I'm tired of seeing guys on Reddit and Quora and in real life, stating things like, "Well if that woman would have just gotten an IUD" when she had an unplanned pregnancy, or "They need to provide free IUD's and better education" in countries where many poor people have pregnancies..
Firstly- poor people should be allowed to have babies too.
Secondly-- yes, I support the idea of education and free IUD's and birth control-- but female BC is not just some super easy thing and there is a problem of this being pushed on people. It's not fair to push the problem of systemic poverty and population control solely onto women by pushing them to take the pill and get IUDs. Plus we are constantly told that IUD's and birth control pills are super easy and painless and have no side effects-- and this is a lie. We need honestly from our doctors. Many women have some kind of side effect to birth control pills and this information is still skewed and dishonest. It's so hard to find research regarding mental health and birth control pills. Some studies suggest birth control is strongly correlated to depression, but even with this information, people never want to acknowledge it. They just want to keep women in charge of birth control and not support men's right to birth control. Hey, why aren't there MRA's out there fighting for more male birth control options? hmmm.. I wonder...
Also- IUD's aren't just like, wha bam, super easy breezy. Some women say they barely felt it, but many women say that insertion was extremely painful, some say even the most painful thing they've ever experienced.
I'm tried of the burden of birth control being forced only on women. We need to share this burden with men. Women tend to keep their struggles and pain regarding their female body parts, including trans women who get monthly cramps and PMS type symptoms from hormones. So when we get all these side effects we usually keep it to ourselves and collectively so. We are told our complaints are nothing. We tell our doctors and they shrug in our faces.
You can read here of women complaining about IUD insertion. What's even more sad is we are told pain is so rare and unusual, so they don't even regularly give the pill suppository to soften the cervix the day before, to make insertion easier. They should obviously give it to everyone: [https://www.reddit.com/r/endometriosis/comments/kf4ejh/is_mirena_iud_removal_as_painful_as_insertion/](https://www.reddit.com/r/endometriosis/comments/... keep reading on reddit ➡
Edit 5: Please. Read. The. Edits.
Edit 6: Stop. Jumping. To. Conclusions. Read. The. Damn. Edits.
Look, I understand why you don't want your teens to be sexually active so young. But that's the problem, they're young and dumb. They have urges and hormones. They don't always think about all the consequences of their decisions.
If they trust you enough to come to you and ask something like this and you turn them down because you don't want them to have sex, youre just screwing both of you. Think back to when you were a teen, if you really wanted to do something and your parents said "no" , were you immediatly going to accept the answer?
Pregnancy is preventable, even more so with a doctor prescribed bc. If you deny it to her, you have no right to be angry or surprised when she tells you she's pregnant, because it could have all be prevented had you said "yes".
Edit: Stop taking this post out of context. Stop compairing it to drugs and murder. Those are extremely different situations. I think some of you all are just looking to bitch about something.🤦
Edit 2: To the people saying condoms are easy to get. Yes, youre correct. However condoms can break very easily and an inexperienced person might not realise it until too late. Yes, you should always use condoms but condoms + another form of bc is best. That's what I'm talking about.
Edit 3: I'm talking about all (IUD, arm implant, ect) forms of bc, not just pills.
Edit 4: Yes, the teens are responsible for their actions. But if a teen comes to you and asks for bc then they are trying to be responsible. Getting on bc is responsible, they could go out and fuck with no protection, but instead they are taking appropriate steps to prevent accidents. And if a parent denies their child that safety then it's on them too.
Bit of backstory: my periods were INSANELY painful. I’ve been hospitalized because of them.
On to the story: (D= dad, M= bio mom, SM= entitled stepmom, G= grandma)
So when I was around 15, my SM and D where going to a BBQ for my SM’s brother. I don’t remember the occasion but it wasn’t for anything big. They asked me to come along and I told them I didn’t feel that great so I was gonna stay home.
They left and about 2 hours later I fell to the floor in COMPLETE pain. They were still out and my dogs found me on the floor. My pitbull stayed next to me while my boxer ran around for someone (yes this is important). I texted my dad telling him he needed to come home but he didn’t answer. So I texted my grandma.
OP: hey grandma I think I started my period do you have any pain killers?
G: of course I do! I’m out shopping right now but I’ll drop them off once I’m done here
Op: ok thank you.
About 5 minutes later I get a call from SM. The conversations goes as followed:
SM: why did you text your dad that?
Op: because I’m laying in the floor in pain and can’t get up.
SM: why can’t you get up?
Op: I’m on my period and this pain wouldn’t stop unless I stay curled up in a ball like this
SM: ugh fine we are coming home. But don’t EVER text your dad with that again.
Then she hung up. I waited about 15 minutes for them to arrive home. My boxer ran over to them and showed them where I was. My D picked me up and carried me to my room. My SM gets some pain killers, a heating pad and then tells me to sleep. She was mad the rest of the day and wouldn’t even look at me.
The next day we meet my M and my D tells her everything that happened. My M and I decided to start looking into birth control. We found out I can’t have the pill due to the fact I have epilepsy, so we heard about how an implant was still in testing and how it wouldn’t have an effect. So we went with that one.
I told my D and SM that I got birth control to help and my D was happy. Then my SM says “well I hope you know that means you can’t go around sleeping with everyone.” I sat there in shock that she said something like that IN FRONT OF MY DAD. I’m Demisexual which means I don’t have sexual attractions towards people I have no emotional bond with. So random stranger hookups were out the window.
Around dinner time I still couldn’t stop thinking about what she said. My dad knew that something was troubling me and said “she didn’t mean it you know. That’s not how it meant to come out.” I belie... keep reading on reddit ➡
There, I said it. I play every game knowing exactly what every choice brings so as to always make "the best ones". I'm going in blind for cyberpunk as I have this feeling that there won't always be "best" choices