What do our parents who listen to conservative media believe is going to happen in the coming weeks?
Today, my mother put in our family group text, “God bless all!!! Stay close to the Lord these next few weeks, something big is coming!!!”
I see in r/insaneparents that there seems to be a whole slew of conservative parents giving ominous warnings of big events coming soon, a big change, so be safe and have cash and food stocked up. Example: https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/kxg9mv/i_was_raised_in_a_doomsday_cult_my_mom_says_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I understand that it’s connected to Trump politics and some conspiracies, but how deep does it go?
I’m realizing that my mother is much more extreme than she initially let on the past couple years, and it’s actually making me anxious.
What are the possibilities they believe in and how did they get led to these beliefs?
Edit: well this got a lot of attention while I was asleep! I do agree that this is similar to some general “end times” talk that I’ve heard before from some Christian conservatives whenever a Democratic is elected. However, this seems to be something much more. I also see similar statements of parents not actually answering when asked about it, that’s definitely the case here. Just vague language comes when questioned, which I imagine is purposeful, so that it can be attached to almost anything that might happen.
Edit2: certainly didn’t expect this to end up on the main page! I won’t ever catch up, but the supportive words are appreciated! I was simply looking for some insight into an area of the internet I try to stay detached from, but realized I need to be a bit more aware of it. Thanks to all who have given a variety of responses based on actual right-wing websites or their own experiences. I certainly don’t think that there is anything “big” coming. I was once a more conspiracy-minded person, but have realized over the years that most big, wild conspiracy theories are really just distractions from the day-to-day injustices of the world. However, given recent events, my own mother’s engagement with these theories makes me anxious about the possibility of more actions similar to the attack on the Capitol. Again, I’m unsure of which theory she subscribes to, but as someone who left the small town I was raised in for a city, 15 years ago, I am beginning to realize just how vast a difference there is present in the information and misin... keep reading on reddit ➡
The moment the 14 year old girl who was banned from this subreddit (I'm sure you all know the story now. Someone in the comments will link an explanation I'm sure) pedophiles have won. You have proven that coming out about being sexually harassed will be punished. You made the pedophile who had made this girl absolutely miserable get away with his crime. You decided to take the side of a 40 year old man even though this subreddit isn't made for people like him. The mods have abandoned the people r/teenagers was made for. I do not give a shit if you ban me, I'm leaving in December 5 which will be my 20th birthday. If a situation like this happens again I suggest we make a new subreddit, one which has a zero tolerance policy against pedophilia. God hearing this news has ruined my night. Screw you mods. You're all depraved horrible human beings.
ETA: I guess this a thing I need to do but no I don’t and will not give permission for this to be used in and YT videos or anything else.
The background details: my (42F) husband (46M) and I have been married for 21 years. Three months ago, I discovered that he had been cheating on me pretty much the whole time. He has two children with another woman (13F) and (6M) and this woman is now pregnant again; she claims all three kids are my husband’s and he has not disputed that. For anonymity details, I won’t say how I found out, but I was and am absolutely devastated.
I’ve decided that I’m divorcing my husband, but I can’t afford to move out until April when I get my yearly bonus from my workplace. So for now, we are still living in the same house (I am sleeping in the guest room). I have made it very clear to him that I want nothing to do with the children and I don’t want them in the house.
Now, the judgement: I work from home right now because of Covid. But if there is an emergency I can and will be called into work.
Last Tuesday I was still half asleep when my work phone went off. I answered it and it was my boss. He needed me in the office ASAP. I jumped up and got dressed. I do remember my door being open which was weird because I sleep with it shut, but I was in such a rush I didn’t pay much attention to it.
I rushed downstairs and who do I see? My husband’s kids in the living room. I immediately got upset but I didn’t have time to confront him. So I just left. I went to work and tried not to think about it. Me and my other two coworkers who had been called in were able to resolve the emergency.
I then went home to find the kids gone and my husband and my SIL (husband’s sister, F39) waiting for me. They both LOST it at me. My husband started screaming that the younger boy had fallen down the stairs because I left the kids alone. I had no idea what was going on. It took me a minute but finally I worked out that my husband had woken me up early this morning to see if I’d watch the kids. Apparently I said yes and then fell back asleep. I have NO MEMORY of this conversation.
I was pissed. I told him that I’d told him I didn’t want the kids around me and that it was his own fault for asking me when I was half-asleep. I said I’d seen the kids that morning but that I’d assumed he was around somewhere and I hadn’t had time to talk to him. My SIL jumped in then and said that it was my fault because I didn’t check to see if there was another adult a... keep reading on reddit ➡
After an incident regarding my two nephews Christmas gifts last night, I’ve noticed that I’m under no obligation to let kids win at video games. I think it would be equally stupid to let them win at board games, or arm wrestling, or whatever.
Life sucks, there are people that are better at things than you are. I’m not a super great video game player myself, and you know what, that’s fine. There are players better than me and if I want to beat them I need to get better. That’s just something to know in life.
I might be swayed on this if they were my own children, but seeing as I don’t have those I don’t think you can change my mind here.
Edit because of the butthurt in this thread: if you’re going to make up stories about things that didn’t happen, at least be original with your insults. Kids had fun. Mother got pissed. Playing again next weekend and trust me I’m not throwing those games either.
My parents divorced when I was 15 because my dad had been cheating on my mom with a co-worker of hers. My younger brother was 13 and my sister was 12. I became estranged from him around that time. My siblings followed suit. My full siblings anyway. I have two half siblings who are older than me and my other siblings. They were jerks to us because we were angry our dad hurt our mom, etc. And they made it clear if we didn't want our dad they didn't want us. So ever since I consider him my estranged father and not even my dad.
I am now married and I have two little boys. I only see my father and his wife once every three years or so when there's a paternal family event of some kind. Last year there was a milestone birthday for my grandpa and throughout the day people went to see him. When I was leaving my father showed up and he saw that I had kids. After that he tracked me down on social media and started saying how he and his wife would love to be grandparents and how she was unable to have kids, so no bio grandkids and all that stuff. I replied once and told him that he could ask his other kids if she could be grandma to their future kids because they were not welcome in my life or the life of my kids. He responded several more times but I just ignored him.
He then decided to get my great-aunt involved and say that my boys deserve to have more loving grandparents if they grandparents are willing and that I made his wife cry when I wrote what I did and I was insensitive. My reply was she was insensitive to sleep with a married man with three children but apparently that was no big deal. And it goes beyond that. To how she treated my mom at work while the affair was happening. She even got fired over it because she was bullying another colleague of my moms too. It's not the type of family I want around my kiddos. They'll be fine with a loving grandma from me and two loving grandpa's from their dad.
So tell me AITA for what I said?
ETA: Two kids was meant to be three. It was a typo. Sorry. My father has five kids total. Three with my mom. Two with a woman before he married my mom.
My 14 year old doesn't like to hug. He never has been a cuddly child- even at home a fist bump is the closest touch he wants. (Even as an infant he would push away from hugs). It's a sensory thing for him- if that makes a difference.
When we visit relatives (other than during covid) my MIL, grandparents, etc would get annoyed that I never made my kids "hug grandma goodbye". I always say "say goodbye to grandma" and I don't force contact.
My grandmother and MIL feel it's disrespectful and there is nothing wrong with hugging grandma. And I'm being too lenient because I don't insist on hugs. I'm sticking with it being the child's choice to hug if and when they want. I respect that every child should have control over their own bodies. (This goes for all 4 of my kids, not just the 14 year old- he's just the one that never will hug grandma). MIL and Gma both comment regularly how sad it makes them when grandkids won't even give them a hug.
Side note- he has loved the 6 feet rule- because the couple times he's seen grandma (safely distanced- like a conversation at their door) in the last year- he has a reason not to hug- that she can't argue with.
Am I the AH for refusing to insist that kids hug grandma?
Edit- thanks so much all! I really appreciate the positive comments and feedback. :-)
So, a bit of context, i recently accepted myself as Genderfluid, haven't come out to basically anyone yet except maybe for my best friend, a small part of my family, and well, you guys right now.
Or so I wanted.
I'll explain what happened, a few months ago, my grandma, who is on a walker and cannot move too much on her own, asked us to visit, by that moment, we had just reached 1 Million covid cases here, so, mostly all of us rejected, besides, i live a bus ride from her, bus ride with people who don't seem to know about public distancing, and I also live with my mom, who is a risk patient as well, i didn't want to put any of them at risk.
So, a few days ago, we went finally to visit since the cases were going down (although I insisted on wearing my mask at all times, tried to approach people as less as possible and do not touch other people's stuff.) And met with my cousins again.
So, i was on a phone call with my best friend, and I told her I was a bit uncomfortable with what I was wearing because of some comments one of my conservative aunt was making (She's always been kinda conservative, like, whenever I talked about my plans for adulthood, she said "For your thirties? With a husband and a family, i hope.") Since it was kinda chilly, i was wearing my favorite hoodie, and some jeans, not those that are Thight, but those that are loose on all parts, this, plus I was wearing a black wool cap that made my hair seem shorter since it pulled it up, i did look a bit more boyish (well, not exactly like that, i wanted to seem a bit of both, but well, felt like looking more like a boy that day) but i still was looking normal, yet, she'd always say "You always had such a nice body, such a shame you decide to act like a boy and not like the nice girl you are."
I told my friend on the phone "I wonder if one day she'll understand I'm no longer a girl."
Turns out my youngest cousin, who is 6, heard me, he was looking for me since he thought I was playing hide and seek, because I left the room where we were watching TV.
I end my call, and walk back inside only to find myself in front of
"HOW DARE YOU CONFUSE MY CHILD WITH YOUR COMPLEX OF ATTENTION SEEKING!?"
I was like, what?
"YOU SAID YOU WERE NO LONGER A GIRL! WHAT ARE YOU THEN!? A TRABA!?"
(Quick note: "Trabas" are a way to call Trans people here, i don't fully know if it's offensive or not tho, i don't find it offensive since mostly all people i know of my age only say it ironically, like to talk abou... keep reading on reddit ➡
Happy new year Reddit! I hope everyone is enjoying their holiday weekend!
I am a 44M who you can call Dave, and I have two kids. Oldest child is 16f Sara and youngest is 14M Alex. I am no longer with their mother. No bad blood there. She’s a good mom and we split custody 50/50. We parent well together too.
My kids stay with their mom one week and stay with me one week except for the summer where I have them more because I have a beach house that the three of us migrate to. It’s something my kids look forward to and my daughter would like to move into when she’s 18, but that’s a separate conversation lol.
The problem is my ex remarried and had more children with her current husband and they are upset the new children aren’t experiencing the same life. Their family as a whole isn’t very well off and I’m guessing that they struggle. They’ve never been on a vacation and can’t afford to eat out, so I can see where the kids might feel excluded in life.
I send my kids a weekly allowance via Venmo. It’s not a lot in my opinion. I give Alex 30 and Sarah 50 (extra for female products/needs) and that alone has caused arguments. They’ll go to McDonald’s and the three other kids throw a fit.
This past Christmas, I had my two on Christmas Eve and we did gifts then as well. I got my son a switch with some games, clothes, sports gear, and a IOU for a PS5 when it’s available (he thought it was funny and not mean btw.)For my daughter I let her pick out her clothes, and got her a new camera and MacBook. I understand this is a lot, but I don’t have any other responsibilities.
We had a good evening and my kids were very happy. My son kicked my butt in Mario Kart and my daughter took some holiday photos, but on Christmas evening their mom called and had frank conversation about making their siblings feel like less as they got board games and action figures. This turned into me not furthering their relationship with trips and stuff to the beach house, and how they always beg to go and experience it.. which I won’t lie one of them did ask me to do in the past. I just don’t feel comfortable or wanting to do that, and Alex doesn’t care while Sara flat out doesn’t want it.
I do feel bad, but I don’t think I have a responsibility to their kids, and my kids shouldn’t have to hide their joy or possessions. My son refuses to share his switch at their house and I told his mother it is his to as he wishes and if she took away without real cause or forced him to share I would... keep reading on reddit ➡
When I was a child, I was often sick. I rarely had a fever so my mother would send me to school. I would have horrible diarrhea & headaches and get sent to the nurse, then get sent home because even though I didn't have a fever I was clearly ill. I'd get in trouble for “lying” to the school nurse, get grounded, and then a couple weeks later it would happen again.
In middle school we were taught about food safety in school, and I finally realized that I was consistently being affected by food poisoning. My mother would cook dinner, leave it out all night & put everything away in the morning while packing it for my lunch. This meant my portion also sat in my schoolbag all day. My parents would forget milk on the counter for hours. Forget perishable groceries in the car for days, but then say “its autumn so it’s fine” just toss it in the fridge. Condiments that were to be refrigerated after opening were just put in the cupboard, etc.
By the end of middle school I had stopped eating food from home and magically all of my digestive problems went away on a diet of early 2000’s cafeteria garbage. It didn't seem to bother my parents, but I came to the conclusion that the food was making me. I had tried to talk about it once (I was confronted by my mother) and was told because my brother never had the same problems that I claimed so obviously I was trying to hide an eating disorder. It was such a slap in the face that it was the fight that made me move out while still in highschool.
Yesterday My kids and I (now 31) were dropping off her groceries & she was heating up some lunch, and offered to share if the kids were hungry. They were super excited because they are small and we had never eaten at grandmas before. I declined and said we were picking up lunch right after. She kept pushing, saying things like don't spend money when you can get fed for free, let her spoil her grandbabies, etc, and eventually I had to have the conversation again. I tried to be gentle, but I know she does not follow any food safety guidelines and I know nothing has changed from when I lived here. I said that it is my responsibility to only feed things to my children that I am absolutely sure are safe. It never rose to the level of raised voices, but we still left with her in tears, my children feeling guilty that they “hurt grandmas feelings” and my family saying I'm cruel.
I might be the asshole because she is claiming I ruined a fundamental trust the kids have in their g... keep reading on reddit ➡
Not only do we finally have a female VP, but she also has no biological children and her stepkids are in their 20s. It's nice to have woman in power that isn't defined as a "mother".
Hi Reddit - first time posting but I’ll try to keep it brief.
My husband (37m) and I (36f) have a 12 yo daughter together and my husband also has a 16yo son. I have a great relationship with my step son and he and his sister get along well. For the most part things are fine. SS was living with his mum and just staying with us every other weekend and most school holidays until he turned 14 when he decided he wanted to live with us so now he lives with us full time and sometimes goes to stay with his mum weekends and whatever (not totally relevant but just painting the family picture).
Anyway, the issue - I’ve been noticing more and more that my husband has a pretty sexist attitude to raising the kids. Some examples: only our daughter has to help with chores such as washing dishes, doing laundry, grocery shopping etc, while SS gets to watch tv, play PlayStation etc and is only really responsible for walking the dog once every morning. Also, after eating our evening meal, husband makes daughter clear all the plates, including taking her brother’s plate and then they both sit there and wait for us female folk to do the dishes. On top of this our daughter is in school all day and never has less than 2hrs of homework per night whereas my SS is only doing part time school (12 hrs per week) and has zero homework. My husband will also yell at our daughter for saying words like “butt” or “pee” and tells her “women shouldn’t talk like that” but he says absolutely nothing when SS is cussing constantly and has been since he was 11 yo. Anyway, this morning I had enough and told him he needs to stop this sexist bs and it got into a heated argument. MIL called me telling me off because I should know that he “was raised with traditional beliefs” and that I should understand this too “given my own background” (we were both raised in large, very male dominant families of mostly brothers on both sides).
I can’t accept that I am fully the AH because I have always been very clear that I would not raise our daughter with those (what I consider) outdated gender stereotypes and husband was on board. It just seems like now she is approaching her teenage years he’s gone totally against this. Where I do consider that I might be the AH is letting it bubble away until I got pissed instead of having a proper, calm conversation about it when it first started happening. AITA?