Dating someone who isn't over their ex is like taking on someone elses credit card debt. You enter a relationship with someone who is still "paying off" a significant amount of energy and pain and you both aren't starting fresh from a zero balance. It's a very miserable start. For the partner, it feels like a massive burden to have to listen to the negative stories and comparisons and light comments about someone they don't even know. Even if those comments are meant to paint the current partner in a better light AKA "you do xyz, my ex never wanted to do that".
We all have history, we all mention our past partners a few times... but mentioning it constantly and linking it to everything you do or talk about will absolutely kill the potential. When you start a new relationship it should be a fresh start, and its up to you to make sure your view on this new relationship isn't clouded by feelings from the past. Sure, you might never go back to your ex, or they might make you angry every time you think about them... but that's still mental and emotional energy being expended in areas that could otherwise be spent more productively. Your partner will feel this vacancy, and they will grow distant and disappointed the more it occurs.
Make sure you are wholehearted before bringing someone new into your life. Otherwise you will actively contribute to the vicious cycle of emotional unavailability by making someone else feel as unhappy and unworthy as you had once felt with your last partner.
Edit: Wow, so many great resources here. Thanks for everyone in this sub being so helpful as usual.
The Scarborough Buffers Park is pretty much closed since this morning around 11:30. Police directing traffic away from Brimley road entrance. There's a huge line of cars circling back and forth. Not sure if they are allowing anyone in at all!
I come to you again with a question. I couldn't find this specific use case on the internet, so I thought of posting it here.
I have two threads A and B. I need to share an array [u8; size] between these two threads.
The problem is that the write and read operations must happen IN ORDER. By this I mean:
Thread A writes in array -> Thread B reads it -> A writes -> B reads.
The write will happen from the beginning of the array and so will be the read.
I need to share the memory because I need to do it as fast as possible, I cannot afford another copy operation.
What I tried:
Putting the array inside an Arc<Mutex<>>, but this won't guarantee me the order of operations.
What I am thinking of, this is how I would have done it in C/C++:
using two semaphores.
The issue with semaphore is that the same resource should be put inside two semaphores at the same time, and I don't know how would I do this with rust's ownership rules.
Would you do it with semaphores or is there any faster rust way of doing this?
Thanks for reading!
Going to try recommended solution:
Put the array inside a Box then use 2 channels to send the array address from thread A to thread B, then from B to A.
Basically A will wait until B finishes reading and B will wait until A finishes writing. The memory gets shared and the synchronization is done with the performance of writing / reading from channels.
Thank you all for the help!
Would it be possible to get a lot of buffer on RED using an HDD shared seedbox?
I've seen couple of posts in this subreddit about people saying that they're using really expensive seedboxes with SSD storage and really high speeds to get buffer, if I had 300-400MB/s upload speed would I be able to compete with them and get any buffer at all? Or my ratio would just get downhill because I won't be able to seed back the things which I autosnatched?
I just started off not long ago and I just want a big enough buffer so that I don't have to worry about what I download. Thanks!
OPS is easy, but the tracker has been unreliable as hell lately, and I occasionally run into dead torrents. I also find that RED is easier to use and slightly better organized. Only problem is, I've got very little buffer. I've got just enough to keep my user class, but not nearly enough to start downloading the amount of albums I download off OPS. Is autosnatching the only way to get buffer in a timely manner?
I want to switch to a single paycheck per month. I been budgeting since the start of the year and I gotten confident enough in my budgeting to handle a single paycheck which would make everything easier. I have been saving for this transition by building a buffer that should put me through 2 months of normal spending + paying debts but if I went to finance and filled the paperwork to switch to one month paycheck would it process in time for my paycheck to be deposited July 1?