Cemetery

It doesn't make sense to me why we have so many cemeteries, some of which are huge. We could be using that land for homes, businesses, agriculture, etc. Even if a person wants to be buried, there's no need to pour cement into the ground or to bury the body in a casket that won't decompose after a few years.

I just turned 16 on Thursday and this is the first time I wanted to do something different. I had a twin brother before but he died when we were still babies. My parents decided to have him buried.

Ever since i can remember we always went to the cemetery on my b-day because it was his too. My brother’s name was Louis so every birthday cake my parents ever got me always had “Happy Birthday Charlie and Louis.” It was never just my name. My mom was always sad and everything would be gloomy.

As a kid I hated even tho now I get my moms just sad. But I don’t like that every year on my b-day they still make us go and we stay there for hours sitting and eating like it’s a picnic. It’s always like we’re celebrating more him than me.

Monday I told my dad for my birthday I wanted to have my friends over (just 4 of them) plus my gf so we could order pizza and hang out and I didn’t wanna go to the cemetery at all.

They were both pretty pissed and they said I was being disrespectful for not wanting to honor my brother’s memory. On the actual day I said no again when they told me it’s time to go so we fought. My dad was yelling and my mom was crying but they ended up going with my sister so I was at the house by myself.

I was so mad and I went to my girlfriends house. Her parents were so nice to me they went out to buy food and cake to celebrate my b-day. I stayed at their house all day and that made my parents extra pissed when they got home. My mom says she can’t believe I chose to celebrate my birthday w/o family and not wanting to spend it with my brother at all.

Now I feel really bad, my sister keeps saying I didn’t have to be a dick about it when they’re only like this cause their sad about my brother. My dad is super cold to me right now and my mom just straight up won’t talk to me at all.

I feel bad I did this and it’s bothering me a lot, like it makes my stomach twist think they’re this mad at me for not going with them. Was I an asshole?

Dad: "Did you know that the people who live in this town aren't allowed to be buried in that cemetery?"

Me: "Oh, why?"

Dad: "Cuz they're still alive."

We really don’t know if we were assholes here but just wanna double check.

My bro (22m) and I (24m) lost our mom when we were 13 and 15. Our parents were already divorced so we just went to live with our dad full time. Every year around Christmas (either the day of or day before) we would come to the cemetery to decorate her grave. My dad always brought us cause we wanted to visit her.

Once we were older we both just sort of started going on our own without him, which he didn’t mind because he only did it for us so it became a thing me and my brother do together.

We usually spend the holidays with our girlfriends and our dad but always make time to go to my moms grave just the two of us. It’s a tradition now.

3 years ago my dad met his wife and they’ve been married 2 years. She seems like a nice lady. We don’t talk to her or see her a lot because we got our own lives an stuff. We’re not close with her but are still polite. She does try to get us to come over all the time for dinners and is super chatty. Sometimes we can make it, sometimes we can’t.

This morning my brother and I met up early so we can get to the cemetery before a lot of people came. She called my brother to invite over for breakfast. He told her we’re both going to our mom’s grave and might be a while.

Then she goes “oh can I join you?” We didn’t think she was serious but she was.

We told her it’s fine and we like to do this ourselves but she kept wanting to go. She said she’d like to support us. We said that’s nice of her but explained it’s something my brother and I like to do on our own together.

This got her all upset and she said if we don’t want her around then that’s fine. Then after when we were leaving the cemetery we had a ton of missed calls from our dad. He was pissed we hurt her feelings for purposely excluding her when she was just trying to be supportive. We told him the same thing we said to her and he knows this is a tradition for us. Plus we don’t even know her.

That would be kinda awkward sharing a private moment like that with someone we don’t have a relationship with.

That got him even more mad because “she’s trying to be a good stepmom” and we’re not even trying to meet her halfway. Which doesn’t make sense.

We’re both adults and don’t live with them so we don’t see how it’s important that we have to be close with her and let her come to our mom’s grave with us.

He said she’s too upset for either of us to come over today. So we’re both lost here. Ye

article here UPDATE: The boy’s Father has contacted police. Article update in comments. Thanks to the commenter who shared that update. So glad someone was able to identify him. Because of this, I’ve updated the post to an article with more info.

This happened in my cousin’s hometown today. She sent me the article earlier. A kid was dropped off at a local cemetery along with a dog. A woman was visiting a grave there, and saw the car drive away. The child and the dog were chasing the car as it drove away. He’s in protective care now, but the police are searching for information about this kid, who he is, where he came from. He doesn’t know his last name or how old he is. He only knows that his first name is Tony, and his parents’ names are Katy and David. They think he’s 3-4 years old. Please look at his picture in the linked article and call the number there if you recognize him. This is heartbreaking.

Hi there, new to the thread. This is by far the most insane call I ever got. I worked at a cemetery preparing funerals, designing headstones, and selling people graves. When people buy their graves in advance we make it very clear that they have 30 days to get a full refund, and for the next month after that they get a partial refund. (It was a shitty cemetery run my a multi-billion dollar group.) We make this clear because a plot costs thousands of dollars. One day I was completely alone at the cemetery when I get a call. A woman who sounds super pleasant calls asking for a refund on the grave she had “just bought.” I tell her I’ll go get her file and double check all the information. After looking it over I see she bought this plot 3 years before. I explained to her that, as per our policy which she signed off on, we could not give her a refund, but that she could try to sell it on her own. This is where she lost her mind. She told me I was a fucking liar, that she was going to come to the cemetery and kill me. She asked for my manager who wouldn’t be in until the next day. She hung up and called back no less than 12 times telling me she was driving over and going to kill me. I called my boss asking what to do, and telling him I was going to lock all the doors and not answer the phone anymore. My boss was total shit and laughed about it even though I was terrified, “oh these people, it’s no big deal. She can’t get her refund we’ll explain it again tomorrow. Unlock the doors you don’t know if a customer will come in.” I told him if she shows up I’m calling the police and he said if I called the police on a customer I’d be fired. I decided to keep the doors locked and I’m glad I did as not 10 minutes later I heard screaming and banging from the front door. This woman was trying to break in. I did the only thing I could think of, we had a big walk in safe where we kept cremains until it was time for them to be buried or scattered, I locked myself in there while this woman tried to get in for a half hour. I spent the last 3 hours of my shift in that safe. The next day my boss talked to her, “I’m so sorry, she’s new at the cemetery. Yes we do have that policy but let’s see if we can’t get you a full refund.” I quit not long after for this reason and many more.

Why? Why even bag it? At least poop will degrade on its own... sigh.