I 31M) recently had my cousin M21) move in with me after he got kicked out of his college dorm and had no job to pay for rent. My parents told me I needed to step up and help because I own a house, live alone with my two golden retrievers and two birds that I had since last year. My cousin would make fun of me whenever I call my pets "family" and thinks I'm crazy. He has a bad sense of humor and thinks he's funny. He calls me funny nicknames like robot/terminator/optimus prime and others because I wear a prosthetic leg that I've gotten after I had an infection *2 years ago.
I been patiant with him causing a mess and not even doing his own laundry it's been 3 months and it's too much already. So Recently he started doing pranks and using personal things in his pranks. Like clothes/my phone/stuff from the kitchen etc. I usually take off my prosthesis before going to bed and since I work all day I got to bed early unlike him he stays up til 3-4am. He decided to do a prank and hid my prosthesis somewhere.
I saw that it was gone in the morning (*he did it twice before and hid it in his room and the garage) I had enough of his bullshit I asked him where he took it and he joked and said that it was inside the fridge I was livid. I started screaming at him to stop it and to tell me where my prosthesis was before I kick him out.
He realized I was being serious and told me that it was in the attic I let him go get it and when he brought it to me he looked worried and started apologizing when I saw the socket had cracks, the adjustment pyramid and pylon were damaged. He told me he hid it under the old tv and didn't think it was this fragile. It was there overnight so the damage has already been done. I lost my shit I yelled at him while all he did was apologize saying it was just a prank "bro" which made it worse I told him to leave and called my aunt to tell her about what her son did and that she needed to pay for the damages. her reaction was shocking. she said that it was my fault because I knew how her son is and decided to take him in anyway and that she won't take responsibility for his actions. I told her I'd seriously sue because I'm broke and have no money to pay for a prosthesis and crutches are unbearable. I was so angry. I kept lashing out at everyone. Especially my mom and dad who argued with me and said that I can't sue "family" and this is my cousin and he meant no harm. I told them that he created this situation and needed to fix it. They called... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hello friends, I'm from the future. Throwaway, yada yada.
Well, technically we're a few hours away from 2021. So advanced happy new year.
I'm currently outside on our terrace while my family is gathered in the livingroom after having asked me to step outside for a bit, because apparently I've ruined the mood. I'm turning to you guys to ask if I'm the asshole for what I just did.
Family from all over the city has gathered to celebrate the new years. Covid is thankfully low in my city and we've taken the necessary precautions.
As is typical of Asian family reunions, the old people in the family love to 'check up' on their nieces and nephews. One of my aunt's A, loves to show off her kids' achievements, particularly her daughter Pat.
While listing off her daughter's achievements (passing the bar, recently getting married to a fellow lawyer), my aunt turned to me and asked what I've achieved in 2020.
She began to list off all my lack of achievements, like how I'm thirty and still unmarred (I'm a dude, if that matters), about how I'm still living at home with my parents and how I'm still driving my shitty 2000-something civic. My other cousins joined in on the jeering and listed all the other failed aspects of my life.
Now, I graduated with a degree in architecture, but after multiple attempts just can't seem to pass the exam. This has been a point of contention in the family because my other cousins are lawyers, teachers, etc, whatever. These days I basically work freelance from home.
I don't know why, but my aunt's condescending voice got to me and I said "I made my first million this year. Has Pat made her first million yet?" Then turning to my cousins I asked the same, "You guys made your first million yet? Because I have."
The room fell silent. I basically killed the mood. My dad asked me to go outside and relax because apparently I might have just ruined everyone's new year celebration.
Was I an asshole?
P.S. First million in our local currency not USD.
I wonder if he’s going to get arrested...? But even if he doesn’t, the videos posted on his social media will help to identify more people.
I don’t even hate him, I just figured it was necessary to do whatever I could to stop these things from happening.
My fam was having a zoom call dinner. Like whole family with the grandparents, uncles/aunt,sibs and cousin.
During this call my cousin said she had to tell everyone something and basically did a big speech about how she has always known and now wants us to know etc. Basically she likes girls. Cool.
Everyone (including all the old folks) was super cool with it and like “we are just happy you feel comfortable sharing with us” there was no screaming or threats etc. Just overall chill support.
My cousin then went on about how she was so scared to come out cause she the only one in our family to do it and then made a joke about being the gay sheep of the family.
Everyone kinda paused and looked at me all akward like because I to am gay and they all know it. There where some chuckles of like “this is akward” and even I kinda smirked/giggled.
Coming out was just me telling my parents in highschool that I had a girlfriend when asked if I had someone I wanted to bring to over for dinner. I never did anything big and I don’t really tell people. If they ask I’ll tell them but like it’s not what I want to define myself as.
Cousin then connected the dots and asked if the whole family knew I was gay. I said ya. Most of them have meet/seen a pic of a girlfriend of mine at some point in my life. So while is one of the gay sheep of the family she’s not the first/only
Cousin left the call and dm me basically saying that she thought I was still in the closet because I never had a coming out thing. And that I took away from an emotional experience for her
At first I was kinda pissed because it’s not my fault that I did not make it a big deal and defining point about who I am. But I also know that it does take a lot for some people to come to terms with and feel comfortable and safe. So now I’m like maybe I should have handled it all differently and I had been more open then if Could have helped and not lead to the whole akward call and now a pissed off cousin.
Edit: this blew up way more then I thought it would. But thank you to everyone that took the time to read. I’ve basically come to the conclusion I’m not crazy for coming out the way I did and I’ve stoped blaming myself for not being more out/open about my life. I’m gonna let cousin sit and chill for a lil bit and try to reach out later.
I’m looking for a little bit of advice or support here... I’ve never dealt with something quite like this before! It’s so outrageous that women have to go through harassment and then, on top of that, are made to feel as if they’re at fault!
My cousin (29F), who I’ve been close with for my entire life, has a husband (30ishM) whose manners I (24F) would describe as .... well... uncivilized to say the least. To get to the point, we were all in the kitchen (my cousin, her husband, and I. My boyfriend wasn’t with us at the time) at our grandmothers house. I was washing the dishes, and my cousin was sitting across the room. Her husband is standing next to me. All of a sudden, this fucking guy slaps my ass. I’m talking full ass smack, with the palm of his hand.
I simply froze. I was absolutely horrified, mortified, humiliated, embarrassed, and so, so, SO UNCOMFORTABLE. I wanted to cry. I managed to sputter out something to the effect of “WHY DID YOU JUST DO THAT? WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?!” To which their response was.... complete surprise and bewilderment. They were genuinely taken aback at the fact that I reacted the way I did. They both immediately went into defensive mode, saying that it was just a joke— didn’t I see that my cousin was right there, and it can’t have been in a sexual way? It was just a joke! It was supposed to be funny! All their friends do stuff like this all the time and they think it’s funny!
Obviously, I disagree. I was so shocked, I don’t even remember exactly what I said, but I made it clear that I was angry, uncomfortable, and this was highly inappropriate. They said they were sorry, but they also really made me feel kind of stupid for being so uncomfortable, like as if I’m some kind of prude who just has no sense of humour. Am I crazy? In my eyes, it’s so beyond unacceptable to smack a woman’s ass like that (unless you have the kind of relationship that permits that, obviously!). I don’t understand how they could BOTH have seen this as a funny joke. How could I not be mad about this? I felt really violated — this is MY body and you have 0 right to it, and I don’t care if you thought it would be a “joke”!
I told my boyfriend about it today because... well, I wanted to! And of course he reacted by being really angry at this guy for having the nerve to do that. My boyfriend feels, as I do, that this was a gesture of blatant disrespect and I don’t want to have anything to do with my cousins husband anymore, nor does my boyfriend. We... keep reading on reddit ➡
My cousin (23,F) recently opened up her own salon. From a young age, she taught herself how to thread/wax eyebrows and developed an interest in makeup and hair. Everyone in our extended family would go to her before events and on a monthly basis for their threading, waxing, hair and makeup needs. In 2020, she had a full-time job (non-salon related) but decided to renovate the basement of her home to create a small salon space. She now spends her free time taking clients in her at-home salon and there's nothing but great reviews! Her sister helped with the renovations and now helps her with marketing the business (social media, community pages) and I help with the finances (budgeting, price-setting). We all support her and are really proud of her! The salon is our baby.
We're now in the middle of a pandemic and this greatly affected her salon business. As a result, she implemented safety measures and our small team made sure to keep up with covid regulations in our city. This included having one customer inside at a time, doing temperature checks, making masks/face shields and gloves mandatory, wiping down the salon after each client...etc. Also, when our city was in lockdown, the salon was closed as it is not an essential service.
Our city is once again in lockdown since the end of December to the end of January. The salon has been closed since the lockdown began. The salon's social media pages had been updated to let the current clientele know that the salon is closed.
Now comes the Karen. Karen sees a community post from OCTOBER detailing a discount that the salon was having on a certain package we offer. She comments on the post saying that she can't believe the salon is open in the middle of a lockdown when her salon has to be closed. This is important for later. Karen fails to notice that this post was made in October, when salons were allowed to operate as long as they followed safety regulations. Karen doesn't bother checking more recent posts indicating that the salon was closed. My cousin doesn't see her reply at this time.
The next day, two police officers show up at my cousin's door while she's at a doctor's appointment. The officers ask for my cousin and my aunt lets them know that she's not home right now. My aunt does not speak English very well and lets the officers know that she would call my cousin and ask her to come home. Maybe the officers didn't believe her but they insisted on coming inside the h... keep reading on reddit ➡
On the weekly family Zoom meeting, my cousin's 10yo kid asked me "how" I don't have children with total confusion. I just told her I don't want them, so I do what I have to to prevent them. I didn't want to elaborate, but she kept probing, so I simply said "you'll understand when you're older". She kept going on and truly didn't understand that it is even possible to voluntarily opt out of having kids. I just told her that kids are optional where we live and people don't have to have them if they don't want, then we moved on to another subject. Immediately after the Zoom was over, he mother called me to yell at me for introducing her to the concept of parenthood being a choice rather than an inevitability. She concluded with "I will never forgive you if she ends up not giving me grandchildren."
It is the middle of the night, and my phone won't stop ringing because of my family.
To try and keep this short, my cousin "Jake" got outed about 4 or five days before his 18th birthday in the summer. His parents, my aunt and uncle, made arrangements for him to be sent to one of those awful camps that claim they could "cure" him. A kid in his community was forced to go and came back and was clearly not well, so Jake didn't want to go.
Jake ran away from home, and jumped from one family house to another. His folks didn't file a missing person report because they didn't want to look bad to their neighbors. They just told them that he went to that camp willingly.
He dissapeared in the middle of october, and turned up in my city a week later. After making sure he was safe to bring home, my wife and I allowed him to stay. He didn't want me to tell the rest of the family for a while, because those people at the camp keep showing up to take him.
I made sure to talk to a lawyer, who assured Jake that they cannot take him. Three days ago, he told his parents he was here. A few hours later, those damn camp people showed up, but they were unable to take him.
My family has been blowing up my phone for the last two days angry that I didn't tell someone sooner. Well, jake didn't feel safe yet, and still doesn't. I wanted to make sure he was ready.
Still, even those that want to protect Jake is upset with me for hiding him.
AITA for not telling anyone that he is here until he was ready?
EDIT: Wow, thank you all for the awards. I don't deserve them but thanks. Since I am drinking coffee and slowly going through the comments I thought I should say a few things.
First off, while I figured I wasn't the AH for hiding him from my more narrow minded family, it was those that really wanted to help jake that made me feel guilty. They were all scared out of their minds and wanted the peace to know he was ok. I felt bad for not telling them. Though i am sure they wouldn't had turned him in, I felt bad because we were working on keeping him safe.
Also, we got a lawyer who got the police on the look out for those camp people in case they try anything. Jake is not going out alone until we are sure he is safe.
Third, we are looking on how to get his paper work, like his birth certificate, here because no way he trusts his parents to just hand them over. My granny in law is talking to some people that could help.
Fourth, Jake says hello and thank you.
Oh and we're Catholi... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am 38F and my cousin and his wife are 36. His wife is also 8 months pregnant.
I currently live in a 2 bedroom unit and I am looking to upgrade. I need a home office as well as a seperate workspace for my side hustle which has really taken off in the past year and also my puppy is growing up and will need more space as well as well so I'm looking for a house with a sizeable backyard. I have also gotten into gardening as well and I want to grow my own vegetables, herbs etc.
I found a really nice 4 bedroom house and after I did the property and building inspection, I decided to bid on it - it was a private bid rather than auction.
My reasoning was, I would have the master bedroom for sleeping, 1 room for an office, another for a hobby room and my last room would be for my side business. It also had a nice backyard for my pupper (husky) and lots of space for gardening etc as well as having a nice front and backyard.
I ended up winning the bid and I am set to move in next year.
My cousin found out that I was the final purchaser of the property when I linked everyone in our family chat once everything was signed. He was furious because he had been told that he'd just missed out by a nominal amount.
He then blew up at me in the chat saying that a single woman such as myself didn't need that much space and that this was a home meant for families. I told him I was allowed to buy whatever house I wanted as long as it was in my budget and given that him and his wife work, they shouldn't have a problem finding something else especially since home loan approvals are higher for couples than for single folks due to the due income and risk.
He then proceeded to have a crack at me for my car because it's not environmental friendly- I have an SUV but I need to transport my dog around and also for my side business since I need a lot of boot space. I told him that families were worse for the environment than my lifestyle but he just kept having a crack at me for needing so much space for 1 person.
I finally told him, it wasn't my fault he inability to provide an adequate roof over his head for his family had nothing to do with his lifestyle and I muted him.
EDIT: I had no idea he was bidding on the house, I found it through a real estate website listed and only talked to the agent.
My wife and her younger sister are best friends. As a result, when our middle daughter and her cousin were born around the same time, my wife really expected them to also be best friends. With sixteen years of hindsight, I can say with certainty that the expectation was misplaced.
Nothing happened in particular. My daughter just doesn't like her cousin. My wife keeps pushing the relationship. This includes making my daughter spend time with her cousin during family gatherings, inviting her cousin on trips, forcing my daughter to call her.
We're pretty sure I'm the favorite parent (a fact that keeps my ego well-inflated), and, therefore, my apathy towards the situation is not well-received by my wife. From my perspective, this isn't important, and I do not possess the ability to make two teenagers become friends. I'm also pretty sure that trying to push this kind of knuckleheaded stuff makes kids not want to speak to you.
This is where I'm probably an asshole. Yesterday, my wife forced my daughter to video call her cousin. My daughter rejected to request, and my wife told her: "Unless you have a valid reason for disliking your cousin, you will do this because we're family". The call occurred. This morning, we awoke to a PowerPoint presentation titled Valid Reasons to Dislike [Cousin]. Using clips from the zoom call, segments included Why is [Cousin's] Voice so Grating? A Music Theory Approach, A Case Study: Conversations That Provide No Value, Rethinking the Idea That There Are No Dumb Questions, ect. With the benefit of a couple of hours of hindsight, it was a very cruel takedown of her cousin's entire personality.
My wife was furious. My eldest daughter and I lost our shit laughing. My wife is demanding I support her in punishing my daughter for bullying her cousin. I have refused because I feel this is whole situation wouldn't have occurred if she didn't push the relationship, but I'm starting to have second thoughts because it was very mean. AITA?
I have a younger cousin, she's 20. For reference we are both Chinese-Americans who grew up in the US.
Her parents had bad English, so they relied on her to translate a lot as a kid. This gave her a huge ego growing up since she had so much control over her parents, and IMO turned her super arrogant.
She had no friends growing up because she was so unlikable and controlling. We tolerated her at family gatherings, but she was a brat and would cry and scream if we didn't play what she wanted to play. Since she was the youngest, our parents forced us to go along with her.
I hoped going to college would fix her since she'd be away from her parents, but she only got into community college and lived at home. I REALLY hoped transferring to an actual college with give her a chance to grow up, but then then COVID so now she's doing year 3 STILL at home.
Anyways my aunt recently called us saying that she was upset and claiming to be cyberbullied. Our parents aren't super good with technology so all they know are horror stories about cyberbullying victims. So they asked me (since I'm closest in age to her) to talk to her and figure out what's happening.
Turns out she made a post about how white people who cosplay Asian characters are racist and perpetuating yellowface and they need to stop. And she topped it all off by pulling pictures of random white cosplayers and "calling them out".
This post got traction and a bunch of people started pointing out how this was incorrect and in general disagreeing with her. She immediately accused everyone who disagreed with her as racist and she was Chinese so she had final say. Then Chinese people from Asia disagreed with her, and she started talking about how they don't count because they aren't Chinese-Americans and don't have to experience life as a minority. And then other Chinese-Americans disagreed with her, and she started talking about how this was her personal feelings so there.
I was like, ok so where's the bullying? And there wasn't. It was literally people just commenting, telling her she's, wrong, or messaging her and telling her she's wrong. Some with varying levels of civility.
But apparently she was so distressed by people disagreeing with her she locked her account to followers only and made this dramatic post about how she's taking a break to protect her mental health.
I flat out told her she wasn't being cyberbullied. Her "mental health" problems come from experiencing shame and embarrassment for the... keep reading on reddit ➡
My cousin is very famous. Yes, you have heard of him, and no, I won't tell you who he is. We'll call him Terry.
When we have family functions (mainly for holidays), Terry likes for them to be only family so he can "be himself" and get drunk and pass out on the couch and share Hollywood gossip with us, otherwise he feels like he is being interviewed and having everyone talk to him or want a picture and he has to "be in promo mode." He said it's because he was tired of having to meet strangers and not be able to let loose and there were some issues of these partners taking pics of him or spreading gossip.
I hated this at first because I would be dating some chick and she would want to get to meet him and it's awkward to tell them they can't come to family events and they get mad that they never get to meet him (my tinder has a pic of me with Terry). But I get it so I was fine with it. Until this year.
I began dating this chick in August. I couldnt bring her to Thanksgiving, fine. But when I walk in, I see another cousin, "Danielle", has brought her boyfriend "Steve" EVEN THOUGH they've been together for less than a year!!! They got together over New Years and engaged on Halloween.
Terry was fine with this because he's met Steve before (old family friend) even though I've been told that no exceptions are allowed to his rule. Thanksgiving sucked because the whole time I was mad that I once again wasn't allowed to bring my gf.
My gf consoled me after and I realized that she is my soulmate. Two weeks ago, I proposed and we got engaged.
Xmas was at my aunt's. Im a believer in "ask for forgiveness, not permission" so I brought my fiancée because she had nowhere else to go and I wanted her to meet my family. We walk into the house and all hell breaks loose.
Everyone was asking who she was and scolding me about the rules, and Terry flipped out. He was already buzzed (and looked 20 pounds heavier than he usually presents himself) and started yelling at me for doing this to him. He didn't seem excited at all about my engagement or willing to introduce himself to her.
Our grandma was telling Terry to get over it and asking to see the ring and saying she wish she had gotten my fiancé a gift, so grandma was on my side. But Terry was still arguing with me and said I shouldn't be allowed at any more events, and he ended up calling an Uber Black and leaving before we even ate.
To top it all off, my uncle (who has never even liked Terry) got upset because appar... keep reading on reddit ➡
When I was in my second year of university, I found out I was pregnant with my current husband’s baby. We weren’t officially dating at the time because my husband was a pretty arrogant playboy back then who only did “casual”. After the initial shock and discussions on if I would keep the baby. My husband and his family were very insistent we got married since they’re strong believers in a two-parent household and also because my FIL is a semi-public businessman and he thought this would reflect badly on him.
I said no initially for obvious reasons, but I eventually agreed to it when my FIL offered to pay off all of my student debt and make sure I could finish my degree after I had the baby. He offered me a lot of other financial incentives and we have a prenup which will make sure I’ll be okay if our marriage doesn’t work out (honestly, I had little hope). My husband actually changed a lot after we got married and after our daughter was born so we’ve been very happily married ever since.
Not many people know the real reason I got married so quickly in my family. Everyone thinks we were just really loved up and moved fast.
My younger cousin is 18 and she wants to drop out of university to marry her boyfriend of 2 years. Her parents are against this, but she keeps using me as an example of why it’s a good idea. I heard this from my mum initially and I wasn’t going to get involved since we aren’t that close, but it came up during a family zoom party and I said “actually, I got married for money” when she was talking about how our (my husband and I’s) love made things work out for us and it would be the same for them.
I received mixed reactions from my family. My cousin is devastated and said I ruined her idea of love and being in a relationship was pointless now. One of my uncles took it incredibly personally and said I was a gold digger and he felt awful for my husband and how he doesn’t know where my mum went wrong with me. For context: my mum was a single mother and seeing her struggle was part of the reason I agreed to getting married. A few of my other relatives said that that’s something you should keep to yourself because it’s disrespectful to my husband and our marriage. My cousin’s mum is really happy with me though.
What do you guys think? AITA?
I know it sounds bad but please hear me out. Some background: I'm 22M and my cousin is 26F. When she was a kid she stepped out in front of a car and was paralyzed from the waist down. Last thing you should know is my parents are total raisedbynarcissists material. It fucked me up as a kid and I needed a lot of deprogramming in college. I'm Happy to say I haven't picked up any of my parents self centered tendencies.
Here's the deal. Every year our whole family went on family vacations. My parents like to hike and do outdoors activities so they insisted on outdoorsy trips every year. Only my cousin and her parents wanted to go to City trips so they were always out-voted. My cousin couldn't participate so she ended up sitting in the hotel while the rest of us went out. I'm not proud of it but I used to make fun of her for wasting the vacation sitting in the hotel. I admit that wasn't the nicest thing to say. Eventually She was old enough to stay home alone so she hasn't come on the family vacation for ten years.
Now ten years later she still refuses to talk to my parents (understandable) but also won't talk to me. She says I was mean for making fun of her and not taking her side in the trips. I told her it's been ten years since she came in the trip anyway and she can't blame me for how I acted as a teenager but she just won't listen. AITA?
First off, I want to thank everyone for their comments and advice. Thank you for saying I was NTA, because I was doubting myself.
Regarding the Camp people; We have footage of them coming up to our house, and other family member's houses, looking for Jake. So we have a clear image of what they look like. I already warned those people not to come near our house or Jake. they seemed to listen, but Jake is still not going to leave the house without someone. I talked to the police about it, and they cannot do anything unless these people break the law, but they will keep an eye out. Well, better than nothing, I guess.
Regarding the Paperwork; My Aunt and Uncle refuse to hand over the papers. They want Jake to either come home or go with those people. Neither is happening. We are looking up ways to get Jake's paperwork without them, but someone suggested calling the police and explaining what happened. While I don't usually want to go that far, that is what we are probably going to have to do.
Regarding Therapy: Jake agreed to it. I am getting a referral from my own therapist, so Jake is going to get help there.
Regarding family: >Insert loud sounds of pained annoyance< Some family threaten to come over to try and make Jake go back home. Others, while understanding why I didn't tell them Jake was here, are still upset with me. It'll be a while before I can smooth things over with them.
Regarding Jake: He is safe. We have him set up comfortably here. My Granny-In-Law pretty much adopted him, and I am so sure she is going to put him in his will. He is safe, surrounded by people that support him, and I'm going to see about finding him some work when he's ready to try it.
Again, thank you everyone for your messages and Advice. we will be using them. and Jake says thank you as well.
Keljin Blevins is a 6’6 200 pound SF. He is from Hot Springs Arkansas, played his high school ball at Bidhop O’Connell and AAU at New Orleans Elite. His high school career left him an unranked prospect who signed to Southern Miss.
His freshman year at Southern Miss, he averaged 1.8/1.8/1.4/.3/.1 with shooting splits of 27/13/53 on 16 minutes per game, starting in 13/25 games.
His sophomore year he got more playing time, averaging 5.8/3.4/.7/.4/.2 with shooting splits of 34/22//64 on 22 minutes per game, starting in 24/29 games
He sat out the 2016-17 season to transfer to Montana State. In the 2017-18 season, Blevins averaged 9.7/5.8/.9/.6/.4 with splits of 42/24/68 on 25 minutes per game starting in 31/32 games
His senior year he averaged 11.8/5.9/1.6/.7/.3 with splits of 43/28/62 starting in 31/31 games. During none of his 4 college seasons his team finished above .500.
Blevins has no draft profiles anywhere, and went Undrafted in the 2019 NBA draft. However, he was drafted 15th overall in the G League Draft to the Northern Arizona Suns
Keljin Blevins G League run with the Northern Arizona Suns had him averaging 4.3/3/1/.4/.2 with shooting splits of 40/27/88 on 16 minutes per game, starting in none of his 35 games.
Blevins outstanding ability not to spontaneously combust allowed him to earn a two way deal with the Portland Trail Blazers. In a COVID year where having depth matters, the signing was confusing. Blevins has been active to play in every game due to injuries to Collins/Little, and has appeared in 3 games playing in garbage time exclusively. Somebody made a 24 second video showcasing all Blevins possessions and it was not pretty.
It’s safe to say Blevins is only on a roster due to his relationship with Lillard. As a prospect his absolute ceiling is Joe Alexander, which is disrespectful in Alexander’s case.
The last documented Blevins footage I can find is a High schooler named Luis Ruiz posting a YouTube video proud of the fact he beat Keljin Blevins in 3 v 3 on NBA 2k20.
I'm sorry if the title isn't accurate, I can't think of another description to describe the "training".
My cousin Amy (25F) has (6M) twins and has a nasty habit of dumping them onto relatives to babysit for the entire day without any warning or regard for their time. I (27F) have a very strained relationship with her but because my mom's side of the family demands that we all remain close-knit, so I have no choice to tolerate her.
When she initially gave birth to them, she teased me that I'll have to take on babysitting duty from now on. I'm no good with kids, so I remarked to her that if I ever have them, I'll train them, not babysit. She brushed me off.
The kids now are hella destructive and loud. Pulling out stuffing inside furniture, holes inside walls, smashing anything glass and porcelain, screaming louder than a fire alarm, you name it. When it was my first turn to deal with them, I immediately walked with them to the store and grabbed the biggest bag of M&M's I could find and trained them so that every time they follow my orders and behave, they get one. If they misbehave, I get one.
Soon enough, every time the kids were dumped on me, they went with my guidelines and behaved. Whenever I say sit, they sit at the table. When I say stay, they don't leave that spot, etc.
Two days ago there was a party planned with the whole extended family (I know, pandemic. Didn't want to, but mom insisted) and I grabbed the M&M's since the twins were there. Arrived, twins were being so destructive (an entire tray of food was spilled) that all the adults had enough and yelled at Amy to control them. She vomited the same excuse of them just being kids and they'll grow out of it eventually.
I shouted the twins' names and shook my M&M bag. They came running over to me and I popped 6 pieces into my mouth for their misbehavior. I told them to go clean up the mess or no candy all night. They do so.
Halfway through the party, every time something similar came up or they just weren't behaving, I was the one able to calm them down. When Amy saw what I was doing, she got angry and started yelling at me about how her children aren't animals and that I shouldn't be giving them so much candy anyway. I told her that I'm their aunt, not their parent, why am I the one disciplining them? Isn't that her job?
She screamed the same argument at me and since she's their mother, to stop giving them candy. One of the twins overheard and went apeshit. Dashed straight into... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m in the UK but I can’t remember the exact conversion for dollars to pounds so for simplicity’s sake I’m using dollars.
I spent $354 on new makeup, it was my money that I saved up to be able to use so I could get what I wanted. Admittedly not the best use of money during a pandemic but all my bills are paid and there’s no negative effects for me from spending the money.
One of my cousins lives across the road from my parents with her grandparents, she’s also into makeup and had been talking about this particular brand, the brand she was talking about is also the one I bought my order from.
My mum was talking about what I’d ordered to her grandma which isn’t unusual, mum likes to gossip to all her sister-in-laws. She mentioned the price and it was at this point my cousin came outside the house apparently she’d been listening in on the conversation and didn’t like that I’d ordered what she’d had her eye on, she knew how much the total would have been because she’d been trying to convince her grandparents to buy her basically the same stuff.
My cousin confirmed with my mum the price and then asked her why she buys me everything I ask for, my mum doesn’t it was my own money that I’d used to buy the makeup but when my mum explained this to her she didn’t believe it instead she shouted that “nobody ever buys me expensive stuff”. She stormed inside and still hasn’t left her room.
She’s been sending me messages demanding I split my order with her because I know she doesn’t get expensive makeup and it’s cruel and braggy of me to order such an expensive order during a pandemic so the least I can do is split the order with her to give her a little of the luxury she’s missing in life.
I feel bad that me spending $354 on makeup is making my cousin feel so bad, I didn’t realise it’d be such a big deal to her. I don’t want to be the reason my cousin is upset about her life. I think I could be TA because I am aware her grandparents have a limited income and now she’s demanding they get her the same stuff I’m getting or convince me to share with her. Her grandparents are now desperately trying to convince me to give them half my order so my cousin will stop but I’ve refused, they’re now telling me I’m making their lives twice as hard as it would have been without me being so frivolous with money. So AITA?
I'm torn on this because I feel like my attitude towards the gift/my cousin's children makes me a jerk.
Every single year without fail my cousin gifts the family items like calendars, mugs, framed pictures and t-shirts with images of her children printed on them. The whole family thinks it's tacky but they go along with it and use the items when my cousin visits.
I straight up do not like children. I will interact with them but I am very awkward around them and do not enjoy playing or being around them, and I feel that the items I recieve are just wasting space in my house especially considering I don't even like looking at them. So every Christmas for the past 6 years, I have recieved the gifts and acted grateful. Once I'm home I will put them in the bin.
My cousin visited me the other day and commented on the calendar I had on my wall (minimalistic, suited my home a lot nicer than the tacky one she gifted me). She asked where her gift was - I lied and said it was in storage somewhere. She asked me to go get it so she could hang it up and I told her I'd do it later but she was adamant that she wanted to see it on my wall. It's hard to convey how much of an ass she was being but I eventually snapped and told her I had recycled the gift because I wasn't about to use it. She asked me about the mug and I told her that I'd thrown them out. I apologised to her because I did feel really bad that it was wasteful, but I wasn't going to be the one to break the news to her that I hated her gifts since the last family member to do it ended up on the recieving end of a tantrum.
She's gone to her mom and complaing about how much I hate her kids and that I'm a child hating bitch (she doesn't know that I dislike children, this is what she's gathered from me tossing the gifts). So now my aunt and cousin have been calling me and harrassing me about how awful I am.
My paternal grandparents died in a car accident when I was a child. In their will they left their house, a lakefront cabin, to their grandchildren. At the time, that was just me. My parents had barely hung onto their own house in the recession, and didn’t trust the stock market, so they turned the cabin into a rental. The plan was that when I went to college I could sell it for a hopefully higher price, plus have whatever rental income it had made.
It was a good choice. By the time I graduated high school the cabin had made enough to pay for almost two thirds of tuition. I decided that rather than sell it, I’d use student loans, and pay them off with future rental income. I'm a junior now and if things keep on as they are, I will pay off the loans two years after I graduate.
The trouble started a year ago when my paternal aunt married a man with two teenage sons. They’d used the cabin a few times before the marriage, as I always let family use it, but after they started going monthly. I tried to be patient because I knew COVID was making us all stir crazy, but their visits made it difficult for me to sanitize the cabin. We started having quibbles over when they could go.
Then I went up to prep for a new client and I found a mess, one made after I cleaned up from my last guest. The keypad logs show my aunt’s code. She had not told me her family would be there. I called her to ask why she hadn't asked to use the cabin or cleaned up and she said we should talk in person.
My parents and I go to her backyard (social distancing and all) and she first made my cousins apologize for leaving the cabin a mess. They revealed they were there alone and I told them that can’t happen: no one under eighteen can stay in the cabin unsupervised, per the rental license.
Rather than address this, she told me she was very frustrated with how I treated the family cabin like it was mine alone. It was for all the grandchildren so her sons now owned a third each.
I almost passed out but my parents jumped in and told her no, that’s not how inheritance worked. They had specifically asked the estate lawyer about this and she’s said that beneficiaries had a time limit to claim their inheritance and once it was distributed it was final. The cabin was mine alone, legally.
My aunt freaked out and said I was being greedy. Grandma and grandpa wanted us to share and I should teach my cousins the business so that the cabin could pay for their college too. It became a big fight and my u... keep reading on reddit ➡
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I served in SWCC, Special warfare combatant-craft crewmen. We operate small patrol boats, and we work with SEALs, usually the people getting the SEALs in and out of places. Our training is quite similar to theirs, and when I heard that my cousin was getting married to a SEAL and when I heard about him, I knew he was a phony. The stories that were relayed back to me, and the shit I've seen from his post was just bullshit. I also heard that my nephew did more pull ups than him, 5, so I know that's horseshit. There's no Navy SEAL who can only do 5 pull ups. Bare minimum is like 10 or 15 to even get into basic training.
I never got to meet this guy, and I think he was actually avoiding me because whenever I showed up he always left. I told everyone in the family my concerns, most just ignored me saying i misinterpreted what happened, I'm not a SEAL so i wouldn't know, these ignoramuses were just so stubborn. Well I knew the only way to expose this fucker is to get outside help so I contacted Don Shipley, who is a former navy SEAL and he has a bunch of social media accounts and websites where he posts content of him exposing hundreds if not thousands of fake navy SEALs either by approaching them or calling them and blasting them online. Anyone who suspects someone of being a fake SEAL can submit their info to Don Shipley, he will contact you back with proof of him being or not being a SEAL as he as a record to a database of every navy SEAL.
Shipley not only sends proof of him not being a SEAL, he also calls my cousin and he asks my cousin about his service. He calls him out on everything about how none of his service making sense, the main one being he said he was in seal class 111 which would've been like 40 years ago or something. I then sent this to everyone who was attending the wedding in a mass email chain. I was in one that had like 400 email addresses for the upcoming wedding attendees, as well as everyone on his facebook and ig friend's list.
I have gotten so much hate from him and his family for this and my cousin is devastated knowing this man is a fraud and a liar, so is everyone else who grew to like him. Everyone seems to hate me, i don't see why i did them all a favor
I have a cousin named L. L is a good person, everyone loves her but sometimes she's a bitch. People always want her attention but the thing is, she never reciprocates that energy. She constantly has people ringing her up and texting her but she doesn't give a fuck and always replies, about 5 days later. She never tries to socialise, people are never allowed in her room, her curtains are always closed. She sleeps in all day and does nothing. She acts like nothing matters. She's negative as hell.
My family believes, L is ill, everyone does. She's lethargic, has gotten weaker, everytime she stands up, she sways because her vision goes black, has bruises all over her body. She's a mess. She loses weight from time to time, doesn't have a healthy diet. She looks like she's on the bring of pldeath and she's kind of scary.
We've tried to get her to a doctor but she doesn't give a damn. She never does. We've begged her, we even ignored her for two fucking months but she didn't care either. When we ignored her, she continued on with her life, didn't even spare us a glance.
Her health has declined over the last SIX fucking years and she doesn't care. I'm surprised she's still alive.
This year, my family held christmas at my aunt's home, (L's mother). We came over to L's house, a week before christmas. L's house is large but didn't have enough space for all of us. L's room is big and her family decided that they'd let all the kids, sleep there and bring in another bed.
L was obviously fucking pissed and didn't allow it but it happened anyways. L didn't want a bunch of kids in her room, so my aunt comprised sending her somewhere else for the week.
I thought this was a good idea because L never spends time with us anyways. She grabs her presents on christmas and leaves to her room. I have to admit, in the moment, it felt as if we didn't need her. She never contributes to the family.
L disagreed, the family did aswell. But after my aunt and I convinced the whole family, L left. It's been now a week and no-one has heard from her. She was supposed to come back on Christmas but she has ignored everyone. Christmas was ruined because everyone was so worried looking for her.
My cousins are now angry and are blaming me and my aunt, for ruining Christmas. H... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (F24) have always lived with my grandparents up until their death, together with my younger sister and my parents.
Earlier this summer Grandpa (M 93) passed away, he had become really frail and it was a relatively peaceful thing, no drama about it. A bit before the winter holidays, my cousin (F 31) came by and introduced her girlfriend to us. We all knew she was interested in women, but she never spoke about a partner, so we just thought she wasn't looking for anyone. Her partner (F 30) is a sweet girl and she hit it off with all of us immediately, so we invited her to have lunch with us (restrictions allowed this in my country).
During lunch it actually came up that my cousing and her girlfriend had been dating for almost two years at that point. I asked her why she didn't tell us sooner and she said that she didn't want to tell us while Grandpa was alive, cause she didn't want to cause a scene or make him sad. I asked her what she meant by that. She then told me that since our Grandpa was a devout catholic he was probably at least a little homophobic and she didn't want to cause friction within the family in the last few years we had with him.
I might have gotten a little angry at that point. My Grandpa was catholic but he was absolutely not a bigot, nor an homophobe. He had a big heart and was a generous man. He actually did not get very along with the Church because their ideas were too conservative, he publicly voted in favor of abortion and divorce, was against war and the military complex. He loved all his granddaughters and I'm sure he would have loved my cousin's girlfriend as well, had he met her.
I kinda shouted at her that if she had bothered to visit him more frequently in the last years of his life she would have known that he would have been thrilled to meet her girlfriend, that her assumptions were slander of his memory. Lunch became really quiet at that point and soon after my cousin and the girlfriend left.
My mother tells me I have been an AH. My aunt is kinda cross with me and told me my cousin's partner felt a bit awkward. So, AITA?
Notes, because a few of you asked to specify these things:
a) I am bisexual myself, I'm out to my family but I've never had a girlfriend or boyfriend. I don't know if my granddad knew or even understood the concept of bisexuality.
b) While my grandparents were catholics and brought up their two children in catholicism, neither family is catholic anymore. We all are agnostics/atheists but we do liv... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm recently engaged and planning a big February 2022 wedding with the family. We'll be married a year by then. My FH cousin also just got engaged and mentioned on her FB announcement that they'll probably be getting married in a year or so as well. I'm very happy for her but I'm wondering if i should reach out at some point just to make sure our weddings don't clash in anyway, timewise or other. Of course I'm very selfish and don't want our weddings to become competitive or upstage eachother but the main thing is i haven't met any of his family yet. I'm worried if her wedding is before mine the family might get too interested in meeting my FH's new wife (i should add he's military and rarely home but they grew up close).
As I'm typing this I know i sound extremely entitled, narcissistic and my fears are probably irrational and stupid but i just want to be on the safe side and not step on anyone's toes or take away from either of our wedding's. If it only impacted mine I'd suck it up and not say anything but it's hers too.
So fire away people.