that he wouldn’t stop answering calls from his daughter, and he’s not the one calling her, she’s calling him. He wants me to tell her to stop calling if I have a problem with it, but obviously I can’t tell her to stop because that will just make her upset with me.
I told him again that it would be polite to limit his contact to a reasonable amount when she’s with me, because I don’t interfere with his time when she’s with him. He got angry and said he wasn’t going to do that and hung up.
I think I’m being very reasonable here, and most 15 year olds don’t talk to t... keep reading on reddit ➡
The title sounds bad but it isn't that bad.
So my daughter has this friend who has all the kids in her grade falling head over heels for. I thought it was an exaggeration but she's literally that girl in high school.
Now this friend posted a picture of the two of them on their 'friendship page' on her birthday yesterday. Everyone was just giving dozens of comments on the friend and said nothing about my daughter at all. I think there were only two who said happy birthday to my daughter. She was upset over this because she got non of the attention. She asked me if she was pretty.
As first I thought I should give the whole 'of course, you're so beautiful, these guys are just crazy' speech but I couldn't see any benefit from that so I gave it to her straight. When I told her she wasn't she was taken aback but when I explained she was much better. I said something around the lines that she doesn't have the looks but that doesn't matter. Told her she had an amazing personality and is ju... keep reading on reddit ➡
I work with a bunch of moms and grandmas, so they're always showing me pictures of their kids/grand kids/nieces, I don't really know why because I'm 22 and have no kids lol.
But anyway, I never really know what to say so I'll literally just go "Oh" and try to think of a good question about them.
And often times it's some college hottie that I'm surprised is related to whoever's showing it to me.
So what am I supposed to say?
EDIT: alright I think I've got it figured out guys, thanks, I was probably overthinking it
Hope my next post gets this big a response because it's gonna be a lot more important lol
EDIT: oh my lord I do not give a shit about this post and it's my biggest ever, fuck my life. Meanwhile any post I actually care about gets <10 comments. This is why I can't have nice things.
My best friend, Mia, has cystic fibrosis. The average life expectancy for cystic fibrosis is about 37, but Mias doctors don’t think she’ll get to 30. When we were kids and her CF wasn’t something I was hyper aware of, we agreed that we’d be godparents to each others kids.
I recently gave birth to a baby girl, and obviously due to COVID we’ve had no visitors to meet her, but I FaceTimed Mia from the hospital. She started the call with “let me see my goddaughter then” and that’s when I remembered the agreement that we made. Don’t get me wrong, I adore Mia, she’s my best friend, but it seems a bit silly to allow her to be god mother when 1) she probably won’t be around by the time something could happen to go wrong for me and 2) her quality of life would in no way enable her to look after a child.
I waited until we were home before I said anything to Mia and when I asked her if she was okay with it she said she was, but I got a text from her mom later that night asking how I can claim... keep reading on reddit ➡
Backstory: I'm currently pregnant with my first and my husband and I found out we're having a boy. My sister has one child, a daughter that's turning 1 in August. I'm 24, my sister is 26. Me and my family are also white as snow, and my husband is Viet.
On to the problem.
My husband and I settled on a name for our son before we found out the gender of the baby. My husband suggested a Vietnamese name (Van) and I love it. When we told my family the baby's gender and name on a Zoom call they were all happy and cooing over it etc, but my sister made some rude comments to me about my son's name. Not outright malicious, but she said things like "oh you mean like the creepy kidnapper kind of van?" and "that's a bit silly isn't it". I think she was trying to be funny but it annoyed me. I came back with "well its not any worse than your daughter's name." She was really offended. She asked what I meant and I told her she named her kid in the typical cringy-white-mom way. Sh... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am now in extremely shitty situation. My daughter(Jane) cut all contact with me after my wife made some racist comments about her bf. I agree what she did is disgusting but Jane told me choose either between her or wife. How the hell I am supposed to do that. TBH my wife comes from racist family I called her out many times but I think racism is deeply rooted into her now it is impossible to do anything about it. This happened five years ago, Jane and her bf getting married soon. She called me yesterday and asked for some money as she is laid off. Actually she told me to honour promise I made to all my daughters(I helped them financially when they get married). I refused. I told her I made promise to my daughter and as she denounced me as her father I am no longer going to help her out. AITA ?
Edit: There is no way I was going to divorce my wife, we are together since last 25 years. As I said I called her out many times during past. She is not vocal like she was before but she stil... keep reading on reddit ➡
I experienced every parent nightmare. Have been with the little one on the playground and was talking with someone from work over phone and after I finished I couldn't find my daughter in the sandbox she was literally 3 minutes ago.
I started to look for her and asked some other guy if he saw her. He said she walked with a guy who looked like her older brother and he pointed a direction. I freezed. I literally freezed. I've been through a lot, but if would have to point out the scariest 10s of my life - that would be it. And the direction was a little forest next to the playground. Yes, we've been telling million times to her not to go with strangers
I rushed into this place and saw her with this dude. He was like 20, or so. I think I beat my personal best for a 100m dash and yelled at this man what he is doing. He started to talk some crap about some rabbit hole he wanted to show or so.
I lost it. I literally lost it and feel ashamed of my self I could keep myself together but I... keep reading on reddit ➡
So my (41M) have a daughter (16F) and she likes reading. So when libraries were still open, she went and got like 15 books , and she even has a list of books she wants to read (30+ books on the list) and she even has access to a website so she can read.
I'd be totally fine with this, if she didn't spend the whole day reading. Sure, she still does chores, but any free time she reads. I don't want it to affect her eyesight, but she doesn't even watch t.v anymore, and anytime not reading or doing chores will be spent talking to her friends. She is a very social girl and has lots of friends but I feel this is impacting her social and home life.
It's become and issue so much, that taking away her phone doesn't work. Her brother is becoming more easier to work with, since sometimes she gets zoned out and we have to shake her back to reality.
So we have this chore list/timings. Her brother (15M) does chores 2 days a week, while she does the same chores 2 days a week and I and my wife do... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hello Reddit. My 16 year old daughter recently found out she more than likely has endometriosis. Her doctor didn’t wanna do the surgery to officially confirm it and instead just prescribed birth control to help with her extremely painful periods. She said the surgery was unnecessary and she wouldn’t put my daughter through the pain because of that and just kind of swept it under the rug.
It very well could not be endometriosis but something is definitely going on which is why the doctor came to the conclusion of it. Her periods are sometimes so painful that she screams and cries my name and calls me “mommy” and begs for help when she gets the pains. There’s been a few times where she’s been in the store and had to leave because she felt a big cramp coming on, which is why we took her to the doctor in the first place. Not to mention there are times when she literally wets her pants because she gets SUCH a strong uncontrollable cramp. It’s very heartbreaking seeing my baby girl go throu... keep reading on reddit ➡
46F, married with two children 16F and 15M, need an outside perspective on this situation
My daughter doesn't have a job but does get a decent allowance, so it didn't really hit any alarms that she had money to spend on makeup and clothes. In the last few months she made several large purchases, including new video games without asking for any money. My husband and I confronted her about where she had gotten the money from, at first she gave a vague answer about saving, but when I pressed the issue she admitted that she was making money online. She has been claiming to be "a psychic" and charging people to "contact spirits". she showed us her Facebook page where she contacts her customers.
At first she clearly thought the whole thing was a bit funny, but my husband got very upset about it, at which point she shut up and started insisting she sincerely believes in this. I really, truly don't think that my daughter actually believes she is psychic and can commune with the dead. Im no... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (F30), am a dual American/Australian citizen who grew up with an international custody order where I’d bounce back and forth between Dad (White American) and Mum (Indigenous Australian) from between age 12-17. As part of this arrangement, my final year of schooling was to be completed in Australia, so I could also take part in cultural activities from Mum’s side of the family.
When I was 15-16 years old, I fell pregnant in America, to my then boyfriend, and I didn’t realise until I was back home in Australia. When I eventually told my mother, she and my father decided to support me, but took my passport until I was a legal adult, to stop me from making any foolish decisions. With both my parents support, I subsequently made phone calls and contacted the father of my daughter.
The biodad of my child was also 15/16 and didn’t want to be involved at all. He said some very hurtful things during this time, calling my daughter a “half breed” and other racially-based slurs when we broke... keep reading on reddit ➡
We have 4 kids. Our son who is 34 and married, our daughter 32 who is single and our fraternal twins (m and f 25). Our son is in a long term relationship and our daughter is engaged to be married.
Right now we are all planning the wedding of our younger daughter Anna. Our other daughter Sarah has been...... Not supportive to say the least. We tried to cut her some slack at the beginning because Sara's long term partner of 4 years had cheated on her a year prior. They had talked about marriage so she always thought that she would get married before Anna.
So when Anna announced her engagement 2 months ish after Sara had split with her partner and Sara went crying to the bathroom, I asked Anna for some sympathy. Even if that had dampened the mood Anna didn't seem to mind much.
But this has been a trend since then. Everytime we bring something up that has to do with the wedding Sara starts pouting and we end up Consoling her and talking about her. I wanted to stop enabling her and sugg... keep reading on reddit ➡
When my oldest told me she was pregnant, she was still in college, unemployed and the baby's father was refusing to be involved. I was not thrilled but I provided all the help I could and took care of her. I was having a health crisis at the time so I was very stressed out. I love my grandchild but the birth didn't exactly happen in the happiest of circumstances.
My oldest daughter ended up back in a relationship with the baby's father and they are happy and stable now.
My younger daughter announced her pregnancy a few months ago and the situation cannot be more different. She's married to her husband who she's been with for several years, they're both financially stable and the baby is clearly planned.
I have had zero stress dealing with my daughter's pregnancy this time and I've been generally happier about it. I was unknowingly proving I was more excited this time around which I have since corrected. I also planned a baby shower for my youngest which I didn't do for my oldest.... keep reading on reddit ➡
My grandparents escaped France at the start of WWII. They lived in hiding during the war and after the war they started life over in America. So my French ancestry is very important to me. I speak French and my four children speak French. I am a single dad. Two of my children are still teens and living with me and my oldest two daughters are staying with me right now until the whole situation ends. My oldest daughter brought her boyfriend with her.
My children and I all speak French to each other inside the house. Ever since she brought her boyfriend home, my oldest daughter will not speak French. I will ask her a question in French and she will answer in English. I asked her why and she says she doesn’t want to alienate her boyfriend because everyone would be speaking French except him. I told her that she can speak French or leave. Now my daughter won’t talk to me in any language and my other children think I was too harsh. AITA?
My mom and dad have been married for a little over 20 years, they got married when my mom was 18 and my dad was 21.
Apparantly the start of their relationship was a bit rocky and my dad cheated on my mom a few times which without his knowledge led to his daughter Tessa(19F). I don't know the details but my mom forgave my dad and they have been great since. They had 3 Kids Me(16M), and my sisters Danielle(15F) and Tanya(13F).
My parents are pretty great all in all, as an example my dad teaches me how to fix cars and me and my mom watch movies together and we also do stuff as a family quite often.
Now months ago prior to all this crazy stuff a girl reached out to my dad on social media, told her she was his daughter, they checked it out, turned out to be true and my dad started spending time with her and honestly everyone was fine with it after all how couldn't you be? We(Sisters and me) were asked to meet her too which was fine but it did not go very well, she is a very selfobsessed... keep reading on reddit ➡
My(48) daughter(22) has had a laundry list of issues growing up that continued into adulthood. She has severe low self esteem. Every compliment you give her gets shot down by a self-deprecating joke. I'd be lying to say it's not embarrassing at time.
I know I was not the best mom growing up. In my defense, my husband left me when she only 1, with 2 other children and didn't show up until they were adults. It was stressful in every way. But I made sure they had the essentials: shelter, running water, clothes, heat and food.
I have blurted out things to my children in the heat of the moment. I have called my daughter a cow and a fat ass once or twice in her childhood. Again at least TWICE I've done this. It was not an everyday thing.
My daughter showed weird habits with food throughout childhood. She would hide food in her bedroom. I'd wake up in the middle night and she's been eating while crying. Certain days she would overeat, then the next day refuse to eat. She started bulimia ar... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have two sweet and wonderful twin daughters(11), one who I’ll call Lily, and the other Taylor. School comes naturally for Taylor and district in fact last year recommended that she go to a magnet school, her first year there she’s really breezed through and we’re very proud of her.
Lily works really hard at school and even back when they were in the same school Lily spent far more time on her school work than Taylor, but she gets worse grades than Taylor, still good don’t get me wrong but she wasn’t considered for the magnet school.
The school year is over now, but during this last year Lily while very sweet in general, has been a lot more distant from Taylor, not antagonistic though at least.
After much prodding during the school year she told us that she felt like an idiot and that no matter how hard she worked Taylor got to the “smart” school because she was much more intelligent than her.
I told her she was just smarter in other areas and so during the second semester we si... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'll try to keep it short and sweet. My ex-husband cheated on me with his current wife. We divorced, they got together, and had a baby.
Well it's some years past that point, and surprise surprise, he's done it again. He and his wife are getting a divorce, and he's probably going to marry his new affair partner within the next 6 months if he follows the pattern. More power to him and his penis, I literally do not care what he does with his life anymore.
BUT I was pretty shocked to discover that his wife reached out to me, basically crying about what happened, how she couldn't believe it, and how now that we're in the same camp, so to speak, we should maintain a relationship so our daughters can still be in each other's lives and so we can commiserate.
Yeah, I told her to take a hike, and that if our mutual ex wanted our daughters to hang out, I was more than happy to schedule his visitation at the same time as hers so the girls could be together with their father, but that there was... keep reading on reddit ➡
Apologies for the late update. This gained far more attention than I had anticipated and feel I owe everyone a sort of resolution to the problem. The original post here https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g6l1l5/aita_if_i_tell_my_daughter_grandma_is_ashamed_of/
So my husband called his mum and dad on Facetime, while I stayed out of view to make sure he said exactly what needed to be said. He explained that her behaviour to our daughter is unacceptable and that it's not fair she is subjecting her to this sort of treatment. He explained that if it was her biological grandson receiving this sort of treatment from my mum, she would be absolutely livid and be the first to call her a racist. What she was doing was no different.
His father apologised and agreed with what he said. He tried to coax MIL to apologise but she huffed and said 'I have nothing to apologis... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throwaway I don't want the post on my main account
I have two kids a 14 year old boy and a 15 year old daughter. Recently me and my new wife daughters step mom moved into a new house. My son stays in the house full time and my daughter lives there only on the weekend. There are three bedrooms.
One is the master which is me and my wife's bedroom. The other bed room is a medium size room which I plan to give to his son as he lives in our house full time. I plan to give the smallest bedroom to my daughter as the custody arrangement says that our daughter lives on the weekend as our house is at least two hours from daughters school.
I told the bedroom situation to my kids tonight. My daughter became furious and yelled at me calling me sexist for giving a man a better things. My daughter also said I showed favoritism to my son when I gave my son the better room. I tried explaining my reasoning to my daughter but my daughter told me should get the room because she is older. My daughter s... keep reading on reddit ➡