"I don't want to get in a word or sentence feud with Daryl Morey, but I believe he wasn't educated on the situation at hand, and he spoke," James said at the time. "And so many people could have been harmed, not only financially, but physically, emotionally, spiritually."
What James did not know was that Morey had befriended a number of Hong Kong residents while attending business school and had intimate knowledge of the challenges they faced living in a semi-autonomous country. His decision to tweet his support was neither rash nor uninformed, but a conscious effort to express his solidarity for people he knew well.
They both get off the bus at the next stop. The pregnant woman is furious and demands an explanation. "What exactly is so damn funny?" "I'm sorry, ma'am," replies the giggling man. "But I couldn't help noticing you're pregnant, and when you first sat down, you sat under an advertisement which read 'Coming Soon: The Gold Dust Twins.' Then you sat under an ad that read 'Sloan's Liniments Remove Swelling.' Then you moved under a deodorant advertisement which read 'William's Stick Did the Trick.' And I just couldn't hold it in any longer when you moved a fourth time and sat under a tire advertisement which read 'Dunlop Rubber Would Have Prevented This Accident.'"
Weirdly more boys than girls are from what I've seen so tryna increase the sample size.
Edit: forgot to say that there's totally nothing to be self conscious about! it's hard to hear (I know, I have the same problem lol), but there really isn't any reason to :)
I’ve been really upset all day as I fit into many of the groups that her tweets were hateful and malicious about. It also really upset me that her condescending apology videos only seemed to point that she was very mad at the people who went out of their way to bring them to the public light. I don’t know anything about who unearthed them or what their motives were but at the end of the day they were on the internet (albeit hidden over the course of time) and that she wrote them. Over and over and over and over and over again.
What really has bothered me is that what she did was a conscious choice. She didn’t just think to herself “ugh I don’t like that person/that type of person” but she went out of her way to take her phone out, to type out these malicious and hateful comments, and press send so that anyone in the world could see how she truly felt in her core about so many people. Over and over and over and over and over again.
I know that she said she’s done “work” (and honestly if I watch that Instagram story once more in my life with her patronizing head bobs and hand gestures as she says “all of this wOrK” I might lose my mind) but doing work doesn’t excuse her tweeting those things, and so SO many of them. I’m starting to think that her “work” is just her learning to not tweet the hateful and racist things she has but just to direct them to her “friends” that apparently are all to blame for “making her think she has to act that way”.
Watching her “cancel CH” stickied Instagram stories this morning just made me angrier. According to her, we should build a petition to ensure she never works again. I know we all do stupid things in our younger years, but this is so much more than being an idiot teen/young adult. This is a conscious decision to belittle so many people, and a conscious decision to then blame others to make sure you come out on top and not at fault. I might be the only one who feels this way, but I don’t think any kind of apology will ever let this be forgiven by me.
Even the hardcore Busquets supporters have to admit that Busquets is more of a liability than an asset to this squad.
Let's speak the truth, Busquets was great when we had a possession heavy team. We were comfortable defending the game by keeping hold of the ball, which is beyond our reach at the moment, Busquets only had to track a few times if the opponent hit us on a counter. Also if he did, in every successful team he's been in there is always an athletic center back that has covered for Busquet's lack of pace. May it be Yaya Toure, Puyol, Mascherano, or prime Umtiti. There was always fast CB to cover up for Busquet's lack of pace. As for the midfield, we always had two ways midfielders who were comfortable on the ball and would lose it too often, which isn't the case anymore.
Hell, even Valverde saw this Busquet's decline before any of us. Rakitic who played as a no.10 in his career till Sevilla and no.8 under Lucho was being played alongside Busquets as a double pivot to overcome his lack of pace.
I get it, Busquets a Barcelona legend but what does he bring to the team right now? a few tackles and an excellent pass range. But in return, we are heavily outnumbered in the midfield. Every game that we've lost humiliatingly has been due to a loss in the midfield battle, its too easy to walk past our midfield when every successful Barcelona team has always had a world-class midfield. It's time we accept Busquets hasn't evolved with the game and the sooner we replace him with an athletic all-action defensive midfielder the better.
I've spent the past few years of my life studying at a prestigious university - and I don't say that to brag, but to give an idea of what a judgmental and competitive place it can be. Even though that I've loved makeup for a long time and usually find that it gives me so much confidence, in an academic setting I often feel quite self conscious about wearing it.
We all know that people love to create a dichtonomy between beauty and intelligence, and I find myself worrying that wearing makeup will make me seem frivolous or as though I don't take my studies seriously. If I've struggled on a piece of work, I don't wear makeup to the corresponding class in case the professor thinks that I've spent more time in front of the mirror than writing my essay, even though this makes absolutely no sense! Logically I know that I shouldn't care about this type of thing, but women in academia already struggle to be taken seriously and I can't help but notice that most of the people around me aren't wearing makeup. I don't want to stand out for the wrong reasons, especially because I already have a noticeably working class accent.
Are there any other women (or men) in this sub who are in higher education? What does your relationship with makeup look like? I also imagine that women in STEM might be able to relate to some of these feelings. How do you all navigate being unapologetically feminine in a society that undervalues femininity?
I've had this issue for many years where I don't feel comfortable around people at all, even my closest friends. I feel like I build a wall between me and the other person and like I am playing a role whenever I talk to people. It's like there's this belief in my head that people are too dangerous because if I relax even a little bit, if I open up a little bit, they will laugh at me or say some very hurtful negative comment that I will not be able to handle (I have had experiences like this when I was growing up so this is stored in my emotional memory I guess). Because of this fear I am always very quiet and reserved in social situations and it's hard for me to find friends or dating partners. The other person always feels that I am acting weird or that I think I am better than them because they can't read me and things fall apart in most cases. Behind this cold exterior, I am a warm open person and I was always making jokes at school but now I've become so self-conscious that that side of myself is almost gone now. I have to say that I have tried many things, I have tried seeing several therapists, I went to social events to meet people, I went to different psychological workshops, like workshops about expressing emotions and developing social skills and I have tried going to an improv theatre workshop. Nothing seems to help. I am wondering if anyone else has had the same issue or maybe has some advice.
I feel that this generation of people are somewhat vain, it's either about stocks or how much 1 makes or future plans or housing and etc ... that's the reason why i deleted Instagram (Constant flexing).
I just hope that the next generation of kids, parents and school will be teaching kids more about not flexing on wealth and really be HUMBLE , i remember during 2010s, Facebook were trending about post mainly about ~>
<DO NOT share your finance/promotion/relationship/achievements, be humble>
Didn't our parents taught us to be humble as kids, whatever happened to all of us?
Update 1: Read some of the comments stating that working hard now is for a better future, I gotta disagree. I'm leaning more towards... I rather have a semi alright work life balance, at least I knew I enjoyed my youth. I wouldn't want to aged badly with wealth, but no energy to travel nor explore as my body took a toll on me as my age grows.
The primary key to going out alone is to not be self-conscious about it. As long as you do not think that its weird, neither will the other person. It's only when you try to cover up the fact that you are alone and come off as being embarrassed about it, that it hurts the interaction.
Simply tell the truth, but with a strong confident frame when asked questions such as "Where are your friends?" E.g. "My friends didn't feel like going out tonight, so I came alone."
You will be surprised how often the other person may actually be impressed by your self-confidence.
When it comes be being out alone (or really anything else for that matter) do not feel the need to qualify yourself. Becoming defensive, acting ashamed or actively qualifying yourself are all unattractive traits that you want to avoid.
The ability to go out alone will free you from being reliant upon others and will allow you to take your self-improvement journey fully into your own hands.
Full Video on topic plus tips for going out alone: https://youtu.be/qyaanL7A_lY
Figured this might be of some interest since it was a large part of yesterday's discussion on PrimeCayes' show.
Note: I'm doing this on my phone after just having watched Destiny and Fanatiq's convo from last night's vod, so bear with me and excuse the atrocious formatting.
"I wanted to make [the word ‘nigga’] something that we can live by. I felt like there was no way I could stop calling myself a ‘nigga,’ just as sure as there was no way that motherfuckers was gonna stop calling me ‘nigga.’ So instead of letting them take that away from me, I took it from them. ‘Nigga’ is now mine. And when they say ‘nigga,’ they give me strength… So say it! Say it!
And all those that say I’m wrong for saying it and wanna bleep it out, they wasn’t bleeping the shit out 20 years ago, so don’t bleep the shit out now. I still see Tom and Jerrys and Popeyes with black Sambo babies and shit; they ain’t bleeping that shit out, so I’ll be damned if I bleep out ‘nigga.’ And it’s gon’ be on just like that every time, and I’m gonna say it freely just like I say ‘dude’… NIGGA. That’s MY word…”
To give a bit of background here, Tupac created the backronym N.I.G.G.A (Never Ignorant Getting Goals Accomplished) on his debut album, 2PacalypseNow, and continued his efforts to "reclaim" the word in this manner as shown by the title of his second CD, Strictly 4 My N.I.G.G.A.Z, and in various interviews such as the one above.
The following excerpt is from his Gridlock'd (comedy movie) interview.
Edit: Link to video (from 15:30)
Female Interviewer: yeah and I mean I’m sure some people who are gonna go like ‘oh it’s like a black guy and a white guy that are friends ‘ and that has nothing to do with it.
2Pac: It’s never like that, and people are gonna trip because Tim is saying nigga and I’m calling him white boy. What we try to do is like take the alcohol off the room. Once somebody keep hitting the room like this thirty times. Somebody could be saying nigga in the theatre and they gon' laugh at it because we just turned it into a comedy. We just turned it into this innocent white boy who thinks that saying nigga will get him accepted because he hears all the black guys say it and turn it into black guys just realizing what we say and how ‘white boy’ just as harmful as saying ‘honkey’ and a... keep reading on reddit ➡
My boyfriend likes really hot girls, like has his phone background as them, follows them on Instagram etc. I really don’t mind at all, these women are hot and there’s no way I would want to deprive him of looking at such beautiful beings. But sometimes it gets to a point where he has been relentlessly pointing out how hot girls are when we’re in public or just constantly showing me pictures of models, and it’s making me feel really self conscious.
If there are any guys reading this; do you think he’s hinting at me to lose weight or get a nose job or something?
And if there’s girls reading this; would you feel self conscious if your partner was doing this too or am I being silly?
She is obsessed with my boyfriend in a completely weird way. She will call him repeatedly and if he doesn’t answer the phone straight away she will start crying on the phone hysterically when he calls her back. He’s 30 years old and has a life!
She doesn’t like the fact I’m not from the same country as her and has told me infront of other family members to get plastic surgery and if I do I’ll look good. My boyfriend told her not to say that to me and she said she didn’t mean it in a bad way but a good way anyway since then I have told my boyfriend that I am not ok with her and that what she said to me is so rude and disrespectful (taking into consideration that I’m already self conscious as it is since I got bullied in school).
She also ignores every single picture my boyfriend sends her with me in it or says “she looks much better she’s gained weight and it looks good on her” to then saying I looked sickly before.
If I continue this post will be way too long but she’s done a few things throughout the years to be disrespectful and let me tell you I have been SO good to her and so loving towards her but recently I told my boyfriend I’m completely done with her. I don’t want to speak to her or even see her because every time she speaks to my boyfriend she finds a way to disrespect me. If my boyfriend praises me and says something like “shes been looking after me I was sick” his mum would then say “but you can look after yourself, I taught you that she doesn’t need to” and she gets jealous that I’m the “new” woman in his life. My boyfriend said that she is the type of possessive mother who wants to be the only woman in his life.
I’m just so tired. It would be so lovely to have her be nice to me and treat me like a daughter of her own.
I'll try to be succinct, since I'm not all that special and this is probably common.
I'm bi/switch and dating a girl. She's great, I love her, all that. She said she was a bi switch and has been with girls but any time I bring up my liking guys or wanting to bottom, she clams up and basically gets it in her head that she can't satisfy me and that I'll leave her for a guy eventually. Textbook bi-phobia, but I am not good at all this feelings/emotion stuff. I just wanna be... Y'know.
Ironically, it's this discussion we've had a dozen times that's the unfulfilling part. I don't even like guys that much, but now that I'm hiding this side, it's becoming more taboo and attractive.
The longer this goes on, the more I feel like we're sexually incompatible and that just sucks because she's totally great. Straight sex is awesome though she's much more vanilla than I am.
Okay, that's about it. Blended up not being all that succinct.
Tl;dr: girlfriend is concerned she can't fulfill my desires, which is actively preventing her from fulfilling my desires.
Edit: lots of people talking about the "Biphobia" comment. I'm no lgbt expert (kinda new here) but I had read this article the other day: bisexualindex.org.uk/index.php/Biphobia . It doesn't seem to specifically mean "predjudiced," this article talks specifically about fears of infidelity associated with bisexuality.