Hi UKPF, how you doing?
I'm just dropping by to explain why some comments have been removed. I've been meaning to write this post for ages but, y'know, life. Also, the moderation line on this will be unpopular with some people, for a variety of reasons. Please feel free to use this thread to let me know (politely) if you disagree and why, but understand that the moderation direction is wildly unlikely to change.
There has been a fairly significant uptick in injoke/meme comments along the lines of:
> You need a sidehustle? Onlyfans
> You are a woman? Why not onlyfans, lol
> Once you’re at the end of the flowchart, hookers and coke!
I’m sure there are more, but these are the topics I’m going to talk about today specifically.
I think about statements like the ones above, and I think: Reddit is overwhelmingly male, personal finance forums are overwhelmingly male when thinking about inclusion, the question we want to be able to answer for people that aren’t here already is “does this feel like a place for people like me?”.
Whilst they, to a greater or lesser degree may seem harmless, they contribute to a feeling of “old boys club” that I would much rather we collectively avoid as a community.
Of course, one counter-argument might be:
> But women pay men for sex. Men have onlyfans!
and it is absolutely possible for women to pay women for sex, men to pay men, and women to pay men. However, the overwhelming majority of sex work is women serving the “needs” of men.
The main issue is that “hooker” is itself a derogatory term for (specifically female) sex workers, and is synonymous with whore, slut, etc.
The onlyfans comments are clearly over this line, too.
So, with all of this in mind, we will be auto-removing comments along these lines without warning, and linking to this thread. No new rule, just enforcement of rules 1 and 6. Whilst we won’t be handing bans out automatically here, repeated removals will lead to bans.
Often these things get appended to otherwise helpful, genuine comments as a sort of throwaway meme. If you find yourself reading this and feel like that describes your situation, remove the reference and message the mods, and we will re-approve the comment for you.
Edit: to be clear, this is not a judgement or indictment of sex work or drug use. The sub has provided valuable help to people with issues surrounding both of these many times in the past and posts involving either won’t be removed as part of this as long as th... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have never done coke. My boyfriend of 3 years has always told me that he’s tried coke a handful of times before he met me, that he hadn’t done it while we’re together. Knowing that I mind it and think it’s unhealthy, turned out he’s always kept it a secret from me for the last 3 years and done it and lie to me a few times.
Yesterday he told me he’s at work, when I went there and he wasn’t there, I checked find my iPhone on our iPad and found him doing coke and watching porn in his car on a quiet street. I knocked on the window and he was shocked and immediately embarrassed beyond belief.
He came clean to me and said he got so frustrated with work, and he was weak and couldn’t deal with the stress so he broke and did it for the third time that week yesterday. Apparently he bought a bag on his own this Saturday, after drinking and snowboarding with a friend, did it all night while lying to me that he’s hanging out with that friend still; he then did it on Wednesday night after I’d gone to bed, doing it while lying to me that he’s going to get some food; then during the following day, when work got too frustrating on Thursday, he bought a large bottle of liquor and did it all day yesterday until he got caught by me.
This is not the only binge he’s lied to me about. If what he told me is true, April 2019 he was abusing it too, doing it while at this then corporate job 3 times a day one week; and doing it during coachella in the bathroom hiding it from me. And when we lived with our old roommate, there had been a couple incidences they’d party until the morning and do it downstairs and he would lie to me.
He feels bad about it, he’s been crying yesterday and felt a lot of remorse for lying to me for so many years. He said he was pushing it so far this week somehow he knew he’d either have to tell me or get caught. idk if he would have told me...
I have so many mixed emotions. I couldn’t sleep and cried all night. Hurt, anger, betrayal, worrying for his physical health and mental health, and seriously questioning his ability to cope with problems without having to turn to substances. Our relationship is getting pretty serious with a couple talks in the last month about buying a house and children in a couple of years, and I want a responsible partner, and his actions scare me. I am most worried about his avoidance and inability to handle stress and problems at times and turn to drugs and alcohol.
Tomorrow is his birthday and I paid for and planned an... keep reading on reddit ➡
I've been learning about the glycemic index and glycemic load and feel I have a good understanding of what they mean. I've been trying to find out what the GI or GL of a can of Coke Zero Sugar is and came across an article "What Everyone Must Know About Coke Zero and Diabetes". The article says "... researchers have found that people who regularly consume fake sweeteners have a dramatically increased risk of metabolic syndrome." The article goes on to say, "Basically, the more super sweet tasting sodas a person drinks (even if the sweetness is not coming from real sugar), the more they crave that same taste again. This can lead to overeating high calorie, high carb foods, which increase your blood sugar levels and may result in gaining even more weight."
Here's what I'm not sure about. If this article is true, is the metabolic syndrome brought on by the mere presence of the artificial sweeteners found in a can of Coke Zero (and the body's reaction to those sweeteners) or is it brought on as a result of eating high calorie and high carb foods which the article claims result from consuming those sweeteners? If one consumes one or two cans a week but otherwise follows a fairly strict low GI diet, is one still in danger of developing this metabolic syndrome? Thanks!