I have two small ones from the Twins game. I’ll keep the covers but the Sedition Cushions have got to go!
TL;DR: my SIL called me racist because I didn’t want her makeup staining my couch
For context, my brother and SIL have been visiting and staying with me for the last week, sleeping on my couch. My brother and I are both Caucasian and my SIL is Mexican (this is relevant.)
Today I noticed one of my couch cushions had her foundation makeup on it. I decided to pull the pillow aside to wash later, and didn’t say anything because I thought it might have been unintentional and I didn’t want her to feel bad. Fast forward to tonight, I saw her laying on one of my other couch cushions. I asked her if she was wearing makeup, and when she said “yes” I asked if she could please use the other pillow sitting behind her to rest her head on because her foundation was transferring onto the cushions, and it would be easier to wash the pillow case.
She immediately threw the pillow on the ground, stood up, and started yelling at me calling me racist. She said that I only had an issue with the makeup being on my couch because it was brown, and my couch is gray so it shows. She said I don’t see how I was insensitive because I am not a person of color and don’t understand what it’s like for women of color who wear makeup.
I asked her what I could have said instead that wasn’t insensitive or racist, and she said I should have just asked her if she could wash the pillow after she was done laying on it. Personally I feel like that would have been worse, but instead I apologized to her and told her I did not at all mean to offend her.
For the record, I genuinely am not in any way shape or form racist. She could’ve been wearing purple or green or blue makeup and I would’ve asked her the same thing, to please use another pillow. I love my SIL and I’ve never had anything negative to say about her, especially about her ethnicity.
Please tell me, am I being racist? Am I the asshole? I don’t ever want this to happen again, I never want to make a person of color feel offended in any way about their skin color. I genuinely just didn’t want makeup on my couch cushions.