My brother-in-law (he’s married to my sister) started a business a few years ago. He asked my husband for an investment to help start it which he gave to him in exchange for a percentage of the business.
I’m divorcing my husband. My plan is to walk away with next to nothing to get this over with as quickly as possible since he won’t negotiate through lawyers and I’ve given up trying to fight him. My sister and brother-in-law are angry at me for doing this because they wanted me to try to get his percentage of the business in the divorce so that he can’t sabotage it.
I told them I couldn’t do it and explained he wanted me to negotiate directly with him and I didn’t want to see or speak to him. They accused me of constantly running away from the hard stuff and said that was why my marriage had failed. My sister said I was going to drag her family down with me because I was too much of a coward to face my husband and that she would never forgive me if he did anything to hurt their business.
My son is turning 5 and his party is March 5. We have already sent out invitations. We have always split up my family and my husbands family and do 2 separate parties on different weekends because I have a bigger family and friend group that comes and it just works out easier that way, plus my son loves it because obviously, what kid doesn’t love more parties for their birthday?
We have the time set to start at 5pm for both separate parties.
Yesterday my brother in law (husbands brother) calls my husband and says that his daughter (our niece) won’t be able to make it to the party because of her work schedule unless we do the party earlier. They get ahold of my sister in law (husbands sister) and my mother in law and father in law and go ahead and decide 9AM works better for them for my sons birthday party. So now the party is at 9AM or no one is coming.
Husband calls me and tells me everything and is confused as to why I’m pissed off. I think it takes some balls to just move around someone else’s planned party. My husband says I’m being selfish and that everyone wants to see his niece as if she’s the birthday girl or something. I am truly baffled here. I’ve been pissed off since yesterday.
Really need some input here please. Really want to know, AITA?
Brother in law: Nathan, Sister in law: Maggy, Girlfriend: Nathania (Not actual names)
Nathan & Maggy got married in 2017. Nathan & Maggy had been together since 2010/2011 (apparently they were on & off until they got serious) They were both in their early 20s then. Back to 2017, they married & all was well (as far as anyone knew) until the end of 2019 when Maggy was diagnosed with breast cancer (triple-negative). I don’t want to go into to many details about her treatment, however, she lost her hair & gain weight while heavily fighting then lost a lot of weight at the end right before she passed. Maggy passed away in March 2021 after fighting for two years. I was devastated. Maggy was not just my sister-in-law. She was a best friend, a confidante, a true sister. We had a real connection & friendship to the point we had siblings dinner with all the siblings at least once a month/ every two months, where we all talked, & hung out. When she passed I was truly taken back at how calm & happy Nathan appeared to be. He was smiling, laughing, joking with people. Anytime anyone asked how he was. He said he was good or something along those lines. Everyone left it alone since he had a hard two years & was obviously grieving the loss of his partner of ten years. Which I completely understand and sympathize with. I know a lot of people will put on a brave front & break down when alone. Three months after Maggy's death Nathan asked my husband (his brother) if we would be okay with meeting his new girlfriend? I was completely shocked! How could he have a new girlfriend?! His wife just died. The person he was with for ten years died! I couldn’t believe it but no one wanted to say anything to him because of what he went through the last two years. To make a long story short, I think from what I’ve seen, she’s lovely but I’m feeling resentful at the both of them for dating. When I see her all I think about is Maggy and I’m still processing her passing as it isn’t quite a year yet. I miss her every day and think of her often. I was going to let this go and continue to just ignore the situation and go hard on working on my grief but now my husband and I have found out he moved in with her after 6 months of dating and I’m becoming angrier about their relationship. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Would I be an asshole for keeping my distance and not seeing her?
Edit: No one in the family likes her. They don’t like her as a person... keep reading on reddit ➡
My sister married this guy, who come to find out (fyi she knew all this) is what'd I'd call a religious fundamentalist to the extreme. My sister likely never told me this because she knows I'd have very strong objections to him over his views...which well she's right.
Apparently the reason why she got married, is because his pastor told them they either had to get married OR she had to move out of his house (FYI my sister could have totally moved out of the house, it wasn't like she didn't have a place to go) because the bible says that's naughty.
He also apparently believes the world is 6,000 years old, so that's a lot of fun.
There is currently friction between my dad and him because my dad is paying for the wedding, and he's saying there can't any alcohol at the wedding because Jesus says alcohol is bad....my dad (who FYI is also a Christian) was like "But...Jesus drank wine" to which my brother in law argued that wasn't wine...that was grapefruit juice. FYI my dad has resolved this argument with a simple solution, if my dad is going pay for the wedding, alcohol will be served, that simple, if the new son in law wants to ban alcohol from the wedding, the son in law can foot the bill by himself
Also my sister has to stop taking birth control, not because they want a baby but because birth control is stopping the will of god.
We had a little chat, it didn't go over that well...my indifference didn't help
I (43M) don’t like my brother in law (39M) and he doesn’t like me either. He’s rude and arrogant, i’m convinced that he doesn’t like me because he’s close to my fiancee’s ex husband. He has made constant comments about me in general, once I made a joke that he considered homophobic (he’s gay) and since that day everything went downhill, I don’t even remember the joke but I apologized to him because I’m not an homophobic person, I consider myself a supporter so this is ridiculous! My brother in law is married to a guy (around 30?) who’s nicer than him but he does everything my brother in law says. My friend and I have an inside joke about my BIL’s husband being his silly dog following him around.
I’m only mentioning this because the other day my brother in law’s husband parked his car in my fiancee’s driveway and I asked him nicely to move his car to the street which he didn’t because my brother in law told him not. I asked him nicely again and his husband ignored me, then I proceeded to tell my brother in law to move his car out of my driveway and he told me “No” so I asked him “Why?” and he responded “Because this is my sister’s house and I don’t like you”, I asked him nicely again to move his car out of the way so I could go buy something my fiancee asked me and he refused to, so I told him that both of them can eat a bag of dicks and get themselves get fucked.
My girlfriend is upset with me because I told them “homophobic insults” when I didn’t!! I feel like I’m getting gaslighted. AITA??
About 5 years ago my friend bought a baby swing for her daughter that cost about £300. Since then almost everyone in our group of friends has had a shot of it for their newborns. My sister was the last of us to use it about 2 years ago. I have some fertility problems, but knew I would want it when/if I ever fell pregnant. These swings still sell for about the same price second hand.
About a year ago my partne's brother and SIL had their second baby and since no one was using the swing at the time we asked if they would like a shot. We were clear that it was just for a loan and it would go back to us/one of my friends when their baby outgrew it. So it's currently at their house, but their 1 year old will be too big for it soon.
At Christmas they announced that they're expecting again and due around June.
This morning I finally got a positive on a pregnancy test. I've had a few very early miscarriages, but this is the strongest positive we've ever gotten, so I'm quietly hopeful. All going well we'll be sure in October, only 4 months after SIL.
Anyway, we're laying in bed this morning, absolutely buzzing and starting to plan things out a bit and I mentioned getting the swing back off my partner's brother and SIL and my partner went quiet. Then he said he thinks it wouldn't be fair to ask for it back when they're expecting again. The thing is, all my friends babies have used this swing and it has a lot of sentimental value to us. I would be gutted if my baby didn't get a turn at it. It's also £300 that we couldn't afford right now since we'll hopefully be buying everything else a new baby needs.
So would I be an AH if I asked for it back? I wouldn't hesitate if it was for someone else in my group of friends since it it's kind of communally owned now, but maybe it is selfish to ask since it's for us?
I should mention that despite already having a couple of kids BIL has a good income and I'm sure could afford a new one if they really wanted it.
Story time: my aforementioned brother in law has been resisting and protesting get vaxxed for over a year now. He's berated anyone at family gatherings that beg to differ with bullshit arguments and nutjob theories. He's been lucky so far due to living in a tiny country town in South Australia that has so far avoided covid due to its remote location (but not bodies in barrels) so it hasn't been an issue.
But recently the government has announced vaccine mandates for anyone working in education, which is his job- student support officer. Basically assists teachers by working closely with underprivileged, difficult, disadvantaged or disabled kids. He loves his job and he loves working with these kids that need help, it's a great way to exert positive influence in someone's life and it was his tipping point towards making the right decision.
After a lot of arguing with himself a tonne, he finally decided to go ahead and get the jab, which for him is a MASSIVE decision. He is violently phobic of needles to the point where he was given sedatives to help him with his fears and he took enough that he could barely walk or talk, but he did it and is now completely vaccinated.
As a context, I prefer my steak well done. (Throw stones, my middle finger remains steadfast.) And it has already happened several times that I had arguments with my narcissistic brother-in-law, always when it came to food. When he talks about it, he sometimes asks me how I like something or how I would cook, only to make fun of it. The biggest problem was when we had a family dinner and he brought steaks. He was babbling about them being expensive or something. (BS, he got them from my uncle who has a farm) He asked everyone how everyone likes it, most of them said that he should make them the way he likes them and others said that they didn't like beef and that they just eat what chicken or schnitzel (we are German). So far so good, but I said I wanted mine well done. When it came time to eat, he put a large piece of steak on my plate and said, "Well done for you." I took a bite and it wasn't well done, it was medium rare or something. In any case, I grimaced, but reluctantly swallowed the piece and said sarcastically that the chef is not even able to distinguish raw meat from roasted meat. After a bit of back and forth and the moment when I said I was going to finish cooking my meal myself, he yelled that no steak is cooked well done in his kitchen. The only problem was, it was my house and therefore also my kitchen, and the piece of dead cow on my plate no longer belonged to him when it landed on it. My sister broke up with him for other reasons, so I don't have to put up with the guy anymore, but what I wonder, why do cooks, especially chefs, make such a fuss about a piece of meat that's sizzling on my kitchen crematorium? Because that's it, no more, no less. By the way, he and my sister didn't live with us, they came for a family celebration. Sorry for my bad english.
Backstory: My husband and I live with his mother. His dad passed away in August and she is on a limited income and could not afford to pay the bills for her house. We moved in and have been paying the bills since August. Previously, we had our own place and allowed my brother-in-law and his girlfriend to live with us with no rent to get on their feet. We just asked they helped with food and their phone bill. This is how they ended up on our sprint account.
My brother-in-law and his girlfriend have two phone lines and three devices on my phone plan. They have had these devices for 18 months. Out of the 18 months, they have only paid their portion of the bills ($175) 4 times and we have covered it the rest. In the beginning January, I texted him asking for his portion for the phone bill. He said he would send it, but never did. I proceeded to pay our portion and left his portion on the account. The February bill posted and I paid my portion again. He now owes $350. When I asked him about it last week he said he didn’t have the money and didn’t know when he would. I tried my best of work with him on a payment plan so we could keep their service active. He has since ignored my messages. Because of the past due balance, the phone carrier has shut off their service. In the past, I would have paid it in order to keep their service on but this month has been tight because their moms SSI was smaller than expected and I now don’t have the extra cash flow. He has completely blown up on me, blaming me for the service being turned off saying to “consider them dead.” Am I in the wrong? Looking for clarification because they have now blocked us on everything and have left the phone in our mailbox.
Because they refused to pay, I am now stuck with the $350 bill. I also have to pay the lease off for each device which totals $924. Should I just have sucked it up and paid it again this month?
so my BIL moved in September into our 3 bedroom apartment. I am married and have two kids, and a week prior to him coming, we found out we’re pregnant with our third baby. Our only ultimatum at the time was for him to help out financially with what he can (no set price because we’re helping out family) and to help with chores around the house. so time comes and goes, i never saw a dime to help financially. my husband swears his brother was helping with rent but my portion of rent never went down. i also got stuck with the winter electric bill to myself (around $250 a month because BIL would blast the heat). i ended up doing BIL laundry, flushing toilets after him, cleaning up his dinner and trash, doing his dishes etc. so this week we all tested positive for you know the infamous virus and he passed this virus along to his baby mama and two kids (they live in a separate house). no one had informed me that the baby mama and two kids would come to get over the virus and stay indefinitely. i was cooking for all 8 of us, cleaning up after everyone, even feeding one of their kids. mind you I work from home for an insurance company so at the same time as tending to all of the adults and kids in the house, i was working for my job through the illness, feeling symptoms, being 20 weeks pregnant, and not getting to rest at all. while yesterday comes around and i’ve had enough at this point. so i blow up and tell everyone they need to get the f*** out. they all had places to go they weren’t kicked to the street. but now i feel like the asshole and guilty for handling this situation this way. i would never kick them out or make them leave if i didn’t know they had alternate places to finish quarantine and live. my BIL chose to live with us instead of his mothers home because it was more convenient, but i see it as he never helped me financially or with chores and he is a grown man with his own family he is very capable of improving his life to provide for his family and himself rather than mooching off of me. again to reiterate, i feel awful for the way i did this, partially it’s because no one around me sees my point or why i am upset and partially is because i am a kind and peaceful person that the manner i kicked them out makes me feel like a monster.
My stepsister is currently going through an awful custody battle against my brother-in-law. They had an affair and it only came out because she got pregnant so he had to tell his wife. My in-laws are on a mission to take the baby away from her and she doesn’t have the money to keep fighting them.
I’ve been secretly helping her because I think this is wrong. Despite everything, my stepsister loves her son very much and is just trying to give him the best life possible.
My husband and his brother found out a few days ago. I still don’t know how they figured it out but they both came home in bad moods and my husband asked me if I had given her money. I lied but my brother-in-law got scary angry and kept saying I was lying. My husband had to kick him out because he wouldn’t calm down and after he left, my husband asked to see the only private bank account I have. By this point I knew I had been caught so I just admitted the truth.
Now everyone is angry at me and my husband has cut me off so that I can’t help her anymore.
In my family we have a tradition where after the bride and groom dance, the bride must dance with the head of her new family. In my case, that would be my future brother-in-law. The one time I met him, there was something about him that just terrified me.
My wedding is in two weeks and my family were discussing it. My sister-in-law made a joke about how she was glad she didn’t have to dance with my future brother-in-law and I blurted out that I wouldn’t dance with him. My parents were angry and told me I had to because it was tradition and I would offend him if I refused. I said I still wouldn’t do it and they told me I better not embarrass them and my brother told me to stop being an idiot since it wasn't like he was going to do anything to me in front of everyone.
Afterwards, my sister told me I shouldn’t have said anything since I knew how our parents would react, which is true.
No medical reason, just believe that their belief in God would prevent them from getting it.
Still won't get the vax, even after they (hopefully) make it.
I feel sorry for the kids, they didn't get to choose.
I'm a male ENTJ and I would want to have a good relationship with my ISTP brother in law. It's not like we have a bad relationship, more like we don't have one at all. I know he likes me quite well tho by the way he acts when we're together.
I tried 4-5 times to go toward the ISTP and talk with him by text, but he always just end the conversation really fast or even don't reply if I ask him how's doing after a bad event in his life.
How could I communicate by texts with him in a way he stays interested and reply? Or what should I avoid to talk about?
What do you think could be the reasons he never continue a discussion or go back toward me even if he sees me trying to talk to him? (and I know he finds me cool, it's not like he stupid-zoned me)
I sadly can't be with him in real life, since I moved out and I'm now living in a different country. Tho, if you have advice on things I could do when I visit to improve my relationship with him, I'll gladly listen.