In these uncertain times (especially in the US) I think everyone’s feeling a little bleh. But if you’re like me, you use cooking as a way to maybe feel a little better! My favorite comfort foods are:
What’s your favorite comfort foods from your culture? Bonus points if it reminds you of a special memory or person in your life, let me know the story!
Edit: I did not expect this post to blow up! I will try and go through everyone’s responses, thank you all for sharing.
To be brief, my husband is a "macho" guy. Big, tall, muscular, I love him to death. He's an excellent husband. He rarely expresses his feelings. I never saw him cry. His father was also very stoic. I believe it's cultural. The only time I see him open up is when he's with me or when he cuddles with his cat.
We've been married for 15 years and yesterday was the first time I've seen this man breakdown. He left the front door open by accident and his cat wandered outside. Unfortunately, he got hit by a car and died on the spot.
I can't seem to find a way to comfort my husband. I know he feels extreme guilt but this was an accident. He did not want me to see, but he cried himself to sleep today. I felt gutted and powerless. I know it sounds crazy, but he was super overprotective and did everything with this cat. For example, loud music was not allowed in the house when the cat was taking a nap.
I'm just venting and painting a picture here to show how important this animal was to him.... keep reading on reddit ➡
We are genetically indistinct from humans from the last 50,000 years (arguably 200,000). If you were born 1000 years ago in Denmark, you would have happily joined a Viking warband and massacred civilians and took slaves. If you were born 500 years ago in Europe, you would think nothing of travelling to another land to take their resources and take slaves. If you were born 100 years ago in Germany, good chance you'd have fought for the Nazis and thought it a noble thing to do.
My point is, the only thing that stops us from killing each other is plenty, the comforts of the modern world (even in developing countries), abundant food, education and upbringing. You could still be you, but if you were born in a different time you would be shocked at what all humans are capable of.
Some of my comfort movies are:
Basically, whats a film you put on after a rough day - they can be legitimate masterpieces or just dumb films you secretly love. Just whatever film brings you solace!
Deep down I don't think I really ever want to kill myself but I find that having it as an option is comforting in a way. Like, it is one part of my life that I am in control of when other parts feel out of my control or too difficult to overcome. Many difficult days in my mind I just think hmm maybe if I killed myself, I wouldn't have to deal with feeling sad anymore or screwing things up in life anymore and there's always that "option".
I really hope no one here does kill themselves no matter what. Just wondering if anyone else here feels the same way?
My biggest struggle with therapy is becoming very upset and even offended when my therapist leans on solutions based therapy instead of just comforting/reassuring me. She kept saying I was being more quiet than usual last session and I just said I was feeling lonely. She goes into her usual spiel of get a job, get a hobby, get friends, get active, etc. Instead of dealing with why I feel lonely, and have for my whole life, she just tries to fix it. I’m usually pretty responsible and a workaholic so it triggers me occasionally when she really pushes a laundry list of solutions on me. She has spent about 5 sessions now just giving me the same career/life advice and to be honest I don’t want or need it. I lean on flight response so my way of dealing with things is to not deal with them by overworking, overloading my schedule, stretching myself thin, and basically exhausting myself to the point that I can’t think about trauma or socialize much. Her solutions only encourage that behavior whi... keep reading on reddit ➡
So, i am not new to this conversation. Trust me, all of my friends are girls. But as a guy, it is still embarrassing to talk about. But I'd like to know how to be helpful to my girlfriend while she is on her period. I know somewhat a lot about it(friends that are girls...) But I'd like to know how to help her more.
Edit: thank you all for helping me to be less awkward around my girlfriend while she is going through it. This has helped a lot and I will try my best to use all of the suggestions, but first ask her which one would help more. Thank you all.
My ex wife and I have a thirteen year old son. He’s deathly afraid of thunderstorms and has been since he was little. The other night, when he was over at my house, a huge storm rolled in. He wound up sleeping with me that night because it was the only way he’d calm down.
When he went to his mother’s house a few days later, I got a call from her. She asked me how he did with the storm, then got onto me for sleeping with him. She told me that it’s okay to tuck him in whenever there’s a storm, but sleeping with him will make him soft.
I tried to tell her that it was the only way he would calm down, but she wouldn’t listen. She literally wouldn’t let me talk, she just kept shushing me. After a few minutes of this, I blew up. I cussed her out for about 5 minutes, I finished the call, saying that I can comfort him however he wants.
I’ve never done that to her before and I feel extremely bad. I was just mad that she went out of her way to tell me what to do at my house.
Edit: I’m star... keep reading on reddit ➡
That 99% of all species to have existed on this planet are now extinct — that extinction is the rule, not the exception. That, within reason, no matter what we do and given sufficient time, new life will proliferate, producing new intelligence. That, especially, whatever second attempt the Earth makes at civilization will have the archeology of ours to warn against collapse. Humans are something the earth is doing — as natural as anthills — and maybe it takes planets a few runs to transcend spacetime and join whatever convention exists in the cosmos. Our lives will be harder than those of our parents, but theirs were easier than those of maybe any humans ever, so what permanence are we mourning? Life is suffering, which is to say short of what we’d see from it by definition, so ultimately this is okay — this is just how it goes — and I’m happy to have been on this world with all of you.
I find myself rewatching tv shows that really fucked my head up and lasted a long time. I go back to my own “classics” whenever I’m feeling like I’m losing my balance. Tv shows mostly. But movies, books, any kind of series.
It’s almost like I know and expect the roller coaster and I ride it to remind myself I can survive emotional roller coasters. I don’t know.
Previously enjoyed shows feel compulsively safe.
Get out of your comfort zone more and you will be greatly rewarded. We all too often forget to try new things out of fear of leaving our comfort zone; however, the greatest glory is accomplished out of that zone.
Edit: Thank you for the awards!! Much love to you and all that have contributed :)
Cross posted from Military by request.
Germany in the 80's.
There was a yearly recurring nightmare called "REFORGER" wherein NATO brought reinforcements into Germany from all over the globe to demonstrate how "badass" we were.
It was 6 weeks of smelly armpits, grey undergarments and mud.
I was in a small Aviation company and was their de facto liaison officer (and aviator extraordinaire) for these affairs because of my intimate knowledge of the local culture and ability to arrange military affairs.
I was responsible for site improvements, which meant finding and arranging better field sites.
A major part of this was to coordinate with the local Porta-Potty Purveyors so that adequate facilities were available.
One fine day, our Battalion Commander visited and observed how well set up our location was. He was particularly interested in our toilet facilities. Once he had returned to HQ, it was announced that we would be relocating, that night, to a completely unimproved mud hole an... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm looking at buying my first sleeping bag for backpacking and am looking at a few of the Aegismax offerings. The M3 is in my price range and looks to be pretty well reviewed, and it's comfort rated to 32 degrees F. I plan on backpacking places with nightly lows from the low 60s to high 20s (skewed towards higher temperatures, though). Will the M3 be too warm for low-60s weather? If so, how warm can I go with a 32 degree-rated bag? I'll likely be using a Z-Lite SOL as well. I know a lot of this is subjective and depends on how you sleep, but I can't say with any confidence how warm of a sleeper I am.
Edit: Okay, ignore everything I wrote above. Thank you those who suggest buying a bag rated ~10 degrees lower than the expected weather lows. However, my main question still remains: if I now buy a 20-degree rated bag (as suggested), in how warm weather can I use that bag and still be comfortable? How much warmer than a bag's rating can I go? I'm not asking how muc... keep reading on reddit ➡
TLDR: At a birthday dinner with family, my Nmom loudly made a hurtful (and seemingly stupid) comment that made me burst into tears... and it’s the straw that broke the camels back
Today was my (f26) birthday. A little background— I have spent my past 5 birthday out of town/away from family but this year I did not plan a trip due to COVID. I know birthdays aren’t that big of a deal to most people, but it’s super important to me. Ever since I was 16 I have wanted to commit suicide and truly never thought I’d make it to 18 or 21... much less 26. I still struggle with extreme depression/anxiety/self esteem issues but no longer plan to kill myself.
Now this part is really hard for me to type because it deeply hurts my feelings... but due to the way I make sure I enjoy my birthday (and even knowing WHY I try to make it special for myself) I’ve become the family joke and labeled a “birthday brat”. That comment hurts my feelings and they know that. Every year, they joke about how I’m s... keep reading on reddit ➡
I often just don't have much at home especially now that I avoid grocery shopping (cannot deal with the behaviour of the majority in my town). Beside that I do suffer from mental health issues so on some days I really just can't be bothered to use something else than my microwave or minioven or other easy to use things. And sometimes I really need some comfort food.
I start: Mine are 1. fried noodles/rice, 2. chicken/ beef soup, 3. baked toast or microwaveable meals.
The problem here is that I can't have all of these every time I could need them, like yesterday when I just open the fridge and pantry door all the time until I give up, had nothing for the 3. situation except baked toast but ugh, not again. New ideas would be great!
So what are your favourite ones meals in these 3 categories that I could potentially adapt?
Edit: Want to say thank you already for all the good and yummy answers. :) That really is some quite awesome help for those days when I just can't or don't want t... keep reading on reddit ➡
My entire life I've always put off hard work. In school and uni I always did assignments at the last minute, and rarely pursued hobbies that required focus and effort, rather played games and watched tv.
Now I'm around 29 and well into my professional career, and I've felt like I've started to fall behind my peers who I went to uni with, and I blame my inability to work hard.
I've really struggled since starting work to stay focused, and to just work hard at least from 9-5. Any opportunity to bludge off I take it, and this is damaging because I always take longer than I should to finish work, and I miss opportunities to learn and increase my knowledge because I always look to do the bare minimum.
Recently I started reading atomic habits and it's great, I've taken some of the practices outlined in the book and started to form better work habits. But now I'm about 3 weeks in to my improvement journey and I'm finding myself drifting off my goals again.
It feels SO HARD to just lock in... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have one soft blanket in particular I love. It's like a gift to my inner child. Everytime I touch it I feel at ease.
Also love big firm pillows, sitting on the couch playing fornite and other ps4 games...and generally feeling warm and cozy.
Wonder if this has to do with self soothing and nurturing on a deep level...my mother was quite cold!
TLDR: Tell me about that experience when you left your gaming comfort zone and give me and others the courage to do the same!
I believe as in real life everybody has got a kind of gaming comfort zone.
These are the kind of game genres you like, you know how to get into and you just feel good and safe about (for me these games are (puzzle)-platformers, tower defense games, digital card games, sometimes FPS; basically games that you can start quickly and stop playing at anytime).
However I also believe that it is worth a try to LEAVE YOUR GAMING COMFORT ZONE. Yes I know - it sounds really scary when you read it for the first time - but hear me out. When you leave your gaming comfort zone you might find NEW ADVENTURES, NEW JOY and maybe you even LEARN THAT YOU ARE ABLE TO DO THINGS THAT YOU NEVER IMAGINE YOU COULD! I know that sounds awesome and that's why I want to experience it more - and maybe you want that too?!
Here are some examples from my gaming life and my thoughts why... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm a 5'6'' 135lb woman looking for a good sun hoodie. I am thinking of getting the PTC hoodie but notice that the men's version is less expensive and comes in better colors than the women's. Do any women on here own the men's version? Does it still fit you well?
i often stick to the conservation of energy and think that our brains are just vessels for our "souls" or whatever you want to call it. but obviously there's no proof to this. and if i'm being totally honest i just need comfort. death is my biggest fear, whether it's in other people or animals, it terrifies me to my core, and makes me feel so hopeless. growing up with parents who have never talked about religion with me, or pushed any beliefs on me, i'm obviously insanely grateful, but also lost and don't know where to start.
Tell us about your day and whatever is on your mind!