We can all agree 2020 was a shit year. Particularly for my (29m) family. We lost our dad beginning of the year after he had a heart attack and my little brother (12) had no one to take care of him. Our mom died when he was 3 so our dad was all we had left.
I fought for custody and was appointed his legal guardian.
Honestly it hasn’t been easy. We’re still adjusting to these life changes and my brother is taking it the hardest. For months he was just not himself. Bad attitude, lashing out. I got him in therapy because I knew he was just hurting, plus stress of pandemic.
His behavior has improved so much since then, even if sometimes there’s days where he’s withdrawn.
Days before Christmas he was feeling sad since it was our first holiday w/o dad. That day, he asked to be left alone. We had a talk to discuss his feelings and I gave him his space after that.
My girlfriend was over that day and I went out to buy groceries. When I got back my brother was out of his room and helping out. I didn’t think anything of it at the time.
Yesterday my brother and I were out having some guy time before going back home to get ready for NYE.
My brother opened up about how grateful he is for everything and he hopes that I don’t change my mind about taking care of him. I asked why he’d think that and he told me what happened.
That day when I was out my GF went to his room to tell him he needs to change his attitude and stop moping (her exact words)because he should be grateful I’m taking care of him at all. And that we can still hand him over to the state if we wanted to.
I was furious about this and had to reassure him that was never gonna happen because he really was worried about it. We went home, I confronted my GF and she didn’t deny it.
She told me it’s true and there was nothing wrong with telling him to stop acting like that when he should be grateful I “gave up my life” to take care of him. And the thing about giving him up isn’t that big of a deal to her because it’s not like I’ll actually do it.
I said she still scared him with that threat and told her to leave my apartment because honestly, I was far too mad and because I didn’t want her to be near him right now. She started crying, there was more fighting but she left in the end. It was just me and my brother for New Years.
Since last night I’ve been bombarded with calls from all our friends for kicking her out knowing she has no family and nobody else to spend the holiday with. Everyone has sid... keep reading on reddit ➡
I F26 been with my fiancè for 3 years. We both work and we both share rent and other expenses. But My fiancè is currently looking for a new job. He lost his old job 3 months ago. My family lives 30min away and although it's been difficult this year I decided to get my brother (who has a chronic condition and struggled a lot lately and was in the hospital for a few days for anemia) the one thing he's been wanting for some time. I got him an Xbox that cost me 300$. He was so happy and I'm glad I was able to cheer him up during those times.
My fiancè received a few gifts from his family. But he wasn't happy with any of them. I got him a perfume and he liked it.
We were visiting my family and we had dinner with them. My fiancè looked at the Xbox I got for my brother and didn't stop talking about it. My parents noticed, I told him to stop complaining about what he got/didn't get this year. That made them uncomfortable especially since they've been dealing with my brother's health issues and needed to relax.
We got home and my fiancè took something from the closet and left for about an hour.
I was asleep when he came back. In the morning I was surprised to find my brother's Xbox in the closet. I woke him and asked him about it. Turned out He dropped me off drove back to my family's house and exchanged the gift his aunt gave him (a 14$ fancy pen) with my brother's xbox. He said that my brother was happy to exchange gifts. I was so mad I told him this wasn't for him and he basically took something that is not his. Not to mention a pen for an Xbox, that's ridiculous. He told me that maybe I shouldn't have spent 300 while trying to pay for rent. I told him as long as I can pay rent that's not a problem. And that he needs to find a job if he thinks my money isn't enough. I called my mom and I found out that they didn't actually exchange gifts. My fiancè pressured my brother into giving him his Xbox. I was livid and so mad I told him to take the Xbox back to my brother but he said it was between him and my brother but I insisted. He refused so I ended up taking it myself. My fiancè argued when I took it and said that I was pressuring him and treating him poorly and have no respect for his feelings. I told him he was wrong to make my brother give him his gift and causing him stress and ruining his joy. I apologized to my brother and my parents and I felt awful because of how my fiancè behaved. My fiancè isn't talking to me saying that I have no consideration for h... keep reading on reddit ➡
Link to Gobert's response In light of Shaq claiming he would destroy him in his Instagram post, Rudy Gobert has been getting pretty unnecessary hate from many people on social media, safe to say, he's pretty overhated at the moment as a result of his large contract. I don't think its unreasonable to call him overpaid, but I wouldn't fault a player for accepting that kind of money.
Let's not mince words, this lady is ugly. Over 25+ years of treatment resistant acne, an androgynous face, and constant scowling will do that to you. I look at my childhood pictures and wonder what the heck happened.
I try not to get upset about being mistaken for a man, I didn't choose my face or build after all, but it is a little depressing sometimes.
Anyway a few days ago, a cashier asked me "How's it going, brother?" At first I was a little bummed out. Aww, man. Not again. But after thinking about it for a bit, I realized he was just being friendly. A small gesture to be pleasant. He didn't know I am a woman. He wasn't trying to insult me. After that it was better. It sort of felt like when an older southern black lady calls you "honey" or "honeychild" or when an abuelita calls you "mama" or the jacked gymdude calls you "bro" or the guys working on your house say "Thanks, Chief" after you bring them some cold drinks. Just humans being humans at each other. But in a nice way. Small things.
I (33M) am having an issue where my family is pressuring me to resume contact with my brother (35M) after I went no contact years ago. Five years ago my brother I were working at the same company, I had been there for 3 years and he had been there for 2 (he was hired because I referred him when they were looking for new employees). When a management position came open he and I both applied for it and told each other it was no hard feelings if the other one got it. He was hired for the position and I was not, I was genuinely happy for him and did not have any negative feelings about him getting hired, I was proud of him and thought he deserved it.
A few months after he was hired for the position my former boss, who I have a great relationship with, left the company and asked me out for lunch. He told me in confidence that the reason my brother was hired over me, was that my brother took an email I sent him venting about a work issue and forwarded it to the hiring manager to explain why I was not a good fit for the position. I confronted him about this and he admitted it, and said he thinks it wasn't an underhanded thing to do because it simply showed how I wasn't “meant for” management because that's not how managers act.
I was devastated, I cut him out of my life completely, I told him that he was no longer my brother and to forget that I even exist. He tried to justify his betrayal and told me that it wasn't as serious as I was making it out to be, but I refused to be swayed despite massive pressure from my family to make peace with him. I found another job and I seldom interact with my family due to how I feel I was shown very little sympathy for what he did to me. The attitude I got from my family was essentially that it wasn't a nice thing to do, but he has children to take care of so it's understandable that he'd do anything to make more money to provide a better life for them, my mother said this to me almost verbatim.
He has attempted to contact me several times over the years and we once ran into each other at a store, but I ignored him and kept walking. He was not invited to my wedding, and he and his wife have not met my wife or my first born (10 months). My parents have been allowed to come and visit but my mother told me that the holidays aren't right without my family there, and they have begged me to put the past behind us and let this go so we can be a family again. My wife sides with me and thinks that my brother is an asshole, we spe... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm a single dad with 3 sons. In order: Jack 23/Austin/19/Kevin16.
Kevin has a severe learning disability, low-functioning autism. I look after him at home, after he was failed by 3 care homes. Because there was neglect.
The the last care home hadn’t managed to wash his hair in four weeks or give him a shower in three weeks And other problems that were never addressed, and a complicated argument with SC who were awful and nasty. I couldn't let him live like that. Jack and Austin both live at home. They didn't want him to return home. And were being negative towards him. They said since he's back home they won't be involved in his care. I'm not sure why they want this for their brother to be treated as less just because of his special needs. I know it's not easy. For them. Kevin and me but he's their brother.
I started looking after him myself. Routine has changed but I managed at first. I started working from home so I could spend more time with him. But it didn't work also because I'm solely taking care of him and everyone else in the house doesn't help with simple tasks. It's just exhausting to be doing everything alone.
I decided to hire a paid carer that takes about 600 Weekly. Austin and Jack knew about it and they were upset with me. Asking me why I was spending that much money on Kevin alone and demanded equality and be given the same amount of money weekly too. I was stunned when they both lashed out at me for playing favorites and treating Kevin differently. Saying he was my spoiled favorite. They started complaining about needing money to fix their phones/new tv/a new dishwasher etc.
I told them that I had no choice since no one wanted to participate in his care. And that they're capable adults who can start earning their own money if they wanted. They said they weren't obligated to take part in his care. So I should stop holding that over their heads. And demanded that I give them the same amount of money weekly. We argued back and forth. And they both took turns to try to guilt me for what I did.
They refused to drop it and other family members got involved. My sister berated me saying I was being unfair and that their reaction is understandable. They're both 23-19 they can move out if they want. At least they don't pay rent nor groceries. The argument seemed to be going nowhere. They've been giving me the silent treatment since then and say that I'm playing favorites.
I need to mention that I in no way asked or expected Jack and Austin... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (24F) am close to my brother (29M), but he’s pretty unreliable. He is late for absolutely everything - everyone in our family knows this.
Background : A few weeks ago, our sister (27F) got into a terrible car accident. She spun out on black ice, a semi-truck hit her head-on, and she ended up in the hospital. Her little car was totally and completely crushed. It’s a miracle that she’s alive, and we’re all so grateful that it turned out okay.
Well, this incident really shook me up and gave me a wake-up call. I’ve been extremely nervous to drive after seeing my sister’s totaled car, so I have been SUPER careful. I go the exact speed limit (or under), I keep longer lengths between myself and other cars, I don’t do anything risky at all. I know it sounds a bit paranoid, but the accident is still so fresh for our family.
A few days ago, my brother had a job interview in another state. He asked me to drive him to the airport in the morning, and I agreed.
When my brother told me what time to pick him up, I said I didn’t think he gave himself enough time. I told him I’d pick him up 30 minutes earlier, as I refused to speed for him. I reminded him of our sister’s accident, and how I’m trying to be more careful driving on icy roads. He told me I was crazy, but he agreed to be ready at that time.
The morning of his flight, I arrived at the agreed time. Of course, in typical fashion, my brother was running late. We ended up leaving an hour later than he had planned because he wasn’t fully ready.
The whole ride to the airport, my brother was yelling and swearing at me to speed up, because he was going to miss his flight. I went slightly over the speed limit, but I told him I didn’t feel comfortable going faster in traffic (also, the roads were slick). I started panicking. He continued to huff and puff and flip out at me.
When we got to the airport, he grabbed his bags and sprinted inside. I left.
He ended up texting me that he missed his flight and that I ruined his job opportunity for being a “f.cking p.ssy.” He won’t talk to me at all now.
I feel really bad for making him miss his flight and job interview. But I won’t apologize for being careful after our sister got into a traumatizing accident. AITA?
Excuse my mistakes please. I'm (38F) a mother of two girls. One is deceased. She passed away from leukemia on Feb 2020. She was only 13. Her first anniversary is coming up soon. I feel devastated I don't know what to do and where to go that day I wish there was a place where pain does not exist. Her sister is my strength she's the reason I get out of bed everyday. Their dad passed away in 2018. He was in military. I was still grieving my loss when my daughter got sick. It was too much. I keep busy with work just like anybody else. I do not visit my family much because of my brother. We had issues he has always been insensitive towards me. Made comments about my husband. He would laugh whenever my daughter say her dad was a hero. He'd talk about my daughter's illness and say she inherited it from my husband. He helped my aunt's ex get full custody by lying in court. She died brokenhearted she couldn't see her children. I have a brother who left home years ago because of him and I have no idea where he is now. Everyone saw no problem with this behavior.
A few days after my daughter's funeral. I was staying at my parents house. My brother brought his 1 year old son and got the family to circle around him and started making comments out loud about how a son's death is devastating. That he wouldn't live if anything happened to his son or got sick. That he couldn't imagine outliving and burying his own children. My sister stared at me. She noticed he was trying to spite me. I got up and told mom I wanted to leave after he made those comments. he got involved and said I was being too sensitive and shouldn't be trying to make others miserable. He said I should "loosen up" maybe what happened was for the best. I was shocked. He's religious but I was stunned. I yelled at him and he yelled back telling me to leave my own parents house. No one said anything except for my sister.
I cut contact with him. I was really hurt no one called to even check on me. That is until my mom told me my brother's house burnt down from a heater. It was an accident and everything they had was lost. They're struggling. She asked if I could take him and his family in since the rest lived in small apartments and I live in my husband's house. I refused. I argued with her. Told her he hurt me and was making fun of my pain. My sister called me too and asked me to help and be the bigger person. Honestly My daughter's anniversary is coming up and I don't want to deal with him and his insensi... keep reading on reddit ➡
Title is a bit of a doozy, but sums it up basically. My (27F) brother (32M) has struggled with addiction for a long portion of his life. It started when I was in middle school, and he would steal my parent's money, sell their things, and stole medication from some of our relatives. My parents would tell me to never trust my brother, and nearly everything valuable in our home was kept under lock and key. My parents were always trying to get him help, and after an intervention, they had a massive fight and he just left when I was in 10th grade.
When I was a college sophomore, he reached back out to me and we started having a really tentative relationship. He promised me he was getting better, that he was seeking help. He told me that he had been in rehab, but he couldn't afford it anymore and our parents weren't returning his calls. He even showed me an admittance form, or some other type of official-looking medical document, that "proved" he was in rehab. He asked me to loan him $3,000 for rehab, because he needed to pay tomorrow or they'd kick him out. I had been working my ass off and that money was meant to pay for this semester's tuition fe. He ghosted me afterwards. Obviously, it was a scam for drug money.
You probably think I'm stupid for believing him, but I really *wanted* to believe him. I was just an ignorant college kid back then, who really, really wanted her brother back.
After that incident, I learned to never trust him again, like my parents originally warned me. Last year, he reached out to my parents and I again. We haven't met in person, because of COVID, but we've had a couple Zooms and texts. It's just a really tentative, barely-there relationship. I think my parents are just scared of getting hurt again. He promised us he was actually clean this time and wanted to stay with us for an extended period of time to "prove it". He hasn't asked us for any money or anything, so I was beginning to believe he was actually clean.
Then he asked me for $3000 for a surgery for his dog, he sent me the vet documents as well. Honestly, I was so incredibly upset, my first reaction was that this was obviously a scam and he hadn't changed at all. He had talked about his dog/shown us pictures before, but I thought he had forged the vet documents. I didn't respond at all, even though he was begging me. I definitely had the money, and I've paid for the vet fees for my aunt's cat before -- I love animals. If I believed him, I probably would've paid.
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My little brother is 18. I'm 20. I am staying with my family for the holidays and thought it'd be a nice time but I forgot that they treat me like a housekeeper. I do almost all the chores and I don't mind if its MY chore. Obviously, if I notice the dishwashers full, I empty it. If I cook, I clean up. If I make a mess, I clean up. However, if my little brother makes a mess. He makes me clean up. If I refuse and tell him to do it himself, he tells my parents and they side with him and just bug me until I do it.
My brother also asks me to cook for him. He pulls out brownie mix and is like "make this." I always am like: "Sure, I can make it but you have to help." He gets mad and says "I helped by taking out the box!" And when I refused to make stuff for him or tell him to make it himself, he'll throw a fit and tell our parents.
Lately, he keeps asking me to make stuff and I get frustrated going back and forth about why can't he make shit himself or just ask our parents. So I make the food he asks, but I always add stuff he doesn't like. (coincidentally, he hates a ton of stuff I love to eat ) So if he asks for brownies and refuses to help, I put nuts in it. He hates them and I like them. He came over to see the brownies and got mad at me and told me he hated nuts and can't eat the brownies anymore. I just said, "too bad, make it yourself next time or help me and tell me not to put nuts in." I thought he'd learn his lesson to at least help but he keeps asking for stuff and I just keep putting stuff in that he doesn't like.
He finally got fed up and said he's not eating because I keep making stuff with stuff he doesn't like. I just shrugged and told him to make his own food then. He told my parents of course and they just told me to stop being an asshole and make food for him. It was my last day at home so I just told them to make food for him if they're so concerned before I left. Now my parents are upset with me and my brother is angry with me and I am wondering if I was too petty
Let me explain. Even though I don't like to talk about it. I (male) 25 was involved in an auto accident (I was the one driving) and lost my dad who was with me at the time. I had untreated PTSD for nearly a year. I couldn't speak about it to anyone. My sister got me in therapy 2 months ago because she said that I needed it.
This is our first holidays without dad and I wasn't intending on doing anything this year but the family decided to come and spend time with me. My aunt, my cousin and her kids, my sister and my brother in law, and my mom. My brother in law started bringing up the accident in detail exactly the way I'd describe it like he heard it from me, the number of sessions I've attended so far. Brought up the name of my therapist and asked if he's the one I been seeing. Then he started asking me how I'm doing/if my therapy sessions are benefiting me or not/and telling the exact time I got into therapy. And then casually said that I shouldn't tell people that I feel responsibility for what happened implying that I told my therapist that.
I was taken aback I asked how he knew all that. My sister said she didn't tell him and I didn't tell anyone. My brother in law looked confused when he noticed how upset I was and said that it was a "coincidence" the therapist happens to be one of his friend's brother. He's known my therapist for 5 years and that's how he knew since his friend said my name sounded familiar. I was shocked. Everyone was looking at me and my aunt started talking about me "telling everyone" about the accident. I was so infuriated I found myself lashing out at my brother in law and he started talking about how I need to deal my anger issues disregarding that he told the entire family about my sessions. After arguing with him and listening to him blaming me for how I reacted. I ended up telling him to leave. My sister sided with him then they both left My aunt defended him and said that I shouldn't have yelled at him and hurt my sister's feelings. That he was just worried about me.
I was so mad especially when they all started guilt tripping me and berating me for what I did. I sent my therapist an e--mail telling him what happened after I couldn't get a hold of him and mentioned that I will be reporting him and file a complaint against him for disclosing information without my consent. So far I haven't heard from him and What bothers me is that I'm not close with those people and hearing them gossip about me like that is not okay.
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Sorry for the title.. I wasn’t sure what to title this.
This seems like a no brainer to me but in real life I’m finding myself in the minority of that opinion.
I have one bio son (17m) from my first marriage and one step son (19m). They both work part time in retail, and they started around the same time. My current wife’s son started working first due to age and just landing a job first.
When my son started his job I started taking 30% of his pay. I matched it 100%, so if I took 150, I added another 150 to it. I never told my son why I was taking his money, and I understand that may be wrong to some people, but I stand by my decision. He knew I was putting it away but wasn’t clear on why.
My wife and I don’t mix finances. She was in a past abusive relationship, and so I refused to push that subject however I did tell her I was doing this, and asked her to give it some thought for her child.
My wife kind of shocked by it and felt I was doing something terrible by taking his money regardless of the reasoning behind it. She didn’t pass harsh judgment or treat me differently but she certainly thought it was unusual and unnecessary.
Well, my sons birthday 18th is in two weeks and he’s been talking about a car, and how much he could afford. I laid the entire thing out for him and let him know his budget was much larger than he was thinking. No rules as it’s his money but I had an opinions if he would listen.. if not, irrelevant, it’s his money.
My son was ecstatic and I have to say I about cried when I saw him tear up and freak out. First time my nearly 18 year old picked me up and nearly broke my back from a hug lol.
Well when my step son heard about this he felt it was unfair and my son was being favored. His mother felt the car my son had chosen was unnecessary, and I could help her son with a vehicle—by stealing from my sons fund. I refused and told her that was ridiculous, and she had the same opportunity that I did. She’s now saying because my sons education is paid for it just makes it less fair. His grandparents are paying for college so I think that argument is moot.
My son has told my wife and his step bro that most of the money is from his personal checks, and they aren’t getting a penny of that furthermore as the money I added they should be arguing between themselves in regarding why his mom didn’t save while she could had. Her parents and some friends have brought it up, and my laughing has turned to anger. I’m getting sick of it... keep reading on reddit ➡
I M27 lived with my chronically sick brother and my parents. I took over his care while they worked I handled chores/worked a job (although my parents thought It was wrong because I "wasn't focusing on my brother's care". I was doing well in school but I started failing classes. No college saving because they spent all money on my brother. I ignored myself care and wasn't eating healthy. They only cooked for my brother.
At 16. I was diagnosed with diabetes.My parents thought that was my fault. I was told to continue to care for my brother, work to pay for my medication because they said they didn't need to deal with my condition on top of everything else, and I failed at school eventually. CPS was called but found nothing because my parents were aware. I ended up getting kicked out of the house at 17 because it was my fault cps came.
They chose my brother to take care of and didn't want to deal with me. I worked extra jobs here and there. Lived with my then GF now wife. At 20 we had our firstborn. I tried to reach out to my parents and let them meet my family despite what they've done but they blamed me for those decisions (getting married and having a baby was my fault also) and said I shouldn't be a dad because I was irresponsible and ignorant. I cut contact permanently.
I started getting lucky I now work in a better field (no degree though) I earn decent money. We had our second baby in Aug. (Whoops, That too was my fault!) My parents words pop in my head whenever I look at my kids and I begin to question myself. I always feel like I'm not doing enough.
My dad reached out to my wife and took my number (that's another story) and contacted me. He got me to listen despite not wanting to. He told me my brother needs a surgery and asked for help. He insisted on meeting with me but I refused. He sent people to talk but I refused to meet them. Last week I went to see him I told him that I'm not obligated to help. That I'm still dealing with my own condition that was ignored by him. That I do have money but I wanted to buy a car with it instead (saved up money to buy a car I really like And I felt good ngl) He and my uncle started guilting me for buying an expensive car and refusing to help. A relative posted on FB talking about me buying an expensive car and leaving my parents to struggle. My number was given to everyone and they kept shaming me. My argument with dad got worse I had to yell at him again.
Just want to tell you about my uncle. He's a hypo... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (28M) have an older brother (31M) and SIL (30F) who have a 3-year old son and SIL is about 7-months pregnant with their second child. I am a single man in my 20s and live by myself. As such, I live a fairly typical bachelor lifestyle. I enjoy going out to bars and clubs, in the past I have attended music festivals and dabbled in drug use, and I do not apologize for it. It's the way I am choosing to live my life right now. But I am also working full-time for a Fortune 500 company and making well over 6-figures. All in all, I like to think that I have my stuff together pretty well for a person my age.
When my brother and SIL had their first kid, SIL pretty much told me in no uncertain terms that she would never trust me to watch her son by myself. She told this to me completely on her own and when I asked my brother about it, he pretty much just sided with her and shrugged. Now, I admit that some aspects of my lifestyle are not kid-friendly. But I also understand there is a time and a place for everything and I would never do anything to put my nephew in any compromised situation. I have never pressed the topic with SIL or my brother and until recently it has never been a problem.
A few weeks ago my brother called me in the middle of the night and asked if I could watch their son. SIL was having stomach pains and they needed to go to the hospital but they had no one else to watch their son. SIL's parents were quarantined after Covid exposure, and every other option they had couldn't do it. I was literally a last resort. I asked if SIL was ok with it, and my brother said she didn't know he was asking me and he was desperate. I told him the only way I would be ok with it was if SIL asked me herself because I didn't want to cause an issue. My brother told me they didn't have time and they would drop off my nephew on the way to the hospital in an hour.
When they got to my apartment I went down to meet them and SIL saw me and recognized where they were and started screaming at my brother. She started yelling questions at me like whether or not I have drugs on the counter, or if I have a girl up there with me. So I told my brother I was sorry, but this wasn't going to work. I told him I love him and hope everything works out and I told SIL the same but she ignored me and told my brother to take her to the hospital.
Everything at the hospital ended up being OK and SIL and baby are healthy. She wasn't going into early labor and they were back home the next da... keep reading on reddit ➡
My M39 wife of 6 years passed away from BC 3 weeks ago. It's devastating and I'm barely holding it together. I used to sleep either at the hospital or my dad and stepmom's house. He's supported me at the time and I also have a 29yo half brother.
My brother's wedding is in 3 months. When I came from the hospital and sat and cried he brought up the wedding planning with his mom and talked about the venue/menu and ignored me.
He made backhanded comments "I can't imagine this happening to my fiancee" Saying I'm not doing enough, constantly comparing me to him and how he would've done more. I stopped going I'd rather sit alone in an empty house than listen to him.
At the funeral. He came with my stepmom.his phone didn't stop ringning. Everyone noticed. Then later when the guests were sitting inside the house. He kept asking about certain relatives to see if they came. I was with my dad at the time. Once the guests started leaving. I saw My brother standing by the door, handing guests envelopes then shaking their hands then they walk out. didn't know what he was handing them.
I walked up to him and asked him. He showed me invitations for his wedding that he was handing out to guests. I was stunned I asked if he was serious. He said There some relatives-family that live out of town who came to the funeral and he wanted to do an actual hand delivery from his hand to theirs. Saying mailing invitations didn't feel proper. I lashed out at him and he said no one noticed so It was no big deal he just wanted to make sure everyone got an invitation since the whole family was there. I was so mad no wonder the guests gave me weird looks before walking out. What's worse that my wife's family saw this and were upset I felt awful and embarrassed. I was infuriated I yelled at him and told him to leave immediately. My dad and stepmom and others got involved but he left after I insisted.
My dad berated him but said that this is how he is,being insensitive. my stepmom said that I shouldn't have kicked him out in front of everyone (her side of the family) and disrespecting the family. She said no one was noticing and that he thought this was an opportunity for him to make sure they know about his wedding. I argued with her and other family members for hours about it. My dad's side of the family said they were upset because of what he did and my stepmom's side of family were upset I kicked him out. My stepmom is now contacting me to get me to go talk to my brother and get rig... keep reading on reddit ➡
Basically what the title says. He's 14 and we share one room. I don't mind him masturbating, I am a teenager too after all and understand his "urges". But shit. He's doing it in the same room about 3 meters to my right.the worst thing is that he knows that I am not asleep yet. He probably just thinks I can't hear him or something. I already tried dropping hints, for example I started scratching my wooden bed frame as soon as he starts doing it in the hope to make him realize that I can hear him. Is there a way to tell him without making this embarrassing for both of us?
Also: am writing this in the middle of the night while he's doing it and I'll try to get some sleep first and read your answers the next morning. Thanks in advance.
Edit: just wow. When I made this post last night I just hoped for like a few helpful answers but definitely didn't expect this to blow up like this. Well, anyways... Thanks for all the answers. Not only the helpful ones but also those that made me laugh.
Edit 2: what. The. Fuck. I actually just found my post in r/all. The chance of him(my brother) finding this post are actually pretty high now... Thanks again for all the answers and rewards tho. So I gotta go to school for now so I'll (probably) have no time to go on Reddit for a while.
Edit 3: Thanks again for all the Advice ( and the hilarious jokes) and we all heard it a million times but can't believe that I got over 20k upvotes for a post like that. I think I got more than enough answers to flair this one as "answered" tho.
Edit 4: Hi guys, I am editing once again to tell you that last night went by quietly so I guess we won? I'm assuming he saw this post and just decided not to engage in any conversation about it(if you're reading this bro than you should know that I really didn't want to embarrass you and that's why I asked for some advice on Reddit) But this was only one night so far so I'd wait some more before confirming that the mission was accomplished. And for most likely the final time, I thank you again for the comments, awards and upvotes.
My younger brother is the fucking man! He traded his unopened ps5 to get me a Christmas gift. He tells me that jayzTwoCents was looking for someone in Southern California to trade an unopened ps5 for a 3080. I can’t believe he did this for me! I wanna cry 😭 he even asked jayz to sign the box for me. I’m too lucky to have such a brother! Thanks to @jayztwocents as well. Merry Christmas everyone!
He's currently on life support, waiting to be taken off so he can finally rest. He was my only sibling and my heart hurts so much. And on fucking Christmas eve of all days. I'm so mad at him but id give anything to see him just one more time. Everything hurts. Sorry if this isn't the place but I just needed to reach out. Hope you all have a brighter Christmas and hug your family tighter.
Edit: Thank you all for all the kind words and support, I'm reading them all. He will die today. But due to covid only 2 people are allowed every 24hs. I was lucky enough to sit with him and say my goodbyes. He will also be donating his organs so that he may save the lives of others as his final heroic act.
Final edit: We finally said our last goodbyes and can now start the healing process, but the pain will never go away. I'll be sure to pass along all the amazing love and support you all have expressed to the people who need it most. Thanks again.
Rest easy Paul. I love you.
This happened around Thanksgiving but I'm still getting shit about it from my family.
I'm a 27 year old woman who lives in a one bedroom apartment by myself. My brother (24) and his SO (22) have lived on the opposite side of the country (US) for a few years and decided to fly over to see their respective families, both of whom live around the same area. Neither my brother nor his girlfriend felt comfortable staying with their parents due to Covid, so I offered them my apartment while I stayed with my SO for the week. Everyone was happy with this arrangement.
We never talked about it specifically before they arrived so I just assumed that they would sleep in my queen-sized bed. I have a couple of couches in the living area and while they are comfortable enough, they aren't designed to be sofa beds. The morning they arrived, I cleaned the apartment and changed the bedding. When they got to my apartment, my brother asked where they should sleep and I indicated the bed. He sort of laughed at first, and then realized I was serious and got really angry (his girlfriend didn't say much but looked mortified). My brother kept saying that there was no way they were sleeping in my bed and it was disgusting for me to offer. I told him that everything was clean, and reminded him that they'd have the apartment to themselves. He just kept saying he couldn't believe it, and finally snapped that they'd have to make do with the couch.
I left quickly without further discussion because I was confused and pretty upset. That night, my brother called me and said the couches were impossible to sleep on. He said that he and his girlfriend needed to purchase an air mattress and requested that I reimburse him the $55 they paid for it. By now I was really pissed off and refused. I asked him again why they didn't just take the bed and he said that "if I really had to ask, I have major issues." I said that I didn't care what they did or did not do in the bed, we are all adults and should act accordingly. He called me disgusting again and hung up.
My parents found out and agree that I should pay for the air mattress, because I wasn't adequately prepared for their arrival. My mother especially keeps insinuating that what I did was gross and unfair, and I should have known better. My brother has let it be known that our relationship won't go back to normal until I apologize and reimburse him and his girlfriend.
I know my family can be kind of weird and uptight so I asked my SO and so... keep reading on reddit ➡