The police shot my (white) brother 14 times in a crowded Walmart parking lot killing him. He was wanted for a probation violation when a man we had never seen before jumped in front of the SUV we were in with a gun pointed directly at his head. He was driving. He began backing up in the opposite direction of the the man. The man ran towards us & within seconds confusion had set in. The music was loud, but the noises that came next is something I’ll never forget...I remember he shoved me on the floor board. Then acceleration, impact, the car coming to a dead drop then the smell of burnt skin & the sound of the horn. That man was a plain clothed officer, unbeknownst to us his partner was behind us. (to the side not in the way of the reversing vehicle) The both reloaded their guns twice. Bullets were found in the shops a football field away. I survived, my brother didn’t. I’ll never forget the smell of his burnt skin & the sound of the horn as he lay on it, dead weight. I had... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (29f) am pregnant with my first child and due to give birth in November. My BIL and his fiancée have planned to have a wedding during this time (roughly 2 weeks after my due date) and I’m super excited for them!
However they have huge plans in place, with over 100 guests. The argument started when each family member was assigned a certain wedding task. Mine was to ensure the guests walked out with their ‘thank-you’ gifts (which is to be segregated by age & gender). This would involve initiating small talks and bidding adieus to guests, coordinating with the gifting committee etc. I said that there is no way I would be able to do this after giving birth only 2 weeks earlier and this sounded ridiculous. I offered to do the excel work- sorting names, addresses and gifts but this idea was also shot down. In a short while, the argument took another direction and my in-laws went off saying that I’m being an impossible woman and exaggerating my pregnancy woes and that there are thousa... keep reading on reddit ➡
UPDATE: wow this got a lot of comments!!!
So I have done a LOT of snooping. And it is way more soap opera than I thought.
apparently since child 1 didn't look like him at all, she made up the paternity test scheme to trick him into marrying her. But, THEY ACTUALLY DID PATERNITY TEST THAT KID and the real test said her ex was the dad. But he refused so she lied about the result, and my bfs bro never asked to see the papers
it gets worse. She's been secretly collecting child support from bio dad, and using it as get secret slush fund, while being a stay at home mom and making husband pay her way
she cheated on him A LOT and figured that she could lie again if the kids weren't his, and secretly rake in the child support. So, each baby she had tested, but the next two were his.
he decided to stay bc the kids - but he called the baby daddy of Kid 1 and explained the whole situation.
Baby Daddy of kid 1 is in negotiations for visitation or to cease child support.
ORIGI... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am a 24f and I still live with my parents, but so do my brother (30m) and my sister-in-law (25f).
They have 2 twin toddlers already. They don't really take care of them because my parents, who have recently gotten their title as grandparents, take most of their time to spoil, love, and care for them as they did with us growing up. I would say their connection with their grandparents is better than with their parents.
Now that I am working from home, I find myself babysitting the kids sometimes too - which I don't mind, but I would much prefer it if my brother and my sister-in-law spent more time with them instead. My older brother had the audacity to tell me to move out, get married soon, so they can take my room. As much as I would like to, I am not financially able to afford to move out either. Maybe that puts me on the same level as them?
My older brother doesn't have a great job and has been temporarily placed his job on hold because of COVID-19, so he has been collecting our... keep reading on reddit ➡
My husband's youngest brother just got married to a women he met two weeks ago and we invited them over to get to know her. She seemed very nice and friendly until she called me a slut and told me I'm a horrible mom.
So what happened was we were sitting at the table having some tea and chatting while our husbands were lighting up the grill and having beers outside when she asked me what our kids looked like (they were at my sister's house for the weekend) so I get out my phone and show her a few pics. She kept saying how cute and handsome they are as she was scrolling through my phone. I noticed she hit the back button on my phone and click on what I thought was the file labeled "my babies" until her face contorted to this weird disgusted look and I reached for my phone to see what she was looking at and she pulled it close to her chest and started walking toward the back door. I jumped up and asked what's wrong and for my phone back and she turns around and starts on a rant about how... keep reading on reddit ➡
Morning guys. I'm feeling shitty after receiving a sobbing phone call from my brother's MIL. Here's the story.
Me and the wife have been looking at houses for a while. I bought my first house over 10 years ago when I was single and hadn't met my wife yet. I used my brother's MIL, as I visit them occasionally for my nephews birthdays and holidays. She's a nice person, however there were a few things that weren't done correctly when the house was purchased. I shrugged it off and didn't think about it too much.
After a few years I met my wife and with both our incomes we decided to buy a bigger house. I put in a lot of work into the house I bought and with both our incomes and the proceeds from the house we could afford a bigger house. My wife's friend is a realtor, and wanted to use her. I didn't really think much of it and let her.
Brother's MIL calls and tells me she's hurt we didn't use her, she would have given us the "family discount" (note the family discount I found doe... keep reading on reddit ➡
I remembered this hilarious event because he was recently talking with me about the importance of a healthy outlook toward sex and mentioned that he has always had a fairly good anatomy and sexual knowledge and has even informed some women about parts of their body they misunderstood. I don't know how well I believe it considering this major oops!
We were at my in-laws playing Cards Against Humanity (my husbands parents are obviously very chill). My husbands brother, we'll call him Roy, was the judge and the black topic card was "A Woman's best friend is ___________". One of the answer cards was "The clitoris". We all chuckled but Roy laughed the loudest and said "that doesn't even do anything!"
We all kinda stared at him and his wife who was kinda chuckling next to him, unsure if he was joking or not. Then my husband and others started pointing out that it is VERY important for sexual pleasure while the rest of us nodded along. Roy still seemed uncertain, til he looked at his wife w... keep reading on reddit ➡
Not my main account as my family may see this but I wanted to ask you guys something.
Bit of background- my brother and SIL have 2 children currently, a 3 year old and an 11 month old. They have very recently (within the last 2 months) moved into their own place after being on the housing list for 4 years. Previously they lived with my parents and me in our already very overcrowded house. Me and my boyfriend have been saving to move in together for the past year and I had managed to save a good chuck of money (about £900, enough to pay for my half of everything). My brother and SIL currently have a CCJ they are in the process of paying off due to some bad money decisions on their part. When they finally got offered a house, they didn’t have the money to pay for anything that was needed, readily available (deposit, furniture, appliances etc.) so me and my mum helped them out. I loaned them £500 with the strict proviso that they would pay it back (I made sure that when they were setti... keep reading on reddit ➡
So a little back ground. My BIL and SIL son (16m) lives with me and has since February. I have temporary legal guardianship of him. My food stamps recently came up for renewal and I added him on yesterday (4/27) I messaged them today to let them know and they lost their shit on me. They have been claiming him for cash aid and food stamps even though he no longer lives with them. I have 2 children of my own who I also take care and provide for. They are demanding I take him off the application so they can get more money (they don’t have jobs) so they can move out of my father in law’s apartment.
Because I have done this the state will now find out they have been lying for 3 months and do a investigation and find that they also weren’t claiming the money their son was making for 6 months (he had a jo... keep reading on reddit ➡
So with everything that has been going on, my sister in law's husband ("Bill") lost his job. Today my sister in law ("Jill") called us asking if they and their two kids could come stay with us she said we were her only choice as Bill doesn't want to "burden" someone at the church and her parents don't have space. I told her that she and her kids were always welcome at our house, but Bill was not welcome. She told me that wouldn't work and that she had to go.
The problem with Bill:
Ok, Bill and Jill met through a church she joined in college where we suspect she was pressured into marriage, or as Bill tells it "God spoke to the elders and saw that we were destined to be together".
So my husband and I were visiting his family the past weekend and the conversation about children came up. This time went a little differently than usual and the conversation something like this:
Me: Yada yada yada Something about us being the cool aunt or uncle instead
BIL: “Yeah well you guys would kill all the babies in the world if you had the chance”
Me: “What the heck? why would you say something like that? Don’t you think that’s rude or hurtful to say to someone “
BIL: “I mean sure but you guys don’t like kids” Walks away shrugs
SIL: “Well you guys do think kids are greasy”
I’m sorry, am I overreacting here? does anyone else think that’s an f’d up thing to say to someone?? My husband has pretty much gotten over the comment but I can’t stop thinking that someone thinks I’m a baby killer just cause I don’t want kids.
So, this is a long story but i'll try to cut it short.
So, backstory. I own a business that I started when I got out of college about 7 years ago. It's not small by any sense of the word but not big either. This is where Paul comes in. At the time, Paul was dating my sister Jen and I offered him a job and he's been working for me since the day the business opened. He's by far one of my best workers and i've never had a problem with him.
Well, cut to now. Paul and Jen are in the middle of a VERY messy divorce. I won't go into details here about it but both of them seem to have done some very reprehensible things during their marriage and both seemingly want the other to drop dead right now. Out of respect for them (and to avoid any other problems) this is all I will say.
Now, here's where the problem comes in. Paul still works for me. During this whole process my family has been trying to get me to fire Paul over this. Paul has done nothing at work to deserve me terminating him. Yet,... keep reading on reddit ➡
Through prudent planning, my wife and I have set aside three years of cash savings specifically for times like this. Our savings allows us to maintain the same standard of living, including private school for our kid. That said, although we earn an above average salary, we've been frugal.
My brother- in-law doesn't earn much money at all as a freelance graphic designer but spent every last dime and more on his social life. He's near 50. I'm 44.
He asked me to borrow 25k so he can pay off one credit card and immediately apply for another. Then he'd pay me back the 25k with the new 30k card he's opening. He's been doing this for years and somehow is still able to do it.
We are fortunate. Between our savings and our available credit, we have many multiples of what he needs. So I simply said, " Let me just pay off the 25k for you. Don't open another card. You can pay me back the 25k interest free for as long as you need to. But you gotta stop this credit card thing."
He t... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have a group of friends from way back when and each year we go on a big trip together. This years trip was in February and we went to Vegas. We book these trips at least six months out and because of schedules it’s really hard and basically impossible to change the dates after it’s booked or people won’t be able to go.
My brother in law got engaged last year and when they picked a wedding date it was the same weekend as my trip with my friends. I asked my wife if she thought they could pick a different day but she refused to even ask them. I kind of figured then she was okay with me missing it for my trip because she knows how important they are to me.
When the invitations came she asked me what I wanted for the dinner choice and I said I wasn’t going. She flipped out. She said she couldn’t believe I was being so selfish and this is family. I said I tried to tell her a few months back but she wouldn’t get it changed.
Anyway, the weekend came and she tried to throw me this huge... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m somewhat new to the Duggars, is there tension between the brother-in-laws and Sexpest? I physically can’t imagine having to be around someone who abused and/or molested my spouse. Which BIL do you think has the most animosity towards Sexpest or have there been any indications? I truly can’t imagine having to see him.
I came with my husband to my mother in law’s place to spend a few days with her, and my brother in law is here as well.
I woke up this morning finding my brother in law in my room trying to kiss me and “rape me”. I was screaming and asking him to leave the room but he wouldn’t, and he was saying that he was in love with me since before I got married and that he was hiding that.
For info, I live in Morocco, m from a conservative family and It’s been 4 years since I got married, and I never had any doubts about this whole story.
I asked my husband that we go back to our place as we live in the same city but he wouldn’t accept as we agreed that we will spend the whole week with his family. And now, I don’t know what to do, should I tell him the truth or keep quiet?
This could get a little long and convoluted; I’m sorry in advance. This is a throwaway, because one person involved knows my main Reddit. Also, this happened quite a few months ago, just never posted until now.
At the time, I had been dating A for 2 years, and had lived with him for 18 months. Just after I moved in with A, his brother L and future sister-in-law X became engaged after 6 years of dating, and set a wedding date for 1 1/2 years away.
Skipping forward, we’re approaching the wedding. Invitations are being sent out. I’d been living with A maybe 15 months at this point? I’d met his entire family, including L and X, and we were all on great terms. A and I receive an invitation in the mail... and my name is not on it. There are no mentions of a plus one, either. I’m initially quite hurt, as L and X had openl... keep reading on reddit ➡
My (f17) sister (f34) and her husband (m37) have been staying at my parents house for a couple of months, mom absolutely loves having my sister at her home she's given her and husband a very big welcome and cooked their favorite meals everyday.
While staying at home, feeling bored I decided to do a "makeover" and give myself an at-home haircut, Honestly, I've never touched my hair before, But not being able to go to the salon has made feel depressed.
My hair was shoulder-length, now it's short, pixie style, I'd say it was a seccuss, cause while we were all sitting having dinner, Everyone started complimenting my "new haircut" eccept for my brother in law (sister's husband), And because of him being a sarcastic asshole who doesn't mind hurting people's feelings, he had a different opinion on my haircut, and said " Honestly, It could've been worse!".
"Excuse me, I DID NOT ask for your opinion, and everybody knows why".
BIL: Because I hate lying?, unlike everybody else?
Sister starte... keep reading on reddit ➡
So intro to the story is I purchased (or rather put a substantial down payment and financed the rest) of an apartment complex 4 years ago (20 apartments, needed work). At the time, I must have been feeling magnanimous because prior to closing on the property I offered my older sisters and their husbands the chance to do a 60/20/20 split and allow them to buy their share with sweat equity (maintain the lawns, show empty units, paint and lightly remodel empty units, collect rent checks, coordinate maintenance, etc.) that maybe would have required 20 hours of work per week split between the four of them. One of my sisters let me know at the time that the others thought I was trying to take advantage of them, so I unreservedly apologized to all of them and told them to forget it.
I have dumped every cent that's come in from that place back into the property and towards paying off the loan as well as dumping a lot of my own money and the proceeds of the sales of some rental homes I had t... keep reading on reddit ➡
Backstory: My mother has severe dementia. A few years ago it became apparent that my mother could no longer live on her own. Two of my siblings and I wanted to get her into an assisted living facility but my brother insisted on having her come live with him and his wife. We were all a little surprised by this since my father ( they are divorced) was living there already and two aging parents seemed like a lot to handle but brother and SIL were adamant so we agreed.
A very short time (six weeks or so) later my brother told us that someone else had to take my mom and my sister stepped up. When getting her finances organized we discovered that a substantial portion of her retirement savings was withdrawn while she was staying with my brother: she only had something like 300K in savings, and about 100K had been spent in that month. Needless to say this caused a rift: My mom had technically agreed to these withdrawals ( which were for stuff that my brother and SIL needed done to their h... keep reading on reddit ➡
Are we the assholes, really since this involves my wife, too.
My brother-in-law Gary needed a ride to the international airport in a major city 2+ hours away from where we live. His car had just broken down and he didn't want to book a seat on one of the little connecting puddle jumpers from the airport in our smaller city.
He asked my wife and I for a ride, and since the destination city has a bunch of craft breweries, we figured it'd be fun to make a long weekend out of checking out breweries. Rent a hotel, get some beer, back to hotel, more beer the next day.
We agreed, and loaded up the car and started the drive early in the morning when he had an evening flight. Since he has longer legs, we let him sit up front.
He decided about 40 minutes into the drive he needed to smoke. I asked him not to smoke, and he glared at me and asked why not - I explained neither my wife or I smoke, and we can't stand the smell of cigarettes in a confined space. I didn't want my car smelling l... keep reading on reddit ➡
Genesis is a fucked up book. The level of cognitive dissonance required to selectively dogmatise certain portions while ignoring the context and the contradictory passages is immense.
The borg likes to focus on Genesis chapter 39 where Joseph fled from Potifars wife as an example of chastity, but how about his brother Judah, whom just ONE chapter earlier, fucked Tamar, his daughter in law, thinking she was a temple prostitute? Nevermind the hypocrisy when he ordered men to burn her outside of the camp before she revealed the child was his. This child was the forefather of Jesus as well.
In the same chapter, J was killing Tamars husbands left and right because he just didn't like them, and one of them because he came outside of her vagina "therefore disobeying his father, and sinning against the divine arrangement of marriage " as the Insight book puts it.
Are there similar examples of this selectivity that comes to mind, where the borg focuses on a small passage while ignoring co... keep reading on reddit ➡
My partner and I were dating for 5 years before we got engaged. During that time, his brother (Dan) started dating a much younger woman (Sarah) and they've been together a couple of years now as well. I only mention the age because it’s a "different stage of life" kind of thing and so we just don't have that much in common. On top of not having much, if anything, in common, she's kind of mean but does it in a weird backhanded way that's hard to tell if it's not directed at you (it took my partner a month before he was like "I see what you're talking about"). In short, we're not friends, nor do I really anticipate us becoming friends. At this point we're two women in relationships with brothers and act accordingly.
Flash forward to wedding planning. I'm ambivalent about the size of wedding parties - I'm fine if it's just my sister with me or with a big group it's not something I really care about. My partner, however, has a really solid crew and he can't imagine not having them standin... keep reading on reddit ➡
So my Brother in law is graduating HS & he and his parents scheduled the party to fall on my birthday. They are inviting about 20 people for the party. I really don’t want to spend my birthday celebrating someone else; as selfish as that sounds. I’m not really that much of a party person, but I would like to enjoy the day for myself. I was already thinking of going out of town to visit my parents & childhood friends for my birthday but now I’m not sure what to do. My in laws already made shirts for us (my wife and I) to wear saying “Sister & Brother of a HS graduate” to wear on this day (again on my birthday lol). I also just recently paid for his cap & gown, invitations, and other graduation needs.
My in laws have a long history of being inconsiderate towards others. They love attention, parties and anything that can put them in the spotlight. The love to volunteer my wife and I to help pay for parties that they want, which we do because we can only say no so many ti... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (f 23) recently had a fight with my sister (f 27) about being "too close" with my BiL (m 27). They've been married two years, dated for two before that.
Some context for the situation: I'm not overly close to my sister. We never bonded much growing up and in my opinion she can be kinda stuck up and unpleasant at times. Since I don't see my sister much, I don't know my BiL very well. He seems a lot more introverted than her but I know very little about him. Also, I'm a weird reptile girl who likes snakes a lot (relevant I promise).
We were at my younger brothers high school graduation "party." We were all chilling after lunch and talking about what movie to put on and catching up with each other since me and my sister haven't seen our family much since quarantine started.
I ended up talking to my BiL just cause everyone else was occupied. He asked what I've been up to and I told him I was waiting to hear back from a snake breeder about buying a Mexican Black Kin... keep reading on reddit ➡
I need to share this with someone, as I can’t do it with my brewing friends without being absolutely roasted...
So for Christmas last year my brother-in-law got me a pack of NEEPA yeast from Bootleg Biology. I really enjoy juicy NEIPAs and I was excited for a chance to make my own. I have quite a few successful batches under my belt, but hadn’t messed around with any yeast that wasn’t the usual players.
Anyway, I brew outside in PA and don’t typically brew during the winter months, so it sat dormant in my fridge until today, when I decided to brew it with a kit of Teeny Behemoth from Northern Brewer. So I pull all of my equipment out of storage and start doing my thing- I hadn’t brewed in over 6 months, but I fell back into a familiar rhythm. The grain didn’t look super well-milled as I dumped it into my BIAB, but whatever, I guess that’s just how NB does it. My pre-boil gravity was 1.010, which should have been my first clue, but as I said, I hadn’t brewed in a minute so I figured... keep reading on reddit ➡
I imagine a lot of people here didn't watch him during his playing days but he was still making Pro Bowls in the final years of his career and one of the catalysts behind the Bucs SB squad.
I am 31, and have an identical twin brother. For a while I’ve told my wife that none of her family members notice me or care about anything I do on Christmas Eve but they insist on me attending. She told me that’s not true, they genuinely like me and enjoy talking to me. But I know that the only times they’ve included me I had to basically insert myself into conversations and it feels awkward and unnatural.
So I had a wager with my wife. Bring my twin brother Steve instead of me, and see if anyone notices. I purposefully did not prep Steve on anything, he went in completely clueless (he knew why we were doing it and was game. I gave him $20.)
As I suspected, Steve confirmed that he wasn’t approached all night, nobody could tell he wasn’t me, and he admitted he even felt excluded and he could only imagine how I felt.
So this morning on Christmas I invited Steve to join (normally he’s with my mom and dad every year as he’s not married or in a relationship.) they know about him obv... keep reading on reddit ➡
I(22F) just moved into a new country and into my sister's house. My parents came along as well but it was just for a visit and they planned on leaving but COVID happened and now we are all stuck here until September. September is when i move out to my new apartment(which my dad pays for) and parents will leave then too. My sister and brother in law CONSTANTLY fights and to the point where they both scream and their 3 y old kid starts crying and I have to hold his ears and take him to the basement just so he stops being scared. My brother in law has a horrible temper and I can tell he is frustrated with me being in his home. I just hate it here so much. One time my dad had to interfere because my nephew got so scared and so did my parents. It is a horrible situation and it affected me so much to the point I destroyed my relationshop because i was scared to commit and be in a similar situation. One time while he was screaming he even screamed at me to just get out of the room when i didn... keep reading on reddit ➡
They informed me last night during my child's tantrum that they'd never let their toddler act that way! And guess what, they will NEVER watch any of the lame shows geared at children. And their invisible child definitely won't eat macaroni and cheese.
God, I'm so envious of my brother in laws non existent relationship with the child he doesn't have. His wife did such a good job carrying nothing at all in her uterus these past 9 months.
Here's to being more like them! Cheers!
My sister-in-law, who is a SAHM, was looking for some extra income for their family. She joined Herbalife and is a supervisor (I think?).
My brother-in-law says she’s making a lot of money, contradicting what I thought I knew about MLMs. Any previous members have any info for me?
I want to make sure they don’t tank their savings, although I know sometimes there’s nothing you can do.
My (22f) BIL (42M) and our family have never liked each other, but we are always polite to him on the rare occasion he comes to our events. He and my sister married a year ago and she moved in with him. We have never been to his house, and when our mother asked to visit, sis and BIL got into an argument because he never wants any of our family to come over. He had a different grievance for each family member not to be allowed over and his excuse as to why he doesn’t like me is because I’m apparently a witch. He’s extremely religious (catholic) and I have a lot of tattoos and dress kind of edgy I guess, but did not have any inherently witchy/occult symbols on anything I owned so I do not know how he came to this conclusion. I’m definitely not religious at all and do not practice witchcraft. However, I found this hilarious and have started doing things like wearing more occult style jewelry, dressing darker, posting pictures of new crystals on social media, sending little sticks I’ve tie... keep reading on reddit ➡
' If the blacks aren't happy here, why don't they go back to where they came from, Africa.'
'When I was younger I would watch the news with my dad and it showed 2 or 3 blacks per week being shot for stealing and other crimes. I asked my dad why the police did that and he told me it was to keep the blacks in place'
'I have a brilliant idea, What if it was illegal for white cops to arrest the blacks? Like they had to call some black cops to arrest them'
'If anyone is to dark to tell the difference (referring to anyone of any color other white) just call some black cops to arrest them.'
'I know people would say that it's wrong but they call Spanish speaking cops to arrest Hispanics'
'Have you heard of all the vandalism the blacks have caused?'
'The blacks still act like as if are treated like slaves'
'Why is all this looting and protests a problem here? Like China, and Japan, and India, and all those other countries don't have these problems and they have like 3 times the... keep reading on reddit ➡