So I’m currently 5 months pregnant and recently have been getting God- awful nausea. Like the nausea is unbelievable and it’s hard for me to even find things I like or want to eat most days in fear that I’ll puke it back up right after.
I had a difficult 12 hour day at the office (I’m a social worker) and the only meal I got to eat today was dinner because I actually had a bit of an appetite (grilled cheese and chicken noodle soup, ginger ale).
My husband thought it would be cute/hilarious to Dutch oven me the second I crawled into bed this evening, and hold me under the covers for more than 10 seconds.
I ended up vomiting EVERYWHERE because of the smell. If you drink beer, you know what beer farts smell like. Vomit got all over the sheets, comforter, bedside table, myself, him, and the carpet.
Well, he finally let me go after that and started yelling at me that I made a mess while I was still heaving and taking off my pajamas so I could take a shower and wash the vomit out of my hair. I just screamed back at him to clean it and that it was his fault. His response? He’s not cleaning it because it’s “gross” and it was MY vomit. I slammed the bathroom door, called him an ass and told him I was carrying HIS child and have been feeling like shit this whole pregnancy. I just went into the shower and washed myself off, not hearing a response from him. After I got out of the shower and dressed myself in clean pajamas, I noticed he was gone. I texted him, He went to his sister’s house and told her what had happened. I texted her and she told me it was a prank and I was being a bitch to him and got too upset. I’m fuming right now. AITA?
I can’t count how many commercials I have seen lately from gyms, restaurants, hair salons etc all boasting and raving about how clean their establishments are....Ok... good for you? You keep a broom handy and kill germs with Clorox. Congratulations! This shouldn’t be an incentive for business, it should be expected.
We live in a clown world.
If things have gone sour but you think they're on shaky ground, hold your nerve and stay the course. Your future self will thank you for it.
Edit: Lots of debate about whether you are getting fired, laid off, terminated, fired for cause, or whatever. The point is: you don't make your situation better by quitting right before they fire you. Their documentation will be the same: terminated for xyz.
Edit2: The 'severance package' might amount to just securing a supportive reference for your next job.
This seems like a dumb problem but I'm being threatened with CPS over it.
Everyone in my house has chores. I am a stay at home mom so I have the majority of them but my husband has chores like take out the trash, and clean the litterboxes. My son, Ron, has a few chores like helping with the laundry, loading the dishwasher, keeping his room clean, wiping the table and feeding the cats. Nothing too hard. One big rule I have is everyone picks up after themselves. I make it known that I am not the maid nor the only one living in the house so everyone will do their part.
This hasnt really been a problem, especially with our chore chart, until recently. Ron is not my husbands bio child and he goes to his dads one weekend a month. After coming back from his dads last time, Ron informed me all the chores where MY job and he didnt have to help, that his dad said so. I told him that this is not his dads house, that he has responsibilities here and I would not do his chores for him. Well, Ron went on strike. This is fine, his chores dont get done, he doesnt get his allowance.
Welllll the problem escalated and Ron started throwing trash on the floor, smashing food into my carpet, and would dump drinks out. This came to a head this past weekend when I was fed up with the behavior. I took away his tablet and made him clean the house by himself, only helping with things he couldnt do on his own. It took him all day. That night, I talked to him about how hard it is to clean the house and it has to be a team effort.
I was telling my family about it and word got out. I have been threatened with CPS, called an abusive parent, and called a b word. I really dont think I was in the wrong but I'll leave it for you to judge.
Edit: I cant believe this blew up like this. Some info that alot are asking for.
Ron is perfectly capable, and usually content with his chores. The only ones he does on his own is wiping the table, feeding the cats, and cleaning his room. He helps me fold laundry and loads the dishwasher, other than knives and everything is plastic, with me right next to him helping. This is far from too much for a 6 year old.
I also have plenty of chores I do. Apart from the few things my son does and the few things my husband does, which by the way is not even close to enough to run a household, I live on a ranch. So not only do I do a majority of the inside tasks, I do all of the outside tasks, plus I'm homeschooling Ron and in classes myself. What more do you want?... keep reading on reddit ➡
This happened to me when I was a field tech for a commercial restaurant repair company. The company charged $110 hr. port to port. meaning from the time I left the shop till I returned. Being from the Southwest I resemble much of the BOH staff and working on ovens, I was usually dirty as well. On this particular day, the Chef had called in a service call for a convection oven that wasn't working and I had just finished ordering the parts when some top brass from the front office came in the kitchen to harass the BOH staff I suppose. One dude in a pair of khakis and a button-up asked me why the ovens were as dirty as they were, and I said, got no idea." Well, you need to get them cleaned up!" Now usually I would have told him to kiss my ass and walk out but this particular day I decided to help him out, so I stayed a couple of hours and cleaned up his oven... At $110 dollars an hour. Of course, he disputed the invoice and threatened not to pay, but I had parts on order for another piece of equipment and if you don't pay, I don't come back and put your shit back together, so yeah, he paid.
>It's been two months sinc, Sorry for the long post, I have a lot on my mind and I'm scared, and emotional, 4 days ago the love of my life let me back in, and now I feel shut out, thank you to everyone who reads and has any advice, it means a ton.
Regardless of what happens I'm proud to say I have 60 days clean today.
I'll make a long story short, she left 4 months ago with our daughter to stay with her family, where she currently is still at. I went to treatment recently for 45 days, and I've been out for only 8 days with 60 days clean today. During this period she had a 1 month thing with a guy that ended up being a piece of shit but they slept together, which I knew before asking but it still hurts. Since i got out 8 days ago, we immediately started re-connecting and spending time with my daughter almost daily. We decided to not see other people and take it slow, I have a lot of trust to build back.
But 2 nights ago she told me that I've been too focused on her or us rather than working on myself, and she's right. I have been completely focused on us rather than myself and I know what she wants to see is me becoming my own good person, then she said she's just overwhelmed and we went too fast (We were physically all over each other right away) and that our endgame is still us but she can't right now. Or needs it to slow way down, and hasn't barely said a word to me since that phone call. She said we were in the "honeymoon phase and got caught up in it"
We have a baby together, All I want is our family, to be a good dad and partner. Not seeing my daughter whenever she has time, or not working towards rebuilding the things that I broke in our relationship. I know she's right, but I'm scared that if I work on me and not at least slowly build back our relationship it won't happen. We have a daughter, I need to be there to be a dad. Not a once a week dad, I just don't know what to do.
**TL;DR: I'm pretty sure that from what she said, she may just need space to work on herself? I know as an addict instant gratification and I love her. The advice I was given was to work on me, be the best dad I can whenever I can, and when she's ready things will fall into place. I'm just scared that she will change her mind, and a million other things. I'm just confused how we went from so happy for a week loving each other to her saying she's overwhelmed and we went way to fast and need to focus more on me than us right now. Thank you to anyone who read this... keep reading on reddit ➡
Edit: just because you don’t have a problem cleaning your house doesn’t mean others don’t. This hack is useful for lots of people including disabled people and those who suffer from mental illness.
Here’s how I make my wipes if anyone is wondering: I mix water, vinegar, alcohol, and lemon essential oil (for scent) in a big mason jar. Then I add square pieces of fabric and stuff them into the jar until it's full. When you turn the jar upside down and shake it, all of the liquid gets absorbed by the fabric. After I use a wipe it goes in a bin in the laundry room with the rest of my cleaning rags and I wash them.
He’s a longtime friend but we have always hung out at my place, so I had no idea he was so neat and respectful as an ongoing roommate.
After many years with previous roommates where chores and cleaning up were a constant issue and I was doing 90% of the work... I keep waking up to him having done the dishes and taken the recycling and trash. EVEN WHEN it’s my turn.
He’s just doing it because he’s a nice person. There’s no resentment or games. He gets to my chores before it’s even my time to do them, because I go to bed early and clean in the morning. He likes to stay up late and he just cleans up. He is just... a nice... helpful person.
I’m chronically ill and in bad health right now, and he is making my everyday life so much better.
I’ve told him how much I appreciate him and we are gaming every night together with lots of quality time. Since I can’t go shout from the rooftops I HAVE A NICE AND HELPFUL AND CLEAN ROOMMATE, I brought this to you Reddit :)
Tell me your good roommate stories?
ETA: Omg thank you for all the awards! I have so many stories and kind words from people, I am reading through them all and I appreciate everyone so much. And I’ll give my roomie some extra appreciation :) :)
ETA2: Shoutout to all the good roomies out there! I also want to give some love to my other roomie, my wonderful partner of nearly four years who contributes so much to our household, and is currently playing Hades obsessively as the two of us watch (please ping me if you’ve met Than).
I’m fortunate to have TWO awesome roomies. But I assure you there’s a great platonic love story here with helpful cleaning roomie, because he’s my oldest friend in life. We met in seventh grade and we’re in our late 30s now, but only just got to live together this year. Bonded forever!
Wishing you all a happy and clean home!
ETA3: I did the dishes today before he could do them bwahaha